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2024 has proven unexpectedly good with the S&P 500’s annual gain on course to be one of the best in history
The market has been lifted by a resilient economy, rising earnings and a handful of tech titans. Both the S&P 500 and Nasdaq 100 are up more than 20%, while Nvidia’s stock has tripled. | r/investing | post | r/investing | 2024-11-29 | Z0FBQUFBQm5jYWFyQ3FDam9PMW1RTHgxZFBKNmQ0UXpGc1dJdFZ6VHIyZk8yX0h1RG1PNi1LTXVMaGttOUZrNWhxdWFzOUpkNzVhSVVjcWIyaWRIUWRlZFlOSE80VmVjbHAyZ28xck9ZZGZtR3JZQmRmUUpsaE09 | Z0FBQUFBQm5jYWFzTnVNeUxrSjQ2dUFHSkJtamJDeFZ4UVpPMng0b0w1VFpJQW1JR1RXeVRYS0tlcEdodFFJZDFNek9uSG8zdzlLOVVmd0Y2WTNVOFZiZm9rN2hHQVlQT2Z4cllXRS03UFBJcDluQzVxeEtIYkZxMFUyMUNUOHI0LXR1RVl0Sl9oNVpVMmJQTFNveHA2SGMybHZtNUpxTUVUV0t0dkQ5S016TzUyV3NlUG9fNDhzS2R0aXpsNFQ5R3dVY3BkcGttUVNsQzhYTEgwUlRpYV91T0pRSnJuTWRXdz09 |
Christopher Columbus gets a lot of hate in today's world, but an argument that is often used is that we cannot judge figures from the past according to the moral standards of today.
So I am curious to know how his actions and the way he conducted himself, particularly in finding and colonizing the Americas, would have been seen according to the moral standards of Europe at the time. And do we have records of his contemporaries in Europe passing judgement on his actions from a moral point of view, either positively or negatively? | r/askhistorians | post | r/AskHistorians | 2024-11-29 | Z0FBQUFBQm5jYWFyUF9MaHRYZkEtTTE3dXNzZ3hJSExWX0lmS1hVYTljZGkwQTNKZ3lVUjcyQzZBSG5LNHhfeFhkczhjOWRJQVFPeC1tYnItVGdRT0hqdFZiVk1sSFB4bUE9PQ== | Z0FBQUFBQm5jYWFzSUpVa2xNNFZkV3djM3lIc3JST2laTDNOeE5TQWpzMzdVUlVvQnFsRngwalNBeFM0MFBOWkVFZ2MtQ2g0TmpBeEptaDM1bHloMHFHT1ZGQ0d6V3RESVZnNVBBeWRDWV85WlZwblVoMTBpYzQtTXBOSk5pV3h5bG1YVXhTRFltczNxUk5tQkltSnlIYlc0N2kzaXduYUMxbVp0M2djcms5YmRXRkYzVGxpaWF3Umd3cVUyb293UXhvQ3FnOERYRGhvVWt3RlVzSVRna0FwTGZqbGcwOHgzZz09 |
Obligatory this happened almost 30 years ago. It is time to finally come clean.
Once upon a Time, when I was young and innocent, I may have accidentally caused an incident at school. It was the end of the year, and I wanted to let the teacher know I appreciated her, and, well, I was six. I knew the teachers liked it when we read, so I assumed my teacher would like reading as well. I wanted to get her something that wasn't for kids because I knew that adults don't read kids books except when they're reading them to kids, so I decided to give her one of my mom's books that lived in the basement, forgotten. When my teacher was skeptical about whether she should accept the gift, I reassured her that my mom wanted her to have it. And so, reluctantly, she accepted a Harlequin book.
For those unaware of what that means, I gave my teacher an erotic romance and told her it was a gift from my mother.
There. I've given my testimony. Now the healing can begin.
Tldr: I gave my teacher a porno and told her my mom wanted her to have it | r/tifu | post | r/tifu | 2024-11-29 | Z0FBQUFBQm5jYWFyRnZ5bE0tTkd1WDRZZXlETGF6MzNBRjJvajQxS0UwbzFQaE9CTXJmOWlDckFycmFJWkxQdmVobDN1R1ZyRzYydFhJQjNQNlNueUczVmhKYXloUlZkLWc9PQ== | Z0FBQUFBQm5jYWFzZmZ1bmkzbnpCa0ZkV3JJYU96MjVDcWxnSV9JUndUQ1FaMlFRaFNyZGw5cFREWnFteG56OWJQVGFnYVJQSEpXNG4yWnZlTU5tTUo4Z2VMRVR3REJxQjc0WTQ0Qno4MzE2ajJWVzV6QkhYVmVrdGx3TEZhUERPU1dBWXNUMV9oaGhmVWIzVmNBZHROd2xSbVpBSlU2bkhQTHZyTE9JcnNSck8zWVVWUHItZF9uUWk3ZVVsOUtpNFJpZkdaYlNGbUVa |
Today we went out for lunch with our 2.5 year old. We successfully:
1) Ordered off the kids menu food that she subsequently ate 80% of!
2) Kept her entertained quietly while waiting for the food to arrive
3) She twice asked for the loo, and both trips were successful 💪 (sometimes she’s inclined to get distracted while we’re out)
4) We got to eat all our lunches as well
5) Had a great time in their play area after lunch while we relaxed with coffee
Feeling pretty pleased with ourselves, except now she’s refusing to nap, so anticipating the crash later on! | r/toddlers | post | r/toddlers | 2024-11-29 | Z0FBQUFBQm5jYWFyQUxYNXBrX1ZJc3FWWW1tN2NDaUljUXBkSkRyMnpmWE1RUldqMXVXOUxkZS1IT2Z4NWZPM3V1T0pqXzBTcERBOFJ6TWcxLVUtTmJHeERfMUZlUnllOVh1R2o4U0hicW16MzcxdWdwR0FRNm89 | Z0FBQUFBQm5jYWFzXzBCSzlPdFVfelA3eVMybHc4Q3BSOTBCY3lzbDNNSDkyTXNoUm8zWWcyTHFZRDRXR0VaMEpTYTZPSkZFdzUzQXhHSE14eFdPWFVZU3JRUUxDTVpBZUJ5UHVXX21sRWd4TUE3VFZnODJNWHlkdWRiXzNuV1BUeGFLVGlpcm9TMzdPVkR5bzlZcmtZOHdBcUFNcTlvWHh5SzFSUm1zYVAxTHBTcGpxTmVxVXdFPQ== |
I (25F) have a friend, let's call her Sarah (24F), who’s always been kind of unique. She’s one of those people who prides herself on being "quirky" and "different", and while I get that, sometimes it crosses a line into being rude or inconsiderate.
She will often interrupt people mid-conversation to share her "random" thoughts, even if it’s completely off-topic. She’s also really loud and makes awkward comments about personal things, like loudly asking a couple if they’ve "ever considered an open relationship" at a dinner party or commenting on someone’s weight without any filter.
I’ve talked to her about it in a nice way before, saying that sometimes it feels like she’s not really paying attention to the social dynamics or how others might feel, but she brushes it off with a "I’m just being myself, take it or leave it!"
This weekend, we were at a gathering, and she made a huge scene by loudly criticizing a mutual friend’s new haircut (it was a bad cut, but she didn’t need to say anything). I finally snapped and told her that she’s not quirky, she’s just being rude, and it’s really starting to get on my nerves. She was really upset, said I was trying to suppress her personality and that I don’t appreciate her for who she is. Now, she’s ignoring me, and our friend group is divided.
AITA for calling her out, or should I have just let her continue with her quirky behavior? | r/amitheasshole | post | r/AmItheAsshole | 2024-11-29 | Z0FBQUFBQm5jYWFyUXc0TFVQa2hhcTA1ZlNPUXNCQXdsb0ZBdFcwMFUzRE5SZ3BRV0VLTElXWnkwV2JYZzZnRlN2Mjc3bE52MXhYMUNpeGowMTVMVUZ4dGhIU3FPRW12enc9PQ== | Z0FBQUFBQm5jYWFzTjczbzYwNDI1cm9xU2Voa1FmWW5jUHJ1RXVjTVl6YlZ5bTZjMS1ldldBbi1vSVZyZF9MdG9MdkkxRjFuS3FlUlktQmRvT3pJNzdtUmtIOHFTLW5HZ0lTeHNEZ3EwVHMxS1dpbmh4RHNyaUEzNmFIVFEwVXJFV3REMWhvZHRoM3JnLVZIUWZDQUc2WGNwUlkwQjhPemotZHMzcDJfZnk1NF9wbEVfWGs2VXVwcUtsLWFOX0E1eU5RMnJZdFA0VWVFTVh2WVk0eEk4NF9IeXdYa1dteWFMdz09 |
[https://polkadot.polkassembly.io/referenda/1322](https://polkadot.polkassembly.io/referenda/1322)
As the admin said earlier, there are so many problems with Parallel Fi
And now they got attack. My question is why the community approve for their fault? to gain control | r/polkadot | post | r/Polkadot | 2024-11-29 | Z0FBQUFBQm5jYWFyN3lJOEVqTWFQd3oyUFVqZkY1dHlqcTRFSHpRQWR4VG56QUNXYUtXc0NaSGhzdWEzYWxDNWpudHc4MFJRamZ1dG9UMU9Ma3Vib0h2c3RhRnRFZFY0Umc9PQ== | Z0FBQUFBQm5jYWFzbkNqaUVjbXl3SGtrUjZONHVCejJfRWthZTdnaVFNYjctRXRLN18wMFV3Y0pqdW1jWFJ2U0NleWE4MVpxSW8wekY1ZUVfNmsyY0tvN2VXaHhOVEZzZmduY3lMRUZJSTVMdExhNS1VMjQySUpNTHhhNDl5STRlWFVWLXhaQUlPbEs1WTVOMkVfX3drM1pKamZ3STFXSjZZWVhYU1BSVWtEM2txUXVKcWN2TDJyaXpTdElBaFBBQTNkOUY1d2NzWG00T3hTQ1JUZEJSTDd0VEJlSFF2U25vZz09 |
Most amount I’ve | r/wallstreetbets | post | r/wallstreetbets | 2024-11-29 | Z0FBQUFBQm5jYWFyTmNUNHVHODVnVEtSTFprdTcwamxLNWdLeWRyeTFTVzJIYjlQNGt4LU95QXFrUzdGTFE4M205MDcxbi1mMXNLUjVWUXFCdUlLNmFaQjJyUk04R3NvOWhpSkphZnVrM2l4RTl6UnRCRjVQM289 | Z0FBQUFBQm5jYWFzVGFMYlNRTjdQN3doN1hONDFUMk9QVWI1VWcyTDVwTjJ0WTc0RlNDYl9idUF5LWp4Z2ljUnc3amFjZ3YxWjBYUWw0V2hlM2p3ZTdjWFpWTW45RjMwYzVoMHZCZTBoSWRjdlNiVi1XOEpSZEplemU5bER0cVpBVWFFQ2hfNzZwLWl5OWp5LU5uN2JTVGxNUmZEMGdCbEF4VnFlSW16OWdNV2Z1UWRFSTRnY3AwPQ== |
Hey guys, I'm building an "Amazon" for Cardano for 13 months now. Which will bring a +500bill market in ADA. Help me with a vote on Catalyst F13: Concept 🙏
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[https://auditocean.com/](https://auditocean.com/) | r/cardano | post | r/cardano | 2024-11-29 | Z0FBQUFBQm5jYWFyTzJMaWhtUVlEN3ByOUE1ajJ6SWhjbWhSY1pkUGkwUkhBcURiQTFmUVJQeHlNZHdTNjFHZ0RqTF9JQmh4YlQ4T3RYWWxqQkw5dC14ZGpVQ0xUelZFQUE9PQ== | Z0FBQUFBQm5jYWFzaG9meGluMWhLeFBPczBfbkdYaEJ4YmlEN2NtNWFEZmwxdmxPZ1pOVlBZWFA2V2V6clpOOE9hSl9qVFZHUnZJZFpSQVo2YVY3eFhPUGhqREo4alR6QkwwZHYwTm1iZTUtX1JFYXp6NXFLd250SUZpMy1RdnViLWlsazVTVkRuRUg2RHp5cWg1YWRmWnpwSHNod3EyS2w2bUZKemszTjltbUFtMHBMc21HWnJJdzRIdFViYmpaWjlXOWwxUm5jVlhzeGhSZE45eWdBUXZnOVZkd3k2U09tUT09 |
[https://blackholegifts.com/collections/black-friday-2024](https://blackholegifts.com/collections/black-friday-2024) | r/askscience | post | r/askscience | 2024-11-29 | Z0FBQUFBQm5jYWFySnh6STJTQm8yS1hESk1GSWR1R0pyUlNZSllvQ3dMQXhRd2U1TGxJUUVmSkJsdkJpWE9iYy1vOF8yOGxWUlFxOEZyME40UEgwWUJWNHVnRFhoc0J4eXc9PQ== | Z0FBQUFBQm5jYWFzWjc3QzB3UlFCeXNtLWJxbEZta21wR1BLTzY1Tmc2cm5wbUJnbzVqN1FSRHdraFJkVEF5Rkt3b045bGhPbU0wSVlBbDVRVWFnc01SYnZqZ3BOUkFCVXZOQkNCVW54RzFsdkNoRGJRUDcwVjBBWldVQmZ3NFI1UXBncHdLUEx4NXNsQVRKbnk1aG9sMUtLdDlENmgyTDZfS242cFZ0SnRTM0pCUnNZT0gtZzY4a3p1eVFnYm5za053SXhNQUdaZE1JR3Rfb192Zjl3VDdFb3J3UVdCRjdmQT09 |
hello, i am new to this subreddit, and psychedelics in general. i have only ever done molly once, and recently started getting into shrooms. when i first started doing them a couple months ago, my experiences on them were very “vibey” and “fun”. mostly about hanging with my friends, listening to music, watching funny movies, etc. my trips were like this for a while, until very recently. a couple days ago i had my first trip that i would consider a “bad trip”. it wasn’t super traumatic, and i wasn’t on an insane amount (i think around 1.2-1.5), but i had my first experience where i actually thought i might be going crazy.
the experience started normal and fun, until later on in the trip when i decided to go upstairs alone to roll up a joint. as i sat down on my couch, i felt a presence in the room with me and looked up. as i looked up i saw a christmas dog decoration looking right at me, it wasn’t really moving or morphing or anything, but i couldn’t stop looking at it. i felt like i just knew that there was an entity in it that was watching me. this is when i did something that i never had done before and kinda thought would never happen- i tried to talk to it.
i said hello to it, and i could just feel that it acknowledged me back. i tried asking it questions about who it was and what it was doing, i had a strange feeling that it was trying to answer my questions, and next thing i knew i was responding, “uh huh, yeah”, like i knew what it was telling me. i then realized that i didn’t even know what it was saying and i started having very strange vivid realizations.
these realizations were things like,
-i can learn to understand this being and it is important for me to
-this being has been with me through many trips when i don’t realize it
-this being cares about me and wants me to be better
-there may psychedelic experiences that are very uncomfortable, but they are important
after this all happened i was super overwhelmed and decided to just go sit in the shower and think. this is when i felt the presence again. sitting in the shower, i couldn’t identify where this being was, but i knew it was around me, and sometimes it even felt like it was the voice inside my head. i was trying so hard in the shower to communicate with it, and it felt like it was trying hard to communicate with me too. i have long curly hair, and it almost seemed as if it was trying to show me portals within the curls of my hair that i needed to get into, and i was trying to tell it that i couldn’t get in. i finally realized/decided that i just hadn’t taken enough to full communicate with it. i said goodbye to the being, felt it give salutations, and got out, and that was pretty much the end of that because i was scared and just wanted to watch youtube.
this experience was very weird for me, mostly because of the fact that i didn’t think things like this actually happened. i always thought people were just sort of exaggerating their experiences, but now i feel like i understand.
this experience has also made me think a lot about the stigmas of psychedelics making you insane. i realized that i have to be careful with who i tell these experiences to because they could freak out someone and make them think that i am insane. hell, i’m freaked out about it and am thinking that maybe i AM insane.
the point of this post is mostly just to share this experience and see if anyone has similar experiences. after this trip i have a whole new outlook on shrooms and psychs in general and am really excited to start exploring the depths of them. wish me luck, and this probably won’t be my last time here. | r/psychonaut | post | r/Psychonaut | 2024-11-29 | Z0FBQUFBQm5jYWFycjlQVXRLemxsZFd2TERLZUpmcnZFWHVWaDVKZmFvTHV4OXFMc3lUX29oV1FxY2hxZE1HSkdpTFRZQllWdGVpaWVtUTRudmJTQWpDT0swZXVMaXpBVDRCbkpGSnVPUWVwdmJuSXpWMk9xUms9 | Z0FBQUFBQm5jYWFzOVRWU0FMeUZsQ0dnX3hsTnItbmxfSTJlTXhNRGNUNlN1Ymd3cnVkVm9WanlaSC1iRWduaDgxemxaQXBONzQ3UGxhcXdZUDNuMVNpTXU4SEFBV1Jjd2owci00OUNDMlFZSEx4eHUtaURfMlNEa2xpTllYOU9JZmQyQ193RlBEZVVuaHBhLUpsV1ZiTVlTbm8yTzhEQ2lrSER0T1BVZ0F5aVNiRmRTZEF2QVZqTU95Z3pqRG52WEdvSWUyc0Rwa0pjNlE3ZjdnYUwyRTFuRUs1TW1DRnlPZz09 |
I am on the younger side, and I have noticed how most literature conversations are based on "classic novels" or books that became famous after the 1980s.
My question for the older readers, what was reading culture like before the days of Tom Clancy, Stephen King, and Harry Potter?
From the people I've asked about this irl. The big difference is the lack of YA genre. Sci-fi and fantasy where for a niche audience that was somewhat looked down upon. Larger focus on singular books rather than book series.
Also alot more people read treasure Island back in the day compared to now. I'm wondering what books where ubiquitous in the 40s- 70s that have become largely forgotten today?
| r/books | post | r/books | 2024-11-29 | Z0FBQUFBQm5jYWFyUGs2TXpCbVhLLWo1SGhYN1NWc0ozdW1vc0tUWm5zc21jQUNqY3F4bUFxVTNtZ25MS2FqTE1RdFNYWEdwQ2xQVkJPSXh5UG1GSkJXbVJTUTZlWkEwLUE9PQ== | Z0FBQUFBQm5jYWFzeXlyTDdaeEhlR0xYaDVJbVBzWHRFRTlBbGNYaUlpbTFVSW9mbFgzVHR1SDhvRUlMRUZWZjFoaHFlajZSdkludjk5aTNvMVJoZXFqTjRpQ29vOG1pNVdHcGxPY3d6UnVyUjc1ajY5aUJDTlluSWZPalRrNnBFX2JkMG5VdEpqb3VRRWxtRzJEdEU2SUZyYVNha0hXQUVCa0IxaHpSRVREVjlDN3lvWXlfZmlnPQ== |
My (32f) Mother (60f) hosts Thanksgiving dinner at her house every year. It’s a small event, with my parents, me, my brothers family and my SILs family attending. We avoid family quarrels by implementing a strict “no politics” rule and trying our best to be civil. I should probably mention that we are not a particularly close-knit family. We rarely see each other beyond these events since my Brother lives in South Africa and I travel a lot due to my work. Thanksgiving is important to my mom since it’s one of the rare times we’re all together.
Anyway, the main problem I have with my mother is her constant critique of me. She has a habit of making passive-aggressive comments about my life choices, from my career to my lack of children to the way I dress. I’ve addressed this with her multiple times, but she doesn't really seem aware of it. My father claims it is just her way of fussing and expressing that she cares. It does hurt though, because my brother is never criticised in the same manner. I cannot entirely fault her for her criticism, since I did majorly mess up my life a few months ago (depression) and it has affected her opinion of me negatively. It does not excuse the way I acted, but I just wanted to explain why I left. By the time we finished dinner, I was a bit prickly because of some of her commentary.
I made a cake for dessert. I was explicitly put in charge of it and no one specified what exactly I should make, so I opted for Maple Cheesecake. I did my best and I think it looked okay. Mum normally makes pumpkin pie, but I really hate pumpkins (they make me gag), so I thought perhaps we could try something new. As I was bringing out the cheesecake, my mom eyed it somewhat warily and announced that she’d decided to make the usual pie as well. This caught me off guard. I asked why she didn’t tell me beforehand, and she said something like, "Well, we figured you’d do your own thing, so I thought it was best to have a backup." She went on to cut the pie and serve it to everyone, instructing me to leave the cheesecake in the kitchen. When someone asked to try my dessert, she said "lets not mix too many flavors at once," which just felt passive-aggressive. I know it's immature for an adult to get this upset over a triviality, but I just (politely) refused as she was handing me a slice of pie, retrieved my coat and left. People were calling after me I think, but by that point I was crying for some reason and it would have been too humiliating to have an emotional outburst in front of everyone for no real reason.
My mom just texted me saying that it was incredibly rude and immature of me to leave like that, especially on Thanksgiving. My brother also sent me a message saying Im acting irrationally. I feel horrible for leaving so abruptly, especially because my parents are getting older and we are already not close. Something about my mother seems to turn me into a neurotic teenager and I hate it. | r/amitheasshole | post | r/AmItheAsshole | 2024-11-29 | Z0FBQUFBQm5jYWFyMFBNZVBRZVdSZEtfMEMxbi13QXhSbDlwenM4QnpNNjEyamlYLVFfSmhHdDdCNXJnRDVkSFRwbmh5dklldm1EUFh5eVZNaW5Tdl9FTlAyd3lpMWw5Uk5kQW5xcmxIU3JURjlZc2lQTlNhbEk9 | Z0FBQUFBQm5jYWFzSXlFYlJiWk9QZ0lQVmVSLWkzUEJOSGZTRzJaVWNNOW9YSU5QQUNsUUQ5TkVzd2RJSG5vVllobkZYVGxUVEJLLVNoU19IRlJKclBVazl6LTdGUk5TZlU3aXh1SVczUXhVZTZkZGdUV09PTkR4dE05ZS1xTjFfd0Qyei1UNF9LS2I4ZlFSQk9xVjFSMnNiOGtjaVFFcmFIN0hGLWxnd19iZTQzTktXQ3JCbUVLOV9sNWROU2hMdUVGNEs0N1hyVEczbmJzdGVOV1UtbmRqRkktbWd1UExHQT09 |
My brother is on the hype train for XRP. Says it’s the ONLY coin capable of big money transfers between governments and I’m just not seeing how this isn’t patently bullshit. | r/cardano | post | r/cardano | 2024-11-29 | Z0FBQUFBQm5jYWFyZG02dnpaTHBXbDdtb0o4d2k4WkNlYXJFMUpTM2JuU2piLWFOdG5ReFREZGxZWXBEOF9EbGVUUGxnM1lFWENKWlRWX2dwbWwyZ1BNbXBVV2NMMkFCbXdrRHloN0d3Tkk0WG1Ga2JYMkp3U0U9 | Z0FBQUFBQm5jYWFzeXRGeU1SV09WSHYyZnFWdDVyR1EyTldjb1dldEVXVlVPbTNCcGJhRnhDbzhESEJUTVNEM29ncEg5Q3F5YmJMbWlqYkROZjdnRGQwWXRDYnVHcGU3Wl95b3RmSUZkMnhrSFdua25Relp2VWtKYWlsQ1JPNTRPYzFTUjRFRjZDSkRtVWpGMFNPbjY0TjBzSXZDalgzS0l1OEhPamMyRm05dkJzNWkzMTQ3UWdFPQ== |
My best friend "Emma" passed away from cancer two years ago. We were like sisters—she was my maid of honor, I was hers. When she was diagnosed, I was her primary caregiver, helping her through chemo and spending every possible moment with her.
Her husband "Mike" was a different story. During her treatment, I discovered he was having an affair with a coworker. Emma knew but was too sick to deal with the drama. After she died, I confronted Mike, telling him he was a disgrace. He begged me to keep it from the kids (9 and 6).
Last week, Mike called asking me to regularly babysit. Apparently, his affair partner is now his live-in girlfriend (she's some AI art influencer with 50k followers who posts these [dressed-up cats](https://www.gentube.app/profile/user_2oPnWl5AN4sVkSAf8WppazzjTAj?_cid=ja,r,1129,agf) and babies you see everywhere), and they want "free time." He had the audacity to say Emma would have wanted me to help "for the kids."
I told him absolutely not. The thought of babysitting while he lives with the woman who betrayed Emma makes me sick. Some say the kids are innocent and need support, others think I'm justified.
Mike is now telling everyone I've abandoned Emma's children. My own family is pressuring me, saying I'm being vindictive.
Am I the asshole? | r/aitah | post | r/AITAH | 2024-11-29 | Z0FBQUFBQm5jYWFyVVg2b3cxTWRpbjlsdGJwSUFXYVZvTHUzVFNqRVdkMWJlSUkyNVdrWEtDdlpPWlJDMmZxQVhTanA3TzFNSVBJMFFhcllMVHducXA2YXpwWjNyUzdrRjdwMW0wRFVCTzY5RHR1SURLU05sMHc9 | Z0FBQUFBQm5jYWFzTXRwMy1PLTlSeGYyOXFhc0I4MWJvTFlPLWY1Qmh2VG9SNG9YQm5QNEtaUk1MWWxvR0J3WmhGdVJ2TTdHRGwyLW9WZUhLMUN6TVRMZDYyZTl5RU5hUnZfR24tVlFkaXVBOG5ONHhONXVseEJSejFwS3RzYXJ3eERKYTZxX3ctQU8tTGhQOXRjeWUwMVBoYXNfU01WMUpqTmVNdVNyVEFGRkJXOFN1aXJTMWNaaEdvbTlZTWpUanNwT3dzZWN4eDhG |
When I was in sophomore English class in high-school (1999) I had a first year English teacher. She was very sweet and cared a lot. We connected through music. She showed me U2 and I told her about a homeless schizophrenic musician who self recorded songs and I had a mix tape I was listening to. Well we decided on a cd swap. I got u2 best hits and she got Wesley Willis, the dredgehayt critically aclaimed selections.
I really enjoyed Sunday Bloody Sunday. When we returned our copies back to each other I mentioned the songs I enjoyed.
She thought the WW cd was intriguing, however she did not feel it was appropriate for a 16 year old to share a cd with her that had songs on it like
“My mother smokes crack rocks”
“Fuck you “
“Suck a cheetahs dick “
“Suck my dogs dick “
And the penultimate “pop that pussy”
Oh yea…..probably shouldn’t have done that
TLDR: lent my high school English teacher a cd by a homeless schizophrenic that wrote questionable lyrics. | r/tifu | post | r/tifu | 2024-11-29 | Z0FBQUFBQm5jYWFyaFdKeFY0Y2JvUXVEMl9aX21tbzdHTDdNVVpuZEViajVDZFRKdURDMTE4VnV3WDF3Nm1pUGVIR19jNlQ0aGg4OGdNVXQ2NEk1T3NqR28xYnVnNFh6MVE9PQ== | Z0FBQUFBQm5jYWFza215VnN5dk43UXpVVnc4cXBacXFyb210c2QyMlpiUW5oYlM1UlhqZmNmV1NLV18zcDBDS3djWW1vWjFoSW82ZTNFSWxCODk4U1otWmJMVmtQWE5pOF9KeFZEZTdSSkF3NGxrUUpxZG9JUEhNcjU3dFVWT2dZak1Uejk2TmpMSU11VnVDYUlWNVk3TkswM2JLQWdvQXFBbXZacUZBVHFUSmZsbkNMRVZYQ1o2a05pbEFEQVJQc09mNkRGU2l2SnNsdktOa2h3TjdPb3hEUU5jVnE2azZBZz09 |
I’m 9 days postpartum and my body is slimming down pretty fast. My baby was both tiny and premature and maybe it’s genetics or maybe because my son is my first baby but my body is reverting back quickly, I just have a ton of stretch marks. I decided to take a peek at my c-section tape and made a comment to my husband that my body is slimming down good, and I just look very bloated now: he made a face and I asked him what was that face for, he told me I still look pregnant and to try to put some oil on my stretch marks because as I stated before I have a ton of stretch marks now. Even if it is true, it still hurt my feelings, I was feeling really proud of my progress and body but now I just want to cover myself up.
