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I have made sure my mother is comfortable with my boyfriend travelling on a trip and now my mother is mad because I booked it. | Summarize the following paragraph: My boyfriend and I are long distance. We have a trip planned this summer which involves me going over to him in the USA. This will be the second time I have actually been with him in person. I am flying from the UK with my mum to the east coast. The original plan was for me to fly over to my boyfriend in the west coast (my parents are holidaying on the east coast) but because my mum was freaking out so much about me going to meet my boyfriend i said we can all road trip there together. I even invited her on the trip with us. I have given her all of our dates so that she can travel around with us.
The plan was for me to stay on the 4th July and fly back on the 5th. Mum knew this. I told her I had booked a flight back already from the west coast to east coast (where she would pick me up and we would fly back to the UK together). She has gone mad at me because she can't believe I would book a flight when she told me she didn't want me flying on my own. At the time I had booked it she told me she wasn't gonna road trip with us. She knew the trip was happening.......how else was I to get home if I don't fly?
I am fine flying on my own it doesn't bother me at all. I feel like I have done everything I can to make her feel comfortable with this trip and she is just trying to sabotage it. Thoughts?? | openai_summarize |
landlord pretended to be another tenant and wrote defamatory things on our wall, property management company refuses to look at the video tapes. Want to pursue this further | Summarize the following paragraph: My landlord left a falsified message taped to my door for all neighbours to are pretending to be another tenant.
Evidence:
She used the same font and size that she uses for all her notes
Only she would know where we live and correlate it with where we park
Neighbours have no problem with us
We requested from the property management group to have the video tapes looked at and they stated hey did not have time to go on a "wild goose chase" I want evidence hard evidence and they denied me.
I want to pursue this further particularly with the human rights board of Canada based in harrassment and predjusice that goes against the human rights code.
The letter calls us assholes, says we were raised in a barn, says because we are young we should be more competent, calls us pigs, days we make all the neighbours sick.
It is defamatory as it was pasted for everyone to see. Also we were not born in Canada.
Please see this website for your information on his situation.
Also this letter was taped on our door for everyone to see. It was prejudice and defamatory on many levels Adressed in the the human rights code of Manitoba. It was defamation of character for it to be visible To everyone. Please see the following "
It is also contrary to The Code for anyone responsible for rental housing to knowingly permit or fail to take reasonable steps to terminate harassment of one participant by another participant - such as harassment of one tenant by another tenant. (Please also see the sample policies on Discrimination and Harassment at the end of these guidelines.)" | openai_summarize |
RA owes me money, made me buy her toys in a fundraiser, bought my sister's toys, now owes me 6 dollars. How can I get her to pay me? | Summarize the following paragraph: A few months ago, I asked my RA if she wanted to participate in a fundraiser where we raced floaty toys down a river. I asked her if she wanted to buy one because the winner won 50 dollars. She signed up one for her and her sister. It was her idea to buy one for her sister. I paid for it because she didn't have cash. Now fast forward to 2 months later, the second time I remind her that she still owes me money, and I have her rubber ducks. I held onto the ducks until I got my money.
She just verbally assaulted me. She denies ever wanting to participate in the toy race and says I pushed it on her, so I shouldn't be paid. She was quite rude and disrespectful. I'm calling bullshit because I would never sign someone up if they hadn't fully agreed. It was her idea to include her sister!
Now she owes me 6 dollars and I'm angry. I would have let it go despite the rudeness and disrespect. I am now going to do everything in my power to ensure she pays me even if I have to burn down the bridge between us. In my mind it is already half burnt.
What should I do to get my rude, disrespectful and cheapskate RA to pay me the money she owes? I'm not afraid to be mean. | openai_summarize |
10) On a scale from 1-10, how mad would you be with you significant other, if he went to hooters. And if she said don't go, I would not have gone. | Summarize the following paragraph: 1) I got a DWI in 2014
2) I have a wonderful girlfriend who lives in Montreal
3) I live in an awful town of Bossier City, Louisiana
4) I am very much in love with her.
5) I work a strange schedule, M-F, 5am - 1pm , I need to wake up at 4am to be at work.
6) I have visited Montreal 4 times since March and we met on reddit , Christmas Eve 2015.
7) She is a wonderful, brilliant, gorgeous, sweet woman, I am clearly dating way over my head and a different league.
8) I spoke to her yesterday driving home from work. I have a coupon for a free night at a local casino, and I told her, look I can't drive once have more than I should drink, but to me this is like a 12 hour vacation, and I won't drive, I remember the last time I was at the casino, I didn't like the foods. I will going to Hooters, and I playfully joked with her, I am going for the food. She never said don't go, she never said if you go I will be hurt,
9) Today is the next day, I am work, I have apologized twice to her, and I am getting very tepid, very short emails back, clearly there is a problem with last night. | openai_summarize |
My dress looks different to how I wanted it, how do I turn this into a positive/ get over myself? | Summarize the following paragraph: So my wedding dress arrived last week. I had spent two months collecting pictures and drawing the design of my dress. My mother had a friend who knew a wedding dress tailor and she said she would arrange the whole process for me.
When I saw the dress my heart sank. The dress was different to how I had asked. Instead of 3/4 sleeves they were full length (slightly too short as well). There were clear beads and sparkles sown everywhere covering the entire front top half. And the one thing I made it extremely clear that I did not want was a train at the back - the dress has a massive long train.
I asked my mother if we could speak to the dress maker of why she had sown the design different to how I had asked and the pictures I had shown. My mother admitted to me then that she actually asked them to change it because she thought her ideas were prettier. I was upset and she was also really sad that I didn't like my dress.
My mother was also unhappy when I said that at least I would like to have them arrange to cut the train off and fix the sleeves as she thinks the dress would look ruined. She offered to pay for the dress to 'make up' for it.
In the end I realised that I will only be wearing this dress for a day. Been trying to look at it from all sorts of angles but I can't quite shake off the gutted disappointment and odd sense of betrayal. I feel really guilty/selfish too for seeing my mother look so sad. Anyone have any suggestions to how I can clear this up? | openai_summarize |
I suck at being a record label intern, need a job.
Just looking for advice and/or suggestions. | Summarize the following paragraph: Backstory: I got an internship at a tiny niche record label, one of the last of its kind in the US. It's a not-for-credit three month unpaid internship (food stipend + paid parking) two days a week. I got the internship because they were "impressed" but I have also been told that they "don't know what to do with me". I am trying to create a new position of my own in demographics and writing. One month in, and they're already dropping big hints that they want to hire me. I also found the company $1600 in unclaimed funds.
However... the other employees I work with seem to have side work they do, so I am guessing that it won't pay super well. The other thing is that I am unemployed right now and really hurting, so any money could help. Finding decently paid work around my internship schedule is really hard. | openai_summarize |
My motivation is directly related to how much social interaction I've had. Is anyone else like this? How can I overcome this, or make more friends so that I can be more motivated? | Summarize the following paragraph: My den is a total mess, I have plans for a business that I really need to work on and I have so much that I could and should be doing.. and I really want to do it, but I just can't get myself to do it.
I've discovered something about my motivation though... Wednesday and Thursday I hung out with people and both days AND Friday I was totally active, I cleaned out my den closet, reorganized all my old papers and files and crap, did the dishes and the laundry.. it was awesome. Today? All I can do is refresh Askreddit and watch for orangereds...
I suddenly realized that I'm a SIM... I'm that asshole SIM that has to have constant contact with people every damn day or I refuse to do anything because my mood bar is red.
It all makes sense now. I've been depressed as hell and totally useless ever since I moved - I don't have any friends here. | openai_summarize |
I'm an IT guy that's been doing business process optimization for several years; I enjoy automating business processes, but don't know how to transfer to another job. | Summarize the following paragraph: I'm not sure if this is the right place, but my situation is pretty straightforward:
I graduated from college about two years ago and started working for a company as essentially a data analyst, with regards to pricing. My actual job role is more geared towards looking at pricing data/past sales and developing strategies in ways to enhance profitability and margin opportunities, but I have other interests.
I really thrive off problem solving and business process optimization, and have recently developed a LAN website with many languages (PHP/AJAX/PLSQL/HTML5/CSS/JavaScript/jQuery) to make it user responsive...develop reports, save them, create timed tasks, automatically format/e-mail out/etc. It's like an easier and more responsive view of IBM Cognos.
That's the type of thing I like doing -- finding business problems (processes that are redundant) and solving them. I've literally automated things and saved the company SEVERAL hours per week for SEVERAL employees and plan on saving them more in the future.
Should I be talking to my boss and how I should transfer/create my own job title...or what? What type of job title should I be looking for other jobs with? Business Process Optimization Specialist? I have no idea.
I also believe I'm pretty underpaid for the skill-set/amount of money I'm saving the company by automating some timed reports. I wouldn't mind staying around here, but I also would LOVE to work somewhat remotely and/or travel. Almost like a consultant. | openai_summarize |
I have political views that my Dad doesn't agree with. I'm confused on how to approach this... | Summarize the following paragraph: So I had a discussion with my Dad about some political (I guess that's the word) topics. We talked about church/state, racism, immigration prejudice, and sexism. General 'equality' stuff. We didn't see eye to eye at all. That would be fine, you can't expect everyone to agree with you, but the arguments that he was making were often 'you're 20 and acting like a 20 year old, which is fine' and 'you don't have enough life experience. You don't know. You'll change your mind when you're older'.
Well I'm not ok with that attitude. Yeah I'm in my 20s but that shouldn't invalidate my opinion and it certainly doesn't mean that I'm inherently wrong or uninformed. I identify very strongly with my political views. They're a very important part of me. And yes my views may very well change in the next ten years, but that's because people are fluid and opinions can change. That doesn't belittle my opinions NOW. Or it shouldn't I don't think.
I'm just really bothered by this and I'm wondering if it would be an ok idea to approach him and mention how I feel. I would like for him to respect my opinion in the same way that I do his. Should I just let it go? It's really bothering me. | openai_summarize |
Female friend was willing to move further, I was unsure, she starts being FWB with a friend, I know I'm interested now, what do I do. | Summarize the following paragraph: Hey guys, just looking for a bit of advice for my situation, sorry if it's a bit long. Little bit of background, I'm a 20 year old guy, interested in a 20 year old female friend, we are both juniors and both attend the same university.
Okay, so we've been friends since freshman year, and things have always been going pretty smoothly. We both suffer from social anxiety/depression, and have a lot of interests (politics, shows, movies, music, etc.) in common.
Over the years she always joked that we "were pretty much a chick flick" and would end up getting together despite anything that came up. Even when we got drunk and made out this semester (3 separate times), I still kinda laughed the 'chick flick' thing off, but somewhere I knew she was right and we were getting a lot closer together. Anyway, she started getting a bit more hormonal, and when I was away for a weekend she slept with a mutual friend of ours. This is where the problem started.
It became more than a one-time thing, and while they aren't exactly dating, they're at least friends with benefits. She's even said she wasn't really into him at first, but now she likes the FWB. She also said she only got with him to start with because she wanted to lose her virginity, and I didn't put out enough.
It's gotten to the point where I know I'm interested in her, and I'm getting upset seeing her be FWBs with my friend. I want to tell her how I feel because I feel very strongly that we would work well together (not to mention that my friend is very judgmental towards people who drink, people who need anti-depressants, etc., and has made her very upset/cry multiple times with his statements).
Can anyone help me figure out what I should say to her? I'd like to prevent things from getting super awkward if possible, but I don't feel like I can stand around doing nothing anymore... | openai_summarize |
THE GAP SPAMMED US - WE SPAM THEM! HELP US TROLL THE GAP BY LIKING THIS PICTURE OF SO CALLED MODELS! | Summarize the following paragraph: The GAP has showed up on every Egyptian persons facebook profile asking us to vote for the GAP female/male/child model of the year! The sleaziest people have submitted their pictures and Egypt has done a good job bringing them down with very awkward or horrible pictures that cannot be in any way used for modeling! Only one contestant got through with a picture like that to the final round and he is in second place behind some little kid by 100 votes.
Introducing the "models"
Majid is a German Egyptian Engineer and his friend Wael who is an electronics music producer.
We need this photo to get insane amounts of votes. Let's make this happen. Lets troll the gap with these models in a white robe (arab dress) and pants as their alter ego - the popular folk singer ZIZO KAMBUTAR.
Zizo's Music can be found here :
Please like the photo and share it somehow! We don't even know what the prize is to be honest but the gap must be trolled. | openai_summarize |
how can I communicate with my gf to let her know I am going to the doctor without becoming confrontational? | Summarize the following paragraph: Hey everyone
26m Looking for some insight on a common argument I have with my girlfriend 25f. I have an ongoing medical issue I am trying to work out with my doctors and specialists, and I let my GF know if I've made an appointment regarding something that has happened recently because I think she at least deserves to know im going to the doctor because (insert reason) happened. Most of the times I tell her this, she tells me what she thinks is wrong with me and sometimes will suggest that I do 'X' whether that is take some over the counter drug, insist that my doctor ruin some test or even to the point one time where she will try to get me to take a prescription drug prescribed to her mom for the issue that she thinks I also have. I am not OK with doing things outside what my doctor recommended. Because of that I will usually get defensive as i am not asking for help, just letting her know I am going to the doctor and we argue about it. She does have some medical background in regards to sports related injuries, but is not a doctor trained in what my doctors think is wrong (gi issues). How can I communicate about this without being confrontational, or am I in the wrong for getting defensive ( totally fine with that if it's the case ). I also want to note that I do go to the doctors when something is wrong regardless of what it is, not the type to hold out for long. | openai_summarize |
I can't sleep because I'm scared of my ex who likes to guilt trip me. I'm having nightmares of her and depression and suicidal tendencies. | Summarize the following paragraph: It's been awhile now, and I believe that I am feeling a little better and getting a whole new perspective of things and realizing that it wasn't my fault. It's been more than 4 weeks now, but every single night I get nightmares of my ex who has Borderline Personality Disorder, Anorexia, depression, and suicidal tendencies.
