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This is the basis for a common bible "quote" that doesn't actually exist in the bible:
*It is better to spill your seed in the belly of a whore than on the ground*
http://www.probe.org/site/c.fdKEIMNsEoG/b.4222913/k.7BE/Is_There_A_Verse_About_Casting_Ones_Seed_in_the_Belly_of_a_Whore.htm
and BTW, God killed Onan not because he had sex or enjoyed it, but because he was using his brother's wife to get his rocks off without any care for her predicament (needing a son after her husband died). | c3f6a54a13134d87942dddeebc0c2902 | 2023-03-16T01:43:55.831260+00:00 | 2013-05-03 20:44:13 | Dolma_Reddit | {} | comment | 100 |
Can't help too much, but I can give you some advice.
Check the various boards regularly. Every now and again something will come up. Also, get the Kelley Blue Book app on your phone, or have a friend with it. Know the value of the car you're looking at before doing anything.
If there's no lemon lots, check with your local new/used dealerships. See if they have anything they are planning on sending off to auction you could take a look at. These won't be advertised, since they're just looking to auction them off. You can sometimes find some decent older cars this way. Some dealers have New/Pre-owned *and* a "used" lot for this purpose, some don't advertise at all. The difference in pre-owned and used is (generally) that they have their mechanics do a once-over on pre-owned, change the fluids, fix minor problems, etc., while on used they just clean them up a but and maybe give them an oil change. The used lot is usually just cars they have sitting on site while they wait for shipment/transfer to auction.
Hit up the older, working class neighborhoods. The area where the empty nesters and middle aged folks live. People who have teenagers that are moving out soon. You can sometimes find gems there. Usually older cars that have been generally taken care of, paid off, but they bought something newer and kept the old one for whatever reason.
And lastly, call up local junkyards. A lot of cars go there that are still alright, they just didn't sell at auction and the junkyard might be willing to make a deal. I used to race hornet class (4-cylinder imports, like Civics) at a local speedway and all my racecars came from this. | abff427b574f4b739204b966b3ff80cd | 2023-03-16T01:43:55.831260+00:00 | 2018-02-27 07:15:49 | Dolma_Reddit | {} | comment | 101 |
A music creating & share site.
Each user has the ability to upload tracks of guitar, drums, bass, vocals, whatever pieces they put together. They are marked accordingly.
Other users then have the ability to build off that with their own track. Then another, and so on until it becomes a full song. Which would then in turn be available for remixing or noted as complete.
Searching could be done by completed tracks, missing portions, specific instruments.
unpaid subscriptions can upload and store 5 of their own parts and 15 additions to other users tracks. paid subscriptions, have 50 & 150, as well have access to stream live for small clinics, work live with other users, and additional features to yet be determined.
All tracks are tagged and linked to user accounts.
completed songs that wish to be purchased, can be through itunes where a percentage of profit is divided between the website and artists.
Song Rights can be bought/sold commercially and must be discussed with all contributors, small portion going back to the site, majority to the artists.
This site promotes all aspects of music from song writing to producing. It allows people in more remote areas with no one to work with ease in finding other musicians and even opens more possibilities for current musicians world wide.
Eventually with support, the site could grow and would hopefully include clinics and support from major musicians in the industry who would then interact when the community.
There you go, if this idea is stolen, at least TRY to remember me. | b634372583004dd98b2db4ccf7246247 | 2023-03-16T01:43:55.831260+00:00 | 2016-04-20 13:16:54 | Dolma_Reddit | {} | comment | 102 |
I was put through foster care until the state found my dad and forced him to take me in. From there, we've built a great relationship over the past 17 years.
We all have to take the good and the bad from our parents, but we have the choice to take what we want from them, and the choice to not take anything. See your mom for the good things she instilled in you, and try not to resent her for the bad things. There's probably a ton of information you don't know yet about what's going on with her.
| eaf2cafb66f54496a933b98a3b4d8913 | 2023-03-16T01:43:55.831260+00:00 | 2012-03-19 21:54:55 | Dolma_Reddit | {} | comment | 103 |
I know this is all opinion, and I respect everyone's opinion.. All I'm gonna say is if you believe this, you haven't listened to enough Queen songs.. You've most likely only heard all the ones that are still on the radio which are overplayed and now just annoying... And even I can't stand most of those songs anymore. And Queen is my favorite band of all time..
If you really feel like giving them a chance, my advice to you is to check out songs like Innuendo, The Miracle, These Are the Days Of Our Lives, Who Wants to Live Forever, The Show Must Go On... I wish the radio didn't play the same 5 songs over and over and turn so many people off to the band. Because if that's all I heard I would completely agree.
...Sorry.. I just love Queen.. I have since I was a little kid, before I knew anything about them.. 30 years later I know pretty much everything about them.lol. | cf94b51a6c95436e9da8328ad99d13fe | 2023-03-16T01:43:55.831260+00:00 | 2021-08-03 07:31:53 | Dolma_Reddit | {} | comment | 104 |
Wow, insult me and make assumptions on my life.
Your really are a great example of humanity, and proof that we clearly need to do better.
This is Reddit, not your personal platform, so propel will do as they please.
It's funny how bold people talk on a annon forum.
I was still correct that your suggestion, would be illegal.
Your got pissy and started insulting me, instead of just being like "haha ok true but it would still be a great way to get revenge"
As salty as the Pacific ocean😂😂 | b00ab499962543acacbf0193e9291775 | 2023-03-16T01:43:55.831260+00:00 | 2019-06-12 16:51:39 | Dolma_Reddit | {} | comment | 105 |
If poor people flood into ERs with injuries that could have been easily prevented by seatbelts and then welch in the hospital bills, the ER ends up having to charge ridiculous fees to everyone to make up for the loss. This sort of dynamic is part of the reason hospital fees are so ridiculous and seat belt laws are there to mitigate at least this aspect of it.
I understand that drugs can land you in the ER as well, but not with the immediacy and severity of rolling your car without being strapped in.
TL;DR There's a huge public cost if no one wears seat belts. | 5d57676712bd4c6aa0882e5317ef836e | 2023-03-16T01:43:55.831260+00:00 | 2013-07-07 21:48:22 | Dolma_Reddit | {} | comment | 106 |
I need some help understanding the role models of the Italian American community.
In my city, there is an abundance of Italian-owned businesses. Many of them display what I interpret to be symbols of cultural pride, movie posters from classic gangster films. Sometimes I see the famous [American Girl in Italy](http://i.imgur.com/xkKg3.jpg) photograph, or pictures of Rocky.
I wonder if someone out there could explain to me, an outsider, why these macho symbols of punching, womanizing, and crime, have come to be the ubiquitous visual shorthand for the cultural pride of the Italian American community, and what is the intended message to outsiders like me? | pqlsy | 2023-03-16T01:43:55.831260+00:00 | 2012-02-15 12:09:26 | Dolma_Reddit | {} | submission | 107 |
While we're on the subject of zoophilia, do not allow a cetacean (dolphins, usually, but this applies to all of them) to penetrate you sexually; the other method of penetration, involving their teeth, should also be avoided, naturally. They are entirely capable of ejaculating (at higher relative pressures than human 'normal') while more than one-hundred feet underwater, and the pressure involved is fully capable of rupturing your colon during anal penetration or, equally, inflicting severe pressure bruising (with a lower, but non-zero risk of rupture) during vaginal penetration. | 5b9edbb6c286452ca89e924109d76d04 | 2023-03-16T01:43:55.831260+00:00 | 2021-08-04 05:03:22 | Dolma_Reddit | {} | comment | 108 |
Did you learn something from every experience you have had? Did it make you a wiser and/or tougher person better equipped to deal with your future than if your life had been a cakewalk and you had not gained or found inner strength, not to mention worldly experience, to draw upon?
I can't hate on this quote because perspective is a powerful weapon to wield in this world. I would be a total douche if it hadn't who wouldn't be as wise or able to create my future with purpose if those things hadn't happened. Quit crying about your reasons why your life hasn't been easy. You're better equipped to deal with the world and not be a fool because of them. Buck up already.
*Edit* Just to be clear... that is the all-inclusive "you" representing everyone who has had crappy things happen to them and those around them, not you specifically, thediz1396. | b8f0973343054f11b34ec33e74d20257 | 2023-03-16T01:43:55.831260+00:00 | 2012-12-04 19:33:53 | Dolma_Reddit | {} | comment | 109 |
The way I was taught this was to play with the friction point on the clutch, in a flat, open space. Foot flat to the floor on the clutch, bit of accelerator, then let the clutch off SLOWLY until the engine noise changes. You can feel the "line" where it catches all the way through both pedals. That's your friction point and it's the point just before you start moving. You need to actually put strain on the engine before you try to move, otherwise it gets taken by suprise and just dies. Once you've got it at ~1500RPM, you can let the clutch off slowly the rest of the way and just drive away :) | 77e40235f41e4e84ab6f26a1c3f071b0 | 2023-03-16T01:43:55.831260+00:00 | 2014-03-21 01:10:11 | Dolma_Reddit | {} | comment | 110 |
For the same reason you may not believe in Odin, Zeus, Hare Krishna, Osiris, Huitzilopochtli , Buddha, Oni, Xenu, Allah, Latobius, Baal, Bast, Amaterasu, Q'uq'umatz, Chernobog, Mithra, Baron Samedi, the Flying Spaghetti Monster, or Force Ghosts. We are all atheists in regards to the countless deities that have been conceived and worshipped over the history of humanity. Some just go one further, with the understanding that all those religions existed before to explain what we otherwise couldn't understand. I'm not afraid to admit that I don't know every answer to why existence is like this, why bad things happen to good people, and what happens after we die. I just don't write them all off as the will of some omnipotent being we can never see nor hear, let alone comprehend. | f5cfe0e89691498192194d3287a154a8 | 2023-03-16T01:43:55.831260+00:00 | 2020-05-09 13:25:29 | Dolma_Reddit | {} | comment | 111 |
What clever/efficient ways do you organize your closets or other storage areas?