Edit: Thank you all for your support, I truly appreciate all the advice that was given! I do not have family I can lean on entirely right now but I’m trying my best to make other arrangements for support. Baby has been kicking my butt lol; I’m still trying to get my footing in terms of that so sorry if my edit comes off a low energy I’m running on 4 hours of sleep and 2 cupcakes! <3 | r/mommit | post | r/Mommit | 2024-11-29 | Z0FBQUFBQm5jYWFyelhXOWdIV2dwc3pBbW9RSGhBOS1SRzlSUXJhSmJETHYzZ2NMQlJoWHd1R1FWYmFwaWo0bWUtT3pQTkt5Y2xGVVM2RFNLbGdaajVDTWI4ZFJtRFI4eHc9PQ== | Z0FBQUFBQm5jYWFzMUkwNG1uSzVQMXJjTUxoVzJNemZRY3VsblhvdnoyMmUtS0ZIak9rVjF0XzJVQnVnUmZLNlhhaHU4YzRuMUxWdjhocjY0QVVRUk85a3NnVWYtejNCclN6SUtMdWR6b2szNXUzQXFiWlZwZlVuQWJoa3YyU0xRLUdFd0JZWThDVS1UOXhyZlRRQ2QtNEhNWkh6czh1NE5TNS1Gal9iRlpIRDNtLUpFb2JzOVZmQWl6MGE4VGV4Sm1VNFZ3RE1iMUs1YVVacHRROGJlbGtQVktEeWNUbHFxdz09 |
Just saw a video of a woman with a newborn who was schooled by her mother.
The woman chastised her husband for, in her opinion, holding their baby the wrong way. After her husband had left, I think to go to work, her mother, a nurse and mother herself of 4, told her “don’t become the expert in that baby.” She went on to explain that if the woman continued to correct her husband on everything he did with the baby then it would undermine his confidence and cause him to constantly defer to her for everything having to do with it. Then she’d be the constant go to for the toddler. She’d be the one to take care all of the school things, doctors appointments, etc., all the way until the child moved out. She’d be the one with 100% of the responsibility of running the household.
Her mother told her that her husband would forever be doing things that didn’t necessarily jibe with the way that she would do them but that didn’t mean they were wrong, just different. She’d needed to chill out and let her husband be an equal parent so that, in the end, he would be. That would take a lot of the child rearing onus off of her.
This is great advice. | r/daddit | post | r/daddit | 2024-11-29 | Z0FBQUFBQm5jYWFyZGNsMjNKZGZmOVRmT1FpUGk1VXdtTTdRQXN2WHNkUktzY25pTXcwcUNndFF2Ni1Bb0VtQjJHNzZrRUtkelRGYXA0ZUQ2T25KemRydGVIQlBrMEpjYUE9PQ== | Z0FBQUFBQm5jYWFzNE9YamVhaVpuMDhaVVRUYk9memNob3lIdTVKRU02c1RWYzcyQmRua0ZFY3lHRUFmY1BfTnVmb1VZQU1XS2ZIQW5jUUVGOTlhbnZqTG5SUTh2Qkdra0JYR01zd0ltUnpzYm1OWWZjVmhLZWdTTF93T2hOb1dJZHJmVDJiZGpCM2JVRmxaN280SmRLSFJ5WUM2U21tMVZwUG5UU3piMjZyNFFCZjJNUEFQMGVrZ1FtbW9EZ29BeHdKcnI4RmdqTDVJ |
Hello again! I just wanted to start by saying thank you all for your judgments on my last post. I read every comment and gave each perspective some thought. Ultimately you guys helped me gain the confidence to stand up for myself and ask for our robot back!
I included my text conversation with my brother Chris in the comments of my last post. To summarize, I asked as politely as I could for our mopping robot back as well as stated the reasonings why it belonged to us. Chris refused to see reason and pretty much said he would be cutting me out of his life if I kept bringing this up.
My wonderful BF couldn't sit back and let him be disrespectful to us anymore. He had his own conversation with Chris, which for privacy reasons cannot be shared. BF ended up taking some of your guys advice and threatened to reveal specific information to our family if our robot was not returned on Thanksgiving. This was last Thursday, so he had one week to make a decision.
After a quiet week I was preparing myself to drop a bomb on family dinner. But then, I went out to start warming up my car Wednesday night and there was a box on my front step. I didn't order anything and as I picked up the box noticed it wasn't sealed.
GUYS OUR ROBOT FRIEND FOUND HIS WAY HOME!
I guess Chris decided that a mopping robot was not worth ruining his reputation with our family. He will not be bothering us anymore, and we will be low/no contact from now on.
Now a positive from all this drama! BF and I are utilizing our new home monitoring cameras to watch our pets. Our dogs and cats activities while home alone are so entertaining it's brought us a lot of joy to check in on them. Family photo will be posted in comments of pets and robot!
Have a great holiday season everyone! | r/amitheasshole | post | r/AmItheAsshole | 2024-11-29 | Z0FBQUFBQm5jYWFyTzNhcnc4R3Y2YUs5ZGdKNTJaOXB5cGhucGY5STF4N1Rnb0swVmpNek54TWJUQjFnQV90Ry1CYXJqb0hPOEpFaTJYS2Zvb1U4RnluUGRDMmFjV2d3NmRhdk9qaFRTZ0IzQVVSdFVMU284S3M9 | Z0FBQUFBQm5jYWFzckw2QThteVM0SE1rOHY3QkV6RmtxRk4tczJmWkFSc0lfMGJmS2ZvOG83V1ZDaG9sblZPYWp2eHhUMUhua29oeXdXLTRaYmZ6Q200SUF6WUFnMU5sZ1VoNUR4RlZNVDlqRHdxRFBaM3Z4eE5sMFg3U0VjMHZURUVPd0drSk45UjdBWnFDRnQyRUs5dm9Gb1NJem1zWURtdGhHcDZ5YWxVWTBNLU5FVHliRG9RZkFJU1NpRGkwTnpDMW8tSHQ2ZG14SjNzTmsyNHBHVFFMQklqcUg2eXpLdz09 |
I could not find a single video in youtube that analyzes current market structure for FIL in terms of Fibonacci retracement, from which I could have an idea what to expect from FIL this bull cycle.
Would appreciate an analysis based price prediction for FIL. | r/filecoin | post | r/filecoin | 2024-11-29 | Z0FBQUFBQm5jYWFyVk05a3hxVTluNnItZUJ4OTMtUXNwREs1M0NMZ09JaEZzMVptZWthTjhUVkZKZjFvbC1ISE8zRXplcGo0RlZWdFYwVjE0X2xQNWtzZU50Sjg3emVCTlNjQ1phTF83T2k2Q2JxMEY3TG5jR0E9 | Z0FBQUFBQm5jYWFzZDA0SHZMb3J3cU5JWElsMEJVV3B6SkFWOXloUXZYbVhqOUNrUWotU1pOUHpVZ182dXQ5eWhlWHQyMGVDWHJUR25lZDhDcDA1TG1uY0pobXp3V3k2S1FCUkhqeV9SSlE1VXA3NzhfdGx0ekpIMzE3dVBTYUJNLTROWF9oM0VMcHRFOVlmZUh6NGlqdTZQZGJpN2JtdkFUTEpRYWxrYS10YVY1NzB5VFFyT0o4cEN5WW15YU5YRmg1OEVEMTJBZ2d6 |
UPDATE:
I've found and hired a plumber who is vehemently anti-Trump. This time, the vetting process included why I dismissed the previous contractor and why I'm unwilling to work with someone who supports rape, criminality, con-men, traitors and people who have openly admitted to finding their own daughter sexually attractive. I'll save you the long, drawn-out details and minutiae of the conversations, but I'm 100% confident these guys did not vote for Donny Diapers.
I have not heard from the previous contractor since the day I dismissed him from the job sight. However, I have heard through the grapevine that he is fuming about the loss of the job and the time he invested.
Thank you for all the love and hundreds of messages showing your appreciation for standing up for what is right.
Most of the other messages I've seen have been full of ignorance, cognitive dissonance, and unbelievable mental gymnastics to deny, change, or obfuscate the truth. Most of the comments claiming ITAH were so laughably cope or shockingly clownish they don't even deserve a response.
I will continue to cut out and ostracize any MAGA gobblers I can from my life.
You chose to vote for and support a rapest, a con-man, a fraudster, a felon, a cheat, a loathsome degenerate who openly denigrates our military unless they bend the knee to him. Someone who has declared,
"You'll never need to vote again after I win."
"I'll be a dictator on day one."
"I'd be justified in terminating all rules, regulations, and articles, even those found in the constitution."
If you voted for Trump, it says a lot about you, and I will continue to refuse to hire, spend my money, or time with anyone so utterly loathsome.
I recently canceled a six-figure plumbing job because the plumber I was looking at hiring flew the Trump flag in his truck after the election.
I have a large plumbing job I'm trying to do for a cannabis farm. It requires a ton of work to be done, but especially running plumbing for the plants, feed room, etc.
I have had 6-7 meetings with the guy going over the project in detail. Dosing systems, in particular, are complicated and require significant planning to get right.
Unfortunately, after seeing his support for Trump, I decided that doing business together wouldn't work. As a veteran, anyone who voted for Trumo is spitting in my face and betrays everything I stand for. It's not a matter of political disagreements, it's values and morals. I do my best in life not to be a rank hypocrite, and so as soon as I saw that he was a Trump cultist, I told him it wouldn't work.
He was ofcourse extremely angry and threatened to sue. I told him he was more than welcome to file suit and that no contract had been signed. I also told him I would file a counter suit to recover legal fees for filling a frivolous suit.
Meanwhile, I've also found out several of his workers are, in fact, undocumented. I wish I could say I was surprised, but MAGA and functional intelligence are not things you find together, ever.
AITAH, sure, I'm willing to bet tons of MAGA sycophants will say, I am, but frankly I couldn't care less. I do everything possible to make sure my time and money doesn't go towards supporting facism/facists.
| r/aitah | post | r/AITAH | 2024-11-29 | Z0FBQUFBQm5jYWFyZHhVeUJXLWRCcnlmYkJCTF9JTTk1UTBEb09wQmlnYTZ2eVE2Mll4bjNhRGd5b3ZpOW1YckQ5RkJOTVJIZ0JoaFoyWnhiMGtuaUgxRm5pcVFKNW9wRDB0V3FjTHlKcFRHR3NtZ3pjRTBYQlU9 | Z0FBQUFBQm5jYWFzVXY3RF9CSUJBLW5pTS1hT0N6SFB2TjdHOXhnVE1OcHNtMUtVemZNbTUwU3EzeFVQeE1nNXg5WDlXRU05bU1OeENZcFJ1bzRwTDd6bFdSeWo2b2t0NjNMNGFFWjdEUmZ6RDExeGRHY0xoRnNfZGxtTlVKT2hTUHdrWUY0V284cFJ3TVN6dVduUTY1MVBwMjBtaldXWmp2MDBxU1ZlcDhqX3BNcGNTVGNZTVFlWTFLX1RqcW0zSXpXbkMwVWJEU2st |
For all I know, I may be making a huge deal out of nothing, but it's frustrating me, so I want to see if there's a good way forward.
Essentially my wife and I have been living together for three years and married for two. My wife has been on her own for most of her life. So, she's used to taking care of her and nobody else.
For example. I'll cook dinner for us and put plates out on the table. When the food is done, I'll grab a fork, knife, and napkin for each of us, open the fridge and ask her if she wants something to drink. She'll inform me that she already got something. I'll walk over to the table to find that she got herself a drink, cutlery, and a napkin but didn't put anything down for me or offer me a drink. If she cooks, it's about 50-50 if she'll give me silverware and never gives me a drink.
She always gets up early on weekends, whereas I like to sleep in a little bit as I'm up early every weekday. Usually 40 - 60 minutes after her. I will wake up hungry and ask my wife if she wants me to order breakfast sandwiches. She, usually sitting there with a cup of coffee, will inform me that she's already made breakfast for herself and is no longer hungry, but to feel free to get something for myself.
She makes a single cup with a K-Cup so there's no pot to get another cup from for myself, everything to make breakfast is in the sink and wet, and there's no indication that she even thought for a moment that I would want to eat breakfast too.
I've, multiple times, tried to approach this in different ways. If I'm direct, she keeps cutting me off by apologizing and saying she didn't do it deliberately, but nothing changes. If I do it in an aloof lighthearted way, "Oops, I guess you didn't realize I would be eating too?" She gets upset, asks if I want her to make me breakfast, and says she doesn't want me upset all day. If I say nothing, she assumes I'm sad, says she doesn't want me to be angry at her, and says that I'm making a big deal over nothing.
We have, overall, a very good marriage. We support each other, we have the same goals, and our division of labor and chores works very well. I know that sounds very business like, and maybe I'm not describing it well, but the issue is a very small part of our marriage. Not worth throwing everything away over, but enough that it bothers me and no matter how I bring it up, nothing changes.
I feel like in so many interactions that we have, my first thought is to make sure she is taken care of as well as or better than I am. Her first thought is to make sure that she is taken care of and I am not even an afterthought. I feel like I have to remind her that I exist some days. At the same time, without going into to much detail, I am neurodivergent and I may be creating a giant nothing in my head.
Is there a good way to communicate with her that this hurts me without her feeling like I'm being dramatic? I don't want to start not doing for her because that's contrary to my nature and I feel like it's going to create resentment on both sides. I had a college girlfriend break up with me when I pulled back and began matching what I perceived to be her effort in our relationship because she said I wasn't trying anymore.
Tl;Dr I take care of my wife and myself every time I do something. My wife worries about herself and leaves me to fend for myself. No matter how I broach this, the behavior does not change. | r/relationship_advice | post | r/relationship_advice | 2024-11-29 | Z0FBQUFBQm5jYWFycm4yamtYb1RSbGU4VFBqYV94UVNKSkpNcnAxS1NYMzJFQ0xQc3dqczJWMzZ0NlZpb0pGUWVaQm1QWjVMZ2FzWWZCZjJ1R0MyNlVSVThoc0VtZmFLbmxmNWhBQXFPOWJjOVd3U3V4OXk4cnc9 | Z0FBQUFBQm5jYWFzTWZtcUdfazV1c0d4ejJsMi15aXJwMmU0XzFPcE9fY3R1a29wZzBqRUxET1djXzM5WHRLTG43bXdISklKaGlEUHphSWMtTmEtd3R4N3pSVEZQWFpfRTBkUG5hbmQxMkdnblYyRVMzNEEzRnJ6Qk1xeEVhV2M0bV9QQXh5a1FrRXA2bE9kbkxqY3pIWHJJbHA1ZExMcGFjTUk2VXNNN3NoQmNlVnltZlY4bDRoMXR6ZnpZQUJ2VmZmdzdVbGZsXzBpSjZMY0drOENQa0xPYXcxUFdrOWlNZz09 |
Hello all,
I just wanna clear my doubts and it’s been really getting to me. I know if this guy tried to cash out all at once it will make the coin go to zero but if he did this in smaller clips will it have the impact ? I guess the price impact would be lesser ?? Also does the fact that although locked liquidity was around 10mil at the point of this post but does the fact that volume for 24rs was over 90 mil help in anyway ?
Can someone explain to me if I hit 7 figures and liquidity is around same how do I cash out to my maximum value ? | r/solana | post | r/solana | 2024-11-29 | Z0FBQUFBQm5jYWFya3BZQVVqRUVrYVFwUWhyVTdTa20xS2NVQU1rX0xJa2JCc2pJSVVnMGZ5bjdTTlRhdU9yOWlUbWNYMlo5V0drZjN5OGVyUW9sSEM0UTd4OHNyaU9uV3c9PQ== | Z0FBQUFBQm5jYWFzUlRzRUFWWVhRdDQ2RFU1UzVsZGhmYVVYcWVyQUpnS0haaG9MQWMzcmtjemtqbUpBSm51c0pDMjkyZUFCbDZWZXhSNEZmWTlTR2NkNEYtOHRGVTIzQVljRTAxM3lYWlUyVXJUaVBsQ2xIQldGYjYzemxxSW9aZlBMOHBzMWxfbmVXd2hnX01aeFlBVjAzcFo5TEhFMnNUbU1KakloLWZreHdHUEo0eTlKeVRJU2ZteEZWUDF1YkJPSkJ1bWhsWUxZRkhJQWtyenF0Ukg2b2VvakRQdm5FUT09 |
Was out and drinking heavily Wednesday night. Ended up bumping into a classmate who I’ve actually had a crush on for a bit. We talked for a bit then went our separate ways. Later, in my infinite drunken wisdom, I DM’d her my number and asked her on a date and she never answered.
Realized that was an awful idea the next morning and deleted everything. It said she didn’t view anything, but I did send an apology afterwards (which she also hasn’t answered). Going through an awful spiral of worst case scenarios (being labeled a creep, getting in trouble at school) and cant believe I was so dumb. Dreading going to class Monday and seeing her as well.
Tldr: Drunk DM’d classmate asking her on date and she never answered, no idea what she is thinking. | r/tifu | post | r/tifu | 2024-11-29 | Z0FBQUFBQm5jYWFyTFVFLU1SUldsVmVKZW82ekdwMjgtXzZvRjNLREpadHdsUDRvYjQ0bkR1cU5wMkpCb0RBSm9qUDE5bUFwel90dDdSR0xwTHFjS1JoV2RueVQyUHBKNFE9PQ== | Z0FBQUFBQm5jYWFzRXF2c0dvdTBrSVRzNUtxdWhPc2hrM2d2WGFxcjlZbTUyaERBSF9SNy1McDlMQTZXM0JZZ1ZKMl9QOUVDVElIMkFpWVVlV1dqUGxMcGlVUW9BUHpoWmxOd19pTGo4MUVmbHVtZUZxcnVGSmhTQ05GZlo5R241S1VlT2gxU1NVd3VVRUVrbWxyX2NsZkxaekZ4OTZqb2ZPYmhuT1RpUWZwYkMwNGpyTmRZX0JRbVczM1VaUFVBSmh2TGpxZUJ3cjY3 |
There’s nothing to do at my parents’ house, the town is not particularly kid-friendly, my parents aren’t very active, and we’re two hours outside of our normal time zone. For what we paid to travel, we could have gone to Disney World where little one could have just hung out with Mickey and his crew.
Not traveling on holidays again any time soon… | r/toddlers | post | r/toddlers | 2024-11-29 | Z0FBQUFBQm5jYWFyTkJGQ191aXJUTzQ2TUw1Z0FXTG95QW44NVNTNWxXRjVDXzZaeVFlTjZfT2NZd0pQRGoxQTYxXzUwVVBuTFNIUGRnV29yRFhPY0JfN2VjVHFGNkFiWk5ET2lNUElxWmhISHp4VU04V1dtTTA9 | Z0FBQUFBQm5jYWFzdTR3Sl9ZTkU1ZGhWUDV3dThOSldNZDNVQXhyMGhWUzJiQVlhN0hXcHltRFhRRHExSmF5NThOVGFkNm41d0ZrUmZ2YUJqMmRZeFg4emFoY0R2VDJNTS1DZGRwYWNLZVJ1WXpyc3NGZnVXODNpZUk0TTdCeWZCb2JabGRGVnlNOEpTaThTOWVIbDROblVCcVBPbTQ5QmZRc1JZd0pqN3VOdS1DckNoWUl1Z3VwRWUzWWRIcDVIVFVwMGV4dTkzb2tMOC1XdDBxY2tfTTdub0FJdFFFeWFCZz09 |
A copy of the email I sent to Meermin that explains my dissatisfaction with the company. I currently have a PayPal claim.
>Meermin Customer Service:
>I am writing to formally address my dissatisfaction regarding your handling of my recent return and subsequent attempts to resolve the matter.
>After returning a pair of shoes that were too small, I requested store credit to reorder the correct size. Upon placing the new order, I was informed that the size I needed was unavailable. The following explanation was provided by your team: *"We are so sorry to inform you we reviewed with warehouse and we do not longer stock the style as last unite \[sic\] was damaged.”*
>Subsequently, I requested a refund to my original payment method, given that my inability to obtain the correct size was caused by your inventory issue. I was informed that this was not possible due to your *"company's administrative operations.”* This explanation is both insufficient and unreasonable under the circumstances.
>To further compound the issue: when I attempted to use the store credit to purchase a similar style, the credit was not applied. As a result, I am left without the product I intended to purchase and unable to access the originally paid funds.These errors have created an unnecessarily burdensome and frustrating situation.
>This matter is unacceptable and requires immediate resolution. Specifically: I demand a full refund to my original payment method, as the failure to fulfill my order solely lies with your inventory mismanagement.
>Additionally, I am forced to make this experience publicly known to ensure other customers are aware of the inadequacies in your customer service, policies, and inventory practices.
>I no longer trust that your company values its customers; however, you must still make expeditious steps to rectify this matter.
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>I await your response, | r/malefashionadvice | post | r/malefashionadvice | 2024-11-29 | Z0FBQUFBQm5jYWFydFhpdjY0Y0Vmd3JMZks4N0ZYM0ZIX1doVmNCc1hCSmUzZDVobThmRzBCRmpJSldvRGl4b3FSSC1VZjdSVEtId3FhSkV1T2FKZXkwaGR3OTc2LUNpS3c9PQ== | Z0FBQUFBQm5jYWFzUTg3RGtMQ0h5ejhPQURkOXgtUFNSc1ozaDNNRzctUUljTlNBMm5zVHgtOFFaTnRsX3ZDcnA5T1RMVkY3czNNeFZfZFg1OGszNjRZVEJKYXN5bTVJSW5oMUI1aXVBU2xET0UxeEVNSE1Fckt4Q29zNEI3ZHpBTC1vb0tMak9HNTdXTFZlV21QcktPS0Q1X1paZVRpNkpjc2RYRVpUTDRaMTJfOEhKTmhvODZPeXdZcDdhckVTa3ExRHlueFVldzZxMmNJdngwQ0dNWGh4eHRHTnp4N2JXdz09 |
But as long as he keeps pumping up BTC, I’m going to look the other way. 😎 | r/btc | post | r/btc | 2024-11-29 | Z0FBQUFBQm5jYWFyUnJheXRSV003ZlhLUUhmRHAxamc3NGdKSmlBcHFaN3YtamRlYTA1YzNPOHN3cDhzdEJDZ1RJSEt3bndmNVNHZ2JaaDJ1aTZtOFctVlRfNzlCRVZpUnVzWm95NWZVQVgwc3JVbURZdmRURjA9 | Z0FBQUFBQm5jYWFzY0p5RTdUZzJmQkVNWXpnTjMzbUM2OVdEeUxnNnd0eVRSUUZiLWJ3ZFpSZzlfT3daREdTYlhYZkN4U1dJSVNndjRab3dqbW4zaXJER2t2MUFCQWFBUGw5SVd1ejBfU1R1bFpFcDJkLUt6ckJVLWw4SjljSTN2elJ2b1VjV2RqSk10NWpNU1JLdzloR0xWUUd2N2NKOUxmbHpTMXpsTUlGeS1kNGxpeEpZZDlLQzZGcUlHTzBsTUJ3YWhVakRYdEYt |
In my day-to-day life, I often feel disconnected from my spirit. My mind and body seem to run the show, while my spirit—the part of me that feels like my truest self—stays hidden. It’s only when I’m on psychedelics that I feel like I can truly experience my spirit. In those moments, I know, deep in my soul, that what I’m feeling is my true self coming to the forefront. It’s as if my spirit finally has the space to express itself fully, and I’m reminded of who I really am.
But without psychedelics, I feel like my mind and body overpower everything. My spirit stays locked away because my mind and body are too strong and too in control. I feel like I can’t tap into that depth of awareness and connection on my own. I know that psychedelics provide my spirit the necessary support to take the lead, but what I truly want is to reach this state without relying on them.
I want to strengthen my spirit and the connection between my mind, body, and spirit, but without needing psychedelics to do so. I want to embody my true self every day, in every way, without relying on external influences. I’m seeking practical advice, insights, or tools to help me live in a way that my spirit can always lead, unencumbered by the dominance of my mind and body.
ETA: After reflecting on the feedback here, I’ve realized that the term “true self” might be too rigid or easily misunderstood for what I’m trying to express. I now feel that psychedelics help me access my best self—a version of me that feels clear-headed, peaceful, and deeply connected.
This state isn’t my constant reality, but it’s not something entirely separate from me either. It feels like the noise of depression, anxiety, and ADHD is stripped away, and what’s left is my spirit—the part of me that’s always been there but often gets buried. Psychedelics don’t create this self; they help me remember it.
Whether it’s “best self,” “true self,” or something in between, the experience gives me clarity about what I can aspire to: a more integrated, harmonious version of who I already am. | r/psychonaut | post | r/Psychonaut | 2024-11-29 | Z0FBQUFBQm5jYWFyWFQ2cUcxbXh5OEctUU0tTTBPQjkyMG1yMnU2MTRjWmlXUUhBeUxnb3d2Z2JOYjZWWXVoa3lTQWxuMTlGeVBUaVpmRHVibGUzdElFV191Y0JheXFndlE9PQ== | Z0FBQUFBQm5jYWFzYmpyWTdwZ2xqa3YyOTlvWHItZmVIdnlFSXQ3WGx2Rm5nUW93WXZscmx0ZTVpeTFJMEwtZTlnN1JCODRBaENTU0RjYW9MWU55X2VBY291TXhGRGEyN08zUC05aUVLM2lnSVZaUFl4Znc0ZGRnQURUeEFMU1pmQXZTSXFVOVVJajNYN3dIWDYtUTU5Uy1iNEtiZUlwZlRaV1JXU3JGb0F1c18tVGZEc3o0UGxCSU9GQ0pCVjdpWHdrSldoS0t3TlF0VkRrZnRoN3ZldEhQQ3R1dDV3RkJGdz09 |
From the video’s description: “Prominent atheist David Silverman announced in May he was begrudgingly voting for Donald Trump. Now he’s concerned about the movement to see prayer return to schools, which is an objective of Project 2025 and has been a long term goal of the Party he supported in this election. In this video we’ll talk about Silverman’s reactionary turn and discuss the demise of the atheist movement of the 2010s.” | r/atheism | post | r/atheism | 2024-11-29 | Z0FBQUFBQm5jYWFyY1R4ZTkwazJnQ3Bsb0NZTGpEQWNoRFBZWVZkQjEwdDVCdVh0YkNpVUFiRW0tWlhuUWkzMGh4b0o1blUyYjFXNDB5V3pnNEZXZjdCMFlMR0VMbUdmYlE9PQ== | Z0FBQUFBQm5jYWFzM3ZhVWhIODhZYVllcjlmRmdCNVNTMHZoNDBVci0xd215OWVUODd5b0VFQTlZNmwzanBaanhYQUl1bEV3V2JNbjk0czd1aXc5OS1ZdE9OaF9Ec1JOLTlhMEpOWVBSalVoQmpqVGp6NGtzdmR2MHg2LUZUNlBZWTBJekx1RnI4MmgyZHA3ZHFWNmtYb09WSExrcElEMlpUV1RrNkpoZk5SdHRjVmRVNWh3TjZ4TVJHTDNySVpRcjVCME9fWWs3QU1YYndCR3VWUVAybWJNLUw0Ni00a2Zfdz09 |
I have been dating my boyfriend for 3 years. Coworker girl is supposedly engaged to her boyfriend
He started working a temporary job probably 2 months ago now. He talked about this 1 girl that is his manager a lot about how she is trying to move him up, and how she’s expressed that she likes him working there, but I didn’t really think anything of it.
Then one day we are drinking and hanging out with his friends and he brings her up. Talks about how she’s so cool and they have a lot in common with a big smile on his face. Then he goes on to say that she really wants to meet me and become “best friends” with me. In my head I thought that was a bit weird, I mean he’s only been working there a month and she’s saying things like if they’ve been friends for a while. That’s when I start to feel a little weird about it, but I didn’t say anything and I started talking about something else.
Later in the evening when it’s just me and him, he asked why I changed the subject when he was talking about her. I said cause I felt weird how he randomly brought up his coworker while we are hanging out with friends, and the way he was talking about her. Thats when I finally asked how old she was. 24. I asked to see a picture of her and yup she’s pretty and his type. This whole time I pictured someone that was like 35 for some reason.
Anyway, she’s the lead in every story he tells about work, so I asked if they’re getting close. He says he doesn’t really know what I mean and says no. We got into an argument about her and I agreed to back off because he says there’s nothing. I will admit I wasn’t being the most civil person about this, I did accuse him of liking her which caused the argument.
Another month goes by and he avoids saying her name now except for the fact that they asked her to make a list of employees that she wants to keep (cause its a temp job) and that she put his name on the top of her list cause she “really likes him” . I just say good for you.
Last night we were talking about how his family and I, are going out for his mom’s birthday to a pop-up bar after he gets off of work today. He mentions something about her, and how he doesn’t want to let her down at work on a responsibility or something and that he’s gonna leave work early to make it to his mom’s birthday.