They aren't violent nightmares, nor scary ones. But they are the issues in which she used to guilt trip me with. And happy dreams in which I wake up from and I wake up to the sad reality that we aren't even together anymore.
I dreamt a few times this week that we reconciled, and I woke up crying because I knew that it wasn't the case.
Last night I dreamt that she was dying from anorexia (she is also anorexic and blamed me before) and that it was all my fault, but getting back together in my dream Results to me saving her.
I am so tired. I can't fully move on with all this in my head. When I am conscious and awake, I am feeling better. It's whenever I sleep that memories and illusions of being with her and all of the guilt of her haunt me.
I just want to be happy again. I feel like I'm drowning...
She cut all ties with me and doesn't respond anymore even when I tried to reach out to her a couple of days her, so I can't exactly ask her or talk to her anymore. | openai_summarize |
My married wife doesn't speak English very well and I don't know how to help her make friends. | Summarize the following paragraph: Some background.
I met my wife on a cam site. She's from Greece, and we hit it off pretty quickly. I went and saw her a few times, she quit smoking for me, and about a year ago, she moved here and we got married. It's been great, we click on every level and we're very happy.
So the problem, she's been stateside for a year and she doesn't have any friends yet. I don't know if it's healthy for her to have her entire world based around me. She's worked a few hours temping at my place of employment, but she says she's not ready for a job yet. I suggested she take a few community college classes, but she's very embarrassed by her written word. She speaks and reads English perfectly, but her written word is not great at all. I don't know how else to help her make some friends.
Is this something I should be more encouraging for or is it not as big of a deal as I think it might be? | openai_summarize |
My GF gets into a fight in New Orleans, gets arrested after some girl gets assaulted, and misses the flight back. What's the court process? | Summarize the following paragraph: I'm no lawyer, but I am pretty familiar with the law (friends in trouble, self defense and gun laws, drug/privacy law, etc). However I'm quite confused on this one.
So my girlfriend and her military friend (just finished basic) in Mississippi, go to see PANTyRAiD in New Orleans. Now the military guy wasn't given permission to leave base. My gf and the guy, drunk or whatever, cut some line in front of a guy, who doesn't care, but his fat girlfriend rages and punches my GF. They get into it, she says they both swing about 4 times, my gf lands a solid in her face and that's that. Everyone goes on partying, whatever, who cares.
'Suddenly' a few minutes later, she is put in the back of a cop car by security, where the military guy already is (he wasn't even doing anything), and see the fat girl going on about how they the big black dude and the girl ganged up on her (and the boyfriend just nodding in agreement).
Cop drops them off at the hospital, says he believes my GF/friend in that they didn't do anything, but because she's claiming assault, they gotta go to court. He doesn't call the friend's military superiors, but he has to go to court too.
But the problem is my GF is flying back today, Mississippi is halfway across the country. She doesn't have the vacation to fly back, nor the money. I'm sure she can get a lawyer to represent her in absentia (that's what people do in these types of situations, right?) but that's a bit expensive and ridiculous...
So I don't know what this is. They weren't charged, they weren't arrested. What kind of court is this? They have to plead their case before a judge.
My guess is the fat girl won't even show up to court, but what is she supposed to do in this situation?
Thanks. | openai_summarize |
Asked my fiance to get help for an imaginary problem, miraculously she gets help for herself. Is it really possible to fly with a dog? | Summarize the following paragraph: My original post is [here](
A few days after posting this, I received a call at work from a neighbor, my fiance was trying to fill a forged prescription at Jewel. He told her he was going back to fill the prescription but instead called me hoping I would be able to remedy the situation without him having to call the police on her. I am eternally grateful for nice neighbors. I left work and went there, found her in the waiting area and explained the situation at hand. She started screaming at me and was causing a big scene for the twelve people that were there shopping at noon on a Wednesday. I was able to convince her to leave with me, telling her we'd find another way to get the pills.
When we got home I gave her the ultimatum of get help or get out. She still claimed she has no problem so I started packing up her shit for her. Cue lots more screaming and her calling the police on me, she arrived at a much better decision. She would go to rehab as long as it was a place of her choosing.
Yesterday morning we arrived here and parted ways in the afternoon when we checked her in. Right now they have a 90 day program set in place and then I guess we go from there. I am apparently not allowed to have contact with her for the first week as she goes through the withdrawal process. I'm not thrilled about that or that I won't be able to come back to visit her until the first 30 days are up.
With that said, does anyone have any experience flying with big dogs? I know Garda is going to be even more distraught without her than I am, so I'd like to take him out there with me next month. Also, if anyone has any rehab success stories I'd love to hear them, my hotel room has become a very lonely place this evening. | openai_summarize |
Girlfriend gave me a STD, want to know what to do next | Summarize the following paragraph: I've (26M) been with my (23F) gf for four months. We've had mostly protected sex but the the past few times I ended up putting on a condom a few minutes after starting sex.
Anyway, up until four days ago, I had never given her oral sex (she mentioned before she wasn't super into it or something).
Yesterday I started having std symptoms, more specifically a red spot on my throat and genital itching.
I know this is something that might have been dormant in either of us, and I don't think she cheated on me or anything. I'm going to get checked but it's Saturday night and they aren't open until Monday. I want her to get checked as well.
How should I approach her with this? I don't want it to affect the relationship, and I don't want to seem like I'm blaming her, it happens.
I'm kind of thinking the 'honesty is the best policy' route. Thanks! | openai_summarize |
fixed a new car, blew it out of the water, and almost didn't make it to the Prom. | Summarize the following paragraph: When I was 16, I had somehow managed to convince my parents to buy me a bimmer that was a few years old. I loved the shit out of that car, it was absolutely beautiful and way too cool for 16 year old me to have.
The thing about this car was that it was stick. Now I had never been training in driving manual transition, so I pretty much taught myself how to do it on that car (Horrible Idea)
Fast forward a month: My friends and I had been recruited by the mother of a girl from a local all girls school to be prom dates for her daughter + her friends. We arrived at the girl's house on gameday only to find out that there were 2 too many people for the Limo. I said its alright, I'll drive my own car. So my buddy and I are driving in my car to the location. **This is where dumbness takes over.**
I figured if we were driving separately, we should have some fun by getting a little speed going. Generally when driving stick, people will shift down a gear to get a little speed increase. I decided 1 wasn't enough, and to shift down 2 gears from 5th to 3rd. However, things get dumber. I make the shift.... and end up going from 5th-1st. You never go from 5th to 1st. Cue intense shaking and loud noises and me thinking "WTF WTF WTF WTF".
In the end, I blew out the transition on this newish bimmer I had just received.
But we made it to the Prom still... | openai_summarize |
Things are improving with my wife and I, but the progress is slow and I'm feeling tempted to make poor decisions again. Would appreciate some advice on how to improve things more with my wife. | Summarize the following paragraph: A few weeks ago I asked this subreddit for some relationship advice and I recieved some good advice and I was hoping I could come back for some more. [This is my first post](
The advice to my first post was almost exclusively try to date my wife, and I've started to do just that. Since then, I've become more invested in our marriage and I'm trying to do small things and we've had some success here and there. Its no where near as fun as some of the things in my past, and its actually a bit of hard work, but I'm hoping it'll pay off.
We've started up watching shows and movies together. We watch movies in our native tongue together and that is fun, and we've enjoyed some fun cuddling (PG, I know but its an improvement for us) and I've tried to be romantic with her... like kissing her neck, playing with her hair, and she has been into it, but she hasn't tried anything on her own still.
There has been some progress for us, and its been small but it is progress none the less. She has been more happy to see me, and we both seem to be happier together. Its small things, but I recognize its a start. I woke up this morning and she was running her hands over my chest and cuddled up with me, which might be the most romantic she has ever been with me.
The issue is I am struggling to stay content. I want more, and I've been unbelievably horny (for lack of a better word). I don't think I can continue to stay celibate, and I don't want to try to force sex and ruin the progress we are making. I'm not keen on the idea of cheating again, but its something I've already done and its tempting when I'm not thinking things through clearly. I'm kind of hoping people can give me some encouragement or advice on what to do to improve things faster with my wife, and what I can to do to work on my emotions.
Ages and Relationship Length are same as before.... I am 26/m and my wife is 24/f and married 2.5 years. | openai_summarize |
I want to be the best for you and help you. | Summarize the following paragraph: I broke down in front of you last night. You looked at me like I was pathetic. All I want in the world is for you to love me. The way you used to. I know you are pissed at me for betraying your trust, but I did it for the right reasons. I wish you understood that.
You can't tell someone who truly loves you that you tried to kill yourself and tell them not to tell anyone. Yes, I know I told the one person you didn't want me to tell, but it was because he was there when it happened. You also tell me to keep our private lives private and not tell anyone else. I was just trying to listen to you. So I told the person I thought we could both trust to make sure you really were ok.
I know I keep fucking up. I just want us to work so badly. Every time I fuck up, and I just want to be perfect for you. The way I used to be... I still can be. I'm not ever trying to hurt you. Sometimes I just can't deal with all these situations on my own, and now I feel like I don't have your support because you are always upset with me.
All my friends think it's YOU, that YOU cause all these problems. But it's not. It's me. And I'm trying SO FUCKING HARD to make it easier for you to be with me. To WANT to be with me again.
I've said it before and I've said it again: you are worth fighting for. If we can get passed this we can have smooth sailing in the near future. I'm not trying to force you or rush you... I just hate this game and I want us to both commit to each other so we can get passed this month and hopefully have a happy life together. That's all I want... to be an "us" again. To feel secure.
I can't give up. I hate when people tell me I should. I don't want to be without you. | openai_summarize |
Never talked to a girl in my life. I've been texting her on Facebook asking if she'd like to be my friend but she never has responded. I've been thinking about trying to ask her to my fireman's annual installation dinner but I want to make sure I've got the right person in front of me. | Summarize the following paragraph: Last summer I worked with a girl, who was 20 at the time, at a supermarket, the first time I saw her I knew I wanted to date her. I mulled over it for a few weeks, decided that I wanted to attempt to go forward with it. As soon as I had decided that she had become a front end manager and not wanting to make it awkward I decided to not go forward with it.
Fast forward to September, I was drunk, added her on Facebook, messaged her, that didn't go anywhere. I messaged her again in November asking if she'd want to come to a neighboring FD's fundraiser, she never answered back.
Fast forward again to mid-February, I was drunk again and asked my college roommate (I live on campus down the street from my house, my moms idea, don't ask) to text her from his iPod (in case it didn't go too well so she didn't get his actual number). I didn't see the actual conversation but supposedly she said something like I wasn't her type because I had to have a friend text her instead of doing it myself.
I told him to back off and that I'd figure something out.
Any suggestions what I should do? I've been thinking about messaging her on Facebook telling her that I know I should've just texted her myself but the past 2 times I've done that the conversation didn't get anywhere and I figured that if I had my friend tell her that she'd message me on Facebook or whatever but clearly that didn't work out as I had hoped.
Side Note: I am a volunteer fireman, we have our annual installation dinner where all the new officers get sworn in and awards are given out in a little less than a month, I really want to ask her to be my +1 for that. I've had that in mind since I was working with her (she left the supermarket sometime in august so I haven't seen her in person since then)
Any suggestions??
Will update if I get some good suggestions and one of them works. | openai_summarize |
Long time friend , short time crush who has recently broken up with her BF and thinking about asking her out . | Summarize the following paragraph: Sorry but I am a mobile user blablabla.
It wasn't always like that . I know her since I was in the first grade and we ended up being in the same class in elementary , medium and high school . She went from friend to crush real fast this summer . We both chose the same university to go to after we finish high school ( Incidentally as I didn't Base my choice on her ) and also incidentally we are going to the same teachers to prepare us for the admission . My self confidence regarding relationships and looks Is close to 0 . I always found her attractive but I didn't consider her a real opportunity as she either had a boyfriend or I was too much of a wimp to ask her out ( which in hindsight was probably the right choice ) but that changed last week .
She broke up with her boyfriend ( he was quite a lot older and I kinda knew he didn't really like her and was expecting a break-up but I am known to be quite insensitive so I let that pass ) and after that she asks me every day if I want to hang out ( not only me but she always asks me first ) which I usually say yes .
I drive her from and to the parties we are going as she doesn't have a car nor a license and we live quite close . Well I can say with a surtain confidence than I am her "best friend "right now .
Now where the place where the real advice comes in .Should I ask her out and hope for a positive outcome as I changed a lot over this year ( for the better I hope - lost weight , put some muscle , read a lot , learned a lot more ) and how much should I wait if I am going the kamikaze route to not look like an opportunistic asshole?
Keep In mind I can't really deal with a rejection as I am sitting in the same room withing 1 meter of each other and averege of 40hours a week give or take . | openai_summarize |
I have a pretty big crush on my best friends little sister and she is friends with my girlfriend. I have no idea what to do! | Summarize the following paragraph: So I am dating this girl going on for about two years now and she is pretty nice and incredibly attractive but honestly we have near nothing in common and she has been disloyal in the past then swore to never do it again when I confront her about it.
So with this all going on my best friend (I will refer to him as John) has a sister that is one year younger than us that is really attractive and we have a lot more in common and she is really cool!
Also, she is really good friends with my girlfriend as of late which basically creates this massive loop of just off limits for me I feel like but I really like her and I feel like I would be much happier with her. I never thought like this before but this has been going on for the past several months and I just need to figure all of this out.
I am kind of worried that "John" will be upset but not really because he is really chill and I think would be cool with it. The real problem is 1. I have no idea even what to do and 2. my SO and "John's" sister are kind of friends. | openai_summarize |
My potential boyfriend is secretly eskimo brothers with his own brother. | Summarize the following paragraph: My ex and I have known each other for ten years. We dated for five years, grew apart and broke up (but stayed friends), and are on the verge of getting back together. We've been through a lot, and I truly love and care for him. What's keeping me from fully committing is something he shared that happened when we weren't together.