I recently had a custom built-in office installed for a small office area in my house. I have a small condo (950 square feet) so I had a full-height cabinet installed for the extra storage. I've put all of my computer parts and boxes in it, but they're basically not organized at all. I have a couple plastic bins that have all of my cables in it and some extra boxes for motherboards, video cards, and so on stacked on some of the shelves.
I'm usually pretty good about getting rid of anything extra, but I don't like to get rid of the extra cable extenders and add-ons that come with my motherboards, I always try to keep a few extra USB cables, I keep the boxes to all of my software and so on.
What nifty ideas do you have for organizing your storage spaces, especially in your office or computer area?
Bonus points for pics. | h5sn4 | 2023-03-16T01:43:55.831260+00:00 | 2011-05-07 02:27:57 | Dolma_Reddit | {} | submission | 112 |
What motivates you to not give up on life?
Constantly, I ask myself this. Afflicted with depression, aspergers and hounding loneliness alongside seething self-hatred, I'm lost for an answer that I can find solace in. I'm fine mostly, yet these insane fits of completely overwhelming depression demand an answer that I have not found. I'm asking this for when those moments happen. It's also to help those whose situations are parallel to mine. Thank you. (: | 3eup5u | 2023-03-16T01:43:55.831260+00:00 | 2015-07-28 02:53:32 | Dolma_Reddit | {} | submission | 113 |
You know it's funny, when you tell people you're addicted to love, a lot of people think it's almost sweet sounding. "Awwww, /u/Senior_Fish_Face is addicted to love!" I mean it's *love*, something that universally everyone agrees you should have and experience in droves, and as such it doesn't sound that bad. The better way to put it though is, "I'm addicted to *being* loved." I used to be that way. I constantly felt like I **had** to be seeing someone, that I **had** to be in a relationship. Even if the actual relationship was garbage, I still convinced myself I was being loved by that person, even if everything about the relationship indicated otherwise, because to me that was all that mattered.
Being addicted to love actually sucks, because when you're addicted to love, being single makes you feel like the loneliest person in the world, and almost every relationship you get into is full of paranoia on your part, because you dread the day/chance they might break up with you, because then your addiction for love can no longer be fed. So you worry about even the tiniest things in the relationship, thinking that almost anything with the slightest negative connotation could spell the end of your relationship, and the end of you getting your addiction to love satisfied. And another consequence is that every relationship never feels close enough, that the other person you're seeing could be loving you more, even if they already do with all their heart. For me it made me way too pushy in relationships, made me want to move things at lightspeed so we could skip the "getting to know each other" phase and get right into the phase of that person loving me. It took me a lot of crash and burn relationships to realize that love takes time to form, that sometimes it's okay to not be loved right out of the gate, and that there are so many more things to a successful relationship than just feeling loved. | 08368d61c5bb445e84cae868259a2953 | 2023-03-16T01:43:55.831260+00:00 | 2019-01-10 02:53:19 | Dolma_Reddit | {} | comment | 114 |
Sitting in the middle of my parents first house, I recall my parents sitting on the couch looking at me, the kitchen island with a fishbowl and two gold fishes on top, the garden with the shed that was connected to the neighbors garden, I recall the neighbors had a daughter that I played a lot with and I know there was a playground in front of our home.
I was 2.5 years old when we moved away there. I have passed by the house a couple of times later on, but it does not look familiar from the outside. | 68e3413dfac24b9b876058cc2e3c2ae8 | 2023-03-16T01:43:55.831260+00:00 | 2020-12-28 14:19:54 | Dolma_Reddit | {} | comment | 115 |
Was going to physical therapy for shin splints, there was a cute girl interning there. We'd make eye contact and smile every week for six weeks but never spoke to each other. Pretty sure my PT caught me staring at this intern several times and would randomly mention what kind of work they had her doing.
On my last day I was paying at the front desk, trying desperately to overcome my shyness. The receptionist is about the same age and I contemplate asking her to blind wingman for me. Girl walks up behind the clerk, pauses and breathes a heavy sigh and just stands there. Receptionist is looking down and grinning like a fool while running my card and waiting for me to make a move. The moment passes and girl walks into the back office. Receptionist hands me back my card, still grinning. I turn around and walk out. Never saw her again. | 5bc00f5839b64db79158530d0d68397d | 2023-03-16T01:43:55.831260+00:00 | 2019-08-16 05:12:30 | Dolma_Reddit | {} | comment | 116 |
So the Spanish national soccer team worked their asses off to qualify for the 1984 UEFA tournament (the European version of the FIFA World Cup) including an agonizing 12-1 win against Malta to get the tiebreaker on their side.
Group stage? Spain eliminates West Germany (Stielike, Voller, Matthaus... no slouches) and then defeats Laudrup's Danish team on the semifinals on the penalty kicks. All tournament long Spain didn't win any match by more than 1 goal, max effort on every single match.
The hopes and dreams of the country, 5 consecutive agonizing matches... and the guy botches it up completely with 30+ minutes to go. | df04929f2948491784abe42212e82cff | 2023-03-16T01:43:55.831260+00:00 | 2020-06-11 21:34:03 | Dolma_Reddit | {} | comment | 117 |
A new co-worker was telling me and a few others about how he went on a cruise where most of the workers were gay and he had an amazing time because no one hit on his hot wife, he got free drinks, he got amazing service, etc. and he was like "is this what it's like to be a woman!?! That was awesome!!".
I was the only lady in the group of guys, all of whom were laughing and agreeing when I was like.
"Hahaha... No. No that's not what it's like... Not really..."
Co-worker wasn't groped, followed, harassed, or insulted after politely declining.
Only my boyfriend gets to treat me like a goddamned object, and only after I have begged him. Kthnx. /End rant | b00a4d12e00a4bc2a8ca473e728f7779 | 2023-03-16T01:43:55.831260+00:00 | 2017-04-18 02:09:21 | Dolma_Reddit | {} | comment | 118 |
Now that I re-read your comment and mine I probably came off sounding a bit rude too. Sorry, it's just that I get a little frustrated when people insinuate I didn't care about the homeless girl. Trust me, we did everything we could, given the circumstances, and I absolutely care more for the people than the cat. I guess what it really comes down to is I have the resources to care for the cat but I don't have the resources to care for six homeless teenagers.
Anyhow, good news. We contacted an animal shelter and they said they would give her shots, get her checked out, and get her spayed later on all for FREE! (Apparently they are evil socialists!) We're going to take her to the shelter in a hour to get all of it done. As of right now the kitten is currently eating "The Good Life" organic cat food and drinking Whiska's cat milk. (I couldn't find purina one cat food for kittens) Needless to say, the kitten is loving life and no longer scared to death of her own shadow like she was yesterday.
We also thought up a name; Halle, due to the fact we got her right before Halloween.
Thank you so much for all the advice Reddit! | cc149e97db70415e91a3755c94a27554 | 2023-03-16T01:43:55.831260+00:00 | 2010-10-29 21:52:29 | Dolma_Reddit | {} | comment | 119 |
These are a few of your favorite Reddits... but what are they?
Hello world! New Redditor here, was introduced to this site by my wonderful girlfriend who saved me from the cesspool of vulgarity and pron also known as /b/ (also saved me from loneliness and essential virginity but that's another story for another time). But I digress, I've noticed that there are a near infinite number of subreddits out there, what are some of the ones AskReddit enjoys the most? | nl8u6 | 2023-03-16T01:43:55.831260+00:00 | 2011-12-21 14:04:39 | Dolma_Reddit | {} | submission | 120 |
Not every day. The way we did it was: You pick one from the stack. Use it. Throw it in the dirty clothes. It gets washed, dried, folded, put back on the stack. Now, if, for some reason, you only had one towel per person, then I can see how assigning towels and reusing them would save on laundry costs. But growing up, we probably had 15-20 towels and it was just my parents and me. It would take five days to a week to go through all the towels.
Again, unless you have some weird, highly contagious disease, I don't really see a problem using whatever towel is available. I've shared towels all my life and I've never gotten sick from it. I've never stunk from it. I'm still alive and I feel clean. I'm not saying my way's better. It's just the way I grew up and I'm still here. | 07b99d81e71743af8dc08f74056b15ef | 2023-03-16T01:43:55.831260+00:00 | 2015-06-25 02:43:41 | Dolma_Reddit | {} | comment | 121 |
I spent a lot of time in therapy just trying to figure out what I was feeling and had to come at it from almost a top down approach. I'd been emotionally locked up from a bit of trauma, and having a hard time reconciling any emotions; and mostly just froze when it came up. But my therapist showed me "The Feelings Wheel" and told me I would likely feel many of them at the same time, but this would just help me name the emotions and allow them to pass through or actually "be felt". So going through and giving a yes/no to each of them; then taking a moment to really sit in the feelings I'd marked "yes" to allowed me to process them bit by bit and slowly become unlocked and actually able to express these things in real time so I could limit future "locked up" feelings. Be gentle with yourself, it takes a while to sift through the backlog of emotions; but there is real joy on the other side. :)
Hopefully [this](https://cdn.gottman.com/wp-content/uploads/2020/12/The-Gottman-Institute_The-Feeling-Wheel_v2.pdf) links to it, otherwise you can google "feelings wheel" | d57db2b35a2f471ea05b02fa6830e9cc | 2023-03-16T01:43:55.831260+00:00 | 2021-07-07 17:14:48 | Dolma_Reddit | {} | comment | 122 |
If a store is a chain of any type, even just two stores owned by one family in neighboring counties, they are likely striving for uniformity, and are *definitely* using the same computer system. They may not even be making the price tags in the store, and they *definitely* aren't making advertisements in the physical location you're shopping at. | 266d0eda5db74c82b1edff2e20c03020 | 2023-03-16T01:43:55.831260+00:00 | 2015-04-20 17:21:10 | Dolma_Reddit | {} | comment | 123 |
Raised by a single dad, and among what everyone else is saying (be there to listen, educate yourself about shopping/periods/hairdressing etc.) I would also say invest in therapy for yourself to make sure you're 100% healing. You can't be the best dad for them if you're not your best self. My dad was in therapy for years and I'm sure this helped him be the best dad he could be.