Then he gets a smile on his face and says she’s supposed to be there. I’m like… what do you mean she’s supposed to be there? He said he mentioned the bar that we’re going to and that she invited herself because it’s close to her house. I was like umm well that’s kind of weird for a coworker to invite herself to your mom’s birthday. Then he says I’m being judgmental and that just cause I wouldn’t do that, doesn’t make it weird. Okay that’s fair, but I just do find it weird and inappropriate? Then I start questioning how close they are, because she feels comfortable enough to invite herself to his mom’s birthday. He says they’re friendly. I ask him if she wants her there. He says well yeah I would’ve wanted to invite her myself but I knew you would freak out if I did. I’m like well… Why do you want this random coworker you’ve known for 2 months to meet your whole family? He says it’s not a big deal, he only wanted to cause she lives close. I say listen, I’m friendly to my coworkers too but I just can’t imagine myself or them inviting themselves to my mom’s bday. Again, he says I’m being judgmental. Then in the morning he says that she’s going with her friend and that she’s just going to say hi. I felt it was weird he didn’t mention that before, he acted like she was gonna be joining us the night before.
Anyway, I was being an asshole about it and said I wasn’t going to be nice to her. Then I calmed down and apologized for being an asshole but I will admit I was being paranoid and jealous about this whole thing. He gets really mad at one point and says that he went out to eat with his coworkers one day but didn’t tell me, because he *knew* I would get mad at him for her being there. Made me feel like shit about myself, while simultaneously made me worry about what else he has kept from me.
Anyway I feel like a batshit crazy insane paranoid gf and I want to stop. I don’t know what to honestly cause I really don’t feel like I trust this girl but I also want to stop causing these problems in my relationship because I’m jealous.
(Also yes he has other girl friends that he’s been friends with for years. No I have never been this jealous in my entire life, most of my jealousy has lasted like 10 min and then I come to my senses.)
TL;DR: Boyfriend of 3 years is friendly with a coworker of 2 months and I’m jealous and paranoid because of the way he talks about her and the fact that she’s gonna meet his whole family on his mom’s bday. | r/relationships | post | r/relationships | 2024-11-29 | Z0FBQUFBQm5jYWFyaUtYU3Y5QXEtajhrdWxrNVNNaXkyYjVzVi1nYnlIMnUyY2w5WElEUTdaWE1tYWhrODN4N3JrZURaWTFZYnpDNTZoNlpsNlpMQ1pmWXhoOC1oRXhGWnc9PQ== | Z0FBQUFBQm5jYWFzTkNlZWNHcUJ3SDRQYzRrUURXZUlvbzY5YmZXV3NpNVdxVFcwQkV4cnNqR3JVZ1dXRktlMFViQXZzTS1PM2xCN1pMamRFZVlqVFFiM1pkZTIzX1Q5NVI2NDlPVE5GX3hNTzl1Qk4xRjNqMFRvbzJyZXM1RzVkS1N3ZmlyRWJFZjBGdE9NU1A4dTBnQmNXYkxhMjVuUmNpRmliUllUS1pkMGtNUFhCU2ZkX2xscW1NZU9Uek9sSTRwOFJXNDVhN0xUN2hnSFZ6VWlCWW1DcWIwVjhhcEkxdz09 |
Recently I read about Charles II the inbred of Habsburg.
I don´t want to discuss the inbreeding as enough has been said about that. His inability to procreate is what interests me. What fascinates me that his inability to produce offspring eventually led to end of Habsburgs (in Spain) and a terrible war of succession.
Taken that to produce the offspring was so crucial, Why didn´t the Queens just take another lover, in secret, to impregnate them , when t was obvious the King can´t? .
More so as the woman were always blamed for the inability to procreate. They new something is up, as
[Maria Anna of Neuburg](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Maria_Anna_of_Neuburg) was chosen as their family is known for potency. Yet when she saw him the first time naked, she was sure by her own words, that he cannot procreate. Why would she (or any other queen in similar situation) just try to get pregnant from another man?
Why wouldn´t actually even the king and the dynasty - at least secretly - seek such a solution too?
Hell why didn´t they fake the pregnancy and birth too with a random adopted villager baby?
Was it:
* Lack of knowledge of how reproduction works and that a man can be the problem ? (but in Charles II, the problem was probably also visible)
* Extreme Catolic honor of the queens - cheating was simply something that didn´t exist in that era, or at least for woman
* The queens were monitored by someone "24/7" so it was technically impossible
* Something else? | r/askhistorians | post | r/AskHistorians | 2024-11-29 | Z0FBQUFBQm5jYWFyaUp0TnYtd0pRTzk4WWJvRFU3b3F4Q3M4eWZlUmZDMS1wRGhBMkU0N1h0STFxRDlVTVNfVmpGZjEzOXVPelJOQThzd3FnZUxWQ2hKQVUxa2NsTWFMVHNhYjRucnVzSFNzZE5jV1dHWmhBcDA9 | Z0FBQUFBQm5jYWFzeTdXRFUyMmdNTlNXM25SQ055dC14Ty1UOF83TGxBcUxvTndGQnI3bDVjY09NNTIwc2xHT3Y3aEdwTTVlS2dJMmZEUjdCbF9fQ0E4WmxVMndwbXBudXdTS2JIYkk5OGduVDJuWmdoQUFYSlZILUZWRERsdnM4YXZWdktsN0pMZkU2ZVY2WXFzRmFSd0RseFBiOEkwMUlmSFc3UzdKdVpYVGIta3pZbnJtLUp2V3NMUGNRWXFTT0N2c1hRX3RmbGRlSjN1ZlVZMXIzQ084RXBXNWxPZTExdz09 |
My husband, who I've been married to for 4years and together for 8) told me last month, that he had an affair with a coworker three years ago, that lasted around 6months. That affair resulted in a child. He has proven (and I've confirmed) that this ended when she got pregnant and he told her he didn't want to be involved with the child at all. We've gone through all of the details and at the time of the affair, I had felt a shift in his behaviour but put it down to issues at work.
Before and since it happened, he's attentive, loving and an excellent father to our son. He very clearly regrets it all and isn't in a good place. I do love him, I'm just so so angry at him and don't know where to go from here. This woman won't leave the workplace and I'm a SAHM, for right now atleast. I want to forgive him, but can I?
Any suggestions in next steps? | r/relationship_advice | post | r/relationship_advice | 2024-11-29 | Z0FBQUFBQm5jYWFyam5yaHp3c3lVMDF4dnA0dmRwM1ktWERtMnQzZ3RjYnBnVTg3aGZ5OU91SXlpcFNkV3p2dVdVVnNaVHpnYlRRa2N6am90bTN0LWpKazhVMnZLSEF2c0t2ZzczMEE5TjI3TDJJMUx0MzdMckE9 | Z0FBQUFBQm5jYWFzWnRfb09aUmlSZmJpVktLWTdZMkxLVExiR1ZVVmJSaXZhSDI5akdzcHVMcWRHSTRtREFHSDVhdnlwcTNQeTdKYmk1NHBSTlB0ZS03bkZyakVmTEpMcWdTWU10Y19PY181N2lmM3FuN0R5OXhFcHJsOUw4aVVONm1CRTdlN1FOVzdYQlY5ODN2aG5YbV9pQnNIbTEwQ1RNLTNfTDNtQXNJaHFENnVNdWxZdkdJc2ZNMGo2YS13VUJ2NGJCa005RU90Sno5MTJvY2EwZ0s4LU5KTzBMRVVXQT09 |
How do my wife (28F) and I (31M) move forward after a bad Thanksgiving?
First, my wife and I have discussed moving from our current city to a different state due to better work opportunities and an area with a higher socioeconomic status. I’m not that close with my family and my mom tends to worry and ask endless questions, so with nothing set in stone yet I told my wife there was no need to mention it to my family yet until we had a solid plan because my mom would keep asking questions we don’t have answers to until we move in 8 months or longer. My wife said “Might as well do it now and get it over with”. But I insisted that I would tell my family myself when I had information to tell them, and she agreed.
My mom stayed for Thanksgiving and the day before. The rest of my family did not come. The day before Thanksgiving was good. I cooked some with my mom and took my mom to see some Christmas lights and to dinner. Thanksgiving Day was a mess.
My mom wanted to watch the Thanksgiving Day Parade so I turned it on around 8am to watch it. My wife’s parents called around 8:15 to say that they could not watch the parade and wanted to watch it after they got here at 12. My wife agreed and turned off the tv saying “We will watch it with my family. Nobody’s watching it right now anyway.” and she turns on a Yule log with music. At this point my mom leaves the room to come to the kitchen to help me, where I could see the tv to watch with her. Then, my wife is going around the house huffing and getting things together for her parents that she didn’t bother to do before my mom came over. Then, she started turning lights off if my mom went to another area other than the kitchen area with me.
When her parents arrived, my mom and I were stuck warming up all the dishes and setting the table. My wife wanted to pick where everyone sat, so she was in charge of that. And that is where the argument began.
When my wife first discussed where we were going to sit, she placed me at the head of the table across from the end where the turkey was carved. When looking for an extra chair for me, she got a small ottoman to bring up. Her parents commented that it was too short. I commented that I would like a back to my chair. My wife said “No. That is the only thing that will fit in that space.” So I try two other chairs, which do not fit because the table had been moved closer to the window. My wife’s mom said “Let’s just scoot the table a foot away from the window and it will be fine.” So my wife says “No. The ottoman will be fine.” Then she turns to me in front of her parents and my mom and says “Stop being an ass.” At that point her mom leaves the table, my mom comes over to me and puts her hand on my shoulder, and my wife takes a chair I was trying to get to fit away and brings the ottoman back, saying “This is my spot anyway.” Then she hits a leg of the chair against the wall and said with a smirk “Oh no. We can’t sell the house like this.” So I switch the subject back saying “So now that it’s your spot, where am I sitting?” So she looks and finds a seat at the other end of the table. So after a few minutes my mother in law returns to the table and she leads grace, I carve the turkey and we eat. My mom and I sit in silence. My wife talking joyfully with her mom as if nothing happened. My wife did not tell my mother in law that we were not telling my family about moving yet because my wife told her family already, so my mother in law talks about us moving with my wife in front of my mom.
After the meal, my mother in law apologizes and I say to her that I told my wife that we were not telling my family yet. And she said that my wife had not mentioned that to her or my father in law. At that point my wife comes in and smirks and said “Oh well. She was going to find out eventually. Might as well be today.” So my mom, mother in law and I clean up the dining room and kitchen while my wife sits with my father in law watching Home Alone. We never watched the parade until her parents left.
Since my birthday is right after Thanksgiving my wife suggested we celebrate the day of Thanksgiving. My wife had AI write me a song and she sang put her voice over the beat AI made, singing the lyrics AI wrote. Her parents gave me an AirTag. There was no cake, instead we ate pumpkin pie my mom made and pumpkin muffins I made the day before. When I visited my family on Monday my mom made me a cake and I received two gifts. My mom was looking at me strange during this but didn’t say anything.
After my in-laws left I sat alone with my mom in silence watching the parade. My wife was somewhere in the house but don’t know where.
When I took my mom home last night after the parade she asked “Where are you moving to?” “When are you moving?” “Why do you want to move father away?”, the first two I did not have an answer to yet. So I told my mom that I told my wife I didn’t want to tell her or the rest of my family yet until we had plans set in stone, and my mom understood. But then she asks “So why did your wife say something to begin with?” I replied “Because she was mad that I didn’t want to sit on the ottoman.” At that point my mom says “That wasn’t right. We will be celebrating Christmas this year. You should stay with us.” I said I would see what my wife’s plans are, as she is planning a get together with her family. When I dropped my mom off, she wanted me to come in and have a dessert with my dad and sister. I did, and when I did there was a lot of whispering between my mom and dad. But they did not say anything to my except “What do you want for Christmas? You should come and stay the night a day or two.”
At this point, my mother in law thinks I’m mad at her, my mom is obviously worried about me and my relationship, and I feel like me and my mom were treated poorly yesterday like we were second class to her and her family. But I don’t know what I can do about it. We have been married for 3 years. How should we move forward?
TL;DR: I had a bad Thanksgiving with my wife and family. We have been married for 3 years. My mom and I were working the whole time and not allowed to watch the parade until my in-laws left. A disrespectful interaction occurred at the table. My mom is worried for me and I’m starting to feel like things will never change as I had similar experiences when around her family last year. How do my wife and I move forward? | r/relationships | post | r/relationships | 2024-11-29 | Z0FBQUFBQm5jYWFyT0lFN1V6YTZrek5TVGl4amRIYm42NzR0TTFMX0NxS2haenJ6blhvbWczekRxT1Rua25qZjBzR0g2NFRaaUM4NlZYNnljeExFdzNOVVNXM2NsSE5HWmc9PQ== | Z0FBQUFBQm5jYWFzT1gzdl9DSFhTbU9YUWJjU09pX29mU1l6dmJaYmtILVpzUlVEdlZyT3BkdFp4U0lpcWd0ck1FQ1JWYldwcGMtZFRCZEdMQTdORnNlY1lTYVZmSUtPXzVBSTVUdlluZlluVXhhZE56emtIVFpNN0NsenVzTGdGSWplQjNhLTg5NXB3aXNBTzRCa2N0TDRVVjVZOWJET19YdmFTcTh5WUZJWjNScndDS3VkQmt0NTIxb21GcVo3b1Nmc2tEaThMRjI1UHBaTEdOM2VjSDNRM2JBeVdiWklwZz09 |
The other night my fwb was riding my mouth while i was giving her oral. She has a pretty big butt and she was getting really into it and grinding but I was literally suffocating. But i kept going because I knew she was going to finish. She ended up giving me a big kiss and licking her cum off of my lips so i knew she was satisfied.
So the question is how do you guys do it without suffocating? Do you just endure it or find a way to adjust? This is for both guys and girls. | r/sex | post | r/sex | 2024-11-29 | Z0FBQUFBQm5jYWFySnFpdTlhSnpqRkJjVnRxU3RtY3pBZHRQRmdTQzJQeDN1UTVMeHhaT2VvcXlyN3VGMlNFNko5cHZ5LVo4bVNTQjFqTWxkdzRnbEhRaFdZYWxWc2xNTVVzb2FGQnVBbzZnQnVrTEVqTDJuX1U9 | Z0FBQUFBQm5jYWFzQjJ3ekZmQUdxR3VDMFJUUmtYQ3I0NnZuN3Y4QktTaHJpbTVFSW14cndlUTNFcGU3empJVVhwMlZfYVktWWN2UzY3a2h2clBWcE5mY25mcjFoWkJCZWhSMkJhX3ZxU1JjRmFjZ2RhbGYzb0YxUkZHb3F1QXA0bWhCUzNJZXZ3eTEydlJnUzRHVDBsYkJNNjRISmFtSjhfazhjOW43eUV2bU1CQ1FlOE9ONXJzPQ== |
Every ~4 years or so BTC experiences a halving, which after some lag time among other market factors increases the scarcity, causes its price to go up, and puts the cryptomarket in a bullrun mentality. As a result of this cyclic investment into BTC, the alts and meme coins also benefit with a new surge of capital, and it's sustained by the speculative investment that these cryptos will be institutionally adopted or gain real world utility and reflect their actual $ value in use-case one day.
Everyone is now elated because they've 100x'd their portfolios, look at all the cryptos in their wallet, still having no idea what they actually do and decide it's time to cash out. Those who timed it right make out like bandits and the majority are left holding their near worthless bags until the next cycle. The market tanks and crabs for 3 years because at some point the speculative bubble bursts when everyone wakes up and realizes there's still no real-world adoption or use-case for any of this that affects 90% of the population outside of talking about it on subreddits and niche programmers in their sandbox.
This happens every 4 years as a self-fulfilling prophecy and I don't know whether this year to believe it will be any different or we might actually see crypto become integrated in our day-to-day and partially break free from the 3 years of crab market until the prophecy is fulfilled like the Halley's Comet hopium we've been surviving off. | r/cryptomarkets | post | r/CryptoMarkets | 2024-11-29 | Z0FBQUFBQm5jYWFybUlhc1A4c3pRVFRvWm9TNVJVcFBUZGJZWUlhVXFWSFI0d3lTbkNVVlJtaUdGdXAzcW9CbF9tVU1pS1ZBVEZLX1BCSTRzU0otdjBJTHNjUkR5SzEzU3c9PQ== | Z0FBQUFBQm5jYWFzWTkxeko1M3hBRGl2NHhBMnBzemxDQkRmaGQ5ZlhRNlBJY04yQV9xRTI2Nm9YbHIyV2FvTVo2YjlmTWxfMGRmT2J2VGdRYzlhbUk5QkE3bThfekZNWU92bUVrUF95Wkh4aEN5b3JTU0piejlKNTFjdnlZX3U4dTFFUUZqN3VETkw4YmhjQnd1eTRTXzhJSUMtOGFpaldMaUJOSjBlak44MTlaVHRPMDQyT3BtZDY0RHd6djVPeTNWRWN5RFJOWjlPUDVmbmN6SXp1LXhzbHZ2c0hrNXBTdz09 |
US equities has always been the largest part of my portfolio (about 50-60%). I'm looking at the bizarre market though and wondering why the hell I would invest in anything else for the foreseeable? I can't remember my exact distributions, but the rest of my portfolio is more or less equally split between equities in UK, Emerging Markets, EU, Japan, Asia (excluding Japan), and I think a small portion for Africa. My thinking is that I'm investing with a 40+ year time horizon (I'm 28), and if any one of those areas sees outsized returns it could mean a lot. Likewise there's also a case of not wanting to put all my eggs in one basket.
When looking at returns the US alone is either double or triple the rest of them though, so even if the returns halved overnight they'd still be on top. Meanwhile a small downturn in the other markets could practically wipe out all their gains.
Looking at my returns in total for the last 3 years I believe I've averaged something like 13% yearly.
So should I just stay the course and ignore any potential 'lost' growth, or go all in on the US?
I'm in the UK, so currency fluctuations will be relevant here, although I'm of the opinion that GBP will continue its relative decline whilst the dollar remains strong, which further supports US equities. | r/investing | post | r/investing | 2024-11-29 | Z0FBQUFBQm5jYWFyaTRWSW9BX01PdktFeVZ6dGJxZkVpeFZhWVZ6QzdXcF9hMnVGUTZJZmpwcl9ndS1qR24xR044NS1laUFPeDBMZ3NrRXVqcS1YSHZjRFdoOW9xV3BQUzdBSjE3cWRaR2ZudFJRLVk0X1hCMlk9 | Z0FBQUFBQm5jYWFzWW5sQ25qeTBxemJpRjQ2d1NKTklnanp3MFZCWF9FaXdDN3dfblN2bVhVd2NDZmRBYmhBUlJmM1MyakpFN2VocWhSVGd0MzBUVmZmTmNIU0NBQ2swLUIwLUZyTzRhZkl2ZnJCWDVmWnRUaF9YSnB5RFVYR00wa1hoSHVuUVFTN3BDRElCS2pGcUdXbFFXM3Fub3VWYWhVUk1KMHJ0YkRKZ2s0dXIxQkFac19ENDN2ZUYwak9fV0JmbDU4T3JiSWRmSl9VQ20taDAyNF9RbWI2T245bkVRZz09 |
Take a quick look at this post: [https://www.reddit.com/r/Monero/comments/1gxjht6/rant\_monero\_a\_finished\_product\_not\_a\_project\_be/](https://www.reddit.com/r/Monero/comments/1gxjht6/rant_monero_a_finished_product_not_a_project_be/)
The guy sounds like Michael Saylor (wish I didn't know who that was). He speaks in platitudes and stupid religious jargon.
I used to think that people who didn't care about the price going up were just lying to themselves, and to be fair, I still think that to an extent, but what I've realized is really important.
The privacy and freedom Monero provides is far more important than the price. It'd be nice if we all got rich off of Monero, but what we should be concerned about is whether Monero is the best technology that it can be.
If we allow people like the guy in the post I linked to become the majority of Monero users, we will become another shitcoin community full of speculators and zealous idiots. We need to keep the realism, avoid an echo chamber, and try to make Monero better and freer, not more expensive. | r/monero | post | r/Monero | 2024-11-29 | Z0FBQUFBQm5jYWFydktFQUlfVDFQelc3LTBFNFFiQjNuTml0U1p2TzNtaWxKalRzekJVZ0JENEtmdjk5ZnQyeENZWW45XzlLYlN6MVptMm5hWjFRc1o4RWRQOEFpRllKMVc5cnJnTEEyMFJYYVh2Mkx3QlFVOXM9 | Z0FBQUFBQm5jYWFzU1R6cFctT1h4cllFVGxMS3h4QlhwcEJfU1BIbE1kVFU2UXlHZHBqTHBBWktzcDdPcVFDc0RmSGdMN3pYVWRBZUdUNmI2eDRJaW9FSTkzMDF3STg4dDhlTTBIemhRa201SU5TOGtFRm1yelZ6TEVnbFQyS3hmdmRnSlhpUHJwVEdWWWNvZTVwWkZpUlVXaGRSdnFJUWpIYmh0c1ZySldZNWFnOF9JenRZSk1QR3hkRzJJNThsMUd0NUVMX1BXSkttRHk0VEU3OF92SnNzQzlpOXIwenFVQT09 |
During the August 2017 fork, I had some BTC and received the same amount of BCH. At that time, I had a wallet named Jaxx (as I remember it). Later, Jaxx closed down the app, and I imported my wallet to Coinbase, which does not support BCH. However, I could still control my BTC. Now, I have successfully moved my BTC to a new Ledger wallet and would like to also move my BCH to my Ledger. But since Coinbase does not support BCH, I cannot send it to my Ledger. I have tried setting up a new account using my passphrase in the [Bitcoin.com](http://Bitcoin.com) app, but it says there are no BCH. Please help me move forward.
Edit: I am truly grateful for all the help I've received here. Thank you to everyone; you are all amazing! | r/bitcoincash | post | r/Bitcoincash | 2024-11-29 | Z0FBQUFBQm5jYWFyaVdlMG1feGtib0pOOVBmRXZpWEpvRnNFVTd3Mk12UldBSVB3Tld1WW84dVNWWmtCb0x4T1Mtb2lFNkk1cEl0d3g2eW9ob2pWLWlNdDh6VEo5RTRKRE5rQkM3eW0xRmdZTHd5X1drX3ZmV0E9 | Z0FBQUFBQm5jYWFzUFJCOXBWX2ZoYWV2aTBUQm5hcmpyNFpiMmg0RWZ1MmxXT3JDNExJTXgydlIzMzBlVm84aDhTb1FiYnZBeVowb04zd254YjQ3Y2MzNDJwbnE5eFVXZjhrdWdBdGUyT3h5S092ZDdWMmpGUE9aSkJIekdyX0dxYThVekJ2MGE2YXpNeFRQX3NadkEwRUtiYTBYVXpFSlhhMFFYR0dxSzNraThQYXZ6dFlFVFc4THN6dWNHT0h2RWdudzhKZ0h6WWZDQ3l2ZDNkOXBScGtJd2k2bE5xb1hPUT09 |
Fiendish & Friends #3:
Weekly News
Claude from Basepoker discusses their platform and why BCH is their default currency of choice.
Milan de Reede (Formerly known as Mira Hurley) talks about the importance of p2p cash and NanoGPT.
Cheapy, from the Bitcoin Cash News and founder of the BCH Foundation talks about his work supporting Bitcoin Cash and his current fundme. | r/bitcoincash | post | r/Bitcoincash | 2024-11-29 | Z0FBQUFBQm5jYWFyc29wZC1FTER1bGhTNWFzZFVTamdxZWhfZHNLVzFtYmpidmtNOXd0LUYyR040RnVTRU1PS1o0ckkyYl9rbWVOYWU2cUlDSnoxdlFHeFhtYTlkSzRiSlE9PQ== | Z0FBQUFBQm5jYWFzdHd3dmpLbGpreDJaVFczVWN1NHdDdDByUUhjZnI4NGU5U0czS1liZEotY3cxQWdINXBHVndWckEyVjROVkhLSnRwXy1JV2VjRDd1ZEU5UDFzcWVyaU1mNWFPWHNpeEwzY0Fla3VmLWd6SU9uTHpsSnNtLVo5RG5jV1JaVXVSai15a2dzYUFRc3djdlNrbnliUERtemRTTmd4RTZpM0h2ODhDUlNJRTBHYm1XcXlpTGRWTFNfTGdQM2tMR3J4VGhf |
Crypto investor since 2017, made good money, enough to quit my job in my mid 30s and travel and start a business and do other things I want with my life. Doesnt mean I know anything.
It is my belief that at some point, just like every other market, there will be a bust/selection period where 99% of projects become worthless. Of the remaining survivors, maybe 5-6 take up 80-85% of the market share, 5-6 take up 5-10% and the remaining hundreds or thousands of coins make up the last 5-10%
Example: Theres Verizon, Att, T mobile at the top, then theres tracfone and boost and mint mobile, then theres 100 that nobody knows anything about. There are 100s of brands of batteries but very few companies who actually make the batteries. Tons of tv companies, 5-6 that people know, dozens that we dont, 100s of other ones, and only a handful of huge manufacturers that make everyones tvs at the same place.
This is what will happen IMO because it always does, since forever.
And while I dont really care if youre a fan of the US or not, the US is the strongest economy in the world, and it is in the best position to harness this and benefit from it and control the direction of the space in the US and global narrative. Im not saying this is the best for crypto or the world, but I think it's ignorant to outright say it wont matter.
With the US and other countries getting on board with a strategic reserve, its clear bitcoin is and will continue to be a winner for the foreseeable future.
I believe this is also why we have the Dino/US coins pumping as their leaders have recently all been meeting together with some of them like Hoskinson even getting involved directly with legislators, meeting with senators, getting in front of congress and talking about what is best for us. Founders have all recently met, are all ISO 20022 compliant, and are all going nuts. I think this is a winning recipe for this cycle and for the future and I just want people to be aware of it. These projects **XLM XRP ADA HBAR ALGO** are outperforming a lot of other coins and I believe this is why, despite people starting to call them all irrelevant before this happened.
I am saying this because this is my third cycle in the space and have wasted time and money looking for pumpy coins when if I had just kept my money where I had it 7 years ago in these Dino coins (in XRP and ADA anyways), id have been proven right in my early conviction of these projects. Look at the narrative, research it, and make an educated guess. Do not ignore these trends and its ok to take risks on meme coins with a little bit of your portfolio but make sure you are on the right side of history when it all shakes out, because it will at some point in the not so distant future. | r/cryptocurrency | post | r/CryptoCurrency | 2024-11-29 | Z0FBQUFBQm5jYWFyUGZBT3FSTmZRVk9UMkpBa3R2Q2xDemZnSVc1RXJXY3JnR2MwQ0JESmNjdnpGNU1nVm9BQzVha1dnUlpXcmVuQ2Y0QmdQRTZoNU1HVjF4djJMdFdLZFE9PQ== | Z0FBQUFBQm5jYWFzOWZfWktQc1dxb0xPelAxUlNuRFpVdjBidm1wYWlnU1lKeE82bUc0ZWppMDRVQ1k0Rlg0YW9VbUVXYnI3WUtzVWhkdm9Qdi1zMzU2NG5jc0ZaUldsUDE4OWpXTjVfZEFZZXFVcVk2Xy1yYUdaM3RpdTNnNTlPYldrSGUxSlNnVVlrWk1uZV9fVFZySG5vaFJqMl9OQnROcTJ3WTA2SVI2dmtoUENiOWhJd2RzN2psVkpVM3piRktsNzB2S2NSbXdlRGl5T3p3SjZib3FVQ3ItYzVWZzlEQT09 |
I go to the swimming pool every other morning (my job pays for the family ticket) and my husband and our toddler often accompanies me. I go to the gym, swim and sauna while my husband spends time with our toddler in the kids area. When I'm done I come back and watch our kid in the kids pool while my husband goes to swim and sauna.
The pool is pretty much empty in the mornings (small town) so we basically meet the same people every time we go. One of them is a dad (swimming pool employee) who brings his toddler with him on the days when he doesn't have to work in the morning. Sometimes his wife comes along but 90% of the time it's just him and the kid. They usually have to leave by the time I come back from my workout so I don't know him well but my husband talks to him frequently and our kids play together sometimes.
About a month ago they came later than usual (just around the time when my husband was to pass his parenting duties to me). He asked if I could watch his child while he went to swim and sauna with my husband. I said no, I was not comfortable doing that. I didn't say anything rude, just that I don't feel it's safe. I would have said yes if he needed to make a phone call or run to the toilet real quick but a swim+sauna is like 30-40minutes at least. His kid is very high energy, always running away and can't talk yet, so I didn't feel comfortable watching him in water on top of my own child since the kids area is not fenced off and literally 1.5 meters away from a deep pool.