Basically, he had a couple of threesomes with a different GF and his brother's then-GF. When he initially told me about this (long before we worked on getting back together), he seemed almost proud of it. He shared details with me that I wish I never knew. His brother doesn't know, of course. Unfortunately, I do. It disgusts me, not because he had a threesome, but because it was with his brother's GF. I'm not sure if I'm overreacting or what. On the one hand, the past is the past. People can grow and change. On the other hand, I can't help but wonder: If he's capable of doing something like that to his own younger brother and keeping it a secret from him, what could he do to me? | openai_summarize |
My boyfriend wants me to take a job I think is wrong for me and I'm not sure how to tell him.
Edit: typo | Summarize the following paragraph: My boyfriend currently works maintenance at a hotel and goes to the same university as me. I will soon be graduating with honors, though. I have been planning on getting another job in addition to the second shift, part time job I already have while I am taking a gap year before applying to graduate school.
As it turns out, an opening for a receptionist/server/bartender just opened up at the hotel BF works at. He mentioned me to the managers and told me about the job. I was initially told that I would be able to keep my current part time job, but, after interviewing, found out I'd have to quit it.
BF really wants me to take the job. He doesn't have a car, so he usually has to get a ride from me to work and get a ride from his coworker back home. If I worked there, we could just carpool.
I've been waiting for a week to hear back from the managers as to whether or not I get the job. However, they sent me an email today saying they wanted me to do a working interview. I think that this is absolute bullshit. I'm overqualified for the job, and the position doesn't even require any particular skills for which a working interview would be necessary. It's only an $8 per hour job AND it requires working nights, weekends, and holidays. There's no upward mobility and I wouldn't be overseeing anyone else. Additionally, it's not related to my long term goals and wouldn't help me build my resume. Them asking me to do a working interview for such a position has just completely turned me off from working there.
I want to tell them I'm no longer interested in the position, but I'm not sure how to break the news to my BF. I'm also not sure if I'm being snooty and unreasonable about not wanting to do a working interview for such a low-level position when I'm so overqualified (in both educational and work experience). | openai_summarize |
my SO is scared that he might lose his job of 5 years when the company changes ownership. What should he know, and what can I do to help? | Summarize the following paragraph: The new owner has gradually made his presence and authority more known at the office where he works. My SO told me that he is not allowed to call me until 5:00 pm, and from what it sounds like is not being given a break during the day. He tells me that taking breaks in general are frowned upon at the office. In the past, they have not let him leave for lunch so that someone could be there to "handle the phones" while everyone else leaves. The new boss chewed out my SO for doing some personal work at the office (i.e. checking banking), but there are other people who take excessive smoke breaks and display other unprofessional behavior (e.g. showing up for work late) that goes without consequence. Today, my SO was asked by the new boss to prepare his job description over the weekend so that he, the current owner and the future owner can "sit down and discuss some things." What does this mean? Is his job at risk?
Specifically, what are his rights as a current employee of 5 years, and do you have any advice for him? We just got engaged a month ago, and our lives have really just started to take off. Is there anything he should or should not do as someone in this position?? Furthermore, is there anything that I should know so that I can be as supportive and helpful to him as possible? The last thing I want is to make him feel worse by saying or doing the wrong thing. | openai_summarize |
Why aren't rubber bullets being discussed at gun control debates? | Summarize the following paragraph: It has just dawned on me, why not phase out metal/alloy/etc bullets and replace them with rubber / other non-lethal projectiles. They're non-lethal, but still pretty damn hurtful and useful for subduing dangerous persons.
To me, it seems like the perfect solution, so why do I never hear it raised when people are arguing over gun control? I don't claim to be the smartest or most abstract thinker in the world, surely I can't be alone in coming to this idea, so what is wrong with it?
I thought at first that maybe the notion of rubber bullets isn't usually raised due to the injuries that they can cause, but then I realised death is usually a fatal injury. Also, I don't imagine tasers would necessarily be orgasmic for the victim, albeit less fatal than metal bullets.
So, why are we not discussing this? Why are rubber bullets not a good idea? | openai_summarize |
I'm being charged $350 for a place I haven't even moved into yet. I'm looking for any advice or advice of any kind, because I want to get out of this. | Summarize the following paragraph: I originally was expecting to move into my new apartment in August, but due to some instability at the time, I was forced to stay with a friend and wait until this month to move in. Today, I received a message from them asking if I was still moving in, and responded that I was since I was receiving my bi-weekly paycheck that would give me enough to pay this month's rent of about $350 (along with a few necessities).
They then proceeded to tell me that if I did move in, I would also have to pay the whole first month's rent on top of that, even though I wasn't even living there. I would understand a holding fee, but paying $350 just to hold a spot is utterly ridiculous. I've done the math, and by the time I do get the full $700 or so, it would be time for next month's rent, which would add another $350 on top of that. That means I would essentially have to earn over $1000 in less than a month, literally impossible for someone on my salary.
And here's the icing on the cake; if I decide NOT to move in, they still want to charge me full rent for August AND September. Regardless of what I do, I'll still be down at least $700.
I could really use some help/advice, guys. I'm at a loss at this point. I do NOT want to take out any loans. | openai_summarize |
I feel like I'm the only one in the relationship and I don't know what to do! | Summarize the following paragraph: Hey! So bf and I have been together for 5 years and he is uber sweet and I know he loves me etc. but lately, as the novelty of the relationship has worn off, little things are starting to bug me a lot more and I need your help to figure out if I'm being neurotic!
-He doesn't ever surprise me (not even when we first started dating), the only time he would buy flowers was for Valentine's day
- We moved in together 2 years ago and getting him involved in any chores or to do his own laundry is a pain in the butt, he's not super messy but I don't like being the only one cooking and cleaning and taking care of the dog AND reminding him to do his laundry. He volunteers occasionally to do things but the ratio is 90% me, 10% him
-I feel like I wear the pants in the relationship, aka, I have to make decisions about everything and do all the planning for anything we ever do otherwise we'll never do anything fun.
-I feel like I have taught him a lot over the years and learned nothing from him in return
-He lacks motivation when it comes to anything, I've never seen him take initiative and he has a half-decent job but he doesn't have any goals (career or hobby wise) which has become a huge turn off for me | openai_summarize |
LDR boyfriend hardly wants to talk anymore while I still want to talk as much as we use to and I feel like there's no passion from him anymore | Summarize the following paragraph: My boyfriend and I have been long distance for over a year now, and up until recently things have been going pretty well. We are able to spend a week together every other month, but in the past few months it has only been a day or two.
At the beginning of the relationship we use to talk all the time, and whenever we both had free time we would talk on skype as much as possible during that time. However in the past few months he hardly texts me throughout the day, and does not want to talk for very long at the end of the day when we call to say goodnight.
I'm understanding if he has a busy schedule, but sometimes he will just be watching tv or playing video games and I'll ask if he would like to talk and he just says no and that he'd rather be alone. I asked him if we could compromise and talk a little more often during the evenings when neither of us have anything to do, and he just says that he doesn't want to fake being happy when he's talking to me if he doesn't want to.
He says he is still very much in love with me, and he is nice and the times that we do talk do go pretty well, I just want more and he doesn't. So any kind of advise would be great, I think I just might be stuck in the honey moon phase while he moved out of it a while ago, there's not much passion from him anymore and it feels shitty honestly.
I think the reason might be is that we have not spent much time together in the past few months and am hoping that maybe things will go back to how they use to be when I'm visiting him for my spring break. I love him a lot and want things to work, but am I over thinking all of this and should be ok that he hardly wants to talk anymore? | openai_summarize |
It's easier to have self control if you don't wait until you're starving to eat. | Summarize the following paragraph: Sounds like clickbait. Promise it's not. I'm hypoglycemic (chronic low blood sugar) which means I get really hungry really frequently and I crash really hard when I eat sugar (conventional things like ice cream as well as bread, rice, etc). But of course I still want to eat an entire pie in one sitting sometimes. I've found that I'm WAY less likely to cave and do that (and then feel awful later, physically/emotionally) if I just eat something BEFORE I'm ravenous. The hungrier I am, the better all the bad, deep-fried things sound. But if I'm just starting to get hungry, I'm satisfied with whatever healthy food I have planned out for the day. | openai_summarize |
My ex is playing games, and I'm about to tell her that I'm not waiting around anymore. | Summarize the following paragraph: I'm going to talk to her today in like an hr. She called me this morning and made sure I was planning on talking later. She then said "I don't want to lose you." I told her we would talk at 5:30.
I'm prepared to stick with my decision not to continue to wait for her. I'm pretty sure that nothing has changed for her. She wants to be single. And I'm not willing to keep going through this.
I'm not looking forward to hearing her tell me how much she loves me. and I know she will bring up the whole "if i'm going to be with a guy, it'll be you." That one has been said way to many times (by her.) I expect her to cry. That is going to be so hard. But I'm done. | openai_summarize |
Whats the best way to learn that one thing that will make an impact on the world?
THANKS! | Summarize the following paragraph: I'm an apprentice right now in my company and my boss leaves for another job at the end of the month so my bosses boss has asked me to take over the guy who's leavings job.
It's great and all and i could see myself doing it but the plan has always been to do greater things in my life, so engineer was the obvious choice.
The only thing that is stopping me from ending it right now is doing something great, leaving an imprint on the world.
i know this will require A LOT of work because the only way i can add something new to the world is by learning everything the people in my field knew before me, and only then will i have a chance. | openai_summarize |
Girlfriend broke up with me a year ago, I'm in a really bad place emotionally. I miss her a lot and don't know what to do. | Summarize the following paragraph: Not sure where else to turn for advice
But my me and my long term girlfriend of ~3 years broke up at the end of last year. I was in a really bad place and pretty much just threw it all away and didn't give a shit. I was over her and didn't give a shit about anything in my life really.
Since she has gotten a boyfriend and idk if they're still together or not, I'm not one to look further in to it. I've "heard" a couple months ago she missed me, but kind of ignored it, as I still wasn't in the best place.
But recently I texted her and apologized for me pretty much just ignoring her for the last part of our relationship, and how I didn't want her to think she did something wrong, and didn't get much of a response.
Then yesterday I get a huge text from her apologizing for how she thinks she's stepping into my social life because I don't get invited to go to places because we still have the same general group of friends, and she gets picked over me(they think we can't be around together) and how she doesn't want it to be like that and how she genuinely cares for me as a person, and is happy for me that I'm not in a shitty place in my life anymore.
Feelings I thought were gone long ago are being brought back up, and I miss her terribly. I'm probably out of place with this feeling, and I don't think I should tell her I have these feelings but I really want to, and I'm thinking about her constantly. Please help me, I don't know what to do and I don't want to step on any toes. | openai_summarize |
I [18 M] have a crush on someone [18 F] and am unsure how to approach it. | Summarize the following paragraph: First off, I'm quite inexperienced in a this field seeing as I am a virgin and have never been in a relationship before. Therefore I am quite unsure how approach the situation, and would appreciate some advice.
We've been friends for about a month and have been texting every day and also met up a good few times for lunch and just hanging out.
However, at around the time I met her she also become friendly with another dude, who I am also friends with. Me and him could be seen to be polar opposites. He is quite confident, outgoing and has had numerous sexual partners. I, on the other hand, am more comfortable in a small group of people and prefer to listen to people rather than talk, and because of this, she claims to be very comfortable around me.
This other dude, being more confident than myself, has already expressed interest in her and has made his move (I believe they have made out) and asked them to be exclusive. She hasn't mentioned whether or not they are exclusive to me yet, so I am still in the dark about it.
In the past month she has opened up to me and I feel a real emotional connection with her and I think we would go well together. She has also given me indication that she agrees with this, claiming on more than one occasion that I, "should have made a move before him" and that she thinks it is fate that we met.
However, she has also mentioned the fact that she doesn't want to "lose the friendship" and I would agree with her. However, seeing as I have been by myself for so long, I would be willing to risk it, and possibly be start a "not very serious" relationship aka a relationship where we are exclusive, but we are still able to have a good level of freedom.
So, the question I pose is, do you think I should tell her about my crush on her, or maybe distance myself from her until my feelings go away (something I would really not rather do, but I have mulled on it.) | openai_summarize |
Girlfriend of 6 months with no problems - Christmas, want to break up with her but don't want her to feel slighted. | Summarize the following paragraph: We've been seeing each other for just over 6 months now. We don't live together and there are no complications (health etc) or strings (financial etc).
I want to break up with her and were it any other time of the year I would avoid drawing it out, however with Christmas this coming week we are going to be around each others families quite a bit. I don't think it would be appropriate to break up with her now and ruin the holiday for her, but on the other hand I don't want her to feel that I mislead her if I break up with her straight afterwards.
The only problem with not doing it after Christmas is that we are supposed to be spending a week away on holiday together halfway through January.
I do care about her; and no one deserves to be hurt unnecessarily, so really looking for some help or advice on what I should do in this situation.
Thanks in advance =) | openai_summarize |
bought and shipped my ex gf an anime plushie with a pusheen necklace and a third item and I'm worried she'll hate me for it. Is there anyway I can make it more than just a simple gift? | Summarize the following paragraph: Hey Reddit, so I bought some items on the internet from America for my ex girlfriend who at the time when we was together; I knew she would LOVE these presents. I got her a pretty damn epic plushie - anime. A Pusheen Necklace (facebook grey animated cat emote) and the third object I won't say.
Either way, I tracked them today and they will be here between Monday to Wednesday next week.
It's been over 2 weeks since she decided to pull the plug, and the fool I am tried to talk to her about it instead of giving her the much needed space, so I've cut all contact now since Sunday. I said what I wanted to say, but it escalated which I'm feeling really guilty over.
