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How do you begin to accept and show yourself kindness when you hate and second guess everything that you do and are?
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The only starting points I've found are basic thought challenging in CBT and mindfulness meditation. And those haven't done much for the self loathing.
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Has anyone found any useful methods?
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For some stupid reason I've been thinking about the abusive relationships and bad situations I got into when I was really depressed.
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I feel like I'm in fight or flight mode but I can't run from something in my head : s
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Don't know if this is against the rules but is anyone able to pm me?
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Dearest Madame in front of me, Not even a print of camouflage can hide your Crocs. Ironically, they call more attention to your questionable choice in footwear. Mildly Confused and Concerned, SlamMyJams
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Do you not get tired of these fucking losers? I understand it's horrible
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and if I was rich I would donate 90% of my funds to helping those people, but just because people have more catastrophic problems than me, doesn't mean I don't have a right to cry, yell, complain, etc. And I just get tired of people telling me to be grateful, everyone has problems, we have a right to complain without taking in to factor other world problems, please kill yourself.
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I keep circlejerking and putting people off by dumping my emotions on them, and by complaining that I always have to be happy and nobody allows me to ever mess up. I do really feel like I have to constantly put on a happy face, never be critical, always be tactful, never disappoint anyone, always be responsible for how others feel, and it makes me tired and frustrated, and I do mess up a lot whenever I let down my guard - which of course leads to me being very upset when other people are upset at me.
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So I know that is bad, but I don't know how to change it. I feel that having to be always pleasant and in control is something I'm being expected to do, but people close to me say it is unfair on them, because it projects my feelings on them. I have no clue how to stop it though?
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Alright, so i'm getting surgery in like, 2 hours and I'm about to leave. Hopefully everything goes smoothly as I'm getting the tendons in 3 of my toes on each foot sliced length-wise to fix my claw toe. Can't wait to have this fixed as my feet hurt to walk right now.
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Wish me luck!
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When I agree to help you move, I am agreeing to help you move furniture and boxes from point A to point B. This does not mean I move the things that are packed while you continue packing other things and/or cleaning. Moving should not take 8 hours when you are moving 10 minutes away. I am happy to help, I am not happy to stand there and watch you pack.
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Kindly, pandaplsss
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As a daughter of a Marine and Vietnam Vet, granddaughter of a WWII vet, and cousin of a Marine who served in Iraq, I'm trained to study history and watch/read the news. People in the military these days aren't your average bear, since only 1% of the country serves. I can accept the multiple deferments but the disrespect towards a Gold Star family, former POW, and joking about how easy it is to get a Purple Heart shows he clearly does not respect the military. His lack of foreign affairs, questions about the lack of using nuclear weapons and proposing torture should frighten every American, especially those people of draft age. He seems like the kind of person who would not lose a minute of sleep sending your family member off to war.
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Seriously. I pay $100 for a DNA testing kit and you force me to sign up for your site with a "14 day free trial" in order to process the kit. Of course, you never fucking mention that the kit takes nine-to-ten weeks to process, all the while you're charging me $19.99 a month for your shit site that I have zero use for whatsoever. So your DNA testing doesn't cost $100, it costs $160 which is more than your competitors.
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Thanks for tricking me into buying yours you assholes.
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I'm so happy, even though we were in drama and in front of all our friends you hugged me. A nice squeeze hug from behind. You also rested your head on my back during the drama game when you were embarrassed and I couldn't be more happy Thank you so much for making me happy again
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After a particular somewhat awkward and rushed conversation at work that resulted in someone being curt and walking off, I repeated this mantra, "no one's judging you" by the 7th time I felt better and by the 10th I felt almost back to normal.
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Does anyone do anything similar to this?
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Excuse me, who in the blue bloody Hell do you think you are to sell me a PC for that much, and not have it be 5g enabled? This isn't even a matter of cost. I can buy a card dirt cheap, slap it in, and I'm done. Parts and labour would probably work out to less than a meal at Five Guys. Sincerely, Someone that's going to build their own PC next time, warranty be damned.
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You were right. You were right all along. I find some peace in believing that it was all for the best (believing that you're happier now than you would have been if you had been with me), but I can't help but regret what I gave up when I let you go.
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If God gives me another chance I'll make sure not to screw it up next time.
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Not real, but here's how I envisioned my engagement going:
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We fly to London on November 3.