It's been awkward after this and he doesn't say as much as hello to me and doesn't really talk to my husband anymore. So I guess my question is would you have watched this child for him and was I somehow in the wrong. My husband is upset about this man suddenly ignoring him because he liked having a fellow dad to talk to at the pool but he agrees asking someone you don't even know that well to watch you 19MO at the pool is wild. He's also never asked my husband to watch his child for him. | r/mommit | post | r/Mommit | 2024-11-29 | Z0FBQUFBQm5jYWFyMmpob0hYSGRGN1FxTWJnMHZqQ3NYV0tGNklwNFY2d2FaZThvT3ZvTDJLSWYyVlZacS1uV1ZfTmJnLUNwRDEyOGE4NlpDQlZ0NGN2M3oyZmstb1d2aTBvT2w3SXQ1cURCc05lRTFYem5odDA9 | Z0FBQUFBQm5jYWFzZ3haVTVUSm9jQVRGY01UTVN4Z2ZBUDFNZVhDVUJ1d05jQUpUbnYzWkhkRmVERVAzdkZfME9kSWphZlktYTRRdjNtRUVkVzJYc0FmcVc1Vm5EbS1wWkVGaG53bk9XdHhXeGIxWU56ZmdzVXVkZmpNRFZQNk91WVpuQjM2YlNDbTBGd0c4ekxvUUtMTWhnSXZsUFZDdVJaZnltUWdKendETU1mWVRjTzIySXhuaHdjdllCcWpKZHd1dFpyRF85ZmxKSFAxUnN6SGlNVUVZU1dPdlNXYmNtdz09 |
This just happened during Black Friday and I'm still processing it. My sister and her husband Mike went to Walmart for their Black Friday sale. According to them it was absolute chaos - hundreds of people everywhere, barely any workers, total mess.
Mike managed to grab one of the doorbuster deals - a huge 65" TV that was marked down from $899 to $399. Apprently the checkout lines were so insane that people just started walking out. Like literally just pushing their carts through without paying because there weren't enough workers at registers and security couldn't handle it.
And my sister and Mike joined them. They walked out with a $400 TV because "everyone else was doing it" and "the store should have been better prepared."
The part that really bothers me is they were bragging about it at family dinner yesterday. Right in front of their kids (8 & 10) AND my kids (7 & 12). They were laughing about their "amazing deal" like it was some funny story about outsmarting the system.
I pulled my sister aside and told her this was basically stealing and sets a terrible example for the kids. She got defensive saying I'm being dramatic and that big stores expect this kind of loss during sales and that it's not really stealing because the store "couldn't handle their own sale properly."
Mike jumped in saying I need to chill and I'm probably just jealous I didn't get any "deals." I'm honestly disgusted by the whole thing. Later my kids were asking me if it's okay to not pay for stuff when stores are really busy, which just proves my point about what message this sends.
My sister hasn't talked to me since I called her out, and my parents are saying I should apologize for "making drama" and that it's "none of my business" but someone needs to say something, right?
Am I seriously overreacting here? Everyone's acting like this is just normal Black Friday behavior and I feel like I'm going crazy. | r/amioverreacting | post | r/AmIOverreacting | 2024-11-29 | Z0FBQUFBQm5jYWFyZFZsbjMxTGE0dTRsbjRGYTF2YmVoREh0TnZtSkFQTFNTUWhqOXdaRFVtdlE1RTNmaXpxZ3RxNk0tRjhBNzhRaE1jSm15Y3p6bERxdW9ueWhJNktsdmc9PQ== | Z0FBQUFBQm5jYWFzOHlKLVYtWUdJbTdJNU5JTnl6X01JR0dlODJrQ2tzMU5HOUhpdlp4SHBPWjNCMnBDVk1WZWg2QVQ1SHg5WklJX0xVbXExVDA2Ny1tMVc3VERrZ19GRm1ITUVGUHlPcC03NXhoVTRHMDlLTEtGRVZDQmZnaklQemtxOHhzeHZ4RGxIdDBfRmszbXdZZEl5SmdhU3dYdlo2SDRXUG9xSzhubnZhUTJSZGxMblROUXNQcFY2dDRCSFJOOWdRRE51eV8zMVkyZDBPUldQVTRyWDNLaWE5TEI0dz09 |
Edit: Because some people are misunderstanding my question, I meant, would the schizophrenic person's hallucination project to them in the picture as well or not. I don't mean whether they can actually photograph the hallucination for someone else to see. | r/tooafraidtoask | post | r/TooAfraidToAsk | 2024-11-29 | Z0FBQUFBQm5jYWFyRnE1QU9Pdnp3RkVUVW9vbVdIUW5MaWRsaHZBMnNVcG9RWFY0ZGt4V1J2SFFucEx5WEplR1A2bXZyeXVlMHNWSmd0VUp1cUx4emM5dzZubWpFUXAtX3c9PQ== | Z0FBQUFBQm5jYWFzWEg1UDBYaEhISVMycHZMcUZhaUhPUF9JZXBOWEFSdlFTVjBYMHBSaVhtczJvdmJXeXAyazlOcVRPMzVEYkU1aTJyM1RydW1tanRRMkZIQnQxbVUzZHYtbnBxdjJueXpxU3Z1TEgtZC1hX05MWi10TV9NbkxHZ2pSekNDRDBEMlhLVkswMlBFNWp0UW80NUhYWGw0Y3Z3b1JwNE9CODVwNXZvSFJQeWpTRjlfSFdDQmg3MDE0bXhmNEdKM3pleGZWVHlLLTVCcFh1cEZUWEtOTTQ3NEZoZz09 |
I just wanted to get that out to the newcomers in the crypto space.
It's not just that your coins aren't yours when they're on a centralized exchange.
If you use a blockchain that is permissioned, even after you withdraw your money from the exchange, your future transactions can be refused even when you make them from a self custody wallet.
_That's not the Magic Internet Money you want._
Inform yourselves on which coins/tokens are permissioned and which aren't. A bit of research can mean the difference between being able to spend your money later as you see fit, or not.
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Note: A permissioned protocol is not the only thing that might stop you from transacting permissionlessly whenever you want on a blockchain in the future. High fees and congested networks, or downtime on networks that suffer outages regularly, are some other potential risks for which you should watch out for even if you're practising self custody. | r/btc | post | r/btc | 2024-11-29 | Z0FBQUFBQm5jYWFySmwtbXNjZzIxVi1odndkTVFDaTVTZ3o0Rk9PcXlvOGhNcy1LckxDeFN0SUI5SFNtUDJtZEtaOWRHYk5nSjFwUER2M0J6Qk5TV0JieXVYTTlwc01IOEE9PQ== | Z0FBQUFBQm5jYWFzUWdnZzB6eDZVVHlmRHBLc2JkOVBKRVJnQk1YMUVrVC1neHRMc005dllIVjg3LVVuRi1nbmdueU5tUTZMa09mOC1EU01GSzJnM1RKTUtlNzNfMkFkeTRMZHduWE5qaEVnLVFrR3NYU0xPR29VeUdvaVJlNjhVWE96VE5GcW1WeVFxMXpaZlVSY2tnVy1CWjhTUnFyLTFld1dmSkt6MDZkZjRTVWd5Q2FTMjBsY0VhSzBQTGFnUzJObzlRUjFTdmd3 |
What are your favorite brands for high-waisted pants? I notice most brands are still mostly selling either low or mid-waist pants, which don't look great with my short legs. Preferably something under $100 and will last little while. Thanks again for your thoughts! | r/malefashionadvice | post | r/malefashionadvice | 2024-11-29 | Z0FBQUFBQm5jYWFyMzBhU3NTeHVyelAxeFM3aVBsckROLWx2RUljRXRsTEpzMnhlOFZJMUtTak4yRThOMFNTMVJYMUlVV2swWm1iQ1pKNlE1MGx1Qk1vd05hQ3Q3OU9MUnc9PQ== | Z0FBQUFBQm5jYWFzQXRNTllHV2JJZ2l0anZHcTlWRDVrR2lqMV9IQ3R2Ukxwc2t3MlhrNXRIVkttYUt0VVFBeWRKQ1NxWWxUeXpFMTAxQTVDWUM0QmgteHNUTUxoNzJCZjhSTUVrQnBiX0ZsS3RKdGFnQ0xpcUNRVFdXaWY1cXF0YlV6azNaVHFLTWhzYk5HUmxCQmJLTDBHbk1VUElDNnlubm9KVTIyRmdMUW1BeDVIUjZwUGlCOWd5ZktLV3YzTkdlZW8tckRab3V6NDVYMkhaUm8xNWZYU0lScUJvLXB1QT09 |
Hi all,
I have been in a relationship with my girlfriend for the past three and a half years. We are both women. To preface this; I work in our home office, and she is a freelance artist. We are home much of the time. We are financially very well off.
We have had a very active sex life since the beginning of our relationship, which has never been a problem for either of us. However, in the past year or so it has gotten to the point where sex is beginning to interfere with our daily lives. To put it simply, and not to be crude: we cannot stop having sex. Since we both work at home, we really are together 95% of the time. Whenever we try to spend time at home together, like watching a movie, we always end up in bed. Whenever we go out together, we end up in a bathroom stall together (we are both very feminine and "straight" passing, so no one ever bats an eye at this). And since we are both women, we really don't have the same stamina issues that some of our heterosexual friends may have. For some people this may sound... nice? But seriously, I feel like we cannot live a productive life. There are countless times where I miss appointments or simply cannot get out of bed the next morning. There are times where I just feel like I laze away days in our bed.
For example, she and I went on a trip to her home country a couple months ago, and I had scheduled an entire itinerary for us, spanning the course of a couple weeks. We ended up laying in our room for half of the trip and missed a ton of the things I had planned for us to do/see. I just generally have goals that seem to get constantly interrupted by this, and I can't help it. There are a lot of things that I feel she should be putting effort towards as well, and I feel like this is serving as a huge distraction as her, but I feel like she doesn't even realize.
I don't know, I feel like this is stupid as I write it - there definitely are far worse problems in a relationship to have. But I do feel like it is taking over my life. I began to realize this a couple months ago that it is probably not healthy, and we spoke about it. We had a bit of an argument about it, as she felt that we "really didn't have anything else to do." I got upset, and told her there is more to life than having sex with each other, and that we both have things we should be working on. She said that I could just tell her if I found her unattractive, I told her this clearly wasn't the case, and that I am only saying this out of love and concern for the health of both of us. She said that we are doing perfectly fine, and she doesn't see an issue with our active sex life, and insisted that it was actually a good thing.
After more bickering, we decided that we should start doing some solo activities outside of the house, but it still doesn't feel like enough - as the second we are both home, we are all over each other. We had talked to some of our friends about this, and they suggested we seek counseling - which we did. This counselor suggested that our homosexual tendencies are rooted in a past childhood trauma. Which... and I am both humored and offended as I write this - I would not say is really applicable or appropriate in this situation. I am now asking for the help of the internet. I really do not know what we should do, and our experience with this past counselor has given me a sour taste in my mouth.
Any advice would be greatly appreciated! :)
Edit: I forgot to mention English is not my native language - sorry if there is any confusion. | r/relationship_advice | post | r/relationship_advice | 2024-11-29 | Z0FBQUFBQm5jYWFyR21WdzFsMWxkdDFFclE4WG9mNEpuTnJMaTJYcGVkS2NpeEg0dDJFZC1qM0tFT2pZU01hQ3NVeTlncG9PS3ZaYUtGSnZGcTlpaW0zVEIyUmlGSVZJcHc9PQ== | Z0FBQUFBQm5jYWFzN1RqWUVfSkRDdF82Y2xyODVvRTBfQnJwQmU3S0l6YnZoYmFTbHBfOHdsblZpOGk0RnVfZFJTWHJjaW9CSkkzV0ZTQUFla1BVeFJjaTJBVm5fRVE4c1k2N09BVl9LVTFSOFQ0MWVvSno4YzMtR0FBX00tWlpDN1dFaEFWUHQzd1YxZ1k5N0lOaU9xLXQ4WGR3T3JjMmdydUxXM0FQNVFEblR4WWNvSkwwSnlkWWhhTWZKVjBBUVJMc2ZHOVBkaXg2R0tXRnUyYlBsNm9fdUhJMUVjclo0UT09 |
First post ever on Reddit albeit a long one so buckle up fellow degens!
Been lurking for 6 years, finally made a new Reddit account to share this milestone. Started this journey back in 2017 in Robinhood, rode the highs and lows, and at one point even saw my portfolio drop to just ~$1K back in July 2022 (see screenshot #2) . But here we are in 2024, looking at ~$110k and up $47k (~76%) all-time! (Still quite can’t beat the benchmark yet; SPY’s got me outpaced in the long term 🥲)
The Ups and Downs
Looking back, it’s been one heck of a rollercoaster. As you can see in my all-time chart, there were some major dips along the way. The journey wasn’t linear; there were times when I felt like the portfolio was just bleeding out, but I stuck with it, made some strategic moves, and kept adding funds whenever possible.
After starting with the modest account balance of about roughly 18k back in Q4 2017, I steadily added funds to my portfolio over time, especially after seeing triple digit returns in NVDA, SQ and double digit gains in bunch of blue chip stocks; held some Chinese stocks like Luckin Coffee (before it got delisted from NASDAQ) . Got the account to a decent level.
Then went completely ‘regard’ and got into options 😅. Did well initially then hit the rock bottom reaching as low as $998 (see aforementioned screenshot #2). Added about 9-12k over next few months (see screenshot #3) to be able to trade again. No options but used margin money to almost double my account first. Then, as the bull market kicked in after bottoming out in October 2023, the account continued to rise. Later, I employed slightly more aggressive options strategies to reach my current position.
Key Moves
The past 18 months have been all about- researching a shit ton (more!) and making mostly informed decisions mixing with some gut feeling, using Reddit (of course), stocktwits, yahoo finance, various research firms, reports, interviews, Fidelity, CNBC, etc
Current Portfolio includes:
• PLTR, bunch of Semi stocks including NVDA, TSM.
• Blue Chips (duh!)
• Growth stocks like SOFI, SQ,
• ETFs and a few dividend/yield stocks like QQQ, IJH, XLE, JPEQ, etc.
• Credit Put Spreads, LEAPS, CSPs, and CCs
• PLTR and semi stocks, plus bluechi
Missed out on a 10x gain on NVDA (sold too early); funny enough never went long on TSLA or got into some of the group’s fav stonks from back in 2020-21 (you know which ones 💪🏽), but holding PLTR since 2020 has been solid.
I also hold stuff long term on other platforms- Fidelity and Webull including most of my PLTR shares. Can’t go full degen and YOLO everything just on Robinhood alone; you gotta diversify 😭
Shoutout to all the legends here on WallStreetBets for the crazy ideas, inspiration, and advice. Couldn’t have done it without this community! Here’s to even bigger gains ahead. Let’s keep riding this wave together! | r/wallstreetbets | post | r/wallstreetbets | 2024-11-29 | Z0FBQUFBQm5jYWFyYWJkNkNGenUxZC1fNC1ZdUtCMVBKZktfcXZSMUVlNlN1YnQweVZOSVh2cWJkQ05YQkdkZlUtMjd0aEpOdVM2YThGMlgtLW14SUlCRi02SlVTZnB0bXlPbndzeWtEOXd5MFkyblpycEQyVG89 | Z0FBQUFBQm5jYWFzVHd0QldYNzFOMmxLYlgwZDFSazJ5U2Qza2hWNVB6ZUtjNTk0NTBlSzgyck1xUThXOGtERTBnOHFTaWhOWHdYMmJoZFFKaWNJV0JBaUJTSDVkRVdaZzkyTXFyU0hXQUZHSXFTc1VETFJaOGJNWG1EaXhGYTBLbmxKcE5QbWpWbmdhdGd4LUFJZFVySWd6cThybjNQNExLX1oxTWppRmhfM2lJVDEtV2pPdGp6ZGVLTTN4eFRQa1JSNTBCRmZUSE9hbi1CMS0yZ2VGeFdpNXhIa1h1TURldz09 |
I'm studying radiocarbon dating and calculating an artifact's age using the radioactive decay formula.
While going through some examples, I saw one that mentions, "An artifact is found with 40% of its original carbon-14 remaining. How old is the artifact?" I understand the concept, but I’m a bit confused about how they determine the percentage, and what units are used to measure the amount of carbon-14.
Can anyone explain how the percentage is calculated and what the unit of measurement for carbon-14 here? | r/askscience | post | r/askscience | 2024-11-29 | Z0FBQUFBQm5jYWFyMlNEQUlvTVRlWkdkYS1KVGNUeUUwNEVadENPMkt3VnRPZ3N4VFlUSmZ1NkJBSXZ6WUlCc0Q1NDV1RVljU202ZDJXejItSDVJYnJQekVJMm1WN0NOZVE9PQ== | Z0FBQUFBQm5jYWFzVlhJZXFWOVNxdDFZaEJjTTR0bU9aNDhNSm9fSlU2SHdIX1owd25NT0dHdjExZDRHQU9jUk83eEJhcDNNNkxzN2Zwb0NLTVYwYkw1MFNDdU5VMk1Oa2JUMTFNbTJwdFBpNDFUN2FVLS1tblM2aTNrajRqNEZTN3VlRmFoMEZZTjdGemxxYkpIOEpIYUdTTjJVZTVxRHRKbFNQZURsZ0h5Z2RkOEx6bVVscS0wOWlMTllSalZ6T3RsTmlUZ1dYc3g4NHk5dHBhaGlCSUUtemg5SV81TTJGUT09 |
Hi Reddit I'm in a tough spot atm. My fiancée let's call her Karen (32F) and me (31M) were about to get married in a bit more than 6 months. Everything started to go bad when we started to talk about the guest list. Karen had been saying for a while she didn't want my little brother let's go with Chad (26M) for a while but she wouldn't give me a real explanation. I've told her many times my brother's presence was absolutely not negotiable though.
For some background Chad and me have always been super close. Our parents weren't abusing or anything, but they weren't really the serious kind of parents. They would often drop us at grandma's to go party, and as soon as I was old enough to take care of us both, they just let the house and the bro for me to handle. This is a trash way to treat your kids sure but at least it allowed us to bond super super super close. I'm not exaggerating when I say he is my favorite person in the whole world, I would take a bullet for him and I think the only people who could brag about being as loved as I love him are my future kids. So yeah my baby brother's presence at my wedding is not something I am willing to sacrifice AT ALL.
Now a few days ago the topic of the guests came back on the table and Karen said *one more time* that she doesn't want Chad there. I was really getting pissed at that point and told her there wouldn't be a wedding at all if he isn't there so she better either drop it or leave. Then I asked her why the hell doesn't she want him there in the first place. So that bitch tells me she doesn't want a 'faggot' on her wedding day and that her family doesn't approve of this 'lifestyle'. I was like, Did she really just say that? I knew she wasn't exactly the progressive type but it never got that far. Like my brother is the sweetest, kindest, purest soul on earth, I couldn't believe she would hate him so much for something so trivial. And yeah Chad is bi, he came out to me when he was 20 and he looked so damn scared, I told him I loved him no matter what ofc and I promised myself I wouldn't let anyone else make him feel that scared or hurt ever again. And I couldn't even imagine that woman in the same room as him after what she just said. Idk protective big bro instincts kicked in and I told her we're fucking done. I asked her back the ring (that she reluctantly gave back) before telling her she had 10 minutes to pack her things and get tf out of my house before I call the cops.
Obviously I cancelled everything and told everyone who would ask the exact reason why Karen and I are done. Sweet Chad obv heard of it and saw the proportion this drama was gaining, he even told me it's not a big deal if he's not there, he just wants me to be happy. I told him my big day is meant to be the happiest in my life and it wouldn't fucking be without him. And I certainly can't be happy with someone like Karen given who she really is. Well now she is back to her parents' house, and some of our mutual friends have really distanced themselves from her. I've got a lot of texts from her family, all more hateful than the previous one and ended up blocking them all. Karen on the other hands hasn't been really agressive or anything, just alternating between guilt tripping and cries, saying how I ruined her life (news spread like wild fire apparently) and that she can't believe I ruined our 4 years relationship over a word. But not once, NOT ONCE she has apologized for what she told about Chad so I know even more I don't want to do anything to do with her anymore.
So yeah maybe I'm the AH but I don't think so, and honestly I think she deserves every part of the backlash she is getting. She has to face the consequences of her hatred, and it's great her true self has been revealed to the world imo. Who even says that in Seattle anyway lol | r/aitah | post | r/AITAH | 2024-11-29 | Z0FBQUFBQm5jYWFyZXNNUks4NEtXbWVKdkRoeUpoWmQ5aWFXb0xkUkttTVd5Z3pOUGRJRHFKTXo0NEl4ZDlNUm5pNlpJVXNaWGxQaVdTTU9yTTBLVzF6Z3U0MXczYldZQVNGaldnZVNZU1c3dEk2Sm5jTmwybmc9 | Z0FBQUFBQm5jYWFzT2gyR3czQmUxWkl1QlZxRFdvWldCTzh5SVJlNWlRUFhxdW9QMFVUSl8wZ0liRlQ2M28ya2Ftc3d4UUlhZ3RwdVpncjVXUTRUdDQ1dHRFQzByN3lPaUhSSWpfN2JJV3ZJY2FTLTcyYjFiRjlxM0lVRkFFYldaZGR2YXFGMXJtZW0teVZmTXhjWk9uc2NBdkM4eS1rekNJM3MwdzJ5ZHU3d0ZBZHhsSWQ2bHVGRnBHcExGRVVUdVVEUnZFODZRQjZJcVhwMGQ0RmZ6X1lYS0tpUEtZZzRLdz09 |
I gave my 2.5yo a plate of cookies to be shared between us. She picked one up and handed it to my husband "one for daddy", handed me one "one for mommy", and then took the last one "one for (name)". I didn't realize she had that manner yet!! It was very sweet to see her make sure we all had one before eating her own! I don't remember specifically teaching her to do that. What has your toddler done that they learned from you just by watching? | r/toddlers | post | r/toddlers | 2024-11-30 | Z0FBQUFBQm5jYWFyWVh6S3lDTFFpMDB5X2JsM0VyV2lvak1CbW5TNi1sSU5kLUtnakxzQ1hkcEpqbmR2SUNpWHkwUkh6UnktZm5YTHJ1WUk2UzhhazZRVmFLcDNESFVic2c9PQ== | Z0FBQUFBQm5jYWFzSy00eVZXNXFVZi1KRlFWMGxoZml3R3pfV1NJamhTWjJfNG1RT1dWZ0JDNnFqelRlMW1FN3hSRGxtRE5EaUd4X1o3N3JSOUtOamtvMXdfejRCTDhRRGVJNTJOZU5SMW1xUGdvNFZwTzZrME12QWlvX2RiZWJaZHB4S0JqOVBOanJJVGs2Y1hwT29fWk51MU0tZ1ZnYng3UkZHZzIzVlBSREM3ckdHeXRMbnFuV09TZE1BZ01KWGhhd29EX3Z4Q3Ut |
Anyone have a guess why I uncontrollably cry on shrooms? To the point I can’t stop or hold it in? It’s making me unable to trip with friends bc I don’t want to ruin the vibe lol.
My guess is I’m suppressing a bunch of emotions and they’re all coming up to the surface when I take the shrooms - but I’m not consciously trying to suppress my emotions. Any ideas / similar experience accounts are welcome! Ty!
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We have seen I. The last month a huge surge of posts about issues with meme coins. In almost all of the cases investors got scammed! Please refrain from GAMBLING in new meme coins on Solana Ecosystem. I myself lost like 200 dollars on such coins and had to learn it the hard way. So please don't invest in new meme coins. Try investing in the well established coins of Solana Ecosystem like Solana itself or BONK, WIF or functional coins like grass and drift.
Don't gamble your money out ! | r/solana | post | r/solana | 2024-11-30 | Z0FBQUFBQm5jYWFyaXFXUV9jMVRkRDAyY2hPd2ZHX000OGs0RF9JNk5FOG1CRlFyY0t4ajZPM01wM3NlanFyYUs2X25DeENJRDZScmM2ZGdCRzY3N3JuX0hVeHVRSDZVcmc9PQ== | Z0FBQUFBQm5jYWFzYXlpa2ZDREEzVUFkOFpwVlNxZnZZZjFwYXpUdGhPdFhDdkpIeXNmVVBxZFJxNGtSV0NnYVBxdVRtdFFKb0l6SEZqQl9ZeHg5eEt2XzdMNVdMSl9Zd2paU2E0Zk9MbWk0LUZFbUpuUnExNmVBV2h4alhScUdFelhaZmtzbEZsaEZTdk11SEtnWS1qLVg3WTlpZzYxeXQweTJCY1dhc0RhbGZZUzJWbWFsd01NPQ== |
32F. I spent Thanksgiving with my in-laws and it was one of the most upsetting days of my life.
My husband and I have been trying for a baby for around three years. Last year, I got pregnant and miscarried twice. It was devastating and my greatest fear is that I’ll never be able to have a child with my husband.
In October, I found out I was pregnant for the third time. We were thrilled, but also cautious because of my history with miscarriages. Originally, the plan was to keep it between us until I made it to the second trimester.
Unfortunately, I have a well-intention yet nosy mother-in-law. We were at dinner one night with my in-laws, and my MIL noticed I wasn’t drinking. My MIL asked if I was pregnant, and I’m horrible at hiding my emotions, so my reaction to her question gave it away. I admitted that I was pregnant, but explained that we’re very cautious and want to keep it private until I make it to the second trimester. My FIL and MIL said they understood and agreed to keep it between us.
Sadly, I miscarried around a week ago and I was crushed. It’s been terrible, but I’m trying to stay busy to keep my mind off it. Initially, I wanted to skip Thanksgiving, but I wanted my husband to see his family and I thought it might lift my spirits to be surrounded by loved ones. I wanted to tell my MIL about the miscarriage in person since it felt strange talking to her about it over the phone, but she wasn’t free to see me this week. My plan was to talk to her the day after Thanksgiving when we could have a moment alone.
Almost immediately after we arrived at my in-law’s house, my MIL’s sister hugged me and congratulated me on the pregnancy. I was shocked, since my MIL agreed not to tell anyone. I considered saying thank you to not draw attention to myself and put a damper on the night, but I couldn’t hide my emotions, and told her I miscarried. She hugged me and apologized for my loss. A few minutes later, my SIL came over to us and congratulated me. I started tearing up as I explained for the second time that I miscarried. They were both kind, but I was very emotional and frustrated, since my in-laws agreed to keep it private, and this was the exact situation I was seeking to avoid.
A few minutes after I spoke to my SIL, my MIL pulled me to the side and asked why I didn’t tell her about the miscarriage. She said it hurt having to hear the news from her older sister instead of from me directly. I said that I wanted to tell her in person, and was planning on telling her in the morning when we had a moment to ourselves. I said I wasn’t expecting to be confronted about the pregnancy since she agreed to keep it private. My MIL said she only told her sister and daughter, which was to be expected in the situation since she was so excited. I was furious, but didn’t have the energy to argue about it, so I said we should talk about it later and enjoy the holiday. I left my MIL and went to socialize with the other relatives.
When it was time to eat, my MIL stood up to give the blessing. She started to talk, but then got emotional and began to cry. She asked the family to keep me in their thoughts and prayers since I recently miscarried. She added that I’ve miscarried twice before and it’s been an emotional experience for everyone. I’d only told my MIL and FIL about the previous miscarriages, so she was once again broadcasting my personal medical information.
My MIL started talking directly to me and said she knows I’ll get through this and that I’ll make an amazing mom some day. I couldn’t control my emotions and started sobbing in front of the entire family. I was crying so hard that I was practically choking on my tears and I couldn’t catch my breath. My husband was furious and asked his mom why she thought it was appropriate to tell people about my pregnancy and miscarriages. My MIL responding by saying she loves us so much and was just very excited to be a grandma. With respect to the miscarries, she said we deserve the family love and support during this difficult time. My husband announced we were leaving and we left before the turkey was even served.
I cried myself to sleep and woke up feeling horrible. This morning, my MIL showed up at my house unannounced. She said she wanted to talk to us about what happened. My husband was still fuming, and I told him to let me speak to his mom privately to avoid another fight. I was still upset about what happened, but I wanted to make peace and was willing to accept her apology since the situation has been hard on everyone.
My MIL and I sat down together, and instead of apologizing, she lectured me about how I should have told her about the miscarriage before sharing the news with other relatives. She said it was hard to hear the news from her sister when she was looking forward to a happy Thanksgiving. She was also upset that I dropped this horrible news at dinner and that I should have found a way to tell her before the holiday, even if it was over the phone. She also said that if I was still so emotional over the miscarriage, I shouldn’t have come to Thanksgiving and risked upsetting all the guests. She said she knows I’m going through a lot and forgives me, but she wanted to be honest about her feelings.