I know that RIGHT NOW she probably hates my guts for reasons I can't really say because I don't know myself, I'm going to think its because I was clingy/intoxicating over the first 2 weeks of the break up because during the relationship she even admitted to me that she felt as if I was doing right by her, I was a very supportive and caring partner. I always put her before myself in every situation.
I'm very relaxed now, I've taken care of my life by starting a new hobbie ; jogging. I've been doing it daily, and since we've broken up I've lost over a stone in weight (6.7 KG) due to the continuous exercise and very healthy eating.
Either way, I just wanted to know what I Should do with these items.
I know she would love them, but I'm not sure if I should give them to her any more because it may seem as if I'm trying to buy my way back into her life but truthfully I've been waiting for these things for nearly a month to arrive, with full recites as proof.
I hope you can help me out with this. I spent around 120$ on all 3 gifts, so it isn't exactly cheap when you don't have money because you was saving for a big "plan".
Thanks again reddit. :)
If you have any questions, please ask. | openai_summarize |
worked out a mutual attraction to the coworker I've been working with for a year, now she's deliberately avoiding me. I'm not sure how to handle this situation. | Summarize the following paragraph: I am a 25 year old male who is friends with a 35 year old female at my workplace. I've known her for a year, and I had no attraction to her when we first met. After getting to know her, I found that we share many many similar interests and tastes, and I've developed an attraction for her, which snowballed to a pretty big crush. I'm pretty sure she isn't currently interested, but I decided to see if I could change her mind, like she unknowingly did mine.
Yesterday I felt particularly confident and I casually invited her out on the weekend, she looked down for a few seconds while thinking, asked me when and where, then agreed. It is important to note that she mentioned she had morning plans that "should end" by the agreed time. I was so ecstatic that she agreed that I failed to read into the key word "should".
So today, it seemed like she was intentionally trying to avoid me. We exchanged hellos twice today, but she would quickly walk away. She also has a ritual where she comes down to where I am after work to have a smoke, where we usually have long chats, and today she didn't. Seems weird because we continued an enjoyable conversation immediately after I had invited her out.
I just realized I actually worked this out as I was typing it, and I'm prepared for the flake. I just hope I didn't forever drive away the only person I genuinely enjoy conversing with at work. How bad is damage control in situations like this? | openai_summarize |
I've been cheated on multiple times in the past and don't know what to do about it. | Summarize the following paragraph: I (19m) have been cheated on in two of the three relationships I've ever had. The last girl I was dating told me a few months ago that she had been cheating on me, and I didn't know how to react at first. We tried to work our relationship out. She seemed ashamed of it, and acted like she still wanted to be together. I stupidly bought into it, and we worked things out for about another month. We broke up, and the next day, went out and had a fling with the same guy she cheated on me with, and shortly after is now seeing another guy. I know it's all stupid, and I really shouldn't care, but I've been really down lately. My relationship with my parents haven't been that great since middle school, I'm in my first year of college, facing academic probation because of my GPA, and my friends only really seem to talk to me when they have some sort of problem with their life. Throw the whole cheating situation in, and... I just don't know what to do. It makes me wonder if something is wrong with me? I don't know. | openai_summarize |
I'm moving in with my boyfriend, I want to marry him, mom thinks he might propose next year. | Summarize the following paragraph: We've been together for 2 years, I am moving in with him come January. We are in our early 20s, and we both have mutual feelings for one another. We've been talking about marriage for quite some time. Before we decided to move in together, we talked about it for a good year before we made it a reality.
I've discussed to him I did not want to wait 5/6/7 years to marry him, and I would like to marry him sometime soon. My mom thinks he MIGHT propose next year, and we have our wedding when I graduate with my Bach. in another 2 years. Do you think she is right? I really feel like it might happen next year, perhaps at the end of the year... | openai_summarize |
met girl at music festival, she was keen, got number, she said to text her, no reply, want advice to follow up | Summarize the following paragraph: Hi all,
So this weekend I was at a music festival in my home city, quite big and lots of people there. Around the end I met this chick, call her Jay [16], I'm 16 as well.
So we hit it off alright initially, talked before the next act and I got her number, stupid me didn't test the number to see if it was right. I stayed with her the rest of the show and she was real cool. At the end we hug, she tells me to text her and we go our separate ways.
Now this is the first properly decent chick that I got the number of and I am pretty determined to try follow it. So yesterday sent her a text ("Hey, this is ****, from music festival last night :))"), which is a pretty weak start. It's been a day, didn't get a response so talking to my mates I sent the number another text saying along the lines of "sorry if this is the wrong number, this cute girl gave it to me at the festival". Still no response going on 8 hours after that one(>24hrs from first).
I want to follow her up so I want advice from you all on what to do if she doesn't text back(might be because of wrong number, not sure, even if she didn't want anything relationship like she could have responded). I know her first name and it's quite different so I can find her pretty easily and have since found the last name. I know I could send her a message on Facebook saying I sent a text but it may have been the wrong number but that may come off as weird(which I'm willing to do if it might get me there). You guys are probably better at this so I will take in all suggestions. | openai_summarize |
Neighbors insurer asked for reimbursement. Home owner caused damage. Home owner's insurance reimbursed neighbor. Home owner's insurance wants $1600 to fix the damages. | Summarize the following paragraph: Hi, I'm from California and my grandma has been in a sticky situation with her home.
A neighbor next door to my grandma was seeking reimbursement for repairs since there were holes in their house that came from my grandma's yard.
But it turns out the previous owner of my grandma's house caused those damages.
So after inspections and everything, the neighbor's insurance reimbursed him about $1600 to make the repairs.
Now's the sticky part: The insurance company's lawyers sent a letter to my grandma asking for reimbursement for what they paid the neighbor.
We've tried contacting our home insurance to deal with them but have been getting no calls back. We were thinking of writing a letter to OUR insurance company including the letter from the neighbor's lawyer and let them handle everything.
My grandma is just worried about losing the house. Thank you guys so much in advance. | openai_summarize |
A high schooler is telling her friends that she wants to work in marine biology and get her boyfriend into a college. | Summarize the following paragraph: Hey guys.
So I'm a high school teacher that mostly teaches Juniors but I have one Senior class. Today were were discussing how to budget for college, look for proper loans, and other basics that they would need to know for college. When they broke into their groups for the activities I overheard a group talking about their college plans/futures.
One girl (we'll call her Violet) was talking about how her whole life she wanted nothing more than to work in marine biology. And she needs to! This girl loves the sea and all the creatures in it! She's very smart, very talented, and an overall joy to have in class. What scared me was the next part of her story. The conversations went like this:
**Girl 1**: So what colleges have you looked at?
**Violet**: Well at first I was looking for schools in Miami, Boca, or Tampa but now since my boyfriend got into a school in Minnesota I'm going to apply there with him and see if they have some sort of starter program or marine program.
WHAT?!?! She's throwing away a good opportunity to start a great marine biology program in a beautiful state for her **BOYFRIEND!?!**
How do I, as an educator, try and shed some guidance as to why this is not the best idea for what she wants to do. Has anyone here ever chosen a school based on their SO? How did that work out for you? I want to see some other possible sides.
**EDIT 1**: Some of you are saying how I'm just a teacher and shouldn't butt in but I forgot to add that she has been one of my dancers (I'm the dance coach as well) since her freshman year. It's a small team and I feel closer to her than my other, one year subject students. | openai_summarize |
Should I meet up with a guy just to 'check in', or should I start talking to him about a date?** | Summarize the following paragraph: For the last 2-3 weeks, I've been speaking with a guy from tinder. We now text rather than use the app, and we speak on a daily basis. We don't really 'chat' but more exchange a few long messages every day with little stories that happened to us.
I'm not sure when I should meet with him and how this will work. We know enough about each other to not be able to ask all the basic questions, yet not enough to have conversation like friends would. Thus, I'm also not sure how the date would go?
I do like this guy - he's funny and nice and I'm really hoping that things work out. | openai_summarize |
Parents don't want me to tell them I'm back with my ex boyfriend (23/M). How do I tell them? | Summarize the following paragraph: My parents told me they will disown me if I (25/F) get back with my boyfriend (23/M). I don't know what to do. My boyfriend and I had a big fallout a couple months ago and we broke up. About a month ago we got back together but I still haven't told my family. My mother asked me if I had gotten back together with him and I have denied it for weeks because she said if she finds out I am she will disown me. I'm scared to tell them the truth because I love my family and I don't want to be disowned. Then again, I ask myself; great parenting? Do I keep lying? Or tell the truth and see how it goes? | openai_summarize |
Is there a chance that tech support will become more spiritual as technology advances past the understanding of the average person? | Summarize the following paragraph: My friend and I had a silly conversation that got this idea planted in our minds. You can talk to anyone who has worked in any kind of tech support job and get confirmation that people never read manuals and instructions anymore, and expect everything to work without understanding basic functions.
As technology gets more and more sophisticated, we don't believe that the average person is going to keep up. Eventually, are people going to start troubleshooting errors and confusing phenomena (batch errors, latency, etc) with spiritual solutions? Will humanity start smearing goat blood on routers hoping for a more secure connection? | openai_summarize |
My father's work is completely screwing him over, and he's turned to alcohol and cigarettes as a result. I just... want advice. Anything would be appreciated. | Summarize the following paragraph: So Reddit, I'm getting kind of desperate. I love my father very much, and I'm starting to get horribly worried about him.
He works twelve hour days on average, being the manager at an office supplies store. There have been times when he worked forty hours in *three days*. He hardly eats at work, since he's so completely busy and understaffed. (His company won't let him hire more employees) He's lost around twenty-thirty pounds since he only ever eats dinner. In general, his company and his employee's are screwing him over. Whenever one of his employee's skips out on my father, my dad has to step in. And he can't do anything about it. We can't afford for him to quit his job of ten years right now either.
The worst part is that he's seemed to turn to alcohol and cigarettes to help cope. On average he drinks six-eight beers a night, and I have no idea how many cigarettes he smokes on average since he does it in secret even though he knows I know. He refuses to go to the doctor either, so I have no idea how much this affects him. This has been going on for about 2-4 years now.
I've tried confronting him about his problem two or three times, and sometimes he promises he'll stop, and other times he's simply annoyed at me. I'm terrified it's affecting his health- I would never be able to forgive myself if something happened to him because I was too scared to speak up. I'll be honest here, I have a history of depression. As I am right now, I don't think I would be able to live without my father. | openai_summarize |
GF says that because women have to carry the child, men barely have any say in naming the child. I'm butt hurt about it. | Summarize the following paragraph: Been seeing a girl for 6 months. Get along real well with her and have no complaints so far. We were sitting down one day, and the conversation about "What would you name your kids?" came up. I offered mine, and she gave her opinions on them, what she liked, what she didn't. That's cool. So I asked about hers. I said I wasn't much of a fan regarding one of the names she mentioned, and she came back with a "Well, I'd be the one carrying the baby, so it's not like you would have a choice."
When I dug deeper, she cited that because it's the woman who has to go through the pregnancy and everything that comes with it, so it's only fair that she gets final say in naming her future child. I would never argue what a woman has to go through vs what a man has too. But it's not like the man just sits there and eats popcorn while everything is going on! Plus, it's also raising the child that's important too ya know?
Anyways, I never thought I'd come across a situation like this. I sort of get it, but at the same time it leaves a bad taste in my mouth that she can just freely disregard the names I would ever suggest, and take very little input from me regarding what she wants. Has anyone come across this? Maybe I'm missing something? How can we solve this? | openai_summarize |
I dont know how to react to a girl who likes a guy friend in a new relationship with me. | Summarize the following paragraph: So I'm a relatively socially withdrawn college student, I spend a lot of my time alone because I find it painfully difficult to meet people and start meaningful relationships. Recently I mustered the courage to ask a girl in one of my classes out, and a few weeks later were getting along just fine hanging out a few times a week we've kissed and slept in the same bed a few times.
My issue is that she has this guy friend, for the life of me I have no idea if I'm just being a jealous lonely idiot but I cant help but shake the feeling that she likes him. Last week I was hanging out with them when she sat on his lap and acted all flirty around him, later apologizing when she saw that I could not hide my disgust but today after i went to a campus event with her and told her i wont be able to see her for a few days she let slip that shes going to hang out with him tonight while I go back to my room alone. I feel soo very shitty and I dont know if i should text her or talk to her to let her know how i feel or ask her if she does like him and im wasting my time, or not say anything in fear of ruining a new relationship I really want/need in my life? | openai_summarize |
We don't want the roommate who lives with us. We want to tell him, but it's hard to tell him why. | Summarize the following paragraph: Hi, I apologize if this is in the wrong subreddit.
I'm a college student who lives in a house with 5 other guys. It's time to either re-sign the lease for a year, or move out. Three of the guys are moving out, and the other two and I wanted to stay, but now are going to move out as well. Two of us don't want to live with the third roommate, but we don't know how to tell him.
It's difficult because he's a pleasant roommate 50% of the time, but the other half is miserable. And it's not even stuff that he can change, it's just who he is. For example he is super loud. Both in his voice and the way that he walks. He will argue about ANYTHING. He has to be told to do chores like dishes, take out the trash, while everyone else just does them. He eats a disproportionally large amount of the food we communally buy, and won't pay extra for it. He keeps his room messy.
It's hard to tell him we don't want him to live with him because he is a nice person and we've known him for three years. It's also getting late to find a place to live, so we would be sort of shafting him. Is there any way to tell him without being a dick? Thank you to anyone who read this and is willing to post. | openai_summarize |
Friend stole my brother's money, I owe him £400+ but he's paying me back in a week. Am I being handled well? | Summarize the following paragraph: My friend (let's call him Dave) had been earning money from doing something for a good while now. He invited me to come in on the venture. I didn't have the money so had to ask my brother (who was wanting to get in on the venture all along) if he could lend me some. I planned to make £500 profit. This was 2 weeks ago. I couldn't get hold of Dave for the past few days but today he rang me and explained there was no venture he just needed the money.