He also talked with us when he started dating and let us know that if we didn't like one of his GFs to let him know, as our happiness was his first concern. Even just saying that made us feel like we came first and that helped. | c7b496f45c734754b1676fc22cae7637 | 2023-03-16T01:43:55.831260+00:00 | 2019-11-02 14:04:05 | Dolma_Reddit | {} | comment | 124 |
How would you explain reddit to 2 teenage girls?
Last night I commented on a question that asked what your zombie killing theme song would be. I asked each of my teenage daughter's what theirs would be. They & some of their friends love anything about zombies. Of course, they asked what I was doing & what site I was on. I explained to them that reddit is more for guys their cousins age. (24) So I wonder how long it'll take before they're on here too. | jcgai | 2023-03-16T01:43:55.831260+00:00 | 2011-08-08 15:11:30 | Dolma_Reddit | {} | submission | 125 |
Rugby is a lot of fun, and you can probably google a local club to ask them more specific questions. I played a bit in college- hadn't played before. It's easy enough to pick up and ruggers are generally good people.
Regarding your 100m in 10.9s- that's great, but what's your overall cardio like? You run A LOT in rugby, and you sound like you'd be best suited for the wing. You're going to run A LOT x3. What's your 100m time after 30 minutes of hard cardio? That matters way more than your sprint time without any other context. Keeping the strength up while improving your cardio can be a bear of a task- good luck! | f856e8997c964afb90c417bad35c543d | 2023-03-16T01:43:55.831260+00:00 | 2019-11-20 21:12:06 | Dolma_Reddit | {} | comment | 126 |
Technically, yes. However, there are two main considerations when it comes to soundproofing, and they are mass and airtightness. Adding to that, your soundproofing is only as good as the weakest link in the system. Rugs don't have much mass, and they do nothing to improve airtightness.
Even with mattresses like /u/folkhack mentioned are barely usable for soundproofing, despite their mass. At best, they'll prevent some high frequencies from passing.
For the "greatest" level of soundproofing, you need an absolute unit of *physical stuff.* I'm talking having two separate, disconnected framed walls for each wall, with double layers of sheetrock, everything mechanically isolated from everything else. It also takes up a ton of square footage to isolate things acoustically.
Basically, a good *starting point* for estimating the cost of building a soundproofed room is roughly 2.5x the cost of building that room without considerations to soundproofing. And that's just "pretty good" soundproofing.
Edit: the word "main" | 0f6dc3a40b89488b8e907090f4dc1c81 | 2023-03-16T01:43:55.831260+00:00 | 2019-01-10 05:38:40 | Dolma_Reddit | {} | comment | 127 |
I have a weird ... droning kind of voice. I can sell it live, but over the phone I sound like a drunk kid. And no matter what language I speak, if it's a new person I'm speaking to on the phone, they all revert to English first just in case I don't understand what they're saying.
Like an Irishwoman that's fallen down a flight of stairs. And then another flight of stairs.
Anyway, the moral of the story is that through raw text, no one knows that you're really a dog. Or a drunk kid. Or Irish. | cf500e72bd3a48ed922957d1be73777e | 2023-03-16T01:43:55.831260+00:00 | 2015-11-07 08:58:33 | Dolma_Reddit | {} | comment | 128 |
Urban explorers of Reddit: what's the most disturbing/interesting thing you've ever found?
It's your tales of adventure I crave! The sketchier the situation, the better. For the record, urban exploration is generally defined as the exploration of man-made structures.
Give details about where you were (without posting personal information, please), and explain your urban exploring method if you wish (Ex.: Do you take protection of any kind? What kinds of places do you tend to go?).
**PICTURES HIGHLY PREFERRED TO CONFIRM STORIES!** | 1n7w1l | 2023-03-16T01:43:55.831260+00:00 | 2013-09-27 01:36:55 | Dolma_Reddit | {} | submission | 129 |
Almost. Three of the four arming switches were set on one of them. The only thing that kept it from detonating was a single low voltage switch that failed to arm
> In 2011, Lt. Jack Revelle, the bomb disposal expert responsible for disarming the device, claimed "we came damn close" to a nuclear detonation that would have completely changed much of eastern North Carolina. He also said the size of each bomb was more than 250 times the destructive power of the Hiroshima bomb, large enough to create a 100% kill zone within a radius of 8.5 miles (13.7 km) | d67df6dfb92a4df89447d1d005479c38 | 2023-03-16T01:43:55.831260+00:00 | 2018-07-29 08:42:47 | Dolma_Reddit | {} | comment | 130 |
Don't use the argument 'Drunk driving can hurt others, having sex hurts you' cause that isn't true. with the spread of disease, pregnancy, ACTUAL rape, and damage to reputation, drunk sexing could cause a lot of collateral damage too.
tl;dr Double standards are bull shit.
edit: I am speaking about the legal definition, not the practical definition or the power aspect of rape. | sze3r | 2023-03-16T01:43:55.831260+00:00 | 2012-04-30 06:19:13 | Dolma_Reddit | {} | submission | 131 |
My coworker spent hundreds of hours pretending to be my friend, texting me at night, going to lunch and even dinner with me, messaging me on Skype, etc for an entire year. Then I found out she was apparently she was badmouthing me to management throughout that year and spreading rumors about me throughout the office. I found out when she got in trouble for bullying me and two managers both gave me lectures on assuming coworkers are friends. I work at a prestigious job so apparently there’s lots of backstabbing ladder climbers. | f644bbcb28514da485a8c13a5e122644 | 2023-03-16T01:43:55.831260+00:00 | 2019-10-23 06:07:30 | Dolma_Reddit | {} | comment | 132 |
I kept putting off backing up my data. When I moved, something went screwy with my hard drive and I lost everything. I was pretty freaked out, but I put in a new hard drive and reinstalled Windows. As I redownload things, it became apparent that almost everything was already in the cloud. Between Google Drive, Google Photos, Steam Cloud save and Apple and Amazon, four months later I still haven't come across something that wasn't backed up online.
TL;DR My computer was good at backing up my data, even when I wasn't. | 7453b3d3bc3d424bacd9dea8a415a0dc | 2023-03-16T01:43:55.831260+00:00 | 2015-09-30 23:15:51 | Dolma_Reddit | {} | comment | 133 |
I'm the opposite. If I'm doing an exercise wrong, my muscles will be sore in all of the wrong ways, so I go home and google what I've done wrong.
When someone points out to me, "Hey, it's better if you grip it like this", odds are I'm going to be hit with a wave of self consciousness and feel like people are judging me through the rest of my workout. I'm not *mad* at the person helping me, it's just that it's intimidating to try new things in an area outside of your comfort zone. When people point out what you're doing wrong, despite their good intentions, it makes everything more awkward. | f9da8f5226b74b4aa73fe7da55169a30 | 2023-03-16T01:43:55.831260+00:00 | 2017-05-29 16:26:58 | Dolma_Reddit | {} | comment | 134 |
It was Christmas Day at my grandparents house, and the whole fam is sitting around the dining table, eating, laughing, having a great time.
Mom is taking some photos on her digital camera and hands it over to me to take some pictures from my side.
I take a couple, then flick back through the photos to see if they are any good. Flick back too far and come across some HD selfies my mom took of herself and her dildo.
I WANTED TO THROW UP. (Still do)
I had to pretend nothing had just happened as I was surrounded by the whole family. But I recall my ears ringing and my eyes blurring over. I had well and truely lost my appetite to say the least. | fa9e044ab53c4d28ba81255d1e90d283 | 2023-03-16T01:43:55.831260+00:00 | 2021-01-17 10:20:52 | Dolma_Reddit | {} | comment | 135 |
Seeing what my friends have gone through. One friend's son has gone full nutso - no job, sits in front of his computer following every conspiracy theory ("The moon landing was faked so that Jews could put space lasers in outer space that are being used to power the microchips which Bill Gates is putting inside Covid vaccines"). Another's daughter lives in Texas, refuses to talk to her parents no explanation, told them she never wants to hear from them, and when her father died sent her mother a sympathy card "Sorry for your loss" - ***your*** loss. And it seems like everywhere I look there's nothing but bratty kids screaming in public. I honestly prefer my dogs, complete loyalty and devotion. | 8034987dcbff4364a88bd208b0af37d2 | 2023-03-16T01:43:55.831260+00:00 | 2022-05-05 00:56:39 | Dolma_Reddit | {} | comment | 136 |
An engagement ring is not flowers.
Work is more important than relationships? Huh. Ok. So you're not his #1 priority. You're not chopped liver, either.
You are his **wife**. If you've decided to be ok with him putting work first, fine, dandy. But fer goshsakes, bust his balls if he puts you any lower than that.
Relationship Priority #1 should be Freetime Priority #1, under this system. If you advocate for that and he doesn't respond, then you might want to ask yourself if you're really just second to his work... or third behind some other thing... or ...eighth? Or not a priority at all.
But really, he should respond. You're his f'n wife! | 4549f7cf87b8436cb553daf0dcf444b4 | 2023-03-16T01:43:55.831260+00:00 | 2012-03-02 06:27:48 | Dolma_Reddit | {} | comment | 137 |
I'd like to add to this. Sometimes people don't want someone to offer solutions, they just want to be heard. Obviously discerning the difference between the two can be difficult, so you could ask something along the lines of "Just so that I know what you need, are you looking to vent or to discuss possible solutions?"
I've also found that, the better you get to know someone, the easier it is to just TELL what they need at the moment. Some people are also not very talkative, so the more questions you ask(to try to get them to talk about what's bothering them, and to draw them out), the more they will recede. On the other hand, some people need prompts to be able to let it all out. | 992eb7207b4841729d8004e0813ac125 | 2023-03-16T01:43:55.831260+00:00 | 2021-01-20 18:09:15 | Dolma_Reddit | {} | comment | 138 |
I explain this to people so often and they just don’t get it. One of my best friends is OCD and I’ve had to literally come over and inspect his house for him to reassure him that his specific obsessive fear isn’t happening. (He’s got a bat thing). So when I hear people say “I’m So OcD” it really grinds my gears. Like “Oh, really? Your crippled by obsessive thoughts and compulsions that literally overwhelm you to the point of not being able to perform basic executive functions? | d635a5d72a8a49fd8f3f74dbcc8eacd9 | 2023-03-16T01:43:55.831260+00:00 | 2023-03-30 19:36:10 | Dolma_Reddit | {} | comment | 139 |
StarGate: don't watch after they kill off the Goa'uld, the show kind of looses its original soul and motivation after that, the Ori are just so meh. The only reason to watch the last few seasons is to see the Terrans become kick ass in their own right, with a fleet of space ships and some of the Baal episodes (Baal does the hundred clones of the bad guy trope right). Years after watching the show that's the only thing me and my friend really talk about for the last seasons.