I was floored. I told my MIL that I may have made some mistakes, but all of this could have been avoided if she had followed through on her promise to keep the pregnancy private. I said she owed both my husband and myself an apology. My MIL asked if I would also apologize for making a scene at Thanksgiving. I didn’t think I owed her an apology under the circumstances, and I expressed that clearly. She left in tears and said I was lashing out because of the traumatic pregnancies.
My husband said I shouldn’t apologize and also cancelled our Christmas plans with his family. While I think my MIL behaved poorly, part of me wants to apologize to defuse the situation. I also know that this has been challenging for my MIL as well and we don’t always react perfectly in these situations. I also feel badly that I let my emotions get the better of me and put a damper on the evening.
AITAH for how I handled the situation and for refusing to apologize when my MIL visited our home? | r/aitah | post | r/AITAH | 2024-11-30 | Z0FBQUFBQm5jYWFyTFVFTmpjUS1ERkI1NnFDa01pM2N6OTV3TVNvY2Z4UXFhSjFyUm96UnAtNVNxT2pNMHNlNkxGZnBicVdDNUV4UVVDMFlhMURPN2lwaE0wWllVcmw5TFdpNnE5VGk0VGFmTU1WZ3lqQ2sxQjQ9 | Z0FBQUFBQm5jYWFzR0VWRjFTMjRRODkta3BGMEg1MEdiX29sVXJBRjNPakFvcHlIZTdQY1Q0ZmlpTV9NeTQ3MkVuMGJ5RzM2OC1XLVJDQmZOX2ZrN2V5bUdRSkVUOG1pYm43czlTMjAzUGViMVBkUEZNYmpHRTNnaldJS1pzOHBUeWV5TnhkS3JfRFhwT2tjQXpjMmh6Y252SFUwbTloQU1CSXdCR0pLNk9tRDNBcTVwaFJ4eHlXNUdRY0NQQk9Lc0RSOHpzYk53aUFobUl1ZkRxV0pjNl9rUDVvQUwxLWRCQT09 |
So I recently read in the white paper of Bittensor(TAO)
THAT A "WINDOWS" system is not recommended.
Does this mean I can only use Mac? Or does it mean Operating system as in I should be using Ubuntu or Linux Based Software?
Can someone shed light on this for me.
Thanks. | r/bittensor_ | post | r/bittensor_ | 2024-11-30 | Z0FBQUFBQm5jYWFyM1h6WjR5b0tjMU9KVVJHUlA3NS0xWG1xSmV3LWx4OXlRTUxmNzd1Q0UwZnluYV9SbDc5ckM2UmJLWUh0VExsSEt4dE9HTTdQUnJjS3VmOVF2eXFpanc9PQ== | Z0FBQUFBQm5jYWFzWGkxNm1kdEtKUzlsWXM0TEw2ZUhMMlpnMDFldVJ5Zk8tSnVzbGxmWTZCQURMQnBqSWhwdVU3TWMxZUFVbkI5RzNvMlpwNVJnbnhpRTV5RFdvRW1KTEVFVUtFUDhXZkVMZEpla0pCbkZmZzJLWXVEVjQyYTRGcW40emFOY3JKSkp0cEVzYUFpLVEzNTczTkctVTZIMkJXamI1SmE3SmpTNlFDSHZOOGhEZnNYUkp3UV9zcWhNLU9qN0JsQ3hsckl6LWV6ZFpfd3NJWjRTUWQ4ZWRQRkNyZz09 |
At night, when everything is dark, I often notice that some lights from outside the door can be seen only when i'm not looking. Another example is the switched off neon light, completely off when looking directly, can see a pale light with the corner of the eye. | r/askscience | post | r/askscience | 2024-11-30 | Z0FBQUFBQm5jYWFyQXE4NWRjeUwwakJfdjFlLTZjTlRvVGtteHMwWm9RdjdzNmg0aEJVLVY4MkNBOXZuZEpKMGtkSFgxUXRSNXFILUYzYUdvUE9PcVFFSlItWHJuLWFRbmc9PQ== | Z0FBQUFBQm5jYWFzcURZb0JZU2NyamZpV0ZNbjRtX3VYVW9ycndWM1djaXFxZ1ZCZi13Z0pzZnlyS0FycTRMMy1LaXIzVzdXeEM5VWpzUkdlZTBRUlc5T3drbU53dTNyMDQweVFnWEdRMk03cTFuUkpFNVUtMlg4NlZJUVBDZGlYSkhWS3lqeWFxMlRiMjhZVnl4YklWQy05RVkyb3FFU2ZKcVZhTTdmY1B1YWNZdUZzR1RkQV9JM2xpZ1h0Ul9aWFE2djZoaVNDd3hQd3VpQWQwSk9lbVZhdFRlaXZ3bGdLdz09 |
Guess who actually does the cooking? | r/daddit | post | r/daddit | 2024-11-30 | Z0FBQUFBQm5jYWFyRGRNOEVGYk94OWNEc1Jxd3NZRnR1SkhmcjMzdGluV1lJb3laRW9qN1Z3UEQ3eEwzdUZNU1MwYXYxVTBoLTNWRDRFN2JwbmlFRTVOVDNEbXZQdXJzN1E9PQ== | Z0FBQUFBQm5jYWFzaHQ4ckgzV0c0TUlhTEZCaXp4d0VNdkhLVktsUUZWeDNjYnRtQm9tMHk5dEo0dVBpeUVDa3c3blc1a1RsQnFlZFVpbE5NQWNRb3FfYVhqWFR5UElkMklMSWd6WWc5dUMyVnkzeWI4ZUxPRTBwZUlJSGxKMWQ3U2ZfYngwWkp0NWNhd0pPRVNvX3BuWmJDQzBGTXdaV045VVNIQldtVFFOQ3RWZVFqMHcwRXBTUFlrZGsxR0w5OUVXb3lTZDR5TDR4N0JsM1ZTVzFXd2xoUUVUdHpMTFFNQT09 |
We went on a single breakfast date more than 6 months ago. Really awkward, no chemistry, haven’t spoken since. Then today… | r/amioverreacting | post | r/AmIOverreacting | 2024-11-30 | Z0FBQUFBQm5jYWFyemdEbEJUNmM1M2Z4aG96SGsyWEJCTlRiekUzX3VQb3dBdWUyQktyWDRWYUFWR1otanRYMzNBWEtaQmxueFBrd1ZSUlJ6cmIxNFU1SFRCM29HVWcyd2c9PQ== | Z0FBQUFBQm5jYWFzMl9OejU0ZGVJV1Zwazd2TlQtendXRmFVaVVjak1GdU5Db2V5SDdNSzl0aW5TNGtONTBkYjYxZHcxRjVMN1JheWFVaVliRWdzTlpUcVhjZGhmUndzV090UlVvVU1hLTUxc2lBUkkwQUxKYkF3ZlRRV28yS3lwM1lYVGplcVY1S0c5M2VweWdIbHRQVHRrekhHZXdfZms2ZWlkMEh1SnRlemxnTTBGVllub1JkeWh3cGIyb2Rmb1Q2dlJ1ODJCWFhLcVBXendfYk5DTHFzMDF0TWlJS1ZHUT09 |
Im in my teens and my parents told me that i should invest some of the money im making from my part time job. Ive put aside $500 and im thinking of putting at least $400 into VOO. Can i get any advice on what you would do if you were investing your first $500? thank you | r/investing | post | r/investing | 2024-11-30 | Z0FBQUFBQm5jYWFyS2htV19fV3RZU2NOVl9ncEd4c2JaUW16SjRMd0hsRXIwdXlyUWs2bFYxRDZNdDN6WmhvMkYwZE52bnE4VXByOXZsNE8tR2MtQUJJWVF1V2dsTlVIWHBlengwS2pwNlp5cElJOHFIUFB1bW89 | Z0FBQUFBQm5jYWFzc0dtbGl2V0JuYzQweTFncWc3UnVFMG00d0tMMkc3RDhuZVlqeTlqZmdPNGtWZ2p6RnN1ODhUdWpPQ3lVcmlEbElWeWtNeTBfQVd6UGZTLW1MY1Z1YnM4OUw4Y2tfSnBEM1FRWEhrbFdwMkhrWHZpcndkRWV1d3l2RXpsM2dXTjBpZGNnZUlNTzczWEZaUDBDaTZuOWlkR183RjJjaTRLVTRGRUUwN2pROFhOQmlpRTVkQ2YwVmNKSlRidkRzU2R2 |
“Oh it’s no big deal” “it’s the nice thing to do” “it’s rude not to”. Fuck that, fuck your religion why don’t YOU be accepting of my choices and keep that shit to yourself. | r/atheism | post | r/atheism | 2024-11-30 | Z0FBQUFBQm5jYWFybjlNR1oxZmR5c3FqSGxhVlB4Y0lTZmIzT19Ud0V4Y1IxaThsUk1aV0ZQYVhETF9fUXotNmp5X3Jla0poOUEydTJuazlPcTNHMlUwdG5hazJPS19BOHc9PQ== | Z0FBQUFBQm5jYWFzUzd6ZE1JTjBMaXBla2ZabS0xMDQxNXYycGo3Qzd6ck45UWRaR2JNdjBicFZhYVdqaDJwLVNmaUZCcUJSVkRMR0JBUVVBZnRGSXNHMFZsM1k2T2pHWXBvTGpWNVhpY3BUazIyeVNTMnlkeXE0UXZxTWoxT1F0WEdudmJOZkR3aFVUMVgwTzVwZnVWZWR3a3p0LU9LR1FIMy1hdFpPY1Z2QUVXbGhTa18teW51X2E3R084ZVdMNHVtdFlveWRLdDBVNVYzZGVWZnlqUWFNUDlpVm1mSE9DQT09 |
It’s me. I’m that mom. I’m just trying to be a good mom to my toddler and act like his brother didn’t just die last month and it absolutely kills me when you ask if he’s my only one, or how many I have. There is no good answer. If I say I have another you’ll ask more questions or I’ll cry. If I say he’s my only one then I replay it in my mind all day until my toddler is asleep and I sob about the fact that I acted like my dead baby never existed. I don’t know what I want from posting this. I know these are normal questions with good intentions I just hate them so much. | r/mommit | post | r/Mommit | 2024-11-30 | Z0FBQUFBQm5jYWFyTHNONTVXNVBnbFpELTJMajM3MEdIM1ZIcUlEQ0NKd3ZxdWMtQmRnVFk2RUVnbnBfbndVaDVFSl9VTUxiSTVNbE1hb1lsLVNoaGJVbUdnVTZSblZReWc9PQ== | Z0FBQUFBQm5jYWFzamU4R2dJR3hnQTBxUUR3eFJLWTlqQnkySlEyV0M4NTl1Z1RKdDRqQ3BIbUlOYUN3YndLbUxEYk5sblE3OEVNS3FxT2FPTGJRVUJ5Z3JMSzl6WUVGZDZMaWVOdjQxbGdUN0d2YmRMTS1jcnpxNDZkVV8tc0NoT2F5Wm1UU3Uta2U4dThaRGY1TU9qaG1VanRJSl96MU5lUGpueUhMSUxIWHQ3enZIT0dpRTM4bzhjX1p4WUtSZzI3Z2FHcjhVUjdR |
As the question says. I know myocardial infarction pain, stomach pain, and urethral pain exist. Is this true for all internal organs and each part of them? Say, the outside of our kidneys, or our lungs, or spleen, and others. Including our veins and arteries. | r/askscience | post | r/askscience | 2024-11-30 | Z0FBQUFBQm5jYWFyUDVZV2MxQkRWLTZ5RHBVMGxXN19TdFR6Z01Cd3pjXzFtR1NQSEVMdlJWMFQ3RWlWcW03WElxemxwa0hsanlnNGV0a3NYMnpRVjQ3NGM1Wi00STA2WEE9PQ== | Z0FBQUFBQm5jYWFzLU1DVHVlOTBETDh4WE10eFJhTFZ3akVGMlcxY1JDTm1DYUNNYTNoRlI4bmt3QnFtTV9GRDhqcUV2djZQTHZOWk96QXo2U3JxTXFoQWUtN0p3QzhCb3BYRC1aRmdManlacFhMcFVmNDFyZTNTd0hULUpBNlkzbktidUF4S3VaQjRSYlFVWU9MS0lxdU1KbkRKbnpJZkJoTzlhRFZkamRaSE51cFlwb1JERERIMlpSeHlJUG12QjBkTDBSMllTRjdvOXBuOHhfd3hZczBjR0ZqLXNKRWN1dz09 |
Just turned mid 30’s and I’ve realized the importance of buying high quality clothing. With that being said im looking to invest in a high quality 3 season jacket that I can wear and look “sophisticated” but im having a hard time choosing after reading so many different reviews. I REALLY love this jacket by Relwen posted below and its what im considering but ive read their quality control and craftsmanship has been seriously lacking since new ownership last year? Not sure how true that is but if anyone has any suggestions for what I’m looking for or experience with Relwen please let me know! Links appreciated.
https://huckberry.com/store/relwen/category/p/86910-quilted-insulated-tanker-jacket | r/malefashionadvice | post | r/malefashionadvice | 2024-11-30 | Z0FBQUFBQm5jYWFyYXZuQ19YQ3pXT3ZtMFg4QTFSVDBRNnRNZFg5dGhwVTVtUWtFbFJfY0hQaWhSS1h5dTNZdFF4b25OaU5uWTVacTYzYm4yemJpVlZUeUt1OWxKdWVoWGc9PQ== | Z0FBQUFBQm5jYWFzZWgwazU0dktsVnVhRjc5TTY0ZWFNeWxnRFV3MjhtOXFFVmRfM3Nub191NXVzNC1CYU9DU3B5R3BrRVV3V1VST2lJRHZrTUJaSFpRay1zSklxVXppSE5qWDctWXJLWVpiQnlBUnRKNWZWNXFpbTcxV29sa2xBRXNLVFE5TzJBdm5fblBQdHFWcmRzcFFzX2oxMXg3NUxDTUNTUTNQWWw0SV93Y3I1Y0VrSDNJMUw5SC1Pem1nX0dJdDBsbEFtMlFWa0ZCdFhMT3M4NjY4SEZ5c2pXeXVIUT09 |
The twitter account "Fake History Hunter" commonly claims that Europeans bathed and washed with soap *regularly* during Medieval times. However, recently she has claimed that *daily* baths *with soap* were common *among all classes*, even commoners. How accurate is that?
I am somewhat skeptical for two reasons: Incentive and logistics/cost.
1. The germ theory was developed during the 19th century. Before that, there was less of an incentive to be hygienic (here it is important to distinguish hygiene from cleanliness). By the start of the 19th century, there were a lot of random unsubstantiated ideas about the origin of (infectious) diseases, some of which might have been partially correct in hindsight, but if you throw enough random ideas to a wall, some might stick to it by pure luck. In other words, by the beginning of the 19th century, there was no scientific consensus that (infectious) diseases were caused by microorganisms. This is reflected in the famous observation by Dr. Ignaz Semmelweis: Women who delivered assisted by a doctor had a higher chance of dying than women treated by midwives. He proposed that the cause of this was that doctors would sometimes perform autopsies and then treat expectant mothers without washing their hands. He implemented a hand-washing protocol which led to a reduction in the mortality rate from 18% to 2%. And still his ideas were rejected by other doctors and scientists!
2. Central and Northern Europe can get very cold in winter. I imagine the logistics of preparing hot daily baths must have been cumbersome, and going to public baths probably expensive. Also there is a big difference between "bathe regularly" and "bathe daily".
Edit: [Fake History Hunter has responded at length here](https://www.reddit.com/r/AskHistorians/comments/1h33wvo/comment/lzq0bqw/).
To sum up, I probably misunderstood her claims. She clarified that:
>I never claimed that daily BATHS were common. My claim is that daily WASHING was common. Having a full bath was also common but not DAILY. People had a bath when they could, which for many was once a week, sometimes more. | r/askhistorians | post | r/AskHistorians | 2024-11-30 | Z0FBQUFBQm5jYWFydGozTWlsMHBzelhSQmhmQ3RnQkdQNGtNMHpYdUJ3UnpBQ3ZwRGNCc1JZLUlpZGpkTzhOUXo1UW5OYkZlZjI4ZWdWT2l6LUhYRUFja3dRa0t5T09KclE9PQ== | Z0FBQUFBQm5jYWFzU01GaXVEQXRnV2FwenJPNTJxNHJkeHFWQ3gxaUNLREJqRmtqcmxVTmhXOWZuU2NBX254YkREYUoyYnRDOHdUZGJjb1NWOVpTV2p3OWNtSl82YkFuSkhabklnTnZLWEdOeG05TlZBekpjQWNWcEtxY1k1c1hkRHhFMDJiZFI3MHNDQjVtSV9UNFpmUGRkTFg0UUNJZDN0N2lJRGxpcElBemhHMDkxczBTUEdaYjI1RjVfZjZvZWN2RDRfVjdBUFpuZXdTQWlvUk83cHNLTW5rR0ZnOHVJdz09 |
Basically title. As I understand, the Maori and Aboriginal Australians are completely distinct culturally and gene wise, as the Maori are descended from Polynesian settlers. So my question is, in the 65 000 years that Aboriginal Australians have been living in Australia, how come they never managed to get to New Zealand?
Thank you! | r/askhistorians | post | r/AskHistorians | 2024-11-30 | Z0FBQUFBQm5jYWFyRDgzaU5kbEdyTFIydVFpQVF3SlNnbEhLblFKdmptT0FMSjBZUFJHLWJQdGNEc2ZBSmVJU3Z5TnlhVlAzbEMzTGJxUlV6dWpoS3U4clI5WkFZQVlVZHBwdDBmQ01qa0dtTHRDSGFFcUI0d0E9 | Z0FBQUFBQm5jYWFzWVNneDVsbnc2ZEFiUTMxZ0dsWkZ5VVEwQ2VTSTNfN1lkRlNkOHdYVzhoY0ZTQmxhR0VSMTd6LTRlQlZGUGoxcVluTG0ybmE2RGVfVGV5R3FSZm04VFVDenpCcXpERTNvb0k4U2dHcVBlRDZSQThHVWtoRVlpdVVESG8wbFM4eFlfUGt3cFh6bGwxeDd6YVQ2cjMweExLYTNsOE1RdExWdVVZNVNmbmlWZU9sS04wQ0x0Skg3UmhTZW1yVEdCZUpaN00zUEwwMXExdGlJTjRMZ1ZwcEZaQT09 |
So I bought 150 call options on $tsla @ 342.25 expire last night. It was two days before the expiration date, I was like fuck it and see what will happen.
Then last night when I was about to sleep, the calls was at the price of 0.5 dollar, my holdings were -50% down / 6k loss.
I set up the sell @ 1.6-1.8 dollar range for 80 contracts ( remember I have 150 of them) and then I went to sleep.
Today I woke up to the Tesla @345 dollars and my call are now worth 2.8 dollars. and then realized I haven’t sold another 70 contacts. Which means I have lost 70 call option which could give me up to 18k gain.
Now I ended up with 800 dollars gain instead of 18k.
| r/wallstreetbets | post | r/wallstreetbets | 2024-11-30 | Z0FBQUFBQm5jYWFyeFlaZjVqV1A1eXoxajFnaVMzU0ZLTWc0MmZFNGNUcXdGeF90UVhKcDhLVEkwZ2dsRk8zUE5lNGNqUVNiSzI4V1k1QWtHV0dfQmtsNmNCZEFWeHJyM1E9PQ== | Z0FBQUFBQm5jYWFzc3dmWnprTFhzZXBzNk82c3l6dWwwRjM1RnVwSEZxWWh2anpMV3NuYXdBcE1CdjlTdjJGcUxCRHIwZy1VMDJVZTRZSGlVaUtXSHNHV2pkcmhHQlBTSFpxYjlObVZheTNzc0V3bzkyUU11M18yR2lUMTZQNDhJZzdXX2FzLUpzcDRLQjdJTDlJWmRTWmNEYzYtUmhsTHBuSlQtSFVJSWc1dlhtWEZvTjBuSDk0NlRSdGRyVVB0R3ZUMHBmdExnUWhtbzgtS2pxMzdwOUdCSENOTjItc1N6Zz09 |
Bitcoin Cash is the best peer-to-peer electronic cash and can be used to spend on daily things that matter and beyond but also can be used to fuel the Defi Race making it more usable than even with this feature as do that preserving all fundamentals on it: lower fees, fast transactions and keep it as the real Satoshi dream: a worldwide financial tool 4 the people. Learn more about in the article that is also reshared on Bastyon, Minds, Torum, P0X and more. | r/bitcoincash | post | r/Bitcoincash | 2024-11-30 | Z0FBQUFBQm5jYWFyN1pYRGJJN2JldkFnM055SVFkYjZyTTE0emllWlJMTWhqUE43c3daYllEVUlWTXcxeDNYeUp0UW9BdWFkMHY5WkpXckwtUjRGN2lMNndpNHVlLXVoX1E9PQ== | Z0FBQUFBQm5jYWFzVHl6V0x0RGNqem1wOTZxcFdpQWgwYUpfZUNiWFlIQTZaRzNvaTh1RVpLTEg5MXJOX0htb3pBZ180TmliQkRIbjlqZjdtd201WF93aXJzQmFBbE5BeVh4WXZrV0s3R1k1NkxUS2xPY2h4dTRvbEd1akhnQXBxSjRkaXV3UzJpOGh2bzVQWVpTczJQMUoxckd3ZlZVWndFTnBmU3llSlUyNFN2bEVlQ3NKdnBEWU5uNWw5SkpzVkQ2UUNlTWREaHBJZ2lNRzdPRmFtQ29HNW83X0ZIOTRwQT09 |
We are getting our 2.33 year old a toddler tool box, playdoh with accessories, sticker book, Dino temporary tattoos, and a book. I plan on getting some snacks we don’t get all the time for his stocking, and putting the tattoos in there. Maybe one of those character juices if I find one he really likes.
I’m so grateful we can do this much, and we don’t have space for much more. But sometimes it’s hard to not want to keep up with the joneses!
Edit: woke up after a rough night with our infant to TONS of wonderful comments. Thank you for the pleasant reminders “stuff” isn’t all that important 🩷 | r/toddlers | post | r/toddlers | 2024-11-30 | Z0FBQUFBQm5jYWFyUTdhRkhjdERpQk1OYlNSVmh3cnFhWkg5S3pMSWZWNTItSkFmMU5XY3o1WFJtWnhYazdKb2xHTGROT1NVblhCRHZpMWlfQTdMbkczeEdSank1NldmWUE9PQ== | Z0FBQUFBQm5jYWFzYWI4Qnc1ckF6VHdzckNmUUJJVkdwemhrSGRtb1R0S0lVdi1zVUY2b3c1dEc2MS1EX0pVVjFaY2ZTWnY1NHhtazNqQTY3UE9faF94T3hJbERYVEhweEJkN01JRldzSUtkR1R3cnZNSldPdWotOXU0MFpXMXB5SGdwd1AxdFM0T25PTFBZVTl1TEpFVTltV2ptVGt2Z3RDM3hUSjNzcS13bXVhZDhFUnAwWVRpOHVrN1l4VTE0RGhqdHBRMGhlYXVOMFA3YmtyNTJfMk04YzBKSzhCMzBVQT09 |
Hi Reddit! I made a post 3 years ago about my husband not taking the initiative when it came to purchasing a new car after a big move. My post didn’t get too big, but I’ve always liked seeing updates and a lot has changed in 3 years. So, I decided to log back in and make my own! (I don’t know how to link the original but please take a look at the post history if you want to see my first post)
After making the post, my husband had made an appointment to go look at cars. I remember feeling really good about everything in that moment. I felt a huge relief knowing that this big thing was finally getting taken care of.
When his appointment came, my husband called to tell me some good news. He had seen one car, decided it was good, and told me that this is the one we would be buying. While he was still in the dealership, I asked him to tell me the details like how much the interest was and how much the car cost. I asked him if he had compared it to Kelly Blue Book to see if it was a fair deal. My husband was kind enough to ask the salesman everything, but after each question he would add, “I’m sorry my wife is making this so difficult.”
I was pretty hurt and embarrassed by this, and told him so, but he said all my questions were frustrating and were slowing down the process of the ONE thing I had asked him to do. In the end, he decided to wait for me to arrive so that we could sign for the car together. I ended up getting picked up from the airport and taken straight to the car dealership.
We got a good interest rate on the car, but we ended up overpaying by about $7,000. I should have said no to the car and just looked myself, but I was young and embarrassed and I felt like I wasn’t being supportive.
Thankfully, that car ended up being our only shared piece of property in our divorce. I didn’t trust him to refinance the car, so I ended up taking it. We owed so much more money on the car than what it was worth that I couldn’t get it refinanced for several months. I ended up trading it in, and even though I’m still in the hole financially because of it, I am SO much happier now.
We did try therapy before ultimately divorcing. My ex husband was quite the prodigy- he was “cured” (his words, not mine) after a week. He said that he had it all figured out and didn’t see the point in continuing.
He also told me that he was the only one who had ever put any effort into the relationship, and that it was 100% my fault that we were divorcing. He told me that no one would ever love him again if I left and that he might as well off himself because there’s no point in going on. When that didn’t work, he said that no one would ever love ME again and that I was lucky that he has stayed around as long as he did.
He then asked me if I would forge his signature on the divorce documents because I “was basically forcing him to do it anyways”. I did not.
Anyway, I’m happy to report that he was successfully able to move on from the trauma I put him through. He’s still around, but I’ve kept my distance because I can’t be bothered, so I’m unsure of what he’s up to.
I was able to find someone after some time. My boyfriend is so kind. Sometimes I feel like it’s too god to be true. Then again, I get twitterpated when he does simple things like taking out the trash, cooking, or maintaining a full time job… so the bar is in hell. (He’s a great guy, and he does more than the bare minimum I promise)
Looking back, I knew that I wanted a divorce, I just wasn’t ready to admit it. My ex husband didn’t love or respect me. I didn’t put many details of the relationship in my first post, and I don’t really feel the need to put it all out there now, but I know now that if someone truly loves you, they make sure you know.
Thanks Reddit! You were right! | r/relationship_advice | post | r/relationship_advice | 2024-11-30 | Z0FBQUFBQm5jYWFyTi1MUDA0a0djaThQa3c2am5CRXRicUJyendsUjYxblp1eW0xOHYtQXFwUXp4LUdJN1pVLVV5Vm1UN1Z5Nkxud2V2ZkhQMkRZT29seFZOTllnVW53S3o2d1lfcmJXaDRCWGV3SkFNdDhoODQ9 | Z0FBQUFBQm5jYWFzTXpkMm92ZHEyWEdPcTVaTUdlWUxNTmppOHduTFF4LUlBOWFZUWJKcW5wWkpSWUdxTDE3a2pFT2I5U01aYjh3YmhOdTBXYUJNcnpxTGU2RFF4blJMVXh4OEd1QmFsbmdqMWNNenJwQTFHX3lGTWFfZjBySUdoQ0VfUkloalJDR0pzVmlCV0FpbGI0bE4tcGU5alUzWjlPQVB6ZjhpRTFtczhzOEctZFVyeFlnS0hUTHRRSE9UMjhpcHpyVmhXRF85cmNjS2tiWDJaYkRYdnJYZjdCSW50cDg3MW9EcURhYzQ3X1E5X1BiUzRPMD0= |
I moved into an old house in the middle of nowhere a few years ago and I've had strange encounters since. My first encounter with this "creature" had been in the woods surrounding my house. I had been roaming around and exploring as I had loved doing then and I'd been recently deep into the woods. I heard something near me which had seemed to be for a call for help before being chased by something on all fours. There had been many other small experiences throughout the couple of years until my most recent encounter.