Dave said he felt guilty and although he spent the majority of the money - he's going to pay me back in the next week. His family live on the poverty line but tbh I have no guilt from taking the money back because he stole when he simply could of asked for help. I wouldn't have had any money to give him but I've lost all trust in this guy and I plan on cutting contact with him once the last penny is paid back. I had been spending my small amount of money I had on luxuries rather than saving as I assumed I would be rich (for a student) relatively soon so he's also messed up my finances in the short term.
Dave has been a good friend, probably bestfriend from all the shit he's helped me with and I never thought he'd scam me. Am I handling the situation well?
Lesson learnt: don't trust something that's too good to be true - thanks life :) | openai_summarize |
My boyfriend cried while watching my own show while I was there. | Summarize the following paragraph: A few years back, my boyfriend and I got caught up in the show 'Meerkat Manor'. As much interesting as the show was, for some reason, he was much more invested than I. (We were both about 25/26 years old). Anyway, at that point we had been together about 4 years, and had never seen my boyfriend even close to crying about anything before. One episode (I'm assuming a finale of sorts), I decided to go get dinner. When I came back, there he was blubbering like a baby, I thought something was seriously wrong. I kept asking what happened. That's when he barely got out (spoiler alert)- 'Flower died'. (Flower being a main character/meerkat). I looked at him like he was nuts. | openai_summarize |
Is there a way to send a petition to the IT department? | Summarize the following paragraph: I live in a dorm room on a campus that has 20,000 students and only about 1/5 of them live on campus. The IT department at my school has throttled bandwidth substantially. On campus, using a university computer, I can get down/up speeds of 40Mbps during peak hours and upwards of 100Mbps during off hours. In the dorms, I only get speeds of 1Mbps on average. I want to write some kind of report or petition to send to the IT department but I don't know about whether this kind of thing has been successful in the past. Does anyone have any experience in the matter? | openai_summarize |
I would like to start dating again through online dating sites and would like advice on what to expect. | Summarize the following paragraph: I am 29 and have been stuck in (various levels of) social isolation for the past 8 years since my relationship with my ex-girlfriend ended.
Just to make things clear, my social isolation is a result of depression and anxiety issues related to autism. It's not related to the breakup with my ex. I have been in therapy and my life is sort of getting back on track again
For 2016 I would love to start dating again through online dating sites, but I have absolutely no idea what to expect from dating at my age.
What can I expect from first dates?
What are good ideas for dates?
Do you split expenses when meeting someone for the first time or do I pay for things?
I figure the past few years may come up, how do I communicate such a thing? (I know that some people will end things here when I do bring it up, that's fine. But I'm sure there are people out there who understand)
....
Any overall tips for dating women in their late 20's and early 30's would be well appreciated. | openai_summarize |
suck it up, it's not that bad. | Summarize the following paragraph: I'll go first.
he was my producer for 10 years and was super manipulative, most charming guy in the world. he had a million sob stories and would throw one at whomever started to catch on. drugs came first, despite his dreams. he turned down opportunity after opportunity to get clean. he pitted naive friends against each other, then dish out advice.
I think one of the worst things he did was scam every employer into getting worker's comp and paid time off. every job. as soon as the probationary period was over, he'd purposely re-injure his knee so he could get paid to lay on the couch and eat Percocets all day.
he had me wrapped around every one of his fingers until one day, I caught him in several lies at once, called him out (which he CLEARLY was not accustomed to), and rolled out. he had friends calling me to say he was getting clean and blah blah blah. but I haven't talked to him since and my life has improved exponentially. | openai_summarize |
I'm constantly getting shoved around and berated by my boyfriend and his family for a dog that isn't even technically mine. It's causing a lot of strain on my relationships with them. Do I give the dog back to his owner? Do I suck it up and let them complain? | Summarize the following paragraph: So, my boyfriend and I have been together for 5 years.
I got a dog last year from a friend who is a breeder, so this is one of her stud dogs. Meaning that, I get to keep the dog at my house and she pays the vet bills in exchange for me bringing him over to her house to make money for her by breeding him. So he's really her dog, I just take care of him.
So I got this dog a month before my boyfriend's dog passed away. Things started getting shaky when I would hang out with all of them at their lake house, and my dog Daegan would be shedding and getting fur everywhere. Because of this I am no longer allowed to sleep in a bed at night, I have to sleep on a couch because of the fur that comes off of Daegan when he sleeps in the bed with me.
The weekends when I go to the lake house are my only chance to see my boyfriend. So I try to go as much as possible, but I always get the boot by his family if someone else is over. This weekend, it was my MIL's sister and she brought a kitten with her. Daegan is fine with kittens, but they won't let me come up with him.. AKA I can't come up.
Deagan does have some issues, he isn't a perfect dog. He is aggressive towards other male dogs (happens a lot with stud dogs). He sheds a lot. And WARNING GROSS: because he is a stud dog his penis is always leaking nasty discharge and it can get on things.
With all of that said, my boyfriend is constantly taking jabs at Daegan, openly admits he hates him. But he will calm down when I tell him he needs to get over it. Sometimes I think he actually does like him, but since his dad hates him.. well he just wants to be like him. | openai_summarize |
Should I drop out of university and take a year off to reflect on the fact that I've been wasting my time since I went to university? | Summarize the following paragraph: (Throwaway account, because I've got some friends on here that I don't really want to discuss this with yet.)
Reddit, I'm looking for your thoughts on something that's been really bugging me: Am I wasting my time at college?
I'm in my early twenties and currently studying for a BA in some shit I don't really care too much about that isn't likely to lead me to career that I want in any way at all.
Where I'm from, third level education is affordable, and there's a lot of societal pressure on getting a degree, any degree, if you have the chance, or the ability. I'm not lacking in intelligence, but I am absolutely terrible at being a student: It's like there's a disconnect in my head between the part that's screaming for me to study a reading, do an assignment or attend a lecture, and the part that actually moves my arms and legs. Somehow, up to this point, I've scraped through by the skin of my teeth in almost every important exam, but nothing that could be called "study" has ever happened; not once.
So the ship that was treading water for so many years is sinking quickly, and I don't know if A) I have the power inside of me to pull it back from the brink or B) if it's actually worth all the stress and worry. Just to come out the other side in 2 years with a degree that might get me a shitty entry-level job in an area that I don't want to be in, and that I know I ultimately won't need or use.
I'm curious to know from the BA graduates out there; what has your degree done for you? Particularly those who aren't working, or don't want to work, in an industry related to your studied subject. | openai_summarize |
Girlfriend of three years went from walking distance to plane flight and don't know how to proceed. | Summarize the following paragraph: My girlfriend and I have been dating for three and a half years. We were together throughout college and now we no longer live within two minutes walk from each other. I currently live an hour plane flight from her.
It has been three months and we have only seen each other twice. We think it will get easier to see each other once we are settled, but I am not sure. I am not leaving my job to be near her and she is in grad school so she will be there for another 5 years. I am not sure if I can handle 5 years like this.
However, I also don't want to end what we have just because it's difficult now.
I am looking for advice on what to do. I don't want to lose her, but I also don't want to spend three years getting progressively less happy with the situation until we end up breaking up and disliking each other. Any advice is appreciated. Thanks. | openai_summarize |
I got sacked due to not being compliant with FCA regulations for the last 7 months and need to find a job ASAP.
**Edit** I will also be talking to my manager on Monday morning. | Summarize the following paragraph: Okay so a bit of background, I live in the UK and have always found jobs easily in sales and customer service. 90% has been phone based and sales jobs are everywhere so I never had an issue. I'm 21 years old and male.
My last job was working for an insurance company but in the customer services department, no sales involved, happy days.
Due to tight FCA regulations, we were not allowed to change the script in any way. This is where I struggled.
Doing sales for 3 years made this a real pain for me, even if I said something that gave the same information but worded more naturally for me was a no go. After 6 months I was dismissed due to not being compliant on the phones.
The example they gave me as to what I was doing that was extremely dangerous for the company seemed out of a comedy sketch:
Script: has your property suffered from x, y or z or been monitored for x, y and z in the last 20 years?
My recording: has your property suffered from x, y or z or been monitored for any of those in the last 20 years?
Compliance is of huge importance to any business, and all my experience is over the phone dealing with customers or prospective customers. As soon as its mentioned I was dismissed due to compliance, sorry this position has been filled, we will be sure to contact you again in the future....
I don't know how I can explain my situation or even get to an interview stage unless I lie about my last role (which will only bite me back during reference checks).
Reddit I need help. Any advice would be much appreciated. | openai_summarize |
I have a really beat up diesel, but I have a dream where I become a very cool car. | Summarize the following paragraph: Basics: I am a 27 year old overweight guy. About two years ago I lost about 60 pounds of weight by using this analogy that I have written below. I have, however, re-gained about half of this over the past 1.5 years, and I am starting again today.
Firstly, for all intents and purposes, let us assume that cars are sentient and are capable of growth and evolution (or the opposite).
I am one of those cars. I am a somewhat beat up 8 year old Škoda with a diesel engine. I have missed quite a few services and some of my parts are starting to wear out. Also, I am starting to resemble a mini-van from some angles.
I need time to warm up in the morning and my engine backfires often, because my owner usually fuels me with some low-grade limp-wristed cheap diesel that´s probably meant for a different climate.
I can go fast for a while if I am really being caned, but my engine tends to overheat and some body parts go to shit after a long run on high revs. I usually have to cool down for a while after something intense. Sometimes for days, even!
But I have a dream. I want to become something else. Something better.
I want to become an Aston Martin Vanquish. I want to be fueled by the best fuel available so I can put out as many horsepower as needed. I want to wake up with a roar!
Now, I know that cars cannot change, no matter what fuel you put into it or how you treat it, but we can. I can. | openai_summarize |
My friend and I talked for a few hours. We still talked a bit more today. We're both 16, and I'm sure we both know 2 is not enough. We're to the point where we can't really see each other and have to wait 9 hours to talk. I'm a bit scared of what could go down next. | Summarize the following paragraph: Yo, so me and my friend were texting for LITERALLY like 7 hours a night. And I mean, the 1st text she sometimes took a while to reply to because she was busy and such, but in the last 2 days.
Yesterday: Never would have replied if I didn't send another one, but we still talked for a decent amount of time...
Today: 9 hour wait, I send another one, 2 hour wait. I can't really see people doing stuff for literally 11 hours, eispecially because she isn't the kind of person who puts her phone down really.
So, I'm in a bit of a pickel. I'm 100% sure something happened, but I'm not really sure what it was. I mean, in the end of the day I've never really texted a girl. This was the 1st one, and this stuff happens. I'm fairly sure I didn't offender her in any way either.
What do I do here? Honestly the only thing I really care about is the risk that this stuff will snowball into future things. I mean, I honestly have no idea :/
If I did call her, I doubt she'd reply. I just turned my phone off so I can't bother about this. | openai_summarize |
forgot 3rd boss's name, attempted to glance at id card with her name on it, she thinks im looking at her breasts and avoids eye contact with me for the rest of the day. | Summarize the following paragraph: Today was my first day of work and I had spent most of the day filling out piles of paperwork and meeting/remeeting people I had met when I had met them before in an in person interview.
So i'm standing in a doorway and my boss's boss's boss(is this correct?), strolls up to my left, and a little behind me, shes about 5'2, in heels and i'm 6'2. I want to make a good impression and address her by her name, but I don't remember it at all. So I cut(speedy look) my eyes to my left and downwards to her ID card (which is on her right breast).... She catches me and places her hand over her blouse, probably out of instinct, I glance again and notice that her blouse had actually been a bit low. She then proceeds to pull it up a bit. She pretty much avoids eye contact with me the rest of the day.
What the hell do I do!? Bring it up? Tell her the situation? Let it ride out? | openai_summarize |
I have doubt in my current relationship and become depressed, and am also feeling like a complete bitch to her for no reason. | Summarize the following paragraph: Hello Reddit,
So long story short a relationship I had awhile back ended one and a half years later, but with let's say Jane leaving me for Bob, who was a friend for 6ish months, left me and was with Bob within 2 days. I now have one might call doubt in this current relationship with Sarah, for instance any friends she makes and they hit on her, make friends, etc makes me in my head go straight to thinking far irrationally. I talked to her about and she says oh she'd never do that etc, and I feel better but then I see it again and I think stupid and irrationally. I am worried about myself not being good enough for her and that someone better will come and I will lose her.
Another thing, is that I've been suffering with depression and the littlest things, for ex, Sarah says "you are so annoying" obviously joking but I still feel bad and it gets me down, and instances like this.
I realize these things should not bother me, but yet they do. | openai_summarize |
Friend of 2 years is addicted to herion and is threatening to fall in love with me. | Summarize the following paragraph: im on a cell phone, so im sorry for any mistakes. ive been staying with my friend for a month due to financial issues.
Ive had a problem with alcohol for about half the year, my friend, we'll call him Jim, has been addicted to herion for years. We met on the 4th of July this year but didnt get close till recently. i have cut WAY back on my drinking the last few days to a week but Jim is a different story. He talks about us getting clean together at night but when i wake up he's alrwady gone to go hustle some money, since he has no job. Im really confused on what to do. When he shoots up,he gets really loud and crazy, not violent just annoying as fuck and it makes me wanna drink so bad.
I cant leave because I have nowhere to go. Im also worried because he keeps saying hes going to fall in love with me but I cant date him when hes sick like this. what do i do about everything and how do i help Jim? | openai_summarize |
Have a mutual friend that I have fallen for, she seems to like me but I don't know if she does. Do I ask her to be my girlfriend or just leave it be? | Summarize the following paragraph: So I met this girl at my school about a year ago. My first impressions of her was wow she's really pretty but i never had the intention of looking for a relationship back then. We really started talking since we both do the same school activities and now I'd say we are really good friends, as scary as that sounds. We got to know each other, and we casually text and snap chat, and we've been hanging out a lot too, just the two of us.