Atlantis and Universe are a different story, I think they are worth watching in their own right, in some ways they were cancelled at just the right time. | d5b3d21f104144f694df82f1124ee5de | 2023-03-16T01:43:55.831260+00:00 | 2015-12-31 22:22:28 | Dolma_Reddit | {} | comment | 140 |
Since when has a potentially debilitating anxiety based disorder been used to describe an individual who happens to like their spice rack arranged in an orderly fashion?
I have suffered from OCD since childhood and it makes my shit itch when some prissy, holier than thou debutant announces that they have OCD because they 'like everything nice and neat'
My personal 'litmus test' question for these people usually revolves around what they think will HAPPEN if they DON'T arrange all the knives and forks the right way; do you GENUINELY think that something terrible will happen to you or the ones you love if you don't? If the answer is 'no' then I usually dismiss any real conversation with them regarding their 'OCD'. | 83916f97f68e465f906cff32b99f1796 | 2023-03-16T01:43:55.831260+00:00 | 2011-09-30 14:28:37 | Dolma_Reddit | {} | comment | 141 |
Buy a Sonicare toothbrush, happen to have extra swappable heads.
Buy a waterpik, leave it on the bathroom counter, use it in front of her.
Make her wait for you to finish your dental hygiene routine, let her know that's what you're doing.
Go the the dentist and make her wait in the lobby.
Begin taking classes to become a dental hygienist, ask her if you can practice your new techniques on her.
Become a licensed dental hygienist; tell her that she has stinky breath. | 1c2b614d9fe443a4aa57b0ad6899d8d5 | 2023-03-16T01:43:55.831260+00:00 | 2011-01-04 20:43:28 | Dolma_Reddit | {} | comment | 142 |
I used to not be able to wink at all. When I was in college, I would sit there reading a book holding my right eye closed with my hand. Eventually I was able to keep that eye closed. I still cannot wink with my left eye .
When my son was about 12 or 13, we realized he could not wink. I jokingly said, “how are you going to get the girls? ‘hey baby, how you doin’?’” while smacking my right hand over my right eye. He’s 25 now, and he still can’t wink. When he walked across the stage at college graduation, he pointed in my direction in the stands and did his hand-over-eye wink. It was fantastic. | dc9de0d5c22244fa8e9cb1a0b00fdc33 | 2023-03-16T01:43:55.831260+00:00 | 2021-02-27 10:53:10 | Dolma_Reddit | {} | comment | 143 |
This was 1996 but we were assigned to write a poem about anything we wanted too. So I did the assignment and was pretty proud of how it turned out. The day after turning it in, the teacher read it in front of the class and then asked me in front of the entire class if I was “depressed and going to kill myself.” I laughed it off and said no but the truth is them saying that made me question if I should… I look back on it now and wish I would’ve have said something back to that old c@$t cause she was a horrible person to ask that in front of an entire class. I will never forget that. | a7c4f73b9264485fbedd80dd91d972dc | 2023-03-16T01:43:55.831260+00:00 | 2022-07-02 13:14:28 | Dolma_Reddit | {} | comment | 144 |
Interesting stuff. Mine was staying at a friends house as a kid, he had an old house. We were staying up late on the weekend and about 12:30 AM, after gaming, we walked out of his room and we saw a shadowy figure of a person at the end of the long upstairs hallway. It was just 3 of us (me , his brother and him) in the house together that night. We called out to it, with no answer. It just stood there looking at us, then turned and started walking down the stairs that were at that end of the hall. after about 5 steps the noise stopped even though is was a large staircase flight of 25-30 stairs. we ran to find the intruder after getting makeshift weapons to defend ourselves and... there was no one. All the doors were locked from the inside.
weird stuff.. now it COULD have been my friends dad playing a prank on us, but he was supposed to be working that night. | be88cc3bf1404ebfa29e840332331853 | 2023-03-16T01:43:55.831260+00:00 | 2021-03-29 15:08:26 | Dolma_Reddit | {} | comment | 145 |
There is a thing called ['cute aggression'](http://news.nationalgeographic.com/2015/10/151010-science-psychology-babies-animals-culture-behavior/) which explains why some people get the urge to bite cute adorable things. Apparently it's to even out your emotions.
Quote from article: "Because they may help people to regain control over their intense emotions, these expressions help the caretaker to [care for an animal or baby] appropriately,”
I know I have it, I routinely make cannibalistic threats or threats of light violence towards my cats (always, of course, in a cute voice). I can't help it though, they're adorable. | 5bb253689420493eba46ca68b9d41e2b | 2023-03-16T01:43:55.831260+00:00 | 2017-06-06 07:25:02 | Dolma_Reddit | {} | comment | 146 |
Realizing that those dark, “you’re an idiot,” “he hates you,” “you can’t do anything,” etc. thoughts are not valid helps you be conscious of what’s real. They have no right to speak to me that way, and there’s no way I would let a real person talk to me like that.
On a related note, I started using this app called Shine, which basically helps you recognize the thoughts you have and encourages you to take care of your mental health. It’s very geared towards millennial women (one of which I am), but I think it really helps. I use it to meditate at the end of the day and go over things that I accomplished and let go of things that were stressful. | a82c7ecb941c42d9bfef4a47b6503b85 | 2023-03-16T01:43:55.831260+00:00 | 2018-02-08 18:38:28 | Dolma_Reddit | {} | comment | 147 |
once an assistant manager joked about how if someone called for a shitty employee, he'd say that they were the best worker so they'd leave. if it was a good employee, he'd say they were terrible because he didn't want them to leave. for jobs I always tick the "do not contact this employer" box for that job because either option isnt good for me. as in, if i was a good employee id get a bad review, but if i get hired because he gave me such a good review it means he hated me and my ego isnt strong enough to handle that. i dont want to know either way. | 6cd05f76f1334d608f7c5225ee64aa47 | 2023-03-16T01:43:55.831260+00:00 | 2016-02-23 03:14:58 | Dolma_Reddit | {} | comment | 148 |
BUT, they need to teach them how to properly question adults and authority in general.
I taught. I had no problem with a kid questioning me. Some of these kids where such assholes about it that it made me have no desire to actually engage them in a dialogue.
Many groups in America have a disdain for authority, which IMO isn't a good thing to do. Because you will almost always have someone in authority over you. If kids don't respect or at least listen to teachers, they will have problems in schools. If they grow up not respecting their boss, they won't keep a job. So you need to instill that in some way.
On another note, I find a lot of these parents who encourage or at least are ok with their kids challenging authority also get PISSED if their authority is challenged | eafd78f0e83143778725fc9c216cdc61 | 2023-03-16T01:43:55.831260+00:00 | 2020-05-28 15:51:46 | Dolma_Reddit | {} | comment | 149 |
From my dad: "If you can't find it, you don't have it."
It sounds like a small thing, but I was struggling with hoarding tendencies at the time, and my mom was dealing with it all wrong. She would nag me about being disorganized and push me to get rid of things just so I could buy new things, and would not hear me when I tried to tell her how that was a problem for me. My dad just gave me the above advice and backed off. I only needed one instance of not being able to find something I had saved for years during the very occasion I had saved it for to see how right he was, and that he understood my way of thinking. I was able to get more organized after that and let go of unnecessary stuff. | 557bdc741546436dacc51284bdc70843 | 2023-03-16T01:43:55.831260+00:00 | 2017-05-23 01:49:09 | Dolma_Reddit | {} | comment | 150 |
Not sure if you’re serious or not but I’ll still point it out.
Not control of the emotion itself, but the potential actions taken which influenced by them, which then can change your feelings.
You’re allowed to feel things because that’s what your mind is conditioned (i.e instinctually feeling) to do with a particular stimuli or situation. But effectively if you can look at yourself in the third person during or after then situation, and then analyze yourself to better recognize why you feel that way, you’ll be more conscientious about your behavior and end up making yourself feel differently about similar situations or to simply ignore the ‘wrong’ feelings.
You can effectively avoid getting into trivial arguments or unwanted consequences. Likewise maybe you don’t stand up for yourself enough and you now make a point to stop being treated poorly or not getting what you deserve. These are just examples but what I’m trying to get at is essentially being conscientious about yourself is good practice and will help you make positive contact with the right people.
Even in the context of depression, anxiety etc. it helps when you are aware of things you’re doing/saying that are not you, but rather the mind that’s doing this.
It’s a weird concept and not a lot of people are able to do it or be bothered to step back and see themselves as such - it’s a process that requires learning and it’s damn hard. We already do some of this and can show restraint and patience with people. | 7b9accd4e1e54d8aacf46553b086b1e7 | 2023-03-16T01:43:55.831260+00:00 | 2018-03-07 11:59:25 | Dolma_Reddit | {} | comment | 151 |
I loved making my ex smile. When she smiled and looked down. That was the best. Also watching her asleep. When we where together and she went to bed before be me. When I came in later and she was asleep. She just looked so peaceful and content. It was nice. I can't imagine what I look like asleep. Face down in a pillow spit pouring out of mouth making weird breathing noises. Not a pretty sight.
Edit. Just thought of another thing. When ever she asked me to check out what's making noise in the living room at 2AM or when there is a spider that needs killing. She was always independent put together, can take care of herself type girl. So when there's a bump in the night or a spider on the wall and she turns into a "damsel in distress" type and needs me to, lack of a better word "save her" it feels good. As a guy It's nice to feel needed in that way. | 1cbbd15517ef4418a74a22b6f404d0ec | 2023-03-16T01:43:55.831260+00:00 | 2015-04-13 19:00:40 | Dolma_Reddit | {} | comment | 152 |
How can I learn to improv on the piano?