This had happened one night in the safety of my house. I had a massive feeling of dread and what felt like a just a pit in my stomach. I had looked out my window (somewhat looks into the woods) and had saw what looked like a pale creature with pitch black eyes, the skin looked too tight, and it had 5 fingers which had all been too long and seemed pointy, the most terrifying part though, was that it was smiling at me. I guess I wanted to get the story off my chest, but also would like some opinions on what it could've been. | r/thetruthishere | post | r/Thetruthishere | 2024-11-30 | Z0FBQUFBQm5jYWFyVmdIY0NfeUhwb0tVSXNGR1F4ZllpRDdLSU1oTzdKQk02MGRjT3pHRnh4WTVPM3lha3dqS0V4NVFHYW1vSlUxZFpPYkZVUGw2ZmdCUTd4a0ZPeGtfanc9PQ== | Z0FBQUFBQm5jYWFzajBUdW1faUtmcG9iSmxjN1VVRGRYNXpwdlNqaU1weVRBamlpRmJSODZwWW1lRE9nWXQ5VW1hSUZJT2xzZE9qTkdhQ21KaEwxUjFkUHVQbXJ5RWlOdUljVUpRcEdsblpsQzFUUExrcmplTEUtV2o1eW9DZnRyQ2Y0bW1NWlBZSWt5a29iVXoxUVlXaEZfbno2UDNtZE4tZU9tSmZwaElXTnZMUVJ4V0NlQWVnWkxaeWk1dDZpbjZHSmZncEtrNVIy |
Looking to do a long-term temple stay (several months at least) for cheap. What countries can I get the most bang for my buck in terms of lodging, food, etc.? What countries do foreigners generally report the best experiences for this kind of long-term experience? | r/asia | post | r/asia | 2024-11-30 | Z0FBQUFBQm5jYWFyZTN0MFNXQ0ZoSl9ORkJtdFI5NzZNN1Mtc2xUdi1wRkh5V2lQUTFlTVhrdWc4eTc2Q2xOemhoYVYtQXpDS2Y3enZmX3BGUWMtZGN4WHJ5UHFZX253YTZKU1k4YnZ6eWJNQ3ExZjMxa2lFSXc9 | Z0FBQUFBQm5jYWFzRG4zOEQxOERYRHV5RlpwYUxkUlcwS3AxX3hTTWdOaU9uZk9DU2VKWWc1TkJvODJxTTZvMWVUX3BBNjA2cnVkMzQwUWowbVgzYXI2RmF6WFpoTHFZUzl0REtEY2tIQk1hdGtyTUM4aVpKV2NxUFU0aTBORVhaaWNvamhSdndVbURSNjQ2VUJrNU9mYnVuZHRsUFl0dlpYajRJNU5rckZLbkVLYk5PLTdyMEVkSm9mRVh3dGJLOXhlaGFpSTNMa1Z0 |
*Source : @youngpipi01 (X)* | r/ethtrader | post | r/ethtrader | 2024-11-30 | Z0FBQUFBQm5jYWFyZm4tWkFIcHpaOHk2Z3pMS0NwRkpDTUlrVTRnRDlGdF9wRlFqVmUtdW03bHduR3pIQzgydXBvbjZxUUR0dVdic1A0Q0x1amdvTk9WaGEzRWQ1ZFNLMWc9PQ== | Z0FBQUFBQm5jYWFzalZNT0Jka2xwUjNEWWVvR0RDMzlnX3gwd19QY0pMRnNSeEpyelJFd2p2T0pkbmZWV095TklkVThCVG40d3J0WVBhVzk0Qmx0R0FTZmxMT2pXUTFKV3d0eS1tSkd0YzNOXy1idEVwcFF0Qk1nY3MzbFNZRE1weGVfWEUzRi1zQk5ORTNEVGQteXZncW1oQ3VoWFVwdUJqQkpIeEZpT2FLUGdubzNQUmpFSzlicm1yRkxzbkhQdjVVUlZlNVlta3E4 |
I’ve had depression for the past 6 years of my life (I am 21 now) and have been on like 5 different medications, done all kinds of therapy, meditation, etc. I exercise everyday, take supplements, and have a near perfect diet. Nothing has really helped, and i’ve been in some dark places in my life. I decided I wanted to try psilocybin after learning about its potential benefits with helping depression.
Long story short, I took 5g and had the most amazing, but terrifying, experience of my life. I had an experienced trip sitter with me, I set my intentions for the trip, and went into it with an open mind. At the peak of the journey, I had ego death. At times I also thought I was going to be trapped like this forever. I also felt very nauseous and sweaty and threw up a bit. But throughout it all I gained the most profound insights (understanding that we are all connected, connection to the earth, sense that it is all going to be “okay”, feelings of gratitude and love for my family and the world, etc.) I also felt so connected to my body and femininity as a woman. I truly feel like it was one of the most incredible experiences ever.
Nonetheless, the next morning I woke up and felt very depressed. I immediately thought this was strange since in so much of the research people describe having an “afterglow” of being happy.
It is currently 5 days post trip and I have felt more depressed than I have in years. I’m very confused because I feel like I’ve been afforded a new perspective on life— my thoughts are less negative, I am less judgmental of myself, I see things more clearly, i’m not as worried about the future, etc—but at the same time I feel horribly depressed.
Is this just a result of stuff happening with serotonin? Did I take too much? Even though I feel like it was overall an amazing experience, are the scary parts affecting me (i don’t think they are..)? How is it that so many people are able to find relief with this from depression?
I definitely wanted to try again in the future (maybe a few months from now) but now i’m scared if i try again i will go into another depressive state like i am now where it is somehow worse than my normal depression.
Any insight into this would be much appreciated!
EDIT: Thank you so so much for all the insightful comments. It is reassuring to hear that not everyone will experience an immediate “afterglow” or some kind of relief. I think it’s also a good reminder since so much of the current research being published tends to highlight the positive instead of the negative.
To clarify some things—yes, i’ve been doing lots of integration, mainly journaling, meditating, going on walks outside, and talking through my experience with family/friends. For those curious, I had also stopped taking my SSRIs about 2 months ago in preparation for the journey.
If anything I feel like the medicine has allowed me to look at this situation in a more positive light. Despite the depression being back, I no longer feel as discouraged or hopeless as I normally would. I feel much more in tune with my body and thoughts. The medicine has revealed to me what I can work on. All I can do now is continue with integration and hope that the depression will lift.
Again, thank you so much for all the support and resources shared. I plan on diving into the surrounding literature more deeply. And I think I will definetly try again in the future, perhaps in 3-4 months from now, and try at a lower dose. | r/psychonaut | post | r/Psychonaut | 2024-11-30 | Z0FBQUFBQm5jYWFyUXItY0pGOVJOZnFaUC1zRG9rN3JhMDA1Z2hhQVF6aG04d08wWVhwejZmSVJXNTJvNmNrd0dxa1BENFJoblR0ZUpOcHdWM1dlVy1mVWhSX2xfMXJlUkY4LVNqWldqcFNhRjR2M0xXRVdVS2s9 | Z0FBQUFBQm5jYWFzemdpNUxzZHMybXlQNTRLYzF1WlNFZVlOa0hSMFNidEUxR2syVlg0eVc3czdjc3g5Vm9aNVlxQUI4N1RtbE5ZZmtncjhmQWFXS1EtRThPNWFCUGI2NENhLVVVVGtPaUJGZk5GdlZqMnRhVmRCaFpuR21zUlVodUx5N1pCVXVuYmxmN2VtQV9Dd21SbWZmZWdISXhsaGU4eDRadUhLZXQ0eXVFMFIyUnFWSTBpZ3NMdWw5N1FXRzc3VFFKMlpoZFpaaTczOS10N1pVUEFlLXZzM24wR3Rzdz09 |
Hi all. My head is kind of spinning and I was hoping to get an outside perspective on financial situations within my relationship.
My partner and I have been together five years and make roughly the same amount of money a year. She purchased a home in February of 2022 after being gifted 100k from her father as the down payment. The home was a bit more pricy than was realistic for our finances, but as she was the one making the purchase, I didn’t have that much input on final say. That said, we split monthly payment for mortgage + bills, which is honestly more than I’d want to spend each month. Since we have moved in, I’ve invested over 7k of my own money; new washer and dryer, a new fridge, and half of the cost of the AC installation. She recently agreed to deduct $100 off of my rent for two years to equal the cost of the fridge. This agreement came after she dumped me for a week before we eventually got back together after seeing a couples therapist, which is another long story.
We recently both accumulated quite a bit of credit card debt. Mine mostly due to the aforementioned appliances and hers due to cancer treatment for her cat. We frequently would discuss our stresses over finances and our plans to get back on track. Three days ago, she found out she is inheriting close to 200k from the passing of a relative. While at the funeral for said relative, her father assured her of her inheritance of him which will be a few million. I feel so guilty to admit that the moment she shared this, I felt kind of deflated. She shared of excitement to be debt free and the investments she wants to make and the trips she wants to go on. She is now on this “environmental kick” where she only wants to purchase sustainable and thus more expensive items, with the implication being I pay for half. Today, as I was discussing finance stressors as I talked about our plans for family gifts, she looked at me and said, “it’s okay, I have debt too!” Then back tracked after realizing what she said.
We have always had a challenging time with finances. Last Christmas, I spent a stupid amount to get her a dream gift and she didn’t get me anything until nearly two months later. She eventually got me a nice jacket which I love to this day. I think what hurt was just her total lack of effort. Had she made me a card or painted me a picture or anything, it would’ve been different. But she just didn’t. I feel a lot of hurt of the routine in our relationship, both financially and otherwise.
I have only focused on the negative aspects but I do love her and we do have a lot of fun together when we are in a good groove. I’m just really struggling with her new inheritance. I come from poor parents but my mother always goes above and beyond for her on holidays while her father barely acknowledges me and instead gives her a lump sum that she never shares. I feel angry with myself and my sense of entitlement. I just want you Reddit folks to help humble me with outside perspective and to help me get my head out of my own butt over this inheritance.
Thanks for listening to my rambles!
**Edit/Update of sorts**
Wow! Okay, I did not expect this much feedback. I apologize for the delay in posting an “update” of sorts. I honestly have felt kind of overwhelmed by the sheer number of y’all!
I just wanna start out by thanking you all for taking the time to read and respond. I really appreciate it. Trust me, I have read and mulled over every comment, lol. My poor mother is probably tired of me calling her.
I also want to state that I don’t believe my partner is a bad person or being malicious. I think she is just showing the behaviors she was taught in life. I have no doubt that she loves and cares me in the ways she knows how to/the ways she was taught as a child by her parents. She really is a good person. She tends to immediately go to self-preservation, hence the lack of financial consideration but when I share my perspective, she often comes around. I guess I just feel uncomfortable asking for payback on what I have invested. I also want to state that I am a very sensitive person, perhaps to a fault, lol. And that there is more nuance than I could probably capture with a single post on Reddit while using my silly phone!
Thankfully I do have an individual therapist and really supportive family/friend group, in addition to our couples therapist. I plan to work on setting more strict financial boundaries in couples therapy this upcoming week. But your comments have certainly shifted my thought process in terms of what I want long term. I.e., seeking a partner who is more thoughtful/sharing. I have no issue sharing what I have in life with partners/friends/family, etc. Life is so fucking hard and it takes a village just to exist. I would like to see that care returned to me in my romantic partnership. So, I really do appreciate you all for that.
I have no intention whatsoever to sue or pursue any avenue that gets the money I have invested back. I did it on my own volition as a way to take care of her prior to ever having an idea this inheritance would happen. I know this sounds stupid but it is what feels most right for me. And I promise I have no intention to invest in anything else unless there is a formal, written agreement ensuring I receive what I have invested back. I plan to see how our conversation in therapy goes before I take the steps to find housing elsewhere.
I know that this doesn’t address every comment and I am sorry if I glossed over anything or left things unclear or if this wasn’t really what you wanted to see. It just feels sort of overwhelming to process because there is so much nuance tied into it. Beyond the glaring financial disparity between us now, the layers of hurt that have happened feel highlighted. I am working to make peace with it all. I know that she and I try our best, even if/when it falls short. All we can do is our best, I suppose.
Anyways, thanks for reading my wordy novel. Again, I appreciate the grace and advice you all have offered! | r/relationship_advice | post | r/relationship_advice | 2024-11-30 | Z0FBQUFBQm5jYWFyRUJnNC1FNWRNQm02N1QtQ0tVdWR2WU9jQ1VvRmtadVBjU0dlemhzTTFyVWlpYWxJMlJiZS04dWpqa2p2V3VuUVU0U2xTVElYTFYzSXRRR0VLb2Rodm9Ub0tRTmE1SUI4dnQzekoxV0tlUDg9 | Z0FBQUFBQm5jYWFzNV9pQzhBamdUMVFFRXFYVDNiUUxGcThITFE5RGd6VmJzZFJKWGxma2tGQWJFaHVZTGxURWRnakVUZVdySjRTbE1ibUdidkR0Sk1TWndHYldra3ZxakM2ZWtZVHVHLU56SmZNRWJEbnRpMm55YmJjNkhISjRDaHp0UzFIeE9zeUhWd1dqTlJYQ29RUDQ3elo2eXNrX3BOMm1VVGluMS1hXzVQeXBWZlQ4aWNlREMtT016c2pSTkkyUW9NQnJNNzUzd2FIdUNmNDVZLTdNcWd1b0Rza2xqQT09 |
Here are some facts and statistics about Bhutan I pulled out:
* Bhutan holds 1/3 of its entire GDP in Bitcoin, 13k Bitcoins in total
* The 13k Bitcoins is more than 2x El Salvador's holdings, and El Salvador has over 6 million citizens compared to 750k for Bhutan. So "BTC holdings per capita" is close to 20x for Bhutan compared to El Salvador
* Bhutan started getting into the crypto space in 2019, with BTC mining. This is before the hype phase in 2021.
* They mine BTC through hydroelectric power (clean energy). Once again ahead of the game and they don't need to spend millions of money/stonks like SaylorMoon or El Salvador. End 2021, they quietly started construction on the largest ever mining site while the buzz was around El Salvador buying BTC.
* So basically they are using BTC as a true "revenue stream" where a large part of their holdings are truly in BTC. You can think of Bhutan as your typical crypto degen, but instead as a crypto bro it is a country version of it.
Why do y'all think despite all these great use cases and being the first country ever to truly hold an enormous % of their GDP in Bitcoin, Bhutan does not have the attention?
One article (from September, so note that the BTC amount in $ has doubled now): [https://www.forbes.com/sites/digital-assets/2024/09/17/how-bhutan-quietly-built-750-million-in-bitcoin-holdings/](https://www.forbes.com/sites/digital-assets/2024/09/17/how-bhutan-quietly-built-750-million-in-bitcoin-holdings/) | r/cryptocurrency | post | r/CryptoCurrency | 2024-11-30 | Z0FBQUFBQm5jYWFyeGdhR0gycHZXa2ZuZTdUN1NYSTMzZ0tvVmlOaUx3TGNjZ3VyWmZpUUJYOW5MSFljMnFKWW9oR01SZ1pUVzZVNHN4RUZXaVdKSFhpc01rT1JMYXI4RHc9PQ== | Z0FBQUFBQm5jYWFzNUx1UDdjMzJiQ1BrZEJkaWxyYzh5UWsxTGJhRjI2ZXBzcGZMSzlTZDJUT2NQSlBZaUJDOWZvaVQtWURGTUVYMTl5NmtYUUkwcXk2TWxXZGxUNzNwT0F4X3ExTFR0MFp6REt4MXhYUEpWd29idFFlUWUtYmI4Vkg4RXoxa1l4bWNuc0xVNVdTb0tJVWlOX0lhODNScWtWeHVLU2tUcEhhZ2VfeVpmT3RXVnJOYzV3YWx3MFh6OTYxMXhWWHFPb05raTcyRVFyZm9vNkYtZllGdU5EN1Budz09 |
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The ticker is ETH. | r/ethereum | post | r/ethereum | 2024-11-30 | Z0FBQUFBQm5jYWFyamdtcld2X1dSNEY4Wmd2SHY0WVJNaU51aTh4RjBiOXZoTTQxUFpVZHlTdnA1V1ZFaXFBaTlSS01YdjRqdUlQaVZ1Y3piTEtYc0UyLWlINUNka0tkamc9PQ== | Z0FBQUFBQm5jYWFzMVhJV2ZCNXI3WlhTc0lEbEMza1ViVk9mOC1rMFF0WWhLdkxpSW1uVXc2V1RhOGluOE55bXBxb1Q5NGZJVnVERlk5R3VJV1YwVTNrVHFhMnhFeTVEUVBlYWt3OS1GTWFSRmk2Y0otSUd5ZWpyU0dRdXZzTm91V0N5UjVQZ2d6MnpnRlRjM2pLeFhkSUduc21fVVYtMWFQaFhRRzhxQ0FQMkwxdzZkcVJhMGh4UW43aEZRZjd4cnRPdjJQMGZhUGx2 |
I'm starting clinical rotations for med school which requires conservative, professional dress. Last time I bought a suit was in 2015 from JCrew. That got me through half of high school and four years of undergrad. The top half even got me through virtual med school interviews post-COVID. Somehow it *still* fits but like I said it's from 2015--slim cut, thin lapels, short jacket, and the trousers practically hug the ankles. Kind of the opposite of what I've been wearing casually these last few years
So as I put together my first actual professional grown man wardrobe (in my mid-late 20's lmao) I've been wondering how much of my day-to-day aesthetic sensibilities actually carry over to the professional world? Casually I'm wearing fairly loose fits with very relaxed silhouettes
So basically how much have broader trends reflected on *professional* menswear in the 2020's if at all? Does dressing conservatively mean sticking to close fitting suits/trousers or can I go for more classic/relaxed cuts without looking weird? | r/malefashionadvice | post | r/malefashionadvice | 2024-11-30 | Z0FBQUFBQm5jYWFycmwzVEM3SFRnZVpBNVY1TlJWcmF4eENiZzRFRnNjMXRKUGZ0SWpWREtyRHhWTERmN21RdjZ4eWNUamcxWWFyRV9WQVphS0xrRGYyWGo1UVZYWTA5RDlHT3RZbUROWldqSFZUZmN0SmljdVE9 | Z0FBQUFBQm5jYWFzRFdRVVAtam5FMTlWLTdGcjFVb1Q0OGFINkVTd1BvWVVuc0VhVHh4NGluWWxFX0dvTUdrbmNXQS1ZTmd4cEl3NzNWRkRHWWtWYjAyeFJSdkQyOGhkOTQ4THVUMlZKZFdMQmJwQzVuSUkxa3J2WnRRel81alVqVnFEYVNQMTEyWlJ1amI2Mi1WclRRQUM0a3VKUEpNcXp0Q3daNGE4d3ZWR2s2RlkwV01wWnZyczJ3czBjNXNJT1M0b1NGVEw3ZDlGR1FxSW1XUUwxRzVmQ3JGazRJVFA1Zz09 |
Top 2 clash in the PL with one of the side in a winless streak. | r/premierleague | post | r/PremierLeague | 2024-11-30 | Z0FBQUFBQm5jYWFyNHBITk0zbmoyamJUQm1SQl9FTWR5eGpIREU4MlRRY0xFVnpyZjV1X1VtSEx4TjhaQXdFMjhlSEZtNGlBanNfNVMzTXE5VEVNV2xpSWtldFR5ZG5aT0E9PQ== | Z0FBQUFBQm5jYWFzOGpHTzRjc3ZjMDYtb3pNWi1Pamh1OTRKYkstX20waFB2T01FNnF3RkFEeGVZVUVFXzQ2MERxY0xRYU5aUzk0V2lvX08zV0Y3ZjZjLVVoajhjTDV0b2JRVEFMakdncG9FWEVPUkEzUUJXSlZ4aFhXRlAzN3BnMVk4aURCSnVCdXQybXhaaDB2WWtrcE42N3Q4eWVKdHFHV0x1WEl3NEpIbWhlTmF5RlJlWmE2bGZTNTRobDVKSXEyc3FvVnVVT0hpRVc2U3QyOGtReC1Vb29nWGhJOWdIdz09 |
She left as a tiny tornado of chaos and returned as a fully sentient being—like she leveled up while I was stuck at home still playing the tutorial. When do I get the patch notes for this update?! | r/toddlers | post | r/toddlers | 2024-11-30 | Z0FBQUFBQm5jYWFydnVtWmEyc0xUcUFScUVwTTN2Y2Zhb0VfU3Fwb1JfWWtJamo3M1JUelVqX045NmxfRENiYmlxbXBacFhhOUxNeEtZT3A1X2hUOVZnbVU4M2E1MkZ4TWc9PQ== | Z0FBQUFBQm5jYWFzUUFabUFaMC1Ccjdwd3NWcTZhNlNOQ3hXUUxLTDZ4YVZ0b2l2cnktdnpPcjN4cnhNaDBnMm13V3F2dkstbndRRlhUSGk2Vk84U0VJWWpGMko1amV3XzhRUWZOUVJXMVNzbzdKVXNqS21HOHlfeWVmbHZhcDBsOUtwRDMxdFBkeEZIQy1CZVZNbWs5UkRRSDVOSjFZZUxSRUh4eXJnLWNiRmZsRGh1NVZnd1FILXNiMlBNc2ltOEhncGJTb25sLWtjN1RleERzN2p5aVQtcXk4TXBYeGlVZz09 |
I have tried reading Ulysses but just can't get through it. Here's a paragraph from the second chapter.
>It must be a movement then, an actuality of the possible as possible. Aristotle's phrase formed itself within the gabbled verses and floated out into the studious silence of the library of Sainte Geneviève where he had read, sheltered from the sin of Paris, night by night. By his elbow a delicate Siamese conned a handbook of strategy. Fed and feeding brains about me: under glowlamps, impaled, with faintly beating feelers: and in my mind's darkness a sloth of the underworld, reluctant, shy of brightness, shifting her dragon scaly folds. Thought is the thought of thought. Tranquil brightness. The soul is in a manner all that is: the soul is the form of forms. Tranquility sudden, vast, candescent: form of forms.
Some chapters get easier but then we're back to more literary experimentations and Joyce basically showing off his amazing knowledge of things.
I was having trouble and someone who said he was reading through the classics in his free time said just read through it. And that he had read Ulysses in just a week, which I found astonishing. Did he read it carefully, I wondered? He said he didn't get a lot of stuff but it doesn't matter, he still enjoyed it.
Anyhow, I said I I can't read what I don't understand. like I first need to learn more about philosophy, history, religion, Ireland, etc. Or at least need to have a few books and webpages open to look up each reference Joyce makes (and he makes plenty). And that is assuming I can understand his stream-of-consciousness style which I often can't. So it will definitely take me way longer than a week or two.
Some other people also report difficulties with Joyce but also passages or books from other writers, like Faulkner, Woolf, Pynchon, and so on. Yet there are many people who would tell you they enjoyed the work and had no issues. Yet, when you ask them more questions, you realize they did not necessarily understand what they read.
So where do you stand? Do you think one should take the same approach to literature as we often do to poetry, to accept there will always remain some mystery and we will never know certain things for sure? And that perhaps we don't even need to know them. Or do you think that unless one really understands a book they are reading, they are not putting in the effort the type of book demands and perhaps they can't claim to have really read the book?
Edit: errors and clarity | r/books | post | r/books | 2024-11-30 | Z0FBQUFBQm5jYWFyeUhXZ0RDUHhyejJUeDlQdTlNWU9aVk5DdHJwa0NTMlJUYnR1WWxYMU0teS1xYjZEWE9TMGo3VWlMejJLR25JeFgyQnMxeU9XTXhpbkJpLVJDMW04c2c9PQ== | Z0FBQUFBQm5jYWFzY3lOSWJEWG5DU0Y5bW5xSVUzZFZFMlJablpraTdxS3VMdTF4SU03eTFiSkV5UE1Cb2pPelo0cmNDc0xuQTlRTW9LRHdQVVA4Z0dhMWJBNTZhSzlkRmwyRl84b3F5RHl4MzhwWGdEbHVSTFhlcldFSXY3cThmU3RVcHJ5cEZwOXlnU0t2MnBWNXZZV3lEa24xRWd0OVFldlpuVkFOa1UyalY3ZUJvR2JuUERvLTZ3OXlLTnNLeFMzY0pNUlhRZ0lp |
Hello everyone.
I kindly ask for some guidance. I have been staking for a little while now, perhaps a year or so and was beginning to understand the staking system or so I had naively believed. Yet earlier in the year I noticed that rewards appeared to be out of sync with recent valuations of my staked holdings. For example, my staked holdings may have dropped considerably in value and remain more or less at the dropped price for days and weeks yet my rewards seem unaffacted-until later "catching up." Much more recently, my holdings have increased quite dramatically and yet more than a week later my rewards are still as they were before the increase in worth. By my calculation (Using 10% as a formula. The actual rate is 10.22% and thus my rewards would be even higher.) my rewards should be around double what they still are now. If anyone could help me understand how far behind the rewards are, it would greatly help me with my investing strategies. I believed that the interest was calculated daily yet I struggle to see how this is so. Please educate me. Thank you. | r/polkadot | post | r/Polkadot | 2024-11-30 | Z0FBQUFBQm5jYWFyNTdrdzZuN2lWdlkwN0NHUmFiaXdiUUtNUnE3ekxrTnUzZE5ROW1MVUFCY0NzWXdDQ3V3QjJaYXA5Z19hS3ZTNVFpNExMeFdyMUR5Rmd3aVRHdDdBYVE9PQ== | Z0FBQUFBQm5jYWFzRFJoaEVRaDlSLVlFdUEzckNLZ1lHSXV4STVpcjBQVHIzNXJZa3pKUUJUUm1EUXFFeHZoMkZKVFpFYWxReHh2eXpuVTBHbXFWWS0xS2dqV3ZtaXVlTzkxbDI5Y3lUQzhaQ0toczE2dnZKbWVkLUI5NC1Fa0I3ZGM4TGx2MmxpNE03M3BGOHNoTVRlc0tmOUp5a2E1YnktaXV4N1RwRVFZUTFJTVZVNHNIcmlXRDZSTE1HeVFuWEUwVFJpR1JrVnJR |
Ok so... Recently I had my first time. I have some sex related traumas so I'm happy that I did it with someone I trust.
But...
It was a friend of mine. He has a girlfriend. Both of them said they are ok with that because they want to at least TRY everything. So I didn't see an issue. But after everything he said "everything is ok" and she said "I regret it". (After that they talked and came to conclusion that it's not for them)
So I'm left with being happy that I nailed it fully comfortable with myself, but also with feeling guilty... (Mostly because she said that she was sad when she realized that he didn't come to sleep with her at night and that she's certain that he would do that if he wouldn't fall asleep. But I asked him to stay for the night...)
Now I'm overthinking and I don't know what to do, even if she said that everything is fine. The most painful thing is that I was the reason they realized that...
So... Any more-experienced advice? | r/sex | post | r/sex | 2024-11-30 | Z0FBQUFBQm5jYWFya3ZPQWNKQ0F4NUtqczFGR2tqeDA1OGxiOGFjSDFkbHQ4TEtRTWs3MWxwYkVDZ1lpZlNaOVZvTkp2OExqUmYxWFE1NzU1Qi1VZkNneVZJd3Z0M0J1WkE9PQ== | Z0FBQUFBQm5jYWFzSDVmVFM1R1RDNk1jbmlCVk9uWjhGWFJzLWpGaC1Ka1RFSWV3M2UyZkFiUUFWRDZBakxSWktHSWZxR2hldDV6THg4X0I3VGNuTEw1c28xQ2JFLU1YSF9NS1M0eTlvWU0tU0Y2MFRISmlvb3ZBY25PV25WeXYwSGxlenQ2RzdBR3J1OW1kUnk3TVBEZ0pVQmV2LTZTTmJNTnNMa2VYRjFNYUk0bTYtQVRDbmtSWi1aM1NxTmxQa1cyMDExbGFGamFj |
I'm not sure if you've all forgotten me, but I'll start with some good news—we’ve finally figured out how to toast Pop-Tarts properly for my son!
We had about two weeks of calm. During that time, I spoke to my stepdaughter a few times about everything. I reassured her that, no matter what happens, she’ll always be my girl. She told me she hoped her mom wouldn’t come back. She says her mom was controlling.
Then, a few days ago, my (ex) fiancée walked into my house carrying two grocery bags, acting as if nothing had happened. She asked me what I wanted for dinner. I told the kids to go to their rooms and confronted her. I told her that we’re over. She asked why, and when I didn’t respond, she said, "Couples fight," as if her actions were normal. Her behavior was unsettling.
I told her she needed to leave or I’d call the police. She asked why I was doing this to her. I was at a loss for words, so I picked up my phone. At that point, she backed down, saying, “Okay, let me get my daughter.” I told her that if she wanted her daughter, she needed to call CPS and explain why she had disappeared for two weeks. She insisted she had only been gone for one night.
She refused to leave without her daughter and started shouting her name. Her daughter came out of her room and reluctantly said she would go with her. I told her, "You have a place here for as long as you want." Her mother then said, “He’ll kick you out just like he’s kicking me out.” I stood my ground, saying she could have her daughter back after speaking to CPS. When I started dialing the police, she ran out.
Later, I talked to my stepdaughter. She said she was willing to leave because she didn’t want to cause trouble for me. I reminded her that she’s the child, I’m the adult, and it’s my responsibility to look after her—not the other way around. I asked her where she wanted to stay for now, and she said she’d rather stay here.