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Then visit my cousin in Ireland, who does chopper tours of England at bonfire night.
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We take the chopper from Shannon, landing at Antwerp, where I have the ring waiting for her on the tarmac. Yes, Antwerp airport (or any other) is not a particularly romantic place to get engaged, but I hope the rest of the night makes up for it.
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I don't hate kids by any means, but it's so hard to enjoy zoos or museums when kids are there. If these places even just had one day a month where they don't allow anyone under 12, I would be willing to pay extra. Besides nightclubs, bars, and casinos, there are few places where adults can enjoy a child-free environment.
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I recently went to a science exploratorium and children were interfering with other people while they tried to enjoy the interactive displays.
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I was laid off work in June.
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This morning, I got hired by a startup in the Bay Area -- I'm in Los Angeles. They're covering relocation and giving me a signing bonus. I'm really, really excited! YIPPEE!
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I'm making so much progress in my own personal goals, but I just keep focusing on the bad things in society and how unhappy everyone seems, and everything good in my life loses all purpose and value. I've posted 7 topics in the past month on Reddit asking for help with this, but nothing's been able to sink in. I'm thinking I should just go through with my suicide plan rather than continuing to suffer through mankind's mistakes.
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I keep having these wants that are going unsatisfied. No matter what I do, I can never seem to get the results I want. And I'm tired of it being that way.
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The worst part of these wants is that they are reliant on the actions of other people, and I can't make them want to do things for me or help me get what it is that I crave.
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What's it going to take?
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Do you guys ever just FUCKING shout out in the middle of the street?? I do it, not with the intention of feeling better, but with other aims, and then as an unintended consequence I feel better. Maybe I should do it more. Maybe I need a shouting buddy? Maybe there should be a shouting corner.
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We just snuggled on the couch and talked for an hour and a half. It reminded me of how we used to be and I loved that. She did too.
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We talked about our jobs and our hopes and Christmas and who we should help this month and stuff we used to do and stuff we want to do. :)
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I've never been much for Christmas celebrations over the years, and I stopped believing in Santa long ago. There's nothing material I want, but I do have a wish.
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I wish that for 2017, we are able to spend some time together and become good friends. I've thought about you all year, and how badly all I've wanted was just for you to let me into your life and be your friend. So if there is someone out there that can grant me a wish, that would be everything I ask on my grown up Christmas list.
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My dad lost the battle to cancer almost two months ago and I still haven't processed everything. I have his ashes, I have a lot of tasks to address in reference to his will, I have pissed off many people in the process as well. I have been trying to keep myself busy with it being the holiday season.
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The thought just occurred to me today that I should call my dad for a chat and for advice, and I am just utterly devastated. I just needed to get that out there... thank you...
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I know that I care about what other people think of me, but I don't know what to do about it. I wish there was an objectively permanent solution for this insecurity that I know of.
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I find myself wishing I was a sociopath so I can have complete agency over myself by negating people's influence over me.
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Come on now, this has happened multiple times, especially at the gym.
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If you can afford a phone that plays music, you can probably afford headphones.
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Nobody needs to be forced to listen to your awful music. I don't even care if it's something I like. If you play music in public, then that says "i'm inconsiderate, I don't care about bothering people, and I have no common sense".
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I laughed pretty hard tonight for the first time in a long time, and I needed it badly. Although I'm starting to feel the pain creep back in, that laugh provided me with one minute of my day that I didn't have to experience that. And that's more than I can say for most days lately.
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I've carried so much emotional pain with me lately, it's been hard for me to find pleasure in much of anything.
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Taken from personal experience of roommates/family. In some cases they seem to look down on me because I play video games(it's a waste of time, they say!) but will turn around and watch 8 hours of some crap "reality" show.
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My 2.5 year old Bernese Mountain Dog may have cancer and I'm waiting on the results of her biopsy. Whether it is good news or bad but I just want an answer. She is the best thing that has ever happened to me
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and I would really appreciate some kind or supportive words from internet strangers.