I would like to know what the first steps are in learning how to improvise on the piano. Would it be to familiarize myself with chord progressions? I have absolutely no idea. Also, is being able to improv a skill that anyone can develop, or a talent that can only be done by those who are lucky enough to have?
Taking piano lessons is not an option, because I don't have the money to spare at the moment :( | eoin9 | 2023-03-16T01:43:55.831260+00:00 | 2010-12-20 00:41:24 | Dolma_Reddit | {} | submission | 153 |
There was a period of time in high school when I would allow the Jehovah witnesses into my house every week. This was when I was going through my annoying atheist phase and loved to argue religion. One guy named Frank would come every week. He had my number and would even text me. Over the time we met he brought about 5 different guests with him and even brought a younger guy once because he probably thought I could relate to him or something. I enjoyed talking with them and learned a lot about their beliefs. They visited probably around 15 times over the period of a year. My mom didn't understand it, but my dad even came and sat down a few times with us. After I went off to college, I lost contact with them except for one time when I received a random call from a local Jehovah's witness who Frank gave my number to. For the record they were no where close to converting me. The neighborhood should have thanked me because every minuet they spent with me was a minuet they weren't knocking on a door. | b5a4a840a60a447e84365966837e9bf0 | 2023-03-16T01:43:55.831260+00:00 | 2011-08-12 16:18:36 | Dolma_Reddit | {} | comment | 154 |
How do I fix choppyness in a flash game?
I have an addiction, and it's called Robot Unicorn Attack. I keep trying to play on my laptop, but I can't play it well because it's choppy to some points where I can't react in time to jump or dash. I can play 3D games fairly well. I remember playing L4D2 on high with this thing at 30-45FPS. I should be able to handle a flash game no problem. :( What can I do to fix this so I can get back to my addiction? | ebg8d | 2023-03-16T01:43:55.831260+00:00 | 2010-11-25 03:19:50 | Dolma_Reddit | {} | submission | 155 |
What blatantly racist things have left you stunned to hear?
Last semester I was studying abroad in Spain, and one day during lunch my host mom decided to fill me in on a bit of knowledge. Which pointed out that Chinese people have no feelings, no soul, and cannot be trusted. I didn't really know what to say since my Spanish wasn't all that great at the time so I did what I could to change the subject.
So what racist things have you heard family/friends/random strangers say that left you in awe? | ty779 | 2023-03-16T01:43:55.831260+00:00 | 2012-05-21 22:05:40 | Dolma_Reddit | {} | submission | 156 |
Talking on the phone is a great way to tone down the creepy factor, but if the person you're walking behind has a finely tuned bullshit meter (spoiler, victims of domestic abuse tend to develop this as a defense mechanism, meaning the last person you want to unintentionally creep out) they *will* know you're faking the call and be even more creeped out.
I'm not saying don't do it. | fb3e355721ab4743ac701748a96324fd | 2023-03-16T01:43:55.831260+00:00 | 2017-05-29 16:40:10 | Dolma_Reddit | {} | comment | 157 |
Straight Edge people of Reddit, Why don't you smoke/ Do Drugs or Drink?
I've never done any drugs, I've smoked hookah a few times, but stopped, and I've had a sip of beer and a sip of wine in my life. I used to get a lot of shit for not being "cooler" but people have learned to accept that its just who I am. I don't hate on people who do those things, all my best friends do it. But my reason for not doing any of that stuff is that I just don't want my mind/ behavior to be altered by a substance and I know I can have fun without those things. So I'm just curious as to why any of you people don't? | 205kym | 2023-03-16T01:43:55.831260+00:00 | 2014-03-11 17:46:01 | Dolma_Reddit | {} | submission | 158 |
Cease and Desist letter from a US company, we're in the UK, selling different things. What are the legalities?
Well, late last night, after a rather good run of SW:TOR, my partner receives an email from a company in America. (For now, no names, may release the letter later if required).
Basically, my partner runs her business as a sole trader, and so far sells very locally to our area (North of UK), with a few packages going further south every so often. it's only a little business, but she has the Facebook page for it, plus a Tumblr. usual marketing tools, mainly word of mouth. The business is bags of varying sizes, handmade from fur and similar materials, usually designed to hold dice in (although she's made some larger for sketchbooks etc). The bags are designed to look like little monsters, and are all custom and unique.
Now, a company in the US with a similar name sells products that are basically large bags, that have pictures of dogs sewn onto the edges.
The US company has sent an email, signed by the chair of the company - not a lawyer, asking her to cease and desist. Now, it could just be a case that the US company doesn't realise that we are in the UK, and haven't shipped anything to the US (or made all that much money to be honest).
She's wanting my partner to cease and desist using the Facebook page and the name. As it stands, we're sure we've done nothing wrong, and we're visiting Citizens Advice tomorrow to double check (made the appointment today).
Redditors, where do you think we stand with this?
**TL:DR - Small UK sole trader sent Cease and Desist letter by larger US company, purely due to the fact the company names are a bit similar. What can we do?**
All response are very much appreciated, as you can probably understand, this thing is pretty big for a tiny little startup! | onho4 | 2023-03-16T01:43:55.831260+00:00 | 2012-01-19 17:17:25 | Dolma_Reddit | {} | submission | 159 |
I was robbed at gunpoint in college. And I came from a family of hunters, and my dad was a cop, and I first shot a revolver at the tender age of five, but when it was pointed at my face? All bets are off, you have no experience that applies until you've been there. Sewer pipe.
*It was 10pm in February in northern Pennsylvania. He was damn-well wearing pants and a coat, but I didn't know if it was red or black or yellow with little purple ducks. | 9d92fc75f32a48c9acc1963c2fa926b3 | 2023-03-16T01:43:55.831260+00:00 | 2021-11-24 05:04:28 | Dolma_Reddit | {} | comment | 160 |
I always hear lyrics wrong, but I prefer my versions. What lyrics do you get wrong?
Hey guys, I thought I would make a list of some of the lyrics that I have misheard. Some of them I prefer, some of them make no sense at all.
I really want to hear some that you have always thought were correct only to find out you're a retard like me.
First off my favourite, Textures - Laments of an Icarus
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DVRGGfzfIJk&t=0m57s
I've got no idea what he actually says but I'm pretty sure it's "You can never say you're sorry 'coz you're a potatoe!"
Another by the same band Textures - Awake
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=oSYNhfkNGco&t=2m24s
Again no idea what he says but I think it's "The city's burning bloodless, where is Michael Douglas?"
Seems to make sense anyway....
Not sure what he means here, does he think Cholera is a language? Who knows, but I think I have that one correct....
Now one that's not metal Coldplay - Clocks
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=d020hcWA_Wg&t=0m54s
'Shouldn't I pull off my head?"
Probably Chris, I don't like you much.
This one is from a brilliant Melbourne band Circles - Act III
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=R0Ly2xTJY1g&t=2m36s
"WHOOPEEDOOO!!!" That's right, I'm 99% sure he belts out whoopeedoo!
One last one from Slipknot - Liberate
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DSY4zu8WB3M
All the way through this track Cory posses an interesting question
"DO YOU LIKE BANANAS?"
That's just a few that my retarded self has come up with, I can post more if you guys want me to. I really want to see if anyone else's brain does this too!
So what have you got reddit? do you like bananas? | yqa6a | 2023-03-16T01:43:55.831260+00:00 | 2012-08-24 01:40:15 | Dolma_Reddit | {} | submission | 161 |
So i was riding my 50cc scooter once and these two dogs came out of nowhere (a golden or a lab and a bulgarian shepherd) and i slowed down so i dont hit them. Then just as im going past them the shepherd(massive 50-60 kilogram dog) starts chasing me a bit and im looking at it so i dont hit it and i almost went into the ditch..
Okay that one wasnt that bad, but the next one is one that really scared me lmao
So i was exploring the countryside and i got lost. I was just telling myself that i should turn around and go back so i dont get too lost, when guess who showed right next to me.. So i try to escape, but my scooter goes 53kmh on a road and we were on the grass.. Then I made some air and ran away.. I was in the air with a slow 50cc, while a massive dog chased me.. good thing it stopped chasing me and i found my way back home.. | 2e7a583795fe4951b36aa44b2eb85ee7 | 2023-03-16T01:43:55.831260+00:00 | 2019-07-02 23:05:42 | Dolma_Reddit | {} | comment | 162 |
Have you seen her before/ since then?
My grandma lived 8 hour drive away from us when she passed. She was in hospital after having a stroke, and we had just returned home a few days before from visiting her.
So it was really odd when my dad and I both saw her walking toward our front door… about half an hour later we got the call to say she had passed.
I haven’t seen her since, but whenever I visit the family home and I’m there early morning or late night, I can her my brothers footsteps. (He was only ever there at those times whilst living) | 19b1d38b65de49edafcc256bfc60d617 | 2023-03-16T01:43:55.831260+00:00 | 2021-06-15 21:03:37 | Dolma_Reddit | {} | comment | 163 |
90s (when magazines ruled the world) teen here. Many teen girl magazines (ie Seventeen) had articles that talked about people who overcame eating disorders. I remember reading the articles and aspiring to have said eating disorder (if you're young, look at photos of female celebrities from that era and what the ideal body type was).
Those articles planted seeds in me for having an on and off eating disorder. My biggest accomplishments as a teen were going the entire day eating only a Nutri Grain bar and water.
I still have an incredibly unhealthy relationship with food and my body. | ef85ba1cb3464bf98b0b84329cec5769 | 2023-03-16T01:43:55.831260+00:00 | 2023-01-27 20:20:19 | Dolma_Reddit | {} | comment | 164 |
Both of my grandmas have inspiring stories. I think about the way they went whenever I get overwhelmed with how limited life can seem at times. They lived very full lives....
My Mom's mom woke up my grandpa in the middle of the night and made him go get their car started. She said she had some chest pains and needed to go to the hospital. My grandpa went to get the car and when he came back inside she looked into my grandpa's eyes and said, "Red, I feel fine". It was then that my grandpa (Red) said he watched her slip away.