She took me to her Junior Prom as a friend (I guess?) a while back and after that we've been hanging out, watching movies and going to the city occasionally. Whenever we sit next to each other or walk side by side we tend to playfully "bump" into each other and when she gets tired she would link arms with me or rest her head on my shoulder. I'd say these physical notions suggest that she's interested in me, but I wouldn't know otherwise because I've never asked her. I've given her notions that I like her but I don't know if she ever picked up on that.
Now that I've gotten to know her some more, I'm beginning to fall for her more and more and the thought of us being together makes me joyous but I don't know if she feels the same about me. Whenever we're out hanging out we always seem to have a great time and we laugh together. My friends and her friends always tease us and encourage us to become bf/gf and we're always shipped together as couples (even though we're not). If someone saw us together they wouldn't know better and mistake us as couples. But whenever her friends tease us she just calls them assholes and doesn't respond to it. I was planning on asking her to be my girlfriend pretty soon but I don't know if she likes me in that way or sees me just as another good friend. Do i risk our friendship for a relationship or just leave it be where it is now? | openai_summarize |
How do I get my best friend's potential new boyfriend to see that I am no threat to their relationship and actually want them to be together? | Summarize the following paragraph: We have known each other for maybe 10-12 years now, there has never been a romantic part of our relationship. I'm not quite the dating type at the moment and am happy with short flings, and I am always honest with the person on the other side of said fling.
My best friend on the other hand though prefers relationships and all her potential boyfriends seem to have a problem with me? They assume we are secretly dating and sleeping with each other, even though we don't give them any sort of reason to think so. We don't weirdly hug all the time, or pretend to be dating in bars so 'other guys don't hit on her', I don't share a bed with her when I stay at her house. (comfiest couch in the world) The only reason I even stay over with her regularly is that she lives 2 hours away on the train and hotels where she lives are abhorrently expensive.
We do what normal friends do, drink beer, watch sports and just like to hang out with each other. I try to be nice to these guys, and to my face, we usually get on, but I will receive a call of her upset or an angry text that 'he asked what our friendship was like again!' and that 'why can't he just understand we are friends, just because you're a boy!' So I spend an hour or so consoling her and saying it's 'because he likes you so much' etc.
She is currently getting with a very lovely lad whom I think will make her unbelievably happy, they like all the same stuff, they are both actors, everything was going great for them until I got the infamous phone call.
"He still doesn't believe we have never slept together after I've explained you may as well be my brother"
I'm tired and bored of this, surely people are old enough now to understand that friends can be anyone, male or female?
I don't know what I can do to help this guy see that I am in no way a threat. | openai_summarize |
I don't know how to get a real relationship, how do you guys deal with social anxiety? And I don't know how to find a girl.** | Summarize the following paragraph: I don't really know how to format this post because it's all just random thoughts so I here goes.
I don't know if this is the right sub reddit to post this too either, so sorry if it's not.
Anyway, here it is.
I'm 16, in 10th grade on high school. I haven't had a girlfriend since 7th grade when I was 12-13 (young I know) and that was the only serious/real relationship I had that lasted, where we actually talked, did things together and kissed/hugged. But the relationship started from her "talking" to me on Facebook through her friend. (Middle school dating is ridiculous.) I just don't know how to get a girlfriend myself. In the movies it's always some confident guy who goes up to the girl and by the end of the movie they have a picture perfect relationship. I know that's obviously not how it works in real life. But how does it work? The cliche advice is "oh just approach her and start a conversation." But I go to a busy high school with 1800+ kids and if I can even manage to find the person, I wouldn't know how to start a conversation. I am almost certain the conversation would go something like this:
"Hi"
"Who are you?"
"[I say my name]"
"Why are you talking to me?"
"[Gets overwhelming anxiety and walks away/chokes on sentence.]"
Even if I did say something to that would would I say? "I'm talking to you because I want to get to know you better, and I like you!"
The honest truth, but it would sound creepy. It doesn't help that I have really bad anxiety around new people to the point where I am allowed to do group activities by myself in another room in school. I don't even talk to any females besides for occasionally online. I avoid all social interaction with new people as much as I can. It's not that I don't want to, I just don't know how. It's the same thing with making new friends. You can't just walk up to people and start talking to them. If you were talking to them about a common interest you know they have wouldn't they just think it's weird that you know that? | openai_summarize |
My boyfriend had an ex box full of mementos that he apparently still wants to get back with. Also, is it normal to keep mementos of your ex? | Summarize the following paragraph: My boyfriend and I have been together for about a year now. We already had "the talk" about our past relationships. He admitted to me that when we first started dating, he was trying to get back with his ex, but it didn't work out since she was seeing someone else already. I wasn't worried/upset about it at the time because it happened over a year ago and I figured he wouldn't be with me if he still wanted to be with her.
Now last weekend I was staying with my SO and wanted to surprise him in the bedroom. So while he was showering, I got myself all dressed up (or down?) and went to grab a condom. He usually keeps the box under his bed, but all I saw was an old shoebox. I figured he had the condoms in there, so I went to pull one out and ended up finding something else entirely. He had an entire box full of old pictures and letters from his ex. I obviously freaked out a little bit and put the box back where I found it. I've been trying to pretend like nothing happened and I keep telling/convincing myself that it doesn't mean anything. But now that I've absorbed this info, I'm starting to second guess my reaction.
Is it normal to keep mementos of your ex once you're in a new serious relationship? What/how much is acceptable? Does this mean he still wants to get back with his ex? Please help me sort out what is going on so that I can figure out the best way to handle this situation. I don't want to overreact and cause more harm than I have to here. | openai_summarize |
Should I move with my girlfriend to NYC to follow both of our dreams, even though I could go extremely broke in the process. Or should I play it safe and get a job in a less expensive area, letting my gf go in the process... | Summarize the following paragraph: Hey guys! So I have been kind of obsessing over this decision for a few months now, so I figured I'd see what you all thought about it. I have recently graduated with a BS in Business Administration/Marketing and my girlfriend will be graduating in May with her BFA in Acting. Her plan has always been to move to NYC where the theatre scene is about as big as it gets. If she's gonna make it anywhere, it will be there. I have never really had a huge inclination to move to the city, but I do have a lot of interest in working in the music business. I interned for a successful independent record label in LA while I was in school, and I landed an Marketing Assistant position with Live Nation right after I graduated. So I feel that the move would be beneficial for me networking wise and there are most likely many more opportunities to work in music up north.
My girlfriend and I have been together for just over 4 years and talk about a future together, but not an extremely detailed future. Now a little nitty-gritty. I know that the city is very expensive, and neither of us will have a ton of money saved (I would think $3K-$4K each) when we would move. When I think of moving, there are two sides that usually argue inside my head. One side says "Hell yeah, it's New York Fucking City, you're still fairly young, follow your dreams, and you get to do it all with your awesome girlfriend!" The other side says "You should stay here, save up money, pay off your student debt quickly, and let her go do her thing." I'm sure I could type up more info, but if you guys have any other questions, let me know. I'd love to hear some unbiased input. | openai_summarize |
fiancee judges when men talk to me about their issues, but will talk on the phone with a female coworker about her issues. | Summarize the following paragraph: We are currently engaged and have been dating a while. He has voiced concern over a male friend texting me talking about lady problems, and I have listened and told my friends to chill out on the talks. I had no problem doing that, but I think I am being treated unfairly because he actually has phone conversations with a female coworker about her failing marriage and he finds nothing wrong with that. My friend who has talked to me has never been a love interest or anything more than a friend. Ever. I feel that I'm being told to do something, but hes not doing it himself. I have voiced my concern, and he says "Shes married with two kids" or "shes just having a rough time and needs someone to talk to". My friend, I've known since I was about 16. Am I crazy for thinking this is unfair? | openai_summarize |
Posting on gonewild changed my life, my confidence, my life.** | Summarize the following paragraph: I posted on gonewild as a dare to myself at the end of a toxic relationship. I took down the pictures after an hour, and had a good laugh about some of the PMs.
But then I posted again. And again. And again. I liked how it felt to be sexually validated. It quickly translated into a big increase in my self esteem. What, I was actually proud of putting my boobs on the internet?
Sounds pretty sad, doesn't it? Well, I kept on daring myself to try new things: Go on my school's pub crawl. Put my hand up in class. Join a new lab group. Try a sport. Try another sport. Go take that additional certification course.
What started off as a way to seek affirmation and approval in a sexual way has changed the outcome of my education, physical fitness and social life. My grades went up 10%, I got in wicked shape after being gutsy enough to try new sports, and I have made some great, lasting friendships with the people I've met as a result.
I hear people talk down about the so-called sluts on gonewild and its starting to get easier to shrug it off. I probably wouldn't go telling my friends about it or recommending it as some kind of therapy... but creepy superficial compliments kickstarted a series of really good changes in my life. | openai_summarize |
Blinded by age, an old woman wants a 24/7 BDSM relationship with me. | Summarize the following paragraph: Okay, first off I want to say that I'm legal where I live, and she's not an authority figure.
I'm a lesbian, and though I've had a few girlfriends, I'm a lonely virgin. I was messaged a couple of days ago by an older woman who's a BDSM domme. I'm a sub, and though she didn't know that, she asked me if I was interested in things like that. She knows how old I am.
Now, I've had a lot of crushes on older women before, so it's not that fact by itself that's a concern.
Anyway, I told her I'm a sub, and she seems really into me. We've pretty much only talked sex so far, but apparently, she wants a 24/7 BDSM relationship, which I'm nervous about, since I haven't tried any of these things IRL.
I feel so dirty because of this. I really just want sex and maybe validation as well, I'd probably prefer dating a girl my own age or just a bit older, and yet it's really hot that she's older. And I feel like I wouldn't get this chance again. I'm afraid my friends would judge me, and I don't even know the logistics, since I live with my parents in a different city than she does.
To be honest, if it was a friend my age telling me this, I'd probably tell them to run away. But I'd personally feel pathetic for refusing to meet up with this woman. She's nice, too, and not pushy or anything. She just seems really attracted to me. Which feels good.
Do you guys think this could work out? | openai_summarize |
I want to kiss this girl on my second date, but I'm worried about what's going to happen because she's a little scared. | Summarize the following paragraph: A little background - we are both virgins, we never had a relationship. We've been on one date, and I asked her for a second, and she's said yes.
I'm waiting for her to give me a good time for this next date. Anyways, I like her a lot, and I want to take things a little slow because we're not really experienced with any of this. We both have anxiety and she said that physical contact scares her (even though we hugged at the end of the first date). My question is: should I try kissing her on this second date, or is that too fast? I think she likes me, and I think we're a great match; however, I don't want to ruin the relationship by moving too fast for her. How do I read the signs? | openai_summarize |
I want to break up with my boyfriend of 1.5 years and he doesn't seem to get why. Help? | Summarize the following paragraph: This will probably seem like the stereotypical "girl has best thing she could want and throws it away anyways" type of situation but Reddit, I really need some outside perspective on my decision before I give a final answer.
Here's how it goes:
I have been dating this funny, handsome, intelligent guy for a year and three months. He is clearly head over heels for me-Always wants to hang out, visits me frequently at work, makes me feel as if I'm worth the effort and more.
But the thing is, I don't feel quite the same. I love him. A lot, actually. He has brought only good things into my life. But I almost feel sick when I think about a future with him. I don't want to. And I can't imagine never being with someone else. I have only dated three people in my life and all have been fairly long-term.
He would accept it if I broke up with him, but he wants reasons. And I don't have any except for knowing I feel differently. I don't want to get married and I know he doesn't either. In this way we are completely compatible, and he just wants to know why I would break it off when we can still have fun together. Somehow I still don't feel right. Anyone have some suggestions or input? I am desperate for some feedback... | openai_summarize |
Girl i'm dating for two months suddenly became distant, accepts to go out when i call her, but since 2 weeks ago she flakes out at the last minute not even suggesting another day. | Summarize the following paragraph: I've been seeing this girl for two months, everything seemed fine,dates were nice, sex was great, and we got along pretty quickly, but she recently started flaking out, arranging dates and then cancelling at the last moment, not even suggesting another time. It's already been 2 weeks since last time we saw each other, last saturday we had arranged to hang out but when the time came for that, she told me she was tired, etccc and asked to hang out another day, tough she didn't propose any. Texting is close to non-existent, i used to text her at the beggining just to ask her out, later we texted a couple of times per week, but she seems distant even with this, replying with just the bare minimum, sometimes 2 or 3 word replies.
I haven't talked to her since saturday, plus we didn't text much or anything since two weeks ago. Seems like she got cold feet or became uninterested, wich is weird for me because even tought i don't care too much for texting, until two weeks ago she texted costantly and seemed crazy for going out together everytime.
I already asked her if everything was ok by phone on saturday, she said that she did wanted to go out with me but she just doesn't show it anymore like she used to (with texts, not flaking out, etc).
**What should I do? i kinda don't feel like texting or calling her anymore, but at the same time i was started to get into her | openai_summarize |
How long is too soon to discuss becoming exclusive with my boyfriend? | Summarize the following paragraph: So I'll start off by saying that I'm pretty inexperienced with initiating relationships. I've always just sort of followed along and let the guy take the lead.
I met the guy that I'm currently seeing online. We went out for the first time in mid-December. We had a lovely date, in which we went to a movie, had some dinner and drinks, then we had sex with each other. The sex was great, and I felt really comfortable with him.
We had our second date about 2 weeks after the first date. Between the first and second dates, there was minimal communication. (I actually thought he saw it as a one night stand, or he didn't like me.) We met up for the second date, and after sleeping together again, I talked to him about it. I told him that we need to stay in contact with each other and talk more than the last time.
Since the second date (almost 2 weeks ago again), we have texted back and forth just about every day. I feel like we're building a connection, and I'm dying to see him again. Unfortunately, our work schedules aren't syncing, so it's probably going to be a while.