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This is an article I wrote about power struggles and relationships. I'm sharing this here because if you want to make your relationships last and not lose their glow it's essential to be able to identify power struggles and avoid them. With this information it can help you to recognise a problem you might be having and identify a solution before it does serious harm. If you found this article useful, all I ask is that you share for other people to read as well. https://philosophicaltherapist.com/2017/02/27/what-is-a-power-struggle/
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I'm done with your shit. Get off your high horses and shut up about your 'safe spaces.' I'm not having children either, in fact, I can't stand them, but I'm not pitching a bitchfit about every time someone challenges my opinion. Having an unpopular lifestyle doesn't give you the right to turn into an irate imbecile. Love, A former subscriber.
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What have been your experiences so far? I just had a brief starter session of ACT. I have chronic depression and the idea of being able to acknowledge and live with it seems more realistic than 'stopping' it.
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Today I walked out of my local liquor store and some random under age guy asked me to buy him alcohol, I said no way. I kind of assumed he was an under cover cop, I waited in the car while someone else bought him alcohol and sure enough two cops come out if no where and arrest the guy who bought him alcohol. Just wanted to get that off my chest, don't buy minors alcohol!
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Edit : Spoke with the owner of the liquor store, he said everyone who got caught that day each had to pay a fine of $2000
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I've tried searching for keywords for the last four days and shit has not worked at all. Search failed constantly, refreshing doesn't help. When this garbage bin actually decides to work then it doesn't find the most basic shit.
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At this point I just go to google and search the subreddit + keyword. Way more accurate and that actually fucking works.
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Institutions all around Greece that deal with special needs people and are under the umbrella of the Greek Government haven't got a single cent for 17 months. We need to be heard since we can't afford working for nothing anymore. We risk closing and that means that we will lose every cent we even contributed from our own pockets to keep the institutions working. Our patience has run dry.
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All we need is for our voice to be heard and for greek journalists to notice us.
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Sometimes I get angry like everyone does (of course). But does anyone have thoughts like wishing everybody else was dead or killed in the most gruesome way or just thinking about cutting someone you're mad at head's off or just stuffing a bomb up an annoying bitch's ass?? Note: I get these thoughts only when I am extremely angry and never act on them.
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Its satisfying to lose my mind and just give in, maybe I'm floating above misery this way. I just want to fist people, everyone I see I wan't them to feel my knuckles. I want to fist them right in the cheek.
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So many people deserve a beating, all this time I spend swallowing I want someone else to swallow.
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That was the case for me. I've had anxiety attacks for more than two years now due to work, and as a result I'm very jumpy and skittish. Not to mention easily angered. Man I hate this. I hate living like this.
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I just found this sub. I know I need to be here. I have a serious RAGE ISSUE. It's been with me since my early teens and continues to ruin my life even though I know it has helped me survive some of the worst experiences in my life.
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This is going to sound like a really minor problem, but I'm 13 and can't go to the store 5 minutes away from my house by myself. Even thinking of it makes my heart sink. I can't. I just can't.
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My mom gets mad at me for this, I keep telling her I don't want to; but she tells me I'm 13 and should be able to go to store.
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Has anyone had a similar experience, or does anyone have any suggestions? I don't particularly dislike my job either, outside of having to wake up early - but this has gone on for a couple of years and a couple of different jobs.
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at least before when I kind of flexed my chest muscles they'd have a solid, pectoral shape. but now they're starting to droop and nothing short of losing a few pounds will fix this. i have never had such motivation in my life i want these offmychest
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Their ideology makes no fucking sense. Maybe it's NOT your "shitty genetics", but your awful, ugly, self-entitled whining that doesn't get you laid.
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If you can only get laid if you're an "alpha" male, why am I not a virgin? I'm a 5'1" 95lb boylet with LITERAL breasts, no job, no car, and hacked up ugly teeth, but I've still had several beautiful, intelligent girlfriends. I've had plenty of sexual encounters, too.
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It doesn't always happen, but it's one of the few things I enjoy about getting out of the house. Pound for pound, I think I like it more than dating or being in a relationship! Does anyone else feel the same?
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I'll soon have 20yo. I got kicked out of college for my bad grades, working 32h per week mininal salary at a job I hate, constantly rages when I play video-games. So far, I might've broken 2 mouses, 2 headsets, 2 hard-drives (hitting a laptop hard enough does that), one laptop monitor and just now my fan (no air-conditioning). I hate myself, I know that I'm smart enough to easily pass college, to do something good with my life, but with each failures my rage builds up and I simply end up not trying. Suicide is slowly becoming my easy way out.