My dad's mom laid unconscious in a hospital bed for a couple days and everyone knew the end was coming. One day, while everyone was in the hospital (thankfully) she awoke and with her usual pep spoke with everyone. My mom relates that it was very obvious, to everyone present, that someone (an angel...) had woken her up so that she could be with everyone,one last time; and that the theme of her always wonderful conversation was a humbled, I loved you all, goodbye. | 6441474ec51e41fd97e504217beacdaf | 2023-03-16T01:43:55.831260+00:00 | 2013-02-01 02:13:01 | Dolma_Reddit | {} | comment | 165 |
Someone borrowed my dad's money and ran away to another country. What can I do?
My dad runs a small business. He had a Korean foreign college student working at his restaurant, while the student went to school. My dad liked the kid, because he was smart, and seemed mature.
While under my dad's employment, the student asked my dad to lend him $2000 for class fees. My dad trusted him, and gave him the money. The next quarter, he borrowed another $2500 from my dad again.
He went back to Korea this March as a vacation. He hasn't been back since. We have a photocopy of his passport, his address, phone number, his family's contact in Korea, and maybe other details of his life.
It seems that despite how much my dad liked him and supported him, he has been mouthing trash about my dad and his business to his friends both in Korea and the remaining ones in United States. He admitted to his friends that he stole money from the register, stole alcohol, and insulted my dad because my dad would not sponsor his loan for a Mercedes that he wanted. My dad declined to do so, because the student already owed him $4500.
A friend of my family lives in Korea. We sent an e-mail to the student to prepare our money, so my friend can pick up. He e-mailed my dad back, saying he has no money. Every time we've asked him up to this point, he said he has no money, and he would be getting money soon.
There are other people who also have lent him money. I'm guessing the total he borrowed before he went back to Korea is around $15,000.
In terms of insurance, we have the e-mails that we've exchanged regarding the borrowed money, and the record of my dad writing him two checks.
It has been over a year since he has borrowed the money. I don't care if the other people don't get their money back, I just want back what was once mine.
What can I do in terms of legal action? Thank you. | 9zhty | 2023-03-16T01:43:55.831260+00:00 | 2009-10-30 21:08:08 | Dolma_Reddit | {} | submission | 166 |
Its a good way to get your face smashed. No matter what your gonna be on the wrong side somehow, and I really don't have a dog in that hunt as an American.
But it was a long time ago and we are Americans, and have been for many generations now. My grandfather would have none of it in the house, he decided we were Americans and that was that. We had to leave the old problems in the old world. | edfeb5ab82bf4f2682f42ebbdb2538ea | 2023-03-16T01:43:55.831260+00:00 | 2014-12-30 05:42:09 | Dolma_Reddit | {} | comment | 167 |
The electoral college is a good compromise because popular vote is extremely flawed and nothing more than mob mentality.
The 2 party political system isn't a system. It's just basically 2 colorations that strong arm the compition out of the media. You can vote 3rd party, but most people don't because the propaganda of the first two parties make people think they're throwing their vote away. You can vote for anyone, and you should NOT vote one of the 2 parties. Your vote is tiny. It's more important that you vote, instead of who you vote for. So write in someone, or vote 3rd party. | 56d2e91571194a49a8354a4300ee2377 | 2023-03-16T01:43:55.831260+00:00 | 2016-05-30 19:33:35 | Dolma_Reddit | {} | comment | 168 |
I have no idea. My mother dropped this on me within three days of dying. I'm just dealing with the fact that mother will be dead in days if not hours and she's dropping my father murdered someone 40 years before on me.
The fact that my father dropped all contact after I sent him the photocopies leads me to believe that it was true.
True, not true. It does not matter. I destroyed the stuff later because I had heard he was dead and I had some other stuff with the "proof" that I definitely wanted destroyed. I took it all out and burned it. I could have thrown the "proof" in a garbage can and no one would have known what it was was me. My father was dead. | 998033c5dccf454b95219a2dd0be5d16 | 2023-03-16T01:43:55.831260+00:00 | 2012-09-20 10:58:07 | Dolma_Reddit | {} | comment | 169 |
You won’t ever have to move on, ever. Don’t feel like you have to move on, most people don’t. And don’t think it’ll get easy and in 6 months or a few years think “why isn’t this easier? Is there something wrong with me?” No. There isn’t. You just get stronger. Time moves forward even when you’re not ready. So if you break it down to taking it one day at a time, it’s a much smaller pill to swallow. And lastly, there is no wrong way to grieve. We all grieve differently. As long as you are attempting to take care of you, you should feel proud you’ve made it, yet, another day. Another day closer to reuniting. | 3626f067326544efadd72103b6a35e46 | 2023-03-16T01:43:55.831260+00:00 | 2022-07-03 00:58:02 | Dolma_Reddit | {} | comment | 170 |
Working with kids puts a face on those who would benefit from progressive policy changes.
It's near impossible to work with children and oppose services that would help them and their home life. No child deserves to be hungry, or live without a home, or survive without medical attention and care. It seems like the opposition to these social programs target the fact that "lazy adults will just abuse the system." Honestly though, I don't care if people misuse the social programs if it means a kid will have food/shelter/access to medicine.
Source: I work in rural schools and kids live in poverty through no fault of their own | 1a28031ad76347cfb131d5e3ec87c3bd | 2023-03-16T01:43:55.831260+00:00 | 2020-10-31 11:29:09 | Dolma_Reddit | {} | comment | 171 |
I work at a strip club, and one of my regulars came in. He's always very polite, and is an all around awesome dude. When he gets seated and comfortable, one of my friends (she's a dancer, I am just a humble bar wench) comes and sits with him. She's become friends with him as well so she's comfortable with him. As the evening goes on they both get drunk and she's sprawled across him in just her panties. They haven't had a drink in over 2 hours at this point, but are both soundly drunk. They go over to the couches so he can get a lapdance.
One dance turns into several and closing time rolls around. The last customers are filing out, and we're cleaning up when the manager comes by to turn off the tvs. He walks by the couches and sees my customer still getting dances, and opts out of turning off the screen above them.
Tired and ready to go home, I walk over to the couch and climb up on the wooden divider separating it from the next booth. They didn't notice any of this, so I thought I'd have some fun. I leaned over and reached to hit the power button on the tv, which happened to be directly above them. As the screen went dark I whispered, *"Shhh, don't make it weird."* | 3a99f70229764f55ba045b44353a5f4b | 2023-03-16T01:43:55.831260+00:00 | 2015-10-15 08:19:55 | Dolma_Reddit | {} | comment | 172 |
Tons. To both questions. As a patrol officer, I get leads from citizens who don't want it in their neighborhood and from our drug unit. Usually that amounts to me watching known drug houses and stopping cars leaving the house after either delivering or purchasing directly. This all has to happen between calls for service, so that limits how much time I have to spend on it, as I work for a busy department.
Our drug unit deals a lot more with tracking down big time distributors/traffickers. They're the ones doing long term undercover surveillance, controlled buys, and acquiring/executing search warrants. They do a huge amount of work, almost none of which ever makes the news and is almost completely unnoticed by the public, which is how it should be ideally. | 34f635812bfd43cebac980200c76a41c | 2023-03-16T01:43:55.831260+00:00 | 2017-03-29 16:00:22 | Dolma_Reddit | {} | comment | 173 |
I was actually in your predicament once. Doing boring contract work for a nonprofit. I chose the steady paycheck, completely miserable the whole time, and once the multi-year contract stopped I was laid off. It led to much more fulfilling work. In hindsight, I wish I would have thrown caution to the wind and tried something new before I was forced to do so. But if I had done so I might not be where I am now. It's a complete gamble. Whatever you choose to do, have a strong work ethic. Know that you're not owed anything in this life. | 6a261d2a2e79479fbcaa4afecae377cb | 2023-03-16T01:43:55.831260+00:00 | 2017-07-08 02:09:28 | Dolma_Reddit | {} | comment | 174 |
I *think* so, yes - since I didn’t get that service, I’m not sure.
The process as it was for me was to take the translator module, match its wires to the wires coming off the head unit (most were color coded the same on both sides, but not all - hence my constant double checking of the wiring diagram) and connect them.
In my case, at least, there was no plug or harness between the two ends; I just twisted the wires together and capped them with Posi Twist connectors.
Edit: forgot to include the final paragraph that actually answers your question - I believe that step is what you can have Crutchfield do for you, which would totally eliminate the need to do any real wiring yourself. It would basically be plug and play. Disconnect the master plug from the back of your existing unit, plug that into the wiring harness designed to mate your car to the translator, then slide the whole kit and caboodle into the dash.
(I’m skipping a couple steps, like flashing the module and running the GPS antenna wire and/or SiriusXM antenna wire if you’re using those, but that would be basically it) | 661323cd60ec47f6b19f383fc98f697b | 2023-03-16T01:43:55.831260+00:00 | 2019-01-18 00:08:50 | Dolma_Reddit | {} | comment | 175 |
My boyfriend and I went around Italy for 2 weeks this summer, he told me he'd booked a surprise (but warned me it wasn't an engagement lmao).
So we get a bus to the countryside in a part of Tuscany, pretty much in the middle of nowhere, and walk through some huge gates. To my right I saw about 10 vintage Fiat 500's, I turned to him and said "are we driving those?" He gave me the biggest smile. It took me a good 5 minutes to actually believe him.
We spent the rest of the day driving around Tuscany (with a tour guide in front) in a 1964 Fiat 500, and finished the day at a private villa with cheese and wine, watching the sunset over the hills. No one else showed up on the tour so it was just us.
I'll never ever forget it, if you asked me 2 years ago if I would ever go to Italy I would've laughed in your face (even though I would've loved to), never mind do something so amazing with someone so special. | e32b1316aa404ffda07b760f10ad023a | 2023-03-16T01:43:55.831260+00:00 | 2017-11-14 22:41:05 | Dolma_Reddit | {} | comment | 176 |
All the damn time. Especially when I start typing something about psychology and then realize that I'll have to cite multiple studies to prove my point. And half the time, even if I do provide sources, people will claim it's propoganda or a bullshit study. It's just not worth the time and I don't care that much about educating random people on the internet.