My ex-fiance ended up calling CPS. They reached out to me, and there was supposed to have a meeting yesterday with my fiance, but she didn’t show up to it apparently. | r/aitah | post | r/AITAH | 2024-11-30 | Z0FBQUFBQm5jYWFyUndtV3c1bkZ3a016U1JFYzB2NEFoSG95LThUTHUzaFJwaXVJU1U5SFdKV2JqZTFDYnd2em5Ga2ZoMTZtZHFIZW1STlNVWVJkcGs0ZHVrelEyWlBjM2JlV2U2YXRjUjZwM19YU0hfTndTS3c9 | Z0FBQUFBQm5jYWFzWE1sYWtaN1FoZlV5SHZZWjRXY2NJdmxqeUtkVDEyakZ6V1dSa252cFVDM0J0MXZrVzFoMC1hLXRINTFocjdCaElOTXB5X3luMUhmWURleWxNVjRqZEhiWDhweGYxYlU2a0cxRHpUbWQ5U1BqaDVvbmZJaXZMZmNxdElEZWZpUDFyU2ZsazJBdkk1VTZXX2twb1lYMTloR2ZzUjRYSWdMNVhNZk9UMzhsOF9nTGFFLTNpckhiNmpncmxUdHYwc1FO |
Context: this is now my ex, it was my first relationship and I didn’t know how to deal with this sort of conflict as it was based on ethics and I didn’t want to change my views for our relationship. We would have this same argument again and again, over text, over the phone, in person, and at the end of the day he was always “right” because he had morality on his side when I would tell him that I was okay with eating dead animals. What should I have done in this situation ? I tried veganism for about a month and I never bought meat as a student, but eventually I would always go back to buying eggs and yoghurt. Those efforts I made were always disregarded and he would say that he doesn’t believe in reductionism, and that vegetarians are even worse than vegans. | r/amioverreacting | post | r/AmIOverreacting | 2024-11-30 | Z0FBQUFBQm5jYWFySkJUb2I4VFgyXzgtQjlqaEx3UlpmOVRVU01hWlFSRVJOUDA4bkZmaFlKN25VeUJxRlpNdVEzZ052cEcwVHF2WC1tbDRHRTZXQkowQ0NHbmxJemlBbWc9PQ== | Z0FBQUFBQm5jYWFzOFdndG9YcnVpMGItMHhJcjJJRHU0WlJqMXFrSzNEOHV1TG5VSXY5Nko1dDE2UWwyU29WWDNlNFdsaWVSRlA0RTZTd0pVclQ0RlNIRXZ6MlM4VEJjRFRqSzRiWllHdTRsdy0wVmtZUFpWWGtCY25ManZRYXlHX2kzM0duQlkxZGV5V3hyRkgzWFBET25HMXpONmVNSnBWMjFUMlFnamJkMFRZa3hnUktfdktwLUtCRUZvUUptbzB1VXBhTTFoV3E0Q2dlLWdFUUlSbTEwNFZWRkY2Tk5PQT09 |
I'm looking for a cologne /perfume to buy. I am a college student and have used 4 bottles of Burberry London for a long time but it is not lasting more than a few hours. I am trying to find my new smell.
I did my own research and currently It appears that these are the best colognes/perfumes:
* [Bleu De Paris](https://wiseinsights.co/best-colognes/#1)
* [Aventus by Creed](https://wiseinsights.co/best-colognes/#2)
* [Dior Homme Intense](https://wiseinsights.co/best-colognes/#3)
* [Dior Sauvage for Men](https://wiseinsights.co/best-colognes/#4)
* [Ralph Lauren Polo Black](https://wiseinsights.co/best-colognes/#5)
if you have used any of these please share! thanks in advance for any advice or tips. | r/malefashionadvice | post | r/malefashionadvice | 2024-11-30 | Z0FBQUFBQm5jYWFyM1ExaE9YYXhQaUZNOEo2d1ctbXlVSU9FaDNoMUEtOFMyM0d6WlhKc1pjVDFJRlJsOVNDWWNfR2dCQlR1VW94X2ktYkh1a2xOZ1pVSmxTaDJZUlVHVnVUVjk4OXVWWENDamFtRjRLSy1BcWs9 | Z0FBQUFBQm5jYWFzV1FqbFZBTDRmVi12ekJtVVNERFd6UE9hMnBuRkVjektiN3hidGpKQUV4LXNoRlRKUVRoRVJtdE1iVFdMNlBrTzl0RmxOelZ0Rk43UDNPUWFWUzVsY3F1Z2RjdjBhR2huYUZQVHVvcFNxTHY1azZ1VEdaTHZHWVNDQTlOM1R2d1V4RkcxS1hBMkxIbHRNUWpCSlVuQnlTemNsRlFFX1NOaG5rWUxFZlNEUUZkdE9Ib0MxTWVYMDliaGFmWWxkS2Z0 |
It went from 15 to 45 in like 2 weeks while we have been sitting at 15-30 for almost 4 years | r/ethereumclassic | post | r/EthereumClassic | 2024-11-30 | Z0FBQUFBQm5jYWFyTnJQUDhLQllNYzBQMlFMSnhNSmpWSS1yVnF3Z3dpVDRnbEF4dGR4ejBSaEcxZFd6UGxCbXdDU2x6c2k5a2xheVZ6c3dFM0dQc0piUkNvYUU1UFhUVmc9PQ== | Z0FBQUFBQm5jYWFzLW43czVBdUktNlBicUdvVnZka0dJa0RCdkVDV2h4RG8zdG9LRzhEMV90TWlPR3VqdVliMUd0Sm5HcVZrVEFQbUQtcGNkekROc3Z0VHVPUWI4VENjVGdoZnRndlNJaE85Yk43NjUxb183cjFXYVQwZW9SX2ZwQ0VOTmRFLXJhb2YyZE9fbno0dmJEaWszLWp4VTBFOGdBSkgwNi1DRWRwWjdlVXBjQktvYW9iel9ucWEtZWdldzRVRWtGZmRvbXhl |
For years I have had fantasies of my wife with another man, a "better man" fucking her, I kept them to myself for a long time but 2 years ago I decided to confess it to her, she seemed very surprised but after talking about it she seemed to be okay with me having the fantasy but she didn't want to do it, she said she needs to have an emotional connection to have sex and she only wanted to do it with me, sometimes we would fantasize about it during sex but that would be it, outside of bed we didn't talk about it.
However, a week ago she mentioned the subject to me, apparently a coworker she knew a couple of months ago asked her out, she still hadn't given him an answer and so she went to ask me, I asked her what had changed and she just said that he was nice and cute, she said she wanted to go on "dates" with him, just to get to know him better and talk.
I hesitated, but in the end I accepted, she talked to him and he seemed to be okay with our dynamic, he also seemed interested in talking to me because he didn't know a couple who was into something like that.
She said she wanted me to be there too, to see if I could handle it and also because she likes the idea of me being there, the 3 of us hanging out. I agreed
Nothing is supposed to happen, just dates, she didn't even mention sex at first, but then she said it might happen eventually, but for now she just wanted us all to be good friends, it's also the first time I'm going to talk to him, I've only seen pictures of him
The first date is supposed to be a few days away, but I can't stop thinking about it, I think my wife is excited too, we're having a lot of better sex this week.
I think the fact that this guy was the one who changed her mind is the hottest thing in my life, she must consider him very special or something, but even though I find this very hot, it also scares me, I don't know what that change out of nowhere could mean, maybe I'm regretting it a little, she doesn't seem to be pushing me aside and wants to include me, I've become obsessed with the idea of the two of them together, but I don't want to end up destroying a marriage because of my kink | r/sex | post | r/sex | 2024-11-30 | Z0FBQUFBQm5jYWFyVDlHczYtZUJDOEs2YS1SeTFsbGRnSmk4SldmWVBGOVozVmV0ZDBTWXFTZ2RkdkN1Q0F4dXFPRjY4bTZPVGlRdUpUSjZWbXJGQVM1TGJoeW8wNkNVY1E9PQ== | Z0FBQUFBQm5jYWFzb0xTOUVrMGRucXBORDExdnh4X2pVLXJEVlNyLS1wcjJLUm5CdVdOT3BYbUFsSHh1QkcySzZ5VFdVY2xZaEZ4TjhmQzU4MkdfVlBEMi11Q2pkTXp1NXJvT0dkYjJnSHBoZHBCeDd1ZGFMRGhqdmdGcDdmMzRlWEdjR084cmQ0Wkdxc3l1ejNkOFpvZV82REo3ajlSTC1mVnM2ZmJtbERqUDRBeU8wZmt0UG5OR1lCbUhtTkRyMERCdktXeE1tNVZR |
I have 2 daughters in their early teens. The older one is autistic. A couple of years ago my younger daughter had a sleepover with 6 or so friends for her birthday. A few days later we had a request from the father (Gary) of one of these girls (Elsie) for her to stay over because he had to work a night shift. My wife and I were surprised by this as we didn't know him and we wouldn't want our kids staying with someone we didn't know. We said yes though and she stayed.
Elsie and Gary then signed up for a weekly class that both my kids do. Since Gary doesn't drive I give them a lift every week. This is the only interaction I have with Gary, I'm not not close with him at all.
Despite this he asked on a few more occasions (maybe 3 or 4) for Elsie to stay at our house. My daughter has grown away from being friends with Elsie over the past year or two and my older autistic daughter doesn't like the invasion of her space that having someone stay brings. It also complicates work from home as we need our office setup as an extra bedroom. Our kids normally cycle to school but Elsie doesn't have a bike so I need to drive them which is an inconvenience to me. Even so, we always agreed to have her to help Gary out as he's a single parent and she was in need.
Recently though he has become ill and been admitted to hospital. He asked for her to stay with us while he was in and we agreed as he's a single father and we felt sorry for him. We ended up having her her for 5 days, but we weren't sure how long it would be initially. Gary knew he would need to go back in to hospital at some point but made no arrangements for Elsie and assumed she could stay with us again.
He ended up going back in earlier than expected and basically dumped her on us again. We felt we had no choice but to look after her. Again we had no ideas how long this would be for. It was ten days this time and we were all beyond our comfort zone with the situation, but my autistic daughter was really struggling with having a guest in the house for that long.
A few days after Gary got out of hospital he messaged us to say he might have to go in again and that she would like to stay with us again. This is where I may be the ah, I shut this down quickly and said that there is no way she can stay again. I feel bad because he is a single parent and claims he has no one else to turn to, but I feel that he has had plenty of time to sort out other arrangements and that I need to put my own children first. Her mother is alive but not an option for reasons that I don't know about.
So AITA for not helping out a sick father in need for the sixth it seventh time? | r/amitheasshole | post | r/AmItheAsshole | 2024-11-30 | Z0FBQUFBQm5jYWFyV0RpNXg4ckFkWTVQUVM2bVVqMzZFQjBIdkJ3T1dKLU1wUzgwSmlaMFdoVUtPOE1pTmVUd01hd3RncVRZSmlZNVp3azFpeGFNZUFfc3ZmQmtDWGFZZGRQb0VkSFpETjFDTXZHUjRXbHJJWnM9 | Z0FBQUFBQm5jYWFzRDJjWGVENXdtenNZWkN3a0lXbEs3eDBBbGNjQnM1c1lRNzhycVZmdkVuTmNRbnY5OTdTUjdGRE5URkhXclFwUzZVUDJkR3czMDk5c2Z2aVp3eWl1M2kzM3llTjJNbjQxODIyYVJzeXNyc2JVQkJlcmJOQWJ1WVlZdlRSNnd6alhGVWJ5M1lLNHNnWDJUdmUyd0lTb2NWR0FJcXJGUW9xX2hIU25IUmJ2T0NBUno0NnU4WXQ1cllpTFRSQzI1dm9oMkFpQzliWmQwU2RsekxJUUFPS21Xdz09 |
I don’t really know where else to post this but the world needs to know.
My MIL hosted thanksgiving. That evening I heard her tell my FIL not to throw the carcass away because she’s making turkey soup. So she put it in a pot of water that’s too small, so it’s mostly sticking up out of the water. And there it has sat on the stove since! She did boil the water for about 2 hours last night, but otherwise it’s just been hanging out. So we’re going on 48 hours of unrefrigerated turkey carcass. Really letting those flavors develop.
We gotta get the fuck out of here before she tries to feed my kids soup | r/mommit | post | r/Mommit | 2024-11-30 | Z0FBQUFBQm5jYWFyaHQwMUpzVG1tc2pMZGY4N0w4T3EyalFDenVUS01kbWRjWUNSc3RCckZIMFNmNkdNaEJ6bXIxYTdOeUhFaklfUEhnREVHT1l1NTNlZW8wYTFETkJ1ckE9PQ== | Z0FBQUFBQm5jYWFzNWlsZVUyYkxzVXF2SGI3ZS11S1p1MlZlQ2ZjRl9uMXZPRjlFWFR0VU5yaDFxVEdfSURJRng1V04xN1pNWVN2Ul81RDFGVlpxbHlndFIxNmVMbk9BYUxXbWtFUFNkdnRfTXdjM1h3NmFkUFk2S200LVZXbzFPTXFSQi1uZzFuaGFpNHJEakMxLW5wMllqcU5YRWZkX2RPQVVZc1dnSGhSTVJFa0JWMEhYWVNnPQ== |
Here is more of the original footage of what we believe to be sasquatch surrounding my colleague, there is captured eyeshine, blinking, vocalizations and the infamous rock throw. He was up north in Michigan unloading his gear at night. He was staying up at his family Cabin for Bow Hunting. This was all recorded on the same night on a New iphone. [https://youtu.be/gCT9SLQEkg4](https://youtu.be/gCT9SLQEkg4) | r/thetruthishere | post | r/Thetruthishere | 2024-11-30 | Z0FBQUFBQm5jYWFyM0tYOGVKSFlhU1dzV1NJQXQ4SHRSV2ZjNEQ5WVFHd01KZjdvMTZad0t2XzloRHJaQjg3X0hDTHpNRlI3WS05Zk9fNUdDdW1WMm9fbnBWTGV2U0FmcHc9PQ== | Z0FBQUFBQm5jYWFzdFZJNVhraWZrWWdUTTR3Mk5hd0RaMjdHdFl2bWozVW5WV3dsNjVBN0hSOHVEektrTmowVzNwQXRRb2RjeHJoTkNjSFdzRUExcEl2RzlXZ1luSmIxZnRJdEUyWERMTzlNeGpDZGJ5YU5NU3lYb3FHRjBwckQtZk5CcmFVWFBoUFNEejFMWXBnaTY3eFhGOHVtVldvVk5Rbkx4eWQzcFQzSmJINUdwZ2NFZ1JiRk1LLTlmZC1HWHhENzNWdlBOSHBNTFItSjF1blBVenNoR2FuVWtjT21PUT09 |
Welcome to our History Questions Thread!
This thread is for all those history related questions that are too simple, short or a bit too silly to warrant their own post.
So, do you have a question about history and have always been afraid to ask? Well, today is your lucky day. Ask away!
Of course all our regular rules and guidelines still apply and to be just that bit extra clear:
Questions need to be historical in nature. Silly does not mean that your question should be a joke. [r/history](https://www.reddit.com/r/history/) also has an active [discord server](https://discord.com/invite/r-history-284001693044310016) where you can discuss history with other enthusiasts and experts. | r/history | post | r/history | 2024-11-30 | Z0FBQUFBQm5jYWFycWtmb0RHY0hIaVVFdXJUaDBSQkVFRjl1Qlh6WV9LZzRaZDFPblBLcG04bDlhQmNTNWg2amE1bHBqeEE4T0RVa29iS3BpZTB2X3I1b2FlVlA5QUhSeXc9PQ== | Z0FBQUFBQm5jYWFzWHQtY0pVQk5RYzRMaHZza0hSQnhDUzdrcmJLczNjOGRyS2duTXBoMzVCZ3IySUE2T25abFdJbDhLZUlSM0J1SWxSRUQ2d3p0ajRFMHdpbFJBQXBMNnVuTU9zU3pBYUhNdDZWUlVCODhiRTZfNkx2TjhFSzlaN0FmdGQ0aGUyMFdLTm5acDhQeHVaVS1SdUNsSE5MMlhpSmg2cm8wSzlZYk5KSm0wRm1iejF0NnlWTEE0cFd2b2M0VU8zd2NzbW9C |
Welcome readers,
We're coming up on the end of the year and that means various "Best Books of 2024" lists are being released and prizes are being awarded! We'll be using this thread to collect these "Best of" lists and awards into one place and will be updating it as more lists and awards are released. Without further ado, here's your list of lists:
#Best Books of 2024
Organization|Type of List|Link
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Amazon|Best Books of 2024|[Link](https://www.amazon.com/Best-Books-of-2024-So-Far/b?ie=UTF8&node=3003015011)
Publishers Weekly|Best Books of 2024|[Link](https://best-books.publishersweekly.com/pw/best-books/2024)
Barnes & Noble|Best Books of 2024|[Link](https://www.barnesandnoble.com/b/books/awards/best-books-of-the-year/_/N-29Z8q8Z1qrh)
Time|Must Read Books of 2024|[Link](https://time.com/collection/must-read-books-2024/)
The Financial Times|Books of the Year|[Link](https://www.ft.com/booksoftheyear2024)
Sports Illustrated|Best Sports Books of 2024|[Link](https://www.si.com/onsi/top-pick/general/10-best-sports-books-released-in-2024)
The Telegraph|Best Books of 2024 Ranked|[Link](https://www.telegraph.co.uk/books/what-to-read/what-books-to-buy-christmas-best-books-2024-ranked/)
The New Statesman|Best Books of 2024|[Link](https://www.newstatesman.com/culture/books/2024/11/best-books-year-2024)
Book Riot|Best Books of 2024|[Link](https://bookriot.com/best-books-2024/)
Chicago Public Library|Best Books of 2024|[Link](https://www.chipublib.org/news/cpl-best-of-the-best-books-2024/)
Kirkus Reviews|Best Books of 2024|[Link](https://www.kirkusreviews.com/best-of/2024/)
Debutiful|Best Debut Books of 2024|[Link](https://debutiful.net/2024/11/18/the-best-debut-books-of-2024/)
Waterstones|Best Books of 2024|[Link](https://www.waterstones.com/blog/best-of-2024)
School Library Journal|Best Books of 2024|[Link](https://www.schoollibraryjournal.com/page/best-books-2024)
Vogue|Best Books to Gift|[Link](https://www.vogue.com/slideshow/best-books-to-gift-holidays)
Pitchfork|Best Music Books of 2024|[Link](https://pitchfork.com/features/lists-and-guides/best-music-books-of-2024/)
The Globe and Mail|100 Best Books of 2024|[Link](https://www.theglobeandmail.com/arts/books/article-the-globe-100-the-best-books-of-2024/)
The Washington Post|Best Books of 2024|[Link](https://www.washingtonpost.com/books/2024/11/22/10-best-books/)
Military.com|Best Military Books of 2024|[Link](https://www.military.com/off-duty/books/2024/11/22/best-military-books-we-read-2024.html)
The Economist|Best Books of 2024|[Link](https://www.economist.com/culture/2024/11/22/the-best-books-of-2024-as-chosen-by-the-economist)
Audible|Best Audio Books of 2024|[Link](https://www.audible.com/ep/best-of-the-year-editorial-2024)
People|Best Celebrity Memoirs of 2024|[Link](https://people.com/best-celebrity-memoirs-2024-8749126)
NPR|Books We Love|[Link](https://apps.npr.org/best-books/#view=covers&year=2024)
Chicago Tribune|10 Best Books of 2024|[Link](https://www.chicagotribune.com/2024/11/26/best-books-2024/)
Vanity Fair|21 Best Books of 2024|[Link](https://www.vanityfair.com/style/story/best-books-2024)
them|16 Best LGBTQ+ Books of 2024|[Link](https://www.them.us/story/best-books-2024-coming-home-mean-boys-housemates-lgbtq)
Food & Wine|Our Favorite Food Books of 2024|[Link](https://www.foodandwine.com/best-food-books-2024-8751758)
New York Public Library|Best Books of 2024|[Link](https://www.nypl.org/books-more/recommendations/best-books/adults?year=2024&facets_query=)
Den of Geek|Best Books of 2024|[Link](https://www.denofgeek.com/books/den-of-geeks-best-books-of-2024/)
New York Times|100 Notable Books of 2024|[Link](https://www.nytimes.com/interactive/2024/11/26/books/notable-books.html)
New York Times|10 Best Books of 2024|[Link](https://www.nytimes.com/2024/12/03/books/best-books-2024.html)
The Times|19 Best Books of 2024|[Link](https://www.thetimes.com/culture/books/article/the-best-books-of-2024-5spv735xb?region=global)
New Scientist|Best Books of 2024|[Popular Science](https://www.newscientist.com/article/mg26435190-300-the-best-new-popular-science-books-of-2024/) - [Sci-Fi](https://www.newscientist.com/article/mg26435190-400-the-best-new-science-fiction-books-of-2024/)
Smithsonian Magazine|Best Books of 2024|[List](https://www.smithsonianmag.com/smart-news/the-best-books-of-2024-as-chosen-by-smithsonian-scholars-180985583/) - [History](https://www.smithsonianmag.com/history/the-ten-best-history-books-of-2024-180985531/) - [Food](https://www.smithsonianmag.com/arts-culture/the-ten-best-books-about-food-of-2024-180985539/)
The Guardian|Best Books of 2024|[Link](https://www.theguardian.com/books/best-books-of-2024)
The Independent|Best Books of 2024|[Fiction](https://www.the-independent.com/arts-entertainment/books/features/best-fiction-books-2024-rooney-ohagen-headshot-b2616300.html) - [Nonfiction](https://www.the-independent.com/arts-entertainment/books/features/best-non-fiction-books-2024-true-crime-b2651350.html)
Vulture|Best Books of 2024|[Link](https://www.vulture.com/article/best-books-2024-new-novels-fiction.html)
Lit Hub|Our 38 Favorite Books of 2024|[Link](https://lithub.com/lit-hubs-38-favorite-books-of-2024/)
The Conversation|Best Books of 2024|[Link](https://theconversation.com/best-books-of-2024-our-experts-share-their-standout-reads-244149)
Wall Street Journal|10 Best Books of 2024|[Link](https://www.wsj.com/arts-culture/books/the-10-best-books-of-2024-b67ada25)
The Atlantic|10 Best Books of 2024|[Link](https://www.theatlantic.com/books/archive/2024/12/best-books-2024-percival-everett-alexei-navalny/680729/)
The Age|Best Reads of 2024|[Link](https://www.theage.com.au/culture/books/the-year-in-books-writers-pick-the-best-reads-of-2024-20241118-p5krjf.html)
Bill Gates|Books to Keep You Warm this Holiday Season|[Link](https://www.gatesnotes.com/Holiday-Books-2024)
The New Yorker|Best Books of 2024|[Link](https://www.newyorker.com/best-books-2024)
Electric Literature|Best Books of 2024|[Link](https://electricliterature.com/electric-lits-best-novels-of-2024/)
Vox|Best Books of 2024|[Link](https://www.vox.com/culture/389984/best-books-2024-martyr-kaveh-akbar-small-rain-garth-greenwell)
Scientific American|78 Books Scientific American Recommends in 2024|[Link](https://www.scientificamerican.com/article/78-books-scientific-american-recommends-in-2024/?utm_campaign=socialflow&utm_medium=social&utm_source=reddit)
Barack Obama|Favorite Books of 2024|[Link](https://www.instagram.com/p/DDzs2zOvM8b/?igsh=MXFyeDM2eXgyeW9kZA==)
#Literary Awards of 2024
Award|Winner|Link
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Nobel Prize|Han Kang|[Link](https://www.nobelprize.org/prizes/literature/2024/han/facts/)
[Pulitzer Prize](https://www.pulitzer.org/prize-winners-by-year/2024)|Multiple|[Fiction](https://www.pulitzer.org/winners/jayne-anne-phillips) - [Drama](https://www.pulitzer.org/winners/eboni-booth) - [History](https://www.pulitzer.org/winners/jacqueline-jones) - [Biography 1](https://www.pulitzer.org/winners/jonathan-eig) and [Biography 2](https://www.pulitzer.org/winners/ilyon-woo) - [Memoir/Autobiography](https://www.pulitzer.org/winners/cristina-rivera-garza) - [Poetry](https://www.pulitzer.org/winners/brandon-som) [Nonfiction](https://www.pulitzer.org/winners/nathan-thrall)
[National Book Award](https://www.nationalbook.org/awards-prizes/national-book-awards-2024/)|Multiple|[Fiction](https://www.nationalbook.org/awards-prizes/national-book-awards-2024/?cat=fiction) - [Nonfiction](https://www.nationalbook.org/awards-prizes/national-book-awards-2024/?cat=nonfiction) - [Poetry](https://www.nationalbook.org/awards-prizes/national-book-awards-2024/?cat=poetry) - [Translated Literature](https://www.nationalbook.org/awards-prizes/national-book-awards-2024/?cat=translated-literature) - [YP Lit](https://www.nationalbook.org/awards-prizes/national-book-awards-2024/?cat=ypl)
[The Booker Prize](https://thebookerprizes.com/the-booker-library/prize-years/2024)|*Orbital* by Samantha Harvey|[Link](https://thebookerprizes.com/the-booker-library/features/everything-you-need-to-know-about-orbital-booker-prize-2024-winner)
[The International Booker Prize](https://thebookerprizes.com/the-booker-library/prize-years/international/2024)|*Kairos* Jenny Erpenbeck, translated by Michael Hofmann|[Link](https://thebookerprizes.com/the-booker-library/features/everything-you-need-to-know-about-the-winner-of-the-IBP-2024)
The Hugo Awards|*Some Desperate Glory* by Emily Tesh|[Link](https://www.thehugoawards.org/hugo-history/2024-hugo-awards/)
[The Dublin Literary Award](https://dublinliteraryaward.ie/the-library/prize-years/2024/)|*Solenoid* by Mircea Cărtărescu, Translated by Sean Cotter|[Link](https://dublinliteraryaward.ie/the-library/books/solenoid/)
Next Generation Indie Book Awards|Multiple|[Link](https://www.indiebookawards.com/winners.php?year=2024)
[The Goldsmiths Prize](https://www.gold.ac.uk/goldsmiths-prize/archive/prize-2024/)|*Parade* by Rachel Cusk|[Link](https://www.gold.ac.uk/news/goldsmiths-prize-2024-winner-announced/)
Rubery Book Award|Multiple|[Link](https://www.ruberybookaward.com/2024-winners.html)
Windham Campbell Prizes|Multiple|[Link](https://windhamcampbell.org/recipients?year=2024)
Caine Prize for African Writing|*Bridling* by Nadia Davids|[Link](http://www.caineprize.com/press-releases/2024/9/16/south-african-writer-nadia-davids-wins-the-2024-caine-prize-for-african-writing) [Story](https://static1.squarespace.com/static/565c3d39e4b027c789ba5b70/t/66b1be8f31dd4e22ecf16c6a/1722924688161/Bridling.pdf)
Queen Mary Wasafiri New Writing Prize|TBA|
Edgar Allan Poe Awards|Multiple|[Link](https://mysterywriters.org/mwa-announces-the-2024-edgar-award-winners/)
PEN Literary Awards|Multiple|[Link](https://pen.org/literary-awards/)
World Fantasy Awards|Multiple|[Link](https://locusmag.com/2024/10/2024-world-fantasy-awards-winners/)
Giller Prize|*Held* by Anne Michaels|[Link](https://gillerprize.ca/2024-finalists/)
[Nebula Awards](https://nebulas.sfwa.org/award-year/2023/)|Multiple|[Novel](https://nebulas.sfwa.org/nominated-work/the-saint-of-bright-doors/) - [Novella](https://nebulas.sfwa.org/nominated-work/linghun/) - [Novelette](https://nebulas.sfwa.org/nominated-work/the-year-without-sunshine/) - [Short Story](https://nebulas.sfwa.org/nominated-work/tantie-merle-and-the-farmhand-4200/) - [Middle Grade and Young Adult Fiction](https://nebulas.sfwa.org/nominated-work/to-shape-a-dragons-breath/)
Shirley Jackson Awards|Multiple|[Link](https://www.shirleyjacksonawards.org/2024/07/13/2023-shirley-jackson-awards-winners/)
Bram Stoker Awards|Multiple|[Link](https://www.thebramstokerawards.com/front-page/the-2023-bram-stoker-awards-final-ballot/)
Women's Prize for Fiction|*Brotherless Night* by V. V. Ganeshananthan|[Link](https://womensprize.com/library/brotherless-night/)
Women's Prize for Non-fiction|*Doppelganger* by Naomi Klein|[Link](https://womensprize.com/library/doppelganger/)
[Goodreads Awards](https://www.goodreads.com/choiceawards/best-books-2024?ref=gca_signed_out_hp)|Multiple|[Fiction](https://www.goodreads.com/choiceawards/readers-favorite-fiction-books-2024) - [Historical Fiction](https://www.goodreads.com/choiceawards/readers-favorite-historical-fiction-books-2024) - [Mystery and Thriller](https://www.goodreads.com/choiceawards/readers-favorite-mystery-thriller-books-2024) - [Romance](https://www.goodreads.com/choiceawards/readers-favorite-romance-books-2024) - [Romantasy](https://www.goodreads.com/choiceawards/readers-favorite-romantasy-books-2024) - [Fantasy](https://www.goodreads.com/choiceawards/readers-favorite-fantasy-books-2024) - [Science Fiction](https://www.goodreads.com/choiceawards/readers-favorite-science-fiction-books-2024) - [Horror](https://www.goodreads.com/choiceawards/readers-favorite-horror-books-2024) - [Debut](https://www.goodreads.com/choiceawards/readers-favorite-debut-novel-2024) - [Audiobook](https://www.goodreads.com/choiceawards/readers-favorite-audio-books-2024) - [YA Fantasy](https://www.goodreads.com/choiceawards/readers-favorite-ya-fantasy-books-2024) - [YA Fiction](https://www.goodreads.com/choiceawards/readers-favorite-ya-fiction-books-2024) - [Nonfiction](https://www.goodreads.com/choiceawards/readers-favorite-nonfiction-books-2024) - [Memoir](https://www.goodreads.com/choiceawards/readers-favorite-memoir-books-2024) - [History and Biography](https://www.goodreads.com/choiceawards/readers-favorite-history-bio-books-2024) | r/books | post | r/books | 2024-11-30 | Z0FBQUFBQm5jYWFyT3VEQXlxaFg5bV81SENoSVRfSmU5WmhCUUhXcTN2RjM1Wm9QV3YyMWxqaXRDZ2lpdlJEaHpvbHZzdGtZOTZrQ183YXdpSWQyUUQ2b1JfRllGYVVmUWc9PQ== | Z0FBQUFBQm5jYWFzTzZMZUZWSFJOUXFfbHFRRV9fdW9vbmcwWUN2M1EtLU9FclJrSFZYSGlabjVjdFVFMGNrY2xiMXNTdlotVHVRU0pKRzZwTkdLdF82dW8zRHl5c2VIemF3VEZ5WHNhaHFHYU5Gd2k4QlRObGp4aGZ6SVdnUzhLTnN3VkduYjJaV3lIVm5jREV1MTFMcHpUWE1jY0ZkQWxYaTJ1WHQ1M0s0NUxZOVc1UHJ4bG5ZbkUzVEdGLVhJdV9PWWpmb0RlbjJ4 |
*Edit: reposted because my previous title had a question in it.*
**Stating the Problem: Can a Materialist Worldview Account for Truth, Logic, and Other Abstract Concepts?**
The central problem addressed here is whether a materialist worldview—one that posits that only physical, material entities exist—can account for abstract concepts like truth, logic, morality, and natural laws. Theists often argue that without a metaphysical foundation, materialists cannot justify these concepts, which they claim must be rooted in an absolute truth or divine authority. This piece examines the validity of such a critique and explores whether materialism provides a consistent framework for understanding these concepts.