Now comes the question that brings me here. How soon is too soon to talk about becoming exclusive? I've been thinking about it, and I want to talk to him about what he wants to get out of this situation, whether it involves just sex or if he wants a relationship. We've made tentative plans for March and April, so I'm guessing he wants *something* other than a FWB.
I know what I want, which is a relationship with him. I really like him, and he's an absolute sweetheart. I've even gone on birth control in the off chance that he does want to be exclusive. If not, then at least I'm protecting myself. (Of course, I'd ask that both of us get tested before going without condoms.) | openai_summarize |
Fantasize about ending engagement and starting my life again back home where I have a lot waiting for me. We fight a lot and are incompatible in many ways. I never end it because I either would feel too guilty, afraid I made the wrong choice, or whenever we make up from a fight it just feels right - but then I go back to feelings of wanting to break up the next day. | Summarize the following paragraph: We've been together for nearly 3 years and the wedding is 6 mos away. I won't give the whole story as it'd take forever, but I just have huge feelings of doubt for a few main reasons:
(1) we're incompatible in many ways (spend our free time differently; want different things in the future and day to day life; different sexually, mentally, emotionally - we always react to situations completely differently)
(2) we fight a lot (we also have a lot of fun together)
(3) i'm really unhappy in this city and have a lot waiting for me at home (family, friends, coworkers (currently i work from home))
(4) we've discussed the same issues so many times and still fight a lot.
I fantasize about ending it and starting my life anew but can never bring myself to end it. I would be afraid I made the wrong choice and regret it. I would feel so guilty because she's older and would have very small chances of having a kid now, which she really wants. Whenever we nearly break up I can't bring myself to follow through with it, and we make up. I don't know what the F to do or how to do it. | openai_summarize |
I think my long term crush is in an abusive relationship and I don't know what to do to help. | Summarize the following paragraph: So I have a friend who I have known since I was about 11, who I have always have had a crush on. She has a really bad history of abusive relationships with guys. Here first real relationship was a textbook example of an abusive relationship, so I feel that she has an inclination to be attracted to or some how attracts guys who are abusive. Anyways, her and her family have always been close with mine. My younger sister, who is a year younger than both me and the girl, is the girl's best friend. They spend enormous amounts of time together and even planned on moving in together after high-school.
She has been dating this guy for about 2 years now. From what I know he comes from a very rich family and is pursing a phd in physics . My sister over the course of 2 years of them dating has only meet him once. The girl has also cancelled plans with my sister numerous times to go hang out with him, alone. Every time this has happened she would be about 10 minutes from my house of leaving to come. My sister constantly complains about how he pisses her off and says rude things to her. He cursed my sister out over facebook because her and the girl played a harmless joke on him through text.
He has also told her to stop talking to specific people over facebook because they liked her pictures too much.
To me this seems like another abusive relationship. Knowing her for so long and never meeting this guy worries me and the way he makes her act is very troubling to me. The only thing is I don't know if this is because I have a huge crush on her, or it is because It is what it looks like. And if it is an abusive relationship, what can I do for her? How can I help her? | openai_summarize |
Can you have sex without feelings for each other after being together for 5 years and then having been on and off for three years? | Summarize the following paragraph: My boyfriend says that when he slept with his ex 8 months ago that it meant nothing and there were no emotions involved. The only chemistry was sexual and that he no longer had feelings for her. I find it hard to believe given their extensive past.
I don't think he's lying, but maybe in some kind of denial. Which only frightens me more because if that's the case then there's no telling how far that denial could extent. This mostly concerns me because of how defensive he is of the subject, and why he would not be willing to admit that any emotions were involved considering they now have a close friendship. Or at least it was close until he began to date me and she dramatically lessened her communication with him.
Is it possible to have sex with someone emotionlessly who you shared 5-8 years of your life with, lived with, grew up with, and at one point cared enough about to tattoo their initials on your body? If you don't think so, any suggestions as to how to go about this already tense topic and try to uncover his real feelings? Or maybe I shouldn't do that? I'm very confused and nervous. | openai_summarize |
Got a job for a shit pay. Want to stay but want to be unique. | Summarize the following paragraph: I graduated with a degree in mechanical engineering earlier this year. Recently I got a job as a "manufacturing engineer intern" at a small fabrication company near my parents house. Given my poor qualifications, it was probably the best I could do. The pay isn't very good (in fact pretty bad), but there is a benefit to this position - they are promoting me very quickly. It's been just about 3 months and I am already the primary coordinator for a company overhaul and the the expeditor where I walk around making sure everything's running on schedule. I've also been told I will be handling sales within a few months.
BUT, like I said the pay is shit and the more I work here, the less I feel like this position has anything to do with engineering. Even with the promotions, I don't think my pay will reach what entry level engineers receive. So, my dilemma is this: I want to be paid like an engineer, but I feel that this company is giving me experience most engineers would never have the opportunity to get so easily (this is literally my first job). I am continuing to pursue other jobs (although less aggressively and more selectively), but I wonder if this is something I should stick with. Could I get back in the engineering world after I get some cool experience with this company? Am I stuck on this small company, non-engineer career path if I stay?
If the money was right, I would love to stay here -- I think I'm learning a heck of a lot and my job sounds way more interesting than my corporate engineer friends' jobs. But the pay just doesn't compare and I don't want to give up on my engineering. Maybe I'm misinterpreting what real engineers even do and I can still be considered one. I don't know! | openai_summarize |
I broke up with my boyfriend of three years. His depression has been a hard thing to deal with after all the difficulties we've been through. | Summarize the following paragraph: My ex and I had been together for almost three years. I broke up with him a month ago because our relationship was about him. His pleasure, his needs, his schedule, etc. It was like I was a support character in his life, but he couldn't be in mine. I struggled for a long time with breaking up because each time when I went away for a long time and came back, his friends told me he wasn't the same without me. But I finally chose me, and it was a relief.
However, we still live together with two other roommates. This is fine, but it's probably way easier for me than it is for him. The break up devastated him. He found his feet for a while, but he's been slipping a bit. We are cordial with each other, kind of friendly but not a lot to say to each other.
He confessed some suicidal thoughts to me a week back, so we hung out for a few hours. I know he's depressed (he was in our relationship as well), and I know I can help (I have training), but I also know I'm not the best person to help him. I feel like me helping him would only hurt him. I try to remind him of his support system, of people he can talk to, but he doesn't seem to be reaching out. I give him options of what he can do to alleviate his emotions, but he doesn't have the drive to do them (understandable).
I know he's in a tough spot. I kind of acted as a financial net in our relationship, so he's being hit on many sides. It just sucks because I believe in him pursuing his career more than he does at this point. I feel like he just needs a little momentum before good things start happening for him. Is there a way I can help him without hurting him? | openai_summarize |
BF told me he isn't going to reassure me about our relationship unless I show him I'm jealous. Is it wrong to want reassurance sometimes when I'm feeling insecure/jealous? | Summarize the following paragraph: I sometimes find myself in situations where I might feel a little jealous or insecure about a situation with my boyfriend. The other night I saw him looking at this bartender pretty frequently, she's pretty, they know each other because they work together (he's a musician and plays at the bar she works at). In fact, she got him the gig I saw him looking at her.
Then he played a song for her she apparently requests every night he plays at the other bar she works at that he plays at (now he plays at two bars she bartends at). It was really hard for me to try to contain my jealousy. We ended up fighting about it, and he told me he isn't going to re-assure me all the time about our relationship...and "if I'm looking at other women in a 'longing manner' then why are you with me?" He gets very upset when I show/talk about any jealous...which only makes me feel worse because I don't understand why he's so defensive (other than the fact he hates jealousy).
Is it wrong of me to want reassurance sometimes when I'm feeling jealous/insecure? Or is he wrong for saying he's not going to reassure me? | openai_summarize |
Friend has a lot of followers on Twitter. She posts a lot about her eating disorder. She has been posting about her eating disorder, planning to lose weight, and weight loss issues. Should I approach her and express my concern? | Summarize the following paragraph: My friend Allie (18 F) is sort of twitter famous. She has a high follow count and she has made a lot of friends off Twitter.
Last year, one of her internet friends, Madison (17 f), came to visit our town. Allie invited Madison to hang out with our friend group. She followed me on Twitter and I follow her back.
She posts tweets often throughout the day. She posts a lot in detail about her eating disorder. She lost 50 pounds in a short amount of time (becoming underweight) then gradually gained a lot of the weight back. She has been posting about needing to lose weight, planning to lose 40 pounds in a month and a half (which would make her around 90 lbs), and posting about eating extremely small meals. She also posts about her bulimia and binging and purging She will also alternate between posting really shitty things about her weight and self image and posting body positivity messages about being happy with herself.
Should I message her and express my concern? She doesn't really know me so I'm not sure how to reach out. | openai_summarize |
I [18F] touched my girlfriend [20F] breasts for the first time. I'm freaking out and I'm not sure how to feel. | Summarize the following paragraph: Okay, I swear to god that this isn't a joke post. I'm really this naïve and sheepish about this sort of thing.
So background information first. We have been dating for two years now and have been through everything together. We are extremely close both emotionally and physically. She is everything man, like she is everything good.
But being raised by a single mother and having a slightly older sister, I'm very embarrassed and sheepish about women. I was raised knowing what made my mom and sister upset. I saw men hurt them and learned not to act. But I have also developed an extreme embarrassment when being intimate with my girlfriend.
I want to be intimate, I love her and I love her body. The very thought of her is enough to make me smile sometimes. But tonight getting to second base was something. Like I am between embarrassment and happiness. My "evil member" is over the damned moon, mind you. But at the same time I feel wrong in some ways. It was all consensual and this is the first time we have gotten like this in our entire relationship. She doesn't know why I'm so embarrassed about it, and to be honest I'm not too sure either.
I should mention that she is asexual and I'm demisexual. We don't do this sort of stuff often if at all, you know? We've been physically close in the sense that we cuddle and whatnot, but nothing like this yet.
It's just odd for me man. Like everything is right and good but I still can't help feeling... Dirty... I can't shake it. I'm sure it'll pass with time, but I'm just posting because holy shit. | openai_summarize |
Stop posting unwanted pets in free stuff on Craigslist! | Summarize the following paragraph: I'm so sick of browsing through Craigslist 'Free stuff' to see 10 different dogs, cats, and birds in "need of a new home'. If you post in free stuff it clearly says "NO ANIMALS" in parentheses.
PROOF:
I absolutely love animals and wish I could take them all but if I want a new animal I will browse Service > Pets where they SHOULD be posted. I'm sick of people who who have to move and can't take their pets with them. IF I got a pet I would consider if they could travel with me in ANY situation! IF you KNEW the condo doesn't allow pets looks for a different one that allows animals! IF your pet doesn't seem to like you after months of trying look for a trainer or pound! Take the strays to the pound! IF you can't take of your pet because of money problems, you shouldn't have gotten it in the first place! | openai_summarize |
I [25 M] cant get over a long forgotten breakup [25 F] | Summarize the following paragraph: This is my last resort at getting some help. Maybe a nice honest rant is what I need now.
My ex and I broke up just over 2 years ago after dating for just over one year. (lets call her Candy) It was a pretty messy break-up. We were just drifting apart and she ended it. I wanted it to end at the time and as we talked post break up well relations went soar, mean things were said and we stopped talking. No Facebook, No texting.
I started seeing new women right away, I had a lot of fun. Whenever I stopped seeing the new women I would feel sad for a normal amount of time. But instantly as I got over them, I would miss Candy all over again.
I did therapy, mediation, distraction. I have lots of hobbies now and more friends that I hang out with than ever before. My life is really on an up swing and has been since we broke up, and still she is on my mind.
I don't even know what I want from her, I just want to talk but I know that only bad things could come from that. I am to vulnerable about her and she could flatten me with just a few words. What can I do reddit? | openai_summarize |
Our roommate sucks. Give us serious or ridiculous ways to kick her out! | Summarize the following paragraph: There are three of us ladies living in a house, and two of us wholeheartedly agree that the third sucks.
Some ways in which she sucks:
* I had sort of a best-friend-with-benefits thing going on. The offending roomie, we'll call her D, knew about it. He came to visit me and drunkenly had sex with her. Not excusing him, but she (100% sober) knew what was going on and still went for it. Twice. And then told everyone who would listen at the party we threw. As in, "Guess who I just had sex with! That guy!!"
* Five seconds after chastising me for drinking her coffee she ate some of my food. In front of me. Without asking.
* No matter what you are saying, she will interrupt you to tell you a tangential story about her own life ("So today was really tough because my mom is in the hospi-" "Yeah one time I was driving past a hospital and saw a polar bear riding a tricycle and blah blah blah")
To preempt anyone who wants to one-up me with a worse roommate: I know she's not the worse thing possible. But life would just be better without her. Also, our house is too awesome to leave so we have to convince her to go. So, reddit, how should we get rid of her? Serious or harebrained suggestions welcomed! | openai_summarize |
Boyfriend says he feels that I don’t “put in the effort” for our relationship anymore. How do I respond to his concerns while not sounding patronizing or hysterical? | Summarize the following paragraph: So this is a little long but any advice would be much appreciated.
My boyfriend and I have been together for a year now (as well as on again/off again for a year and a half prior) and recently we’ve been having some issues. This weekend we both have a few papers and such to work on. So we agreed that it probably wouldn’t be a good idea to do our usual weekend activities which include drinking, sexy times and not getting back to my apartment until late Sunday evening.
I worked on a paper for a while after class on Friday and was satisfied with what I got done so I treated myself to a few cold beers and some Hulu. I made the mistake(?) of Facebook-chatting my boyfriend asking the usual “what are you up to” to which he responded that he was working on his paper. He asked me what I was doing and I responded that I was having some beer and watching Hulu.
He got very cold and started giving me one-word answers. Finally he says “You said you couldn’t do anything this weekend because you had too much homework…then you get drunk and watch Hulu all night…it makes me feel like you just don’t want to see me” and then he accused me of not wanting to spend time with him and how I “just don’t care or want to put in the effort for ‘us’.”