I actually wonder about the people who write out long comments with multiple sources. I only do it if I've already written a study on it or am all stimmed out on adderall. | cce819410b8c403b8af574a6d1295623 | 2023-03-16T01:43:55.831260+00:00 | 2016-04-16 04:43:41 | Dolma_Reddit | {} | comment | 177 |
Why do we have to work 8+ hour days?
Simplified: I have always wondered why we have to work 8+ hour days despite us becoming more effective in the production of food for instance. The way I see it, we could have gotten rid of luxury surplus ( doesn't seem to make us more happy ) and only concentrated on what really matters like food and shelter, meaning that we could work less and have more time to enjoy life. I guess progress would fit in somewhere.
Edit: I quite like the idea of moving [slower](http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Slow_Movement). | 11eok9 | 2023-03-16T01:43:55.831260+00:00 | 2012-10-13 07:52:47 | Dolma_Reddit | {} | submission | 178 |
People just hate it. I got used to AC living abroad for periods of time (including US) but I just can't get anyone at home blasting it, including younger family members. They may be hot but hate how it feels. I remember the hot summers, when I was a kid we didn't even use it in cars at one point.
I think one is that they think it's bad air and still prefer to have open windows even when it's hot, at least for a while. The second is that some countries like mine are terrified of any draft. Apparently it will make you sick, and AC is constant draft | 3befac6504f4430faa3e63250cbf9a00 | 2023-03-16T01:43:55.831260+00:00 | 2021-09-13 05:44:03 | Dolma_Reddit | {} | comment | 179 |
Where have you studied abroad and how was your experience?
I'm planning on taking a semester next year(either fall or spring) to study abroad. Where have you been that you would recommend?
Background information: I don't speak anything but English although I would be very happy being involved in a language intensive program. I've also been to Japan and really enjoyed it so I am considering going back again.
EDIT: Also I would appreciate any input on housing. Should I go with a host family or a typical dorm? | fm9lm | 2023-03-16T01:43:55.831260+00:00 | 2011-02-16 02:52:24 | Dolma_Reddit | {} | submission | 180 |
Reminds me of basic training, when the drill sergeants chose total goobers as squad leaders. The purpose was to put a goob in a position of leadership to help them blossom and learn how to grow with a team instead of forcing the team (drill sergeants would meet with squad leaders specifically to disseminate training plans and whatever the fuck, so they can then take it to the squad), to give their subordinates the opportunity to learn how to work with a leader they don't click with (fostering personal initiative and thoughtful interaction when introducing new ideas or criticisms), aaaaannnd also to create general stress and emotional chaos because annoyed joes are hilarious to fuck with.
Mostly the last one, probably. | 575ae0e1608e42a78d187bb812b91e47 | 2023-03-16T01:43:55.831260+00:00 | 2019-01-11 22:38:47 | Dolma_Reddit | {} | comment | 181 |
I was not even interested and nor her me, until I casually told her one day that I didn't see her "that way" and to me she was essentially sexless. She got mad, indignant and a little offended. But that one conversation played on her mind for weeks.
At least she told me as much three weeks later, in her hotel room, just minutes after some of the best sex of my life. 'sexless huh?' she almost sneered.
But inside I was all 'well played Sir, well played.' | 818df91696bb4dd1a7e75e31dffe6d97 | 2023-03-16T01:43:55.831260+00:00 | 2012-12-24 00:26:05 | Dolma_Reddit | {} | comment | 182 |
I drive a car with 80hp.
It can definitely get up to those speeds in a reasonable amount of time but only if you hit the narrow rpm range near the top and don't stop. Ontop of this if the onramp goes uphill and I can't see the traffic in the lane I'll be merging onto I absolutely need to leave slowing down and letting traffic pass as an open option because in many cases I can't floor it to get up to speed quick enough.
For comparison, my parents have a 1996 rav4 that I have none of these issues and that isnt a fast car by any measure. | 2278d3e7e7f04c6090f1e7a89945e8d7 | 2023-03-16T01:43:55.831260+00:00 | 2018-10-24 17:14:34 | Dolma_Reddit | {} | comment | 183 |
One night I am delivering some towels to a room and an attractive looking woman answers it in a robe, cept the robe is completely open. She is pretty obviously drunk. After I give her the stuff she asks if I want to come in and "give her a massage". I decline because I'm married, plus she is drunk.
She immediately starts crying about how her husband just divorced her. Apparently she had been making a ruckus downstairs too, because I had to go back up there with a security guy and a manager on the pretense that we had to clean up some water she spilt. She had her robe closed this time , but was still crying. I had to stealthy obtain her mini bar key so she couldn't get drunker. I guess she went to sleep after that because I didn't have to go back up there. I felt bad for her and I hope she is happier where ever she is.
Another time I had to deliver bed sheets to a room with two guys and a girl in it. The guy offered me 100 dollars to find liquor for him , but it was 4 am and there was no way I could find any. After I give him the sheets he says " thanks man, she exploded all over our other sheets" then he put his hand up for a high five and said "not gay in a threeway!" I really wish I could have found some liquor though... | 009bacdbab174dc58f6e7aceff2c3440 | 2023-03-16T01:43:55.831260+00:00 | 2014-10-05 05:17:21 | Dolma_Reddit | {} | comment | 184 |
Also- the 'Looks like' in her sentence seems to be projection from someone else's point of view... in the same way that you'd say "looks like I don't know how to do my job" after getting chewed out by the boss.
I'm guessing that some rich kid whose parents got them a new Toyota for their 17th gave her a hard time about her car (and herself) and she's being flippant on facebook. I'd go for a sit-down where you squeeze her hard on it (consequences of posting insensitive stuff online, etc) but probably let her keep the car unless you find that she's actually properly ungrateful.
Because walking would be good for her too :) | 246a7444bda7419faf1f5702c1637810 | 2023-03-16T01:43:55.831260+00:00 | 2011-07-21 14:08:19 | Dolma_Reddit | {} | comment | 185 |
Obama's trying to help ppl, but corporations know that altriusm is sometimes bad business so they have to respond to new federal regulation. e.g. Bank of America responding to the loss in profit due new federal regulations by raising 5 dollar debit fee. they will always find loopholes and counter. 2. i think the reason is that if more ppl are covered corporations must pay more for bills so everyones premium may go up. it sounds reasonable but i dont know if this is true in practice. 3. GI joe? | a1a9294856ce47ac94caa084ba3c211d | 2023-03-16T01:43:55.831260+00:00 | 2011-11-03 18:51:00 | Dolma_Reddit | {} | comment | 186 |
I'm reminded of when I was a kid, and a group of three men robbed a house in a fairly rich nearby town. The only people at the home were two teenagers and their friend, while their parents were on vacation. They tied up all three, sexually assaulted the girls and then executed all three of them (this was around 1990).
Also, about two years ago there was a spate of home assaults around my town where groups of men entered suburban homes in broad daylight with guns. In one case they shot the (disabled) father and took the mother to an ATM while sexually assaulting their daughter, and then shot her in the leg afterwards.
Just a couple months ago a woman was shot in the head and killed while being robbed and raped in her own home in a suburb near my hometown well known for being a safe place to live. She was a young pastor's wife, probably 26 years old.
Maybe if all these people had just let the robbers do what they wanted in the first place no one would have gotten hurt. | 3aed576a1d2e433983075a49806505f1 | 2023-03-16T01:43:55.831260+00:00 | 2016-02-10 21:01:12 | Dolma_Reddit | {} | comment | 187 |
To some people, it really is that simple. For those that it's not, they're more than welcome to attend class, and most of them do. Beyond the actual content of the curriculum, part of college is learning how to be an adult. This includes responsibility for one's own actions. It is not the university's job to make sure each student attends class, nor should it be. The student agrees to pay the university and the university agrees to provide the student with the tools necessary to earn a degree. What the student does with these tools is their decision, as it should be. | 4a2f7686fecc4dbc96ff6103229b4b2c | 2023-03-16T01:43:55.831260+00:00 | 2015-12-30 06:23:18 | Dolma_Reddit | {} | comment | 188 |
Just so you know, according to JD Power, it's the first 90 days.
Alternatively, don't buy *any* car that *doesn't* have the JD Power Initial Build Quality award.
EDIT: I also want to note that I don't think you should buy anything, or not buy anything, based on JD Power. But I will point out that higher quality (expensive) vehicles will have more problems reported immediately than cheaper cars. For instance, if I buy a base level fleet vehicle and something is off, I'm probably waiting until the next thing is off before I bother reporting anything. So long as I'm in the warranty period, I'd rather wait an extra month or two to see what other gremlins pop up before I lose the car for a week at the shop. But if I had a brand new Range Rover, you're god damn right it's going back to the dealership the next day . | c2dcdd18ae5747e19f64e48495e805b0 | 2023-03-16T01:43:55.831260+00:00 | 2019-11-15 03:52:21 | Dolma_Reddit | {} | comment | 189 |
I have a friend who constantly tells me how poor he is... And while I believe that he has very little of his own cash, he comes from a very wealthy family and at the least has what's effectively an unlimited credit card and seemingly can get however much cash he needs when he wants it.
Now I'm sure he can't go buy a private jet when he wants, but being actually poor, it's frustrating hearing him talk about how poor he is, and then mention he's going to cancun next week because he got a good deal on tickets.
Only being able to go to cancun when you get a good deal on tickets does not make you poor. | 19bdcbaada8949c397ff65e354f791ca | 2023-03-16T01:43:55.831260+00:00 | 2014-02-04 09:20:29 | Dolma_Reddit | {} | comment | 190 |
I took this tab of acid and went on a 14 mile walk. I’m not sure exactly why either as my original plan was to sit inside and meditate through the trip. I ended up listening to a bunch of Timothy Leary, Terrence McKenna, and Ram Dass lectures and it really changed me. I began to become a lot more in touch with my emotions, took a new leap into spirituality, and began enjoying the little things more. It really has changed me.
Edit: Decided to add more info.