**Thesis: Abstract Concepts Are Useful Descriptions, Not Independent Realities**
My thesis is that abstract concepts such as truth, morality, or the law of gravity are not "things" that exist independently in the universe. Instead, they are human-created frameworks for describing and navigating the material world. These concepts lack physical existence and should not be confused with the material phenomena they describe. Thus, a materialist can reject the need for metaphysical underpinnings while maintaining a coherent worldview.
**Supporting the Thesis: A Materialist Perspective on "Things"**
**Foundational Beliefs and the Axiomatic Starting Point**
Both theists and materialists ultimately rely on axiomatic claims. For theists, this may be the existence of God as the creator of truth, logic, and morality. For materialists, the axiom is that the material world exists and is the basis for all that we can know. While theists might argue that only divine revelation can ground truth or logic, the materialist response is that such claims are no more inherently justified than the materialist axiom itself.
Materialists acknowledge that all worldviews, when pushed to their foundational assumptions, are equally "absurd" in the sense that they rely on unprovable axioms. The difference lies in materialism's refusal to posit a metaphysical explanation for phenomena that can be understood through observation and evidence.
**Rejecting Abstract Concepts as "Things"**
Consider the idea of numbers. Few would argue that "five" is a physical entity existing independently in the universe. Instead, "five" is a concept we use to describe a collection of objects—e.g., five apples. Similarly, the "law of gravity" is not a physical entity but a framework describing the consistent behavior of material objects with mass. The phenomena these concepts describe (e.g., objects falling due to gravitational force) are real, but the descriptive tools themselves are not.
To illustrate:
**Numbers and Quantity**
* There are five apples on a table.
* The apples and the table are physical objects.
* "Five" is a non-physical descriptor that helps us understand the quantity of apples.
* Therefore, "five" does not exist as a "true thing" but as a concept.
**Gravity and Physical Laws**
* A rock falls from a cliff to the ground below due to gravity.
* The rock, the cliff, and the ground are physical entities.
* "The law of gravity" is a non-physical concept describing the interaction between material objects.
* Therefore, "the law of gravity" does not exist as a "true thing" but as a framework for understanding.
These distinctions underscore the materialist view that while concepts like "five" or "gravity" are incredibly useful, they do not exist in the same way that a rock or a river does.
**Addressing Objections**
**Objection: Without Absolute Truth, There Is No Justification for Knowledge**
Response: Materialism does not require absolute truth to justify knowledge. It relies on evidence-based, testable, and repeatable observations. This pragmatic approach allows for useful descriptions of the world without claiming metaphysical certainty.
**Objection: Denying Abstract Concepts Undermines Logic and Science**
Response: Materialism does not deny the utility of abstract concepts but recognizes them as descriptive tools, not entities. Science and logic operate within these frameworks to describe and predict material phenomena effectively.
**Objection: Materialism Is as Absurd as Solipsism**
Response: Materialism acknowledges its axiomatic starting point but distinguishes itself through its reliance on observable, shared reality. Unlike solipsism, which posits an entirely subjective reality, materialism operates within a framework of intersubjective verification.
**The Silver Lining: Differentiating the Map from the Territory**
This distinction between the material world and the concepts we use to describe it highlights the core strength of materialism: it avoids confusing the "map" (concepts, frameworks) with the "territory" (physical reality). Concepts like morality, logic, and scientific laws are maps that help us navigate and understand the material world. They are not themselves "true things" but tools created by human minds.
By embracing this view, materialism avoids the pitfalls of metaphysical absolutism while providing a consistent, evidence-based approach to understanding reality. It acknowledges the limits of human knowledge and the descriptive nature of our frameworks without requiring recourse to metaphysical or divine claims.
**Conclusion: A Materialist Philosophy of "Things"**
In summary, materialism provides a coherent and practical approach to understanding reality by recognizing that only material entities exist while treating abstract concepts as descriptive tools. This perspective allows for intellectual humility, adaptability, and a commitment to evidence-based inquiry without the need for metaphysical absolutes. By rejecting the conflation of the map with the territory, materialism maintains a consistent and defensible position in the face of theistic challenges. | r/philosophy | post | r/philosophy | 2024-11-30 | Z0FBQUFBQm5jYWFyRGNoZEpDQndEOGxEUFA3c2VSc0JSUnFUSnh4VGh5dUxXWHZCaW1IaG5NRXJFVlcxNm1wUGlxbURzb2JMYTk1aXNGUjVCaGFjejFNSmNDRjBxNUdTWWc9PQ== | Z0FBQUFBQm5jYWFzZmlBdDA0VW5EanBuR045UGF0cG5ZLU9xaEs4em1DbFlCS295a3lUNjZSZ3dKdk9GSktoNXVkd01VTThVTGRXUHZNWlZrQVRMVVIwT3BkSzAyNGdxU3VmYUpNOUJCdkUwRThTMWlaMnNSdWR0UHViNDRKeW1KN2VFek5WNVYwU1VCVmpsc0NxLUJlblRlMVFqUzhOYy1oNEIxY3htNkdYODNOTlUwaTZvMk13NjlnYkF3UEd2QjhDTE9mdVVaN2toNUcyWnR0THpjRVdGcnF1czZIby02dz09 |
For those holding TAO, where are you holding it? I’m currently using cb wallet for WTAO but unsure if it’s okay to use. It has had price drops to 599 twice which is concerning and not correlating to the cb app. | r/bittensor_ | post | r/bittensor_ | 2024-11-30 | Z0FBQUFBQm5jYWFydjFYYTFnbkpxOHNsek1yanpTWnMyNERrVjNHVU5rX1BPNGE5SnF3bTNLcXFUWFFES0ZwSUJzb1AwR0JkeUZSakMxZlN0cjlpblZkVGtKc3FjVF84N1E9PQ== | Z0FBQUFBQm5jYWFzd19uWHRZenEyQ04wcDRKaFRPODFqZldaM3J4SmpWczhPZjZJelFNcWZrYjVyQlJqSDNieDlVNjdZaGROUHU4Y3RpQ052cFJFQnlxa1FUMFhQX2pnVW9kR0Nyb1E2SXB6alRlVV9BQkdrRnVkRG1PUFBoM1NRU2RvREludjhKZFExeENOSjZobnRmR21jd1RKNlBEYXZOTGRUWUFxbF9vMHZwN0FpSlk3RkJNPQ== |
No bullshit, no pepe, doge, wof, bau, sium etc...
I invested 20k in RENDER, ALGO, BTT and it's going well. For now I was also thinking of getting into CRV, DOT, MATIC, TRX, SNX.
What do you think? | r/cryptomarkets | post | r/CryptoMarkets | 2024-11-30 | Z0FBQUFBQm5jYWFyQV9wbFFKRWJHVmEtVjlVSEdfYmkweW9kWmRvME5lU19pMkgzYnJJWHlJVmVpb1pPVGdMZW56Zk1WMWoyMXlNZ2U2TFo5NEdEd2J2MWZwY093Z3E4a2c9PQ== | Z0FBQUFBQm5jYWFzdnBxSGJxWm9IMFI4V1BwbGVoZFpONldqVlk2Q2V0ajZiMXdZWWZ1aC1wY1JmWWZkWkRFbWtQS0FqTjlYbG01aUl5dEtDcVJ1X2d5MGJYQ2ZhdVRnb3BtdFA4X3V3Zmt1WjJMM1N3bnhrTjdHc3I3cng5eVFzdGxJMG5tb1QwN1ZTZ1VzYUh6ajFVdWRYSVUtdWZXMHFwVjB1QUlIQnRySGF2cUpKYUxwWW5CVExNY3BlTVdOTXdyMWRBUXl3RGhDdloteVB1dnM1R19YOU9wR1Z3cHZjdz09 |
Went on a first date with this guy, I had a good time and he was nice and easy to talk to. I didn’t really have any issues with him but I wasn’t sure if I liked him yet. Agreed to see him again the week after Thanksgiving (our date was Sunday before thanksgiving and I’m out of town until Monday). So, we’ve just been texting this week.
There have been small instances where I was getting a little red flag. Like Wednesday I told him I was going to the movies to watch Moana 2 and he texted me “what time is your movie and who are you going with” idk if I was thinking too much of it or maybe it’s how he asked that I kind of thought it was giving 5 stage clinger/demanding. I brushed if off since I tend to overthink.
Though last night (Friday night) he asked me to send him a pic of myself which I hate those requests and besides I already sent him a video of me hiking just prior. Anyways I sent it and he immediately sent me a screenshot of me on his wallpaper.
Now I’m not interested in seeing this guy for a second date. He’s moving too fast for me. Am I overreacting? A part of me feels like I should be grateful to have someone so “down bad” “obsessed” with me but I can imagine how this can pan out and not in a good way. | r/amioverreacting | post | r/AmIOverreacting | 2024-11-30 | Z0FBQUFBQm5jYWFyWVN4WDh3RXhrenhFSnZRbWo2RG9rTWRRS2NnUVdtUkpoNzZZSW5ycWw0M0t5di1BVlpIUEUwX3A0Q3E4S3BBNGZDYUQwQmVxNElTTjhwUDQyeTlfTmc9PQ== | Z0FBQUFBQm5jYWFzbVZ5dl9YdWpUM0ZRak0tZ1FIRmxPUGFYbVo2SjFjLUtFZlJLUi16ZFFacEhFT09MbWkzNXJxSHhnWHlhdWVzaU1iZWF2RlFrRDJGbDY0LWV2VV9ZR1JuX3ptSktfNmtUX05IRDd5RlBaTXZHZDFhUzhLbXczLXJPRUQ0QXBPQVFvYjBfLU51WHRJMkx0Vmw3clpvdlFLcklrVkVicUNMWTV1RHRCUHI2NGtEdDBnZko0Y2VlVGNCZHdiYmdrZDQyVUtuSGQ5NTZIYkFXSWdBRWlYWWVvUT09 |
Stop using pump.fun and stop buying stuff that’s less than a week old. Don’t click random airdrops. Stop losing your parents money | r/solana | post | r/solana | 2024-11-30 | Z0FBQUFBQm5jYWFydVpaYkdVaXFwNUVlY01kRmFMX2tHWHdtN0NiSy01UXRvVmYyQTZubWROeWNkckhDVktyWWpsSzF3RVdtZ0swS1dZYWtfZDRkTDBrX0sxbnYtZmc1Umc9PQ== | Z0FBQUFBQm5jYWFzbjZmWWtXUy1XQkI2eDRmNUlLV1ZUQkYyWDAwV2o1a190VjBjV1A4MDgxUkNKOElNU1hBS1c0V0t4ZGFwY2doTnV1bVF0WFExMUJJMGNQUWhyZFdfTFVRZVhOem9UX2VKbVpGblJSVUo1eS1xNmRJMEJBRDk5bXdRZ2FFWXVjR1lhdGJRMmlvUXduLVZGc0s1dVY1dm5MUEZHNG9nSHRfRHpITUJ6WGh4U2pScFRrX0oxbGZPbnZ0dlRmQ2lnd0hs |
We’ve been together for 3 years.
He was playing a video game and has been playing it a lot lately. I don’t know exactly what it is, I asked before but he never wanted to talk about it with me. It’s some shooting game. He was playing it a lot and it was Thanksgiving. He’s been playing it for the past month. I asked him if he could turn it off so we could spend some time together and watch a holiday movie. He kept saying later. I had enough waiting around for him so I asked him to turn it off and he said later. I stood in front of it and told him to turn it off so we can watch a movie and he started yelling at me to move and I said no and he got up and punched me. Which he never did before or anything like that. By the way he is 6’ and 200 pounds and I’m 5’2 and 105 pounds. He tried to say he was sorry but I went to the bathroom and locked myself away from him. I just texted my friend to come pick me up and I told him I was gonna stay somewhere else. He said he understood.
He has been texting me and saying sorry. But I feel like he went too far. | r/relationship_advice | post | r/relationship_advice | 2024-11-30 | Z0FBQUFBQm5jYWFyOWlTN3NhY1VtVHVlU080U1E2ZEw4eE9RY2QwM2NPeTVWTmNtT0lMTkZzTEpzVWdMcFFtc002NDEtbWg3TElwU2VWSVJpVmhGOFJFcDR2NGVXd19PNHZhSHd2SWg3VGdzSUltRDdqV2pZbGM9 | Z0FBQUFBQm5jYWFzNWNOc2dzQjNoLVktZk81TE96eG0zSmZlTE85M0RhMlYyX284Ukk0ZnZFdnZ1OW5VU1BTdVZIVUgyMzVKQ1owSWozOEhTR1hzREVPZFh6YkdHNktxeVlMWF9Va0k2T2xSSFYyU1QwNVJoY1JLSG43dWpicjQyRHBpSUxTLWtWN3dmSV93Vlc3OWtsamJ5a0p4NV9ZUjBQek9jcFlEamxLbENtNUhKcnZpN3N0TmlQYlN4aE03RTk1TTA1YWFqZS0yak5rb3RkbVlBUjJRSEJBRmlQLVQtdz09 |
(Apologies for bad quality.) | r/theydidthemath | post | r/theydidthemath | 2024-11-30 | Z0FBQUFBQm5jYWFyWHJyQS1lblpSdlhiNlRvaDNST2ZWallpOFI0RjVpMGpvaWJHazB5YUlZS05DSGN3NFdWZGNoYkYycWl6ZV9BTTBlRGdUWkVMUmRZeTAtc3ZLeDFYX2ZWa1ZvdnFnOHJiWGNrZVRXMC1BYTg9 | Z0FBQUFBQm5jYWFzYzRLWGZ1TG9raHRFSmV1SG40MmFVOWxvWGpoeUFKUDlZaE1TU0UxellxZ1l6TFBuUDFfb1FNdEFja1JqeWp3eTRPUWMyVEZCRlFlUWI4V0drSDBrM1AwSzNXOGFRWk1pUkpkb25BOFk0MGRpaGFuaEkxVnJhZWQ2bVlmakR5T1hIZ0JqOTlqeDljZ292a0M1cWVZV25iQlFjSkV4eHltb3lkZzBuQVlrdkZJdkkycWU4NXRtaVBESGtlYVV5dlNFaHJnVmxkbVR1TUtBSjF3bGJNdjZEQT09 |
My husband (36M) and I (35F) have been together for 15 years and have two children together.
Having been together since we were 20 means we've watched each other grow up. We've watched dreams come into fruition, and some not. We've supported each other through difficult life experiences and have made important decisions together. We have a very strong basis and a lot of love for each other.
However. My husband has become more and more negative every year that goes by. When we met he had all the hopes and dreams that a 20 year old does. But he has lacked direction, meaningful self-esteem, and discipline to achieve the goals he had in mind for himself. This has taken a major toll on him, as he has always had a bit of an ego and success was never a question but a guarantee in his mind. He has always blamed "our situation" for his unhappiness- but our situation has changed so many times. Different jobs, cities, provinces, etc. The one constant is his lingering unhappiness.
I just discovered recently that he fits every description of a covert narcissist. He has low self-esteem, seeks external validation, is extremely defensive and lashes out at any criticism, doesn't invest in relationships, can be manipulative, and can lack empathy.
The way that this translates to our daily life is that he constantly takes jobs that don't make the most sense for our family, because he wants the validation that comes with it (title, praise, whatever). He has an almost 10 year track record of taking low-paying and all consuming jobs that have him for 70+ hours a week. This puts a lot of strain on me and the kids, as I am solo-parenting and managing a household on my own 6 days a week. On his one day off he sleeps, mopes around dreading the week ahead, and is incredibly unproductive. He ignores the kids because he needs to "figure things out" and make lists.
The kids cry to me often about how he's never around and even when he is he doesn't pay attention to them or do anything with them, and I exhaust myself pouring into them to make up for it. It isn't fair to any of us. And it isn't necessary.
We have been struggling financially more and more by the day. Without getting into too many details, I recieved a fairly substantial inheritance that we used to relocate to his home province and pay for a home and acreage nearly outright, as well as two vehicles, and pay off any debts. Our mortgage is extremely low. This was in part to ensure that I can stay home with our children. But like I said, he has accepted such ridiculously low paying jobs that we are barely scraping by.
Recently he got an in for a very well-paying job that would have a lot of benefits and an appropriate work/life balance. I urged him to pursue this with all he's got as this is a rare opportunity for him. He basically made one phone call and was instantly discouraged and said it wasn't going to work out. All he needed to do was a couple certifications and to have someone vouch for him.
This really opened my eyes. He seems utterly unwilling to make a sensible choice and to prioritize our family. He is constantly negative, constantly defeated, and his energy just takes over the house like a dark cloud whenever he happens to be here.
I'm so tired, mentally and emotionally. I am responsible for 100% of the child rearing, maintaining our home (cooking, cleaning, errands, garbage, yardwork, even repairs. everything), I am relegated to not just being the consistent, stable, responsible parent, but also the fun, lighthearted, playful parent. He can't even be relied on to make a bed, and will walk by a bag of garbage on the deck instead of put it in the garbage box- knowing it will be ripped apart by animals and I'll have to clean it all up. And if I call him out on these things he gets extremely defensive and nasty and will throw random insults back at me. These are small examples but this is just to try to paint the picture.
I don't do anything fun, or anything for myself. My days are spent at home, taking the kids to their various engagements, or at the grocery store.
He recently told me he sees me as a burden. This is something I've suspected for a long time and we were even in counselling almost 7 years ago because of this very issue- he has always acted like our family is holding him back from the "greatness" he thinks he could achieve if he were relieved of the burden of providing for us. Nevermind that I brought hundreds of thousands of dollars into this relationship, that I do *everything* so that he can focus solely on his career, and that I am raising our children essentially on my own, he sees me as a burden. And I think this might be the last straw for me.
Despite this, despite the loss of multiple important family members, despite the constant financial stress, despite the loneliness, I am still a very positive, loving, and fun person. The mismatch in our energies has become unignorable and honestly, I feel like I'm wasting my life. I have devoted 15 years to this relationship and it's only just dawned on me that life is supposed to have elements of fun, and is to be enjoyed. There is none of that. We are so broke, he is so stressed and negative and resentful, and there is no light at the end of the tunnel. The kids are miserable, he's miserable, and I'm doing everything I can to stay positive.
It's become impossible to ignore that I really could be happier without him. I've been loyal and devoted to him for so long that I didn't even consider calling it quits. We are both children of divorce and we never wanted that for our kids. But I think what the kids are living with right now is worse. I'm really tempted to grant his wish and free him of his "burdens" so he can go do whatever he wants.
Life is short and I'm already 35 and I'm realizing I don't think I want to waste any more time being unhappy and bored and having no fun. It's just difficult because I really do love him and he's not a bad person, just deeply troubled. It feels like I would be abandoning him while he's struggling, but he's always struggling and he refuses to do anything about it (not therapy, medication, etc.) I think I need to accept that I can't save him and I need to save myself and my kids. It's just hard.
Any advice would be really appreciated here. I'm interested in any and all insights.
Thanks.
TL;DR
My husband is a covert narcissist and is making everyone miserable with his lack of ambition and his consistently negative attitude and defensiveness. I'm considering leaving. | r/relationships | post | r/relationships | 2024-11-30 | Z0FBQUFBQm5jYWFyOFUwMHNpLVBSOHQ3TW5vMG1sbjdwT0tXMDdvWTc1NDI3N3BBYklpVDNieFBVMEVWeUJRQ19QdTRUUHJ1Q1FHOFdOZi1DNG9lTjFFUG5KVXlhQjIwNHZ0NFU1U1k3WW9kVm93QWd0MHQtOVk9 | Z0FBQUFBQm5jYWFzVVE1dklCVVlOTkxGUm9PbWdIRDhDdGZXVFFjb19QRHozQnZMTTMzc1RIM2tNMXdPRHVDdk1lc2N2c2NXUzZNXzZzVXVCZTlJOFJFTHJuNUY0Z3R2cVVoaTZubVBfcE1HV083RnAtdXBKOG01dFhvUTF4UjQ1LWV5UVYyVHhEb2VFYzhIUEhvNHNmcTd4QVVLelBiLW4yUEMyT0xTM3prZU5BUWltckJ4TjFoaWxpYmtJbFNHbUpiQldMOFU0cWpGVzFUdWhyc1ZYbVJRMVlXbmxENTV4dz09 |
Here’s to the original post: https://www.reddit.com/r/AITAH/s/COag8kK8m9
Hi everyone, it’s been a wild ride since my original post, and I wanted to give an update because a lot has happened.
First off, I want to thank everyone who commented…it helped me see things in a completely new light. Honestly, I didn’t even realize how much I was being gaslighted by Jake and Ashley until I read some of your insights. I thought they were my friends, but now I see how manipulative and toxic their behavior really is.
Maybe I just hated the thought of not having any friends but who needs enemies with these kind of friends… ngl it still breaks my heart to realize this and I cried a lot. But that doesn’t change anything haha I don’t know why I’m saying this it’s just been a really emotional days please forgive my rant.
Since our confrontation, Jake has gone full victim mode. He’s been telling mutual friends that I’m trying to "ruin his life" and "kick him out of his girlfriend’s apartment." (Let me remind you: this man doesn’t pay rent or contribute to any bills, so calling it "his girlfriend’s apartment" is already laughable.)
He’s been painting me as some controlling, jealous monster who can’t handle his “straightforward personality.” Meanwhile, Ashley is eating it up and defending him, saying I’m overreacting and “causing unnecessary drama.”
What’s worse is that I’ve started noticing just how much control Jake has over Ashley. She’s completely bought into his narrative and is now acting like I’m the enemy. For example, she told me last night that my “attitude” is making it hard for them to feel comfortable in their own home. THEIR home. This apartment is 50% mine, but suddenly,
I’m being treated like an unwelcome GUEST.
I’ve decided I’ve had enough. I’ve already documented everything. his constant presence, his freeloading, and now his smear campaign…
I’m reaching out to my landlord this week.
Most leases have clauses about long-term guests, and Jake has definitely overstayed his.
As for Ashley, I don’t know if there’s any saving our friendship. I’m heartbroken because I thought she cared about me, but now I realize she’s supporting Jake’s abusive behavior.
Thank you to everyone who opened my eyes to what was really happening. I’ll post another update once I’ve spoken to my landlord and taken further action. For now, I’m just trying to reclaim my space.. and my peace of mind.
Also I really want to thank you for just… caring and being there. This is what I needed to hear and you all were honest and fair with me. I am very grateful for the support I got that I couldn’t get anywhere else. So thank you 🙏
Edit:
Post 1
https://www.reddit.com/r/AITAH/s/sHxCwMuF8S
Post 2
https://www.reddit.com/r/AITAH/s/r2OPJhURkI
Post 3
https://www.reddit.com/r/AITAH/s/PxIOQmkYrm | r/aitah | post | r/AITAH | 2024-11-30 | Z0FBQUFBQm5jYWFyemppT29JRzNWeDBzamRqUmZuTktFTDhuY1g4aW1YcVpjLWhXeGFxZktLaVB4ODlsajJMQjFFSU1pWnJPakktZ2VtdkNUcTNlTXgyclpmRFlValVQV2c9PQ== | Z0FBQUFBQm5jYWFzUTJpRHI2dWs5NXRJUkpkS3VacGZuTHBIejhpZE1LTDlWLXZ4bVRpOFoxYjVzOTJJc0dUdTZwWXV4N2RWbHFEa2JUMjlsdUdTU3NJbEtSRUpmVFZmeEFKWnFWaXFURXhySWtZZGQxZEhDaWZIb2FCZFFUaU94ZTBvbkdtS2NLZXV2YWVLeFBLTER3czlwREYxTTNuYWhjZU9xWV9wZG5nMEd6SkRic3hCdV93anN2aE1FRnJNV1BKZ1FxUktqYVc2 |
My roommate and i just moved in together about a month ago. He had been really flirty ever since he moved in, and i started feeling an attraction for him as well. One night we got drunk with a friend over at the house, and our friend spent the night on the couch, taking one of our blankets. My roommate didn't have a blanket for his own bed, so i offered him mine and just said I'd sleep with 2 top sheets.
He then asks, "Can i just get in your bed with you?" Of course i said yes, and you can connect the dots about what happened from there.
So far it's been really nice. No pressure, no awkwardness, no force, it's just been really natural and relaxed. I want to keep it that way, but i also know how i am... i get attached and jealous PRETTY easily.
So this could either continue to go well and i practice self-control over my emotions, or erupts in flames because one or both of us catches feelings and then consequently gets our feelings hurt.
Or, we start dating and it ends up (likely) being a disaster, just like every other relationship that I've ever started off with us living together.
Anyone been in this situation and have any advice? | r/sex | post | r/sex | 2024-11-30 | Z0FBQUFBQm5jYWFySW5XT3VpcjNjRjY5dGx2bXN5aktiTmIyVE1qSzdQNGdPTUs4QUZKNlREdzkwOG5obXFGSy1mWExrUmkyRFhQZW5RQTdST016ejF2WFkyZlNPTWpBRmc9PQ== | Z0FBQUFBQm5jYWFzMDYweDBPaUZzYkYtcjRkUkZSUHAwc0IxM2pabUx0Ul8zaURUdlllUDhRTk1GNUZ0a21sM2xYT2RYSjluZ3dXdU1MbWxiYWhjSFNYT2ZEZ295cnBVbVdEMjE4azJDYzBuaFR1TVNKM2Q0OWFQQUpNMXUxbUFhZmRTOEsxWndOa29GbjZYZXA4UzYwVzl1cUdMVG9zaUdObnhRbWYyYkRXeHFoS3hkeUNhWGJMTlZOaDN1enAwXzNfbjN3Uy1zTkNp |
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