He won’t elaborate on what he means by this he just keeps rephrasing it and saying that “he’s the one who always has to make plans for us to do anything.” I feel like he’s going out of his way to stay angry at me.
How can I show him that I’m still invested in the relationship? We talk daily either through text/facebook/skype etc and see each other every weekend. As for making plans, it seems like every time I say “let’s do X at 6:30” I end up waiting around until 10 or so waiting for him to show up. | openai_summarize |
Girl who I've been snapchatting for 2 weeks threatened to kill herself. Should I report it to the police? | Summarize the following paragraph: Hey All; I browse /r/relationships a lot but never thought i'd have to post in it.
A girl I've met a few weeks ago gave me her number outside a nightclub we went to at the end of the night. We've been talking on snap chat for the past couple of weeks, with me offering to take her out on a dates to which she always avoided and never replied to when I asked. Tonight she told me she was stuck outside a night club and needed a ride home, i asked her if she wanted me to come pick her up which she said yes to. When I was on my way she texted me saying "DON'T COME I'M GOOD". Now after a few rejections and flakes from her i replied:
Hey, you can delete me off snapchat now, you're just an attention whore and a tease lol.
Her: Alright I'm gonna go kill myself.
Her: I hope you are happy about that.
Me: I'm calling the police.
this then went on to 30 minutes of snapchats, messages and phone calls about me apologizing, asking if shes serious and her saying shes not serious/ I'm an asshole/ blocking,unblocking me.
Is this something I need to tell the police about? | openai_summarize |
What are my options? He's already asking for our sons and I can't give him the SSN. I've been on the Waiting List for Child Support for the past 4 months. | Summarize the following paragraph: Original Post:
Thank you everyone for your advice. It can be really hard to make good decisions in such an emotional state.
Friday I called the state deputy prosecutor for custodial cases and left a message. She only replys by snail mail so Ill be waiting for her to tell me what my best moves are. In the meantime I've applied for government assistance for daycare and I'm currently on the waiting list for that.
Sunday I went to pick up our son and my ex said nothing to me. He couldn't even look me in the eye. He was a really big bad wolf on facebook though. I've document ed everything and I plan on continuing that.
He sent me a message on facebook saying he was going to take me to court to get the child support lowered, but I don't see that happening at all. I pretty much told him good luck with that. | openai_summarize |
Dating a girl who is amazing, but not perfect. | Summarize the following paragraph: I'm a M/25 and I've always dated my whole life. I don't have a problem meeting people in the slightest. I've had my fair share of casual dating, one night stands, long term relationships and have even been in love.
My main issue right now is this and I will paraphrase this: On a business trip I met an amazing girl. We went on a few dates and then I went home. However, we stayed in constant contact. I went back on business only this time we spent the night together, had super passionate sex and made our feelings for each other known. However, we both agreed a NY to TX relationship wasn't in our best interest. This girl is perfect for me. We get along and have a great friendship.
However, now I am dating a girl and although she is also great...falls extremely short in comparison. I know it's not right to compare the two, but that's just how the cookie crumbles. I don't think of the other girl when I'm with the girl I'm dating, but it does always feel like a compromise and like I'm settling. Things are brand new with this girl(2 months), but it just seems lack luster.
Anyone ever been in the Situation before?
CLIFFS | openai_summarize |
I want my gf to have more female friends. Is this a problem? | Summarize the following paragraph: So I've been dating this girl for a while, and I really like her. She's smart, fun to be around, and gets along great with my friends, problem is, she seems to have no friends of her own... She goes to school out of state, and says she has a lot of female friends in her home state but at least at university, she only had one female friend and she has transferred out now.
This is concerning for me because it's summer now, but when we get back, she'll have no female friends, and probably want to hang with my friends. Which is ok, but I'd prefer for her to have her own friends, so that I can have a bit more space. Is this wrong? Should I be concerned? Or is this a non-issue? | openai_summarize |
A thief stole my iPhone, I'm looking for advice from you guys. | Summarize the following paragraph: So let me just get to the point: I was at a concert last night when I left my phone on the ground for a couple of minutes, stupidly, and some asshole stole it right after. I called after, like around 4am, but it went straight to voicemail so I assumed I lost it. But then this afternoon it started ringing again and THEN went to voicemail, so someone obviously turned it on. Finally, my girlfriend texted my iPhone again and actually got a response from him, she offered him a $50 reward for finding my phone, but he won't give it up, said someone was already offering $500 for it (it's an iPhone 4), and then to have ME call him. I called him afterwards and he didn't pick up my calls. What should I do? I called at&t and asked them if they could track my GPS or something but they said they can't do it and just (I'm not kidding about this last part, really made me rage) offered to see if any of the lines in our plan had upgrades available so I could replace it. Should I report it to the cops? I JUST want my iPhone back, I don't have a lot of money ($50 is way too much from me as it is) so I can't really match the price or even half it, not that I would seeing as it costs like ~ $250, but any advice or help would be amazing, thanks. | openai_summarize |
My girlfriend [16m] has almost no time for me, how can I solve this? | Summarize the following paragraph: A few details about the relationship first: Before she became my girlfriend I already was friends with her for like 1 year. We're now together for 6 months and a bit.
So, as the title says, my girlfriend, which I love very much, has very little time for me. I get to see her maybe once a week, **if I'm lucky.**
I already brought this up a few times, but she always shrugs it off and says I'm dramatizing it.
I can mostly handle the lack of time together with her, but from time to time I get a bit lonely.
Something I should definitely mention is that she currently has to learn a lot for her highschool finals. I can understand that this takes away quite a bit of time but I don't think I demand too much if I want to spend more time with her.
Is there a way to solve this situation? | openai_summarize |
Girlfriend cheated on me, is it wrong to forgive her? | Summarize the following paragraph: The title is a little misleading, so let me explain.
Im 21M, ex 20F.
We were together for 3 years, for the first year of our relationship we lived in the same small town, and everything was fine. She then went to university, more then 2 hours away. I visited twice a month and we seemed to be maintaining the relationship well.
Towards the end of the relationship she became very good friends with a guy she met in her class. Normally I would be fine with it, but she started becoming very distant at the same time.
The next time I visit, shes texting the whole time we were together, I dont even need to ask becuase I know who it is, and I get pretty upset. The next morning she went out to get some shopping, and I went through her texts on her phone. Before you start I know this is an invasion of privacy and was wrong of me, but I had my suspisions and for my own sanity I needed answers.
What I read breaks my heart. Multiple texts between her and her new guy, "cant wait to see you", "just want this weekend to be over" etc etc.
I confront her when she gets back, and it turns out she does have feelings for this guy, and they have kissed. They have also spent multiple nights "snuggled" on the sofa watching movies.
Im my eyes, this is worse than her just sleeping with someone and regretting it.
Needless to say, we broke up. This all happened 4 months ago, and for the first 3 months, I hated her more than anything. However the last month my anger and rage have subsided drasticaly, and Im finally ready to forgive her.
Is it wrong to forgive someone after they have hurt you so badly? I dont think so. Im not going to run back to her, but im quietly content, rather then silently angry. | openai_summarize |
I met a girl, she lied about where and when, and lied about the guy when I questioned her. Now I'm dating her and she is jealous. | Summarize the following paragraph: She plays pool about once per week and I go with about half the time. The last 2 months she has went out 4-5 times per week.
One night I showed up late to see her with a guy in the car. I watched 20 min but couldn't really see, then they drove off. I when I finally got her cell she lied about the whole thing, even said she was in a different city utill I told her I saw. Then a week later I get a text that she is blowing a guy behind a store (figure its just a hater). I tried calling an hour then go there and sure enough she is there. I'm there about a min and she leaves and tells me she is too tired to come over. Confront her the next day and she lies about all of it. Then 4 days ago I'm in a different city with my kids and she drives by with a dude in the car with her. I text and call but no answer. Later she FB messaged me and said no service that she was playing pool.. never would say where or anything about being with a guy. She didn't lie when asked but very reluctant to say where and never disclosed the guy till I told I saw them she actually blew up at me for questioning her.
We are actually engaged and she gets jealous of me for even talking to a girl. | openai_summarize |
I feel a bad emotion when i look at my boyfriend's facebook or other online profiles, and I can't identify it, and am worried that I am too controlling or clingy. | Summarize the following paragraph: I have a bit of history of paranoia, and general mental illness. I go to a therapist for this, but my intrusive thoughts are constant. My friend also feels something similar. I am having a hard time identifying the emotion, and finding out how to fix it.
Whenever I look at my boyfriend's online profiles, such as Facebook or this movie-review website, or even his friends' profiles (especially when he is mentioned) I feel this negative emotion that almost is like a burning in my body. This also happens when our mutual friends invite me to an event before he does, and once they made plans in front of me. But that's pretty much a generic "left out" emotion.
My therapist has told me to use "I Am [feeling]" statements to boil down emotions in a moment, but I can't identify why I am feeling bad. Some statements I could use include:
I Am Lonely / Left Out:
Am I feeling left out from not being a part of his friend group? Do I feel bad that I have to learn these things about him (favorite music and movies, past Facebook activity, activities with friends, etc) through social media, instead of from him? "He'll tell the internet before me?" If I asked, he would tell me, so I'm not worried about him hiding things from me...
I Am Jealous:
Am I jealous that he is spending time with all these other people? Well, yes, because I am very possessive. I need to stop that. However, this doesn't cover seeing anything from before we met.
I Am Guilty / A Stalker:
By looking at his profile deliberately, without him knowing, am I made a stalker? However, I feel the same emotion when seeing a mention of him on my feed/stream/wall from a mutual friend... | openai_summarize |
sibling in a bad spot with marriage and personal situation. need advice on how to best offer support. | Summarize the following paragraph: My sister and I are a few years apart and in our 30s. I am the youngest, she is the oldest. I am trying to figure out the best way to be supportive of her as she is working through her marriage problems. She randomly said she was going to visit for a few days, which caught me off guard. Unfortunately I made the mistake of telling her that I already had plans. I didn't realize until a little later that maybe she was reaching out because she needed to get out of the house and take some time away from her spouse.
She recently lost her job a few months ago and is stuck at home in a suburb area. They only have one car (they used to commute together) so I can only imagine how hard it is for her right now to be going through difficulties and stuck at home all day.
She is not the type to reach out to me for help, especially with me being the younger sibling, so I feel bad that I missed out on this opportunity to show her support. I tried to tell her she was welcome to spend some time with me but it might have come across as being too charity-like. I honestly don't know. Our parents are great, but have their own lives and are more hands off with anything concerning advice. I would at least like my sister to know that she has options and shouldn't feel stuck or that she has no one to turn to.
Have any of you been in my sister's situation - stuck at home, unhappy in marriage? What kind of support systems did you find helpful? Should I just stay hands off and let her know she's welcome to stay with me while she sorts things out and leave it at that? I really appreciate any insight into this. | openai_summarize |
When I met this girl, she was in a bad place, got back together because she was happy with me and her son. I'm not sure if she is still happy. | Summarize the following paragraph: It's a long story so I'll summarize it.
I've known this girl for a three years now. We've gone from enemies, to friends, to best friends, and then to boyfriend / girlfriend.
She has always been trapped in her family life. Her mother had more disabilities than I can count, she had a 6 year old son who was quite honestly, sheltered beyond anything I'd ever seen. Her father has health problems, her sister has full blown cerebral palsy, and her brother is working all the time to try and make sure everything is paid for that they need.
Since she was young, she has always been the one shouldered with most of the responsibility. Once I got to know her and learned her situation, I began to see the toll it took on her.
When we got together, it was amazing. I taught her son how to ride a bike, introduced him to Power Rangers and Batman, helped out with her sister who (to my girlfriends surprise) let me feed her and absolutely flipped when she saw me. Got her mother's approval and so on.
December 2010 her mother passed away.
We started to drift apart after that. In my mind, a whole new world had just opened up to her that had been barred previously. She didn't have to stay at home all the time, she had a whole new life. I stepped aside and let her explore that life.
I was ok with it. I cared a lot for her and her son. I just wanted them to be happy and if that meant leaving her to live her new life, then I was ok with that.
Well, she recently got back in contact with me and wants to get back together. She acknowledges that she was in a bad place after her mother passed away (Totally understandable) and I was surprised to learn she was now a full time teacher at a Church School and had a car. She also told me that her son was an avid Power Rangers fan (His favorite was the Green Ranger) now thanks to me.
About the boy's father, he has never known him. Before he was born his father hung himself and his mother found him. (Terrible I know) | openai_summarize |
I'm married and cheating on my wife. I am developing serious feelings for a girl. | Summarize the following paragraph: I'm have cheated on my wife multiple times throughout our marriage. She knows about 1 of maybe 4 or 5 occurrences. She forgave me after I made a lot of promises I didn't keep. I have never had an emotional affair until now. I was bored and trying to have a laugh on omegle. No I wasn't masturbating. Anyway, I'm paired up with this attractive college freshman aged girl. She didn't skip me and I was so relieved she wasn't an Indian guy masturbating. We start talking about the general bullshit you ask strangers. Over the course of several hours I come to find that she is just about everything I could ask for in a girl. We like all the same things, share religious beliefs... The list goes on and on. I realize that I have been smiling and laughing more than I can remember. So at the end of the conversation we exchange Skype info. Every night since then we have Skyped and talked and laughed for hours. All while my wife was sleeping or at work. She knows I'm married and I know she has a boyfriend of a couple years. We are both dissatisfied in our relationships. I am developing serious feelings for this girl. I want to get a divorce but I don't hate me wife... And I know that a divorce will ruin her life. I'm the main breadwinner and pay for most of our bills. If we were to get a divorce I don't know where she would be able to afford living. Also, believe it or not, I don't want to hurt her and she will be crushed if I ask for a divorce. Oh and the girl of my dreams is halfway across the world. | openai_summarize |