As I walked I came across a local coffee shop. I decided to order a latte and it ended up being the best cup of coffee I have ever had. It showed me to enjoy and really taste everything I consume.
I then bounded down to a riverwalk where I witnessed some police harassing a couple homeless guys. It showed me the dangers of power.
I walked up and down the streets of the downtown area. My city has a high concentration of casinos in this area and it showed me how greed corrupts.
As I listened to Turn On, Tune In, Drop Out by Timothy Leary I really resonated with a lot of his messages. This was honestly the most life changing and I recommend everyone listen to it at least once. | fa045787f8924c999906420115d48049 | 2023-03-16T01:43:55.831260+00:00 | 2019-02-24 23:36:36 | Dolma_Reddit | {} | comment | 191 |
Science Based Medicine-
https://sciencebasedmedicine.org/tag/goop/
Respectful Insolence- a blog run by Dr David Gorski under the pseudonym Orac. | fc9332933d07485bac8cd44cd4519bd5 | 2023-03-16T01:43:55.831260+00:00 | 2019-10-08 15:47:11 | Dolma_Reddit | {} | comment | 192 |
over the last 6 months I been learning just how awful tinnitus and hearing loss is. Mine isnt from loud music and mine fluctuates. Its emotionally wrecking cause I dont know how bad my ears are permanently until they stay like that. So everyday, I wonder is today the day when I lose it and just hear ringing. Worse so far was the first time it ever happened. I lost a big chunk of hearing in my left ear. It slowly came back over like 2 months or so. Thankfully they caught it on few audiograms. Average when I lose it, its like if you cover/ plug your ears with your hands.
Then sometimes, its really bad. like Sunday night, I cried. My left ear was nothing but ringing, its mostly recovered. but every time I wonder, is this it. Could be years or next week.
also I started to have vertigo a few weeks after the first episode.
edit words and stuff | 9f5131bea7684a9aa0aeddbd00542c06 | 2023-03-16T01:43:55.831260+00:00 | 2016-09-21 11:25:44 | Dolma_Reddit | {} | comment | 193 |
I've been waiting a long time to tell this to someone, anyone, so here goes.
I grew up in a conservative christian family. Recently, about 9 months ago, I met someone. Calling him the first man I fell in love with sounds dramatic, I guess I'll just say he redefined love for me.
When we met I was a christian, not really conservative, but close. I have changed so much this year; becoming an atheist was part of it, and my SO was part of that. We went through a lot together, especially to change the way I felt about my sexuality. My SO helped me see that there was nothing wrong with wanting sex, not through pressure but through patience and love. By myself I saw there was no value in virginity, and to this day I maintain I haven't lost anything.
About 1-2 months ago my mom pulled me aside and said she found a used condom in my trash. What she was doing in my trash was the furthest thing from my mind at the time. She was surprisingly understanding and loving. I admitted to her I was an atheist and saw no value in virginity. She cried. I remember her saying "but God loves you so much." I just hugged her. When she was so understanding I knew everything would be ok. She said she had known for two weeks. I didn't understand why she hadn't told my dad. I do now.
I went to school that day and came home, waiting for my dad to arrive. I talked to my SO on the phone as I waited, both worried but hopeful.
When he came home he and my mom put on a movie. I sat down with them and figured he'd speak to me when he was ready. I was ready for any hurt he might feel. He didn't say anything throughout the movie, even at the credits. It was an agonising time, and as the last of the credits disappeared I said "Was there something you wanted to talk to me about?"
He stayed silent for a long time. "What is there to talk about?" I waited. "You've already said 'fuck you' to me and your mom, so what more is there to say?" He closed his eyes tight and took deep breaths, calming himself down. I was shocked, I'd never heard him swear before. I also didn't understand what I did wrong. I was 18 after all. I guess I could only say what was on my mind.
"I'm sorry I hurt you. It wasn't my intention. But I thought...in this area...that this was my choice."
"No." He stood up and started leaving. "It wasn't your choice."
Again I was shocked. "How can you say that?"
This was when he turned around. I've heard his words in my mind a hundred times, sometimes even when I don't want to. I don't want to type it here, I'll just start crying and shaking. He said he'll shoot my SO if he ever saw him again. There was more. I don't want to recall it.
He later said I'm not allowed to close my bedroom door anymore. It still hurts knowing I can't talk freely to my SO anymore, that I have to get changed in the bathroom. Once I was at someone else's house and they closed the door of the room I was in. I started shaking and crying. I felt terrified, like my dad would come in and hurt me.
The first time my SO and I flirted after the incident I burst into tears. I felt wrong and sinful, just like in the beginning. I feel like we have to start all over again.
I still sometimes get "flashes" of that night, and panic attacks. I find it hard to be sexual or even see my body anymore, but it's getting better. I still take a small bit of pride and strength in the fact that even when my dad was standing over me while I was sobbing, I wasn't ashamed of myself. Only of him. | 9ce2cf00ccfe4ccca1749aee30de7dcd | 2023-03-16T01:43:55.831260+00:00 | 2014-11-19 05:32:56 | Dolma_Reddit | {} | comment | 194 |
They've been doing it since the 50's. There is old reel footage of what the centre of Amsterdam looked like when cars were allowed. This is the space right in front of the central station. It was crowded and noisy and polluted. So they redesigned the whole area, and restricted car usage heavily, prioritising public transport and pedestrian traffic (bike and foot traffic), and it's been so successful that this model has been applied to a lot of other cities. Honestly, if you live in a city, you don't need a car in the Netherlands. You can get by either by public transport or by bike. Even outside the big cities, there are lots of cycling paths. I live in a small village, and the closest city is about a 20 minute bike ride. Not bad in the summer, awful in the rain and winter. There are 5 villages around me that are 10-20 minutes by bike, and they are all accessible due to bike only paths. The Dutch do have a habit of outlawing things, but in my experience, it's usually for a net benefit for the populace. | fd412eff2300436d80ee872957ad665c | 2023-03-16T01:43:55.831260+00:00 | 2020-01-03 09:36:56 | Dolma_Reddit | {} | comment | 195 |
From where I sit if you just do chores you see needing done that should be suffice. The mentality "he/she will get it" is very selfish and childish. I feel it's the adult thing to just do what you see. The BIG issue personally is my wife is obsessive to the point of waste regarding details. It can take her hours to sort clutter on one table because she obsesses too much over small details. My yard is large and I own a push mower. If I need to trim and mow it takes me a little over 2 hours depending on the time of year (spring takes longer, fall takes less time). If she were to attempt this she would use an entire spool of trimmer line and I'd wager and entire day, then complain about how long it took. Result? I just do a lot to avoid time waste and complaining. I've created this monster as much as she has. | 0e3bb2d019844b0a8e859e41caf59d5e | 2023-03-16T01:43:55.831260+00:00 | 2017-01-26 20:52:43 | Dolma_Reddit | {} | comment | 196 |
That would be the greatest thing ever! Let's see...
- Go to more concerts. Maybe catch Alice in Chains touring for *Facelift*
- Get the Sega Genesis instead of the Turbo Grafx.
- Tell my mom how to cook a few dishes like spaghetti carbonara
- Tell my mom to watch her diet so she doesn't get cancer at 61
- Take chances with girls in middle and high school
- Dress up as The Joker for Halloween when I'm in high school
- Pick up the guitar and amaze everyone with how much I already "know"
- Play in more bands
- Watch more movies. I'd get into a classic horror vibe and just watch movies with my friends
- And, fuck, that's off the top of my head! | 663a4a69de374ba787f1529db6e21c95 | 2023-03-16T01:43:55.831260+00:00 | 2014-01-27 20:02:47 | Dolma_Reddit | {} | comment | 197 |
As someone who dealt with having a drunk for a father, who introduced me to a number of vices throughout my childhood (alcohol, dope, acid, ecstasy) and told me that it was perfectly normal to watch hours of porn a day starting when my parents divorced when I was around 7 years old, I built up a lot of anger during my teenage years thanks to rehab and therapy exposing what a monster he really was.
This past spring I confronted him (I was 19 then) about my relationship with him and how I'm doing in college. I'd been trying to deal with my anger and frustration and learning to just be acquaintances with him so that I wouldn't have so much built up hate towards him for the rest of my life. We we're talking calmly about everything, but when I mentioned that I got a C in a Chemistry class, he freaked out, saying that I'm "wasting my time" and that I "will never amount to anything". That's not the harsh part. I'm used to hearing that. It's what he said next.
I commented on the fact that it was 9:30 am and he was already drunk, and that he needs to get help and go to AA meetings. I offered to drive him and go with him for moral support. He deserves to be happy. Everyone does.
He reacted to all of this by saying, "Yeah, you're right. I'm drunk. I'm depressed. You know who's to blame? You. You're the reason I've never had another kid. You're the reason I will never fall in love again. You are the reason I will never get up in the morning and be happy because you are above and beyond my biggest failure in life."
I was shocked. I gathered my thoughts and said, "No, Rob. The reason you're not happy, the reason you'll never get married or have kids, the reason you will die alone and never be satisfied with life again is because of you. I came here offering to start over with you, but I want you to know, before you drink yourself to death, that no one will ever love you the way that I once did. Piss off." | 12f404d522b847cf9e129d653d5d2615 | 2023-03-16T01:43:55.831260+00:00 | 2013-07-21 18:31:30 | Dolma_Reddit | {} | comment | 198 |
My last job had a little jellybean dispenser on the receptionist's desk. One day she came in to find them everywhere. On the floor, on her computer, in the printer, between the buttons of her phone...so she reviewed the security tapes.
Turns out on his way home, one of the VPs had (instead of using the intended dispenser like a normal human being) opened the top of the dispenser and reached his chubby little sweat-claw into the beans. Sweaty as he was, the dispenser slipped out of his hands and flung jelly bellies EVERYWHERE around the room. Then he left.
I don't eat the jellybeans at work anymore. | 4b7e9968ca774f9f995a435ef09cb2ef | 2023-03-16T01:43:55.831260+00:00 | 2012-04-18 00:21:28 | Dolma_Reddit | {} | comment | 199 |
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