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An octogenarian at our church is known for getting free feels when he hugs the ladies. Sunday, I saw him grab a handful of my wife's ass, so I came up behind him and grabbed his junk. He pulled away and looked terrified. I think he had it coming.
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Most people are only here due to being banned from off OffMychest. We are constantly getting post about them gettong banned and what ends up happening is just a circlejerk on how much they hate that sub. I feel like it happens enough in this sub that it warrants a sticky post to clean up sub and have a chance for other posts to come to the front. Just a suggestion
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I woke up at 4:00 am this morning and went on the computer and while listening to music, I dozed off. I was half asleep dreamy like and a thought popped into my mind about how I wanted to send out love and positive energy to anybody hurting mentally or emotionally. So here it is; if you are hurting, I send out positive energy and love to you!
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I uploaded a picture of my face. I don't feel safe using my real name anymore but I still need access to that network. What is the most likely outcome. Will I ever be able to have online friends again?
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When feeling anxious, instead of obvious panic my response is to seize up and slowly shut down, like something tightly grasping my limbs preventing movement, leaving me lazy and exhausted. As you can imagine, this leaves me in a cascade of worry after seeing the non-productivity build up, worsening my performance in various of areas of life and work.
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I have heard of turning that kind of anxiety into a useful sense of excitement towards getting work done but I'm not sure where to start with that. Any help, tips, pointers or other ideas on how to approach this are appreciated.
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13 points and it helped determine my loss, but it was well worth it.
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Also, there's a place in my park where people play board games (mainly chess) in a small little park area. I am not just randomly scrabbling in the middle of the park with strangers watching me.
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As the title says, I'm planning to write a book about how I finally got out of depression. It will be step-by-step and very practical walk through, but it will mostly be based on my personal experiences. However, I want it to be as helpful as possible by hitting as many of the key points and questions people struggling with depression have. Therefore, if you have any questions, please feel free to ask!
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10 years ago your husband raped and sodomized me. He caused a permanent injury, so every time my neck hurts I think about my rape, and it hurts almost every day. Every time I have a hemorrhoid I think of your husband, because the bleeding reminds me of how much he made me bleed. I just thought you should know what kind of man is raising your son. Sincerely, A woman you probably won't believe.
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He swore me to secrecy because he's just the sweetest 7 year old and doesn't want to hurt my sister-in-law's feelings. My SIL is the best mom and one way she shows love is through her cooking. I think he's right and this would hurt her feelings.
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I can't tell anyone IRL, so I'm telling you all. I feel like a million bucks because he likes my cooking!
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This is the longest I’ve gone since October 2015 and I’m so proud of the progress I’ve made. I didn’t think it would be possible to get this far.
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Edit: I didn’t expect this to get any attention! Thank you all so much for your kind words and believing in me.
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After a month of not working and 3 straight interviews, I finally got hired for a competitor of the company I was fired from for my fraternization. To make things even better, within the next few months, I could be promoted to Operations Manager, which just fills me with hope that something good came about all of this heartache.
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When I was around 12 years old I discovered I enjoy wearing female clothing, and it was a dream of mine to one day be able to fully dress up and just enjoy it freely.
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I am 21 now and finally got a private room in college where I can fully dress up and live my dream. Not gay, not trans, not bisexual, I've always been exclusively interested in women. I just like feeling pretty every now and then.
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Because times are tough and not everyone has access to therapy. Perhaps it was a little tongue in cheek, but Reddit gives me a safe space to vent my issues and potentially advise me on how best to deal with things. Thank y’all for being there :)
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i'm paraphrasing an idea of marcus aurelius and would like to hear details of how you use it practically if it's the case. I have known this for a while
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but I could practice it more so to help myself I will try to "program" myself some "cognitive routines" where whenever I feel someone disrespect me or stresses me out some specific thoughts will pop up to my attention. I think my interest in music could work well, here: I could think of what I have in my listening cue at home, promising new albums that possibly will make me feel a bit of a buzz.
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I will try to remember one of the points I try to make in a novel I am writing, about a certain culture I try to help to build, like building oneself with the other to create a truly participative society.
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and the last sentence read: "if you are unable to uphold these terms, please notify our office immediately", which actually made me laugh out loud just imagining myself in a scenario where i'm feeling so low about things that i'm about to go through with it, but oh wait! i need to remember to call my doctor